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Help, I'm not a very good feminist

Joey Buttafoucault — Thu, 01 Feb 2007 17:08:54 -0800

Help me overcome my latent misogyny, -or- I don't think I'm a very good feminist. I'm a late-20s male, and intellectually I consider myself a feminist. I had what I figure is a pretty typical liberal arts college experience, with classes spanning literature, philosophy, psychology, etc, with feminist criticism worked in pretty consistently. I'm pro-choice, I support rape shield laws, strong workplace harassment policies, and the equal rights amendment. In short, I'm great on paper.

And yet - I find myself making all sorts of misogynist assumptions all the time. I came to this realization as I started dating much more frequently over the past few months, running into more women than I had been in a lot of different contexts. Here are some of the things I'm talking about: I take attractive women much more seriously than others who are not so hot, even on intellectual or professional topics. I forget the names of plain or ugly women far more often. When I start dating a girl, I feel I should be allowed to see other people but feel threatened if she does the same. In general I expect to be the argumenative or aggressive one in a relationship and I get upset if a woman outdoes me in these ways.

I should reiterate that these aren't positions I take on purpose, but rather default positions and underlying emotions that arise without effort. I'm sure it's connected to my upbringing, wherein my mother was a docile housewife and my dad was the breadwinner who threw an occasional temper tantrum when he didn't get his way (no domestic abuse or anything like that, though). But I intellectually reject that setup, and have no desire at all to relive it in my own relationships. How do I change my default positions to be more in line with my express beliefs?

Who goes hardest on these broads?

reenum — Thu, 25 Jan 2007 06:25:06 -0800

What are the most misogynist rap songs you have ever heard? See A group of friends and I are trying to find the most misogynist and outlandish examples of misogynistic rap. Too $hort is a fairly good play, but we can only use an artist once.

So, I ask you MeFites, what are the most woman-hatingest lyrics you've ever heard? Oh, our contest also allows for lyrics about women double-crossing the rapper, or the rapper talking about how stuck-up a woman or group of women are and what he'd like to do to them as a result.

Thanks for helping me win the contest.

Is it misogynistic to use the "C-word?"

bunglin jones — Mon, 17 Jan 2005 21:43:11 -0800

Is it considered misogynous to use "the C-word" ? It had never even occured to me that it might be until my sister asked that I never use it as it was "so anti-women." At the right moment, it's SUCH a useful word, but I don't want to appear to be "anti-women", since I'm not . Is my sister's view unusual?