I was curious what others do to fight off negativity in their life. I am not talking about negative people but rather one's own inner demons. I went on a four mile walk yesterday and instead of relaxing and enjoying it, I was thinking about all the potential things that could go wrong in my life. I don't say this because I embrace thinking in a victim mentality but rather that to point out that I am aware that a lot of really bad things can happen to a person. [more inside]
The stock answer to everyone who's posted an Ask about being stressed or anxious lately has been "Mindfulness! Meditation!" But, um, what does that mean, exactly? Please share anecdotes, techniques, references. What - exactly - did you do, and how did it help? Walk me through this like I'm five. [more inside]
They say you should kick a bad habit to the curb by replacing it with a good one. Well, what should that be? Let's say it should be something you can do at a desk to replace a bad Internet-related compulsion. It should preferably be something straightforward but productive that (eventually) makes you feel like you've accomplished something of value, not just a useless "tic" (so, something more meaningful than pen-spinning or card shuffling, but not something overly complex that will be given up on). Any suggestions?
After years of maximalism, I want to become more of a minimalist (not extreme living-in-the-woods-money-free, but significantly more minimal than I am now) in the areas of financial spending and personal possessions. I want to declutter my home, pay off my debts as quickly as possible, fatten my savings and be happy living a life with less. What are the best books or blogs on this topic? What are your personal strategies or tips? How do I do this without going crazy?
The other evening I was hanging around my apartment eating dinner. At some point after I finished eating, and for several hours afterwards until I went to sleep, I experienced a state of mind I can only describe as "mystical", or perhaps hyper-awareness. Whatever it was, it was so different from anything I can remember experiencing that it threw me completely off balance and I'm still trying to figure out what happened. Looking for insight from others who may have had a similar experience. Details inside. [more inside]
I think my new mindfulness practice is causing me more anxiety - why is this and how do I handle it? [more inside]
What is the relationship between contemplation and mindfulness? [more inside]
I don't like the amount of time that I spend thinking about my significant other when we're not together. How can I curb my enthusiasm? [more inside]
I can idly finish a bottle of wine. How do I not? [more inside]
When an argument is brewing or someone upsets me, all my mindfulness study goes directly out the window. I am immediately engaged with the full complement of negative emotions and responses. When I've calmed down I can see all the things I should've said or done differently - if I'd managed to keep my head. How do you train yourself to practice INSTANT mindfulness?
I'd like to meditate more. I have the Simply Be app and like it, but would like to try others. MeFites, what do you recommend?
I take poetry pretty seriously. I read poems carefully and can break them down analytically or use intuition and imagination to get what I think is meaningful personal response. However, at live poetry readings my mind wanders and I'll grasp what's being read mostly in fragments and maybe one or two whole poems for the evening. I'm fine with this, and see it as a partial stage in a life-long mindfulness practice. But I'm wondering what happens in other literate and intelligent people's minds when they are at readings. Do you hear the poems in their full-blown significance? Do you think about the clothes attendees are wearing, or the delivery quirks of the presenting poet, or what?
Looking for guided meditations/mindfulness practices specifically for help with post-surgical pain, besides Jon Kabat-Zinn's Mindfulness Meditation for Pain Relief. [more inside]
In the years since I've been working on being an emotional eater (i.e. stuffing myself with a whole pizza in order to avoid feeling sorry for myself), I've come to a better, more mindful relationship with food. However... [more inside]
What words and images mean "patience" to you? [more inside]
Help me find the ideal 5-7 day teacher-led meditation retreat close to an airport and/or close to Kansas City! [more inside]
I was laid off last week, and instead of feeling angry, I just feel … well, calm. Is this even remotely normal? [more inside]
Pardon if this misses the point entirely, but is there a guide to practicing mindfulness that does not revolve around sitting meditation? [more inside]
What are you thinking about all day? [more inside]
Help me learn to maintain perspective about the role that The Mundane plays in life. [more inside]
Please recommend resources for turning off distractions, looking inside of myself and taking better care of myself. Vague flurry inside. [more inside]
The times when I am most content and at peace are the times that I am most able to live in the present - unattached to outcomes, not falling into "what ifs", not "writing the script", etc. I've also been at my most successful when I've had that attitude. Unfortunately, it's also pretty rare that I'm able to get there. What books, recordings, techniques, anything else help you reach that "it is what it is and it's all ok" attitude?
I'm overambitious. I spread myself too thin and it's crazy-making. Now what? [more inside]
Help me increase my metacognition. How can I best guess when my understanding of a task is adequate to the task? [more inside]
Body Mindfulness and Exercise Filter: how can I become more aware of the 'shoulds' of my body to correct posture, gait, breathing, etc...? [more inside]
I'd like to start meditating to help me live more in the moment, know my body and mind better, reduce stress, and increase my ability to focus and concentrate. What are some mindfulness/meditation resources and guides that can help me accomplish those goals without any woo? [more inside]
I've recently started doing a sitting meditation, and when I do it in a cross-legged position sitting on a cushion, I'm having pain and sort of a numbness in my right mid back. I don't want to stop doing the sitting meditation--I'm finding it easier to meditate in a sitting position--but it hurts, and I'm worried I'm going to injure myself. [more inside]
Free, online audio resources for mindfulness meditation and body awareness sessions? [more inside]
I can't convince my anxiety-afflicted mom to get therapy, but she'll read a book. What book should it be?
I've been trying to convince my anxiety-afflicted Mom to get therapy for ages. She finally said that if I were to buy her a book, she would promise to read it, and perhaps that would lead to finally giving therapy a shot. She's pushing 70 and has to deal with a new addition to the family who is aggressive and toxic, so I think its urgent for her to get a better handle on her mental state. [more inside]
How do I keep my long term personal goals which don't have obvious success criteria at the front of my mind?
[Not quite New Year's Resolution filter] How do I keep my long term personal goals which don't have obvious success criteria at the front of my mind? [more inside]
I want to learn about mindfulness, to be more mindful. Also known as witnessing or distancing. The ability to be both within and outside a given situation, not to be overwhelmed but to have a part of your mind observe yourself and others all the time. I think this is what very expensive education can teach you. [more inside]
Breaking out of habitually intellectualizating my feelings - I'm looking for a how-to guide of some sort. Preferably not all about mindfulness. [more inside]
How do I slow down my eating? [more inside]
Recommendation for an affordable mindfulness class in NYC? [more inside]
How do you stop yourself from being worn out by the negativity you perceive in the world? [more inside]
I'm looking for a very specific kind of therapy/mindfulness training for my kid. I'm in the SF Bay Area. [more inside]
Yoga and therapy combined with the mindfulness meditation my therapist has been teaching me are already doing wonders for my mental health. Now I'd like to create a neat little space in my home that's dedicated to daily meditation. Do you have a space like this? What works for you? I'm seeking ideas. [more inside]
You are not my therapist but maybe you know about meditation? I'm back into my mindful meditation routine and I'm fairly new at it. The last three sittings I've had have brought up intense tears and a body sensation that screams RUN AWAY which usually causes me to stop that session as it is too intense. Of course I'll bring this up with my therapist but that appointment is a wee ways off. Is this common? Something I should be afraid of? Something I should stop meditating because of? Why would this occur? How do I get thru the intense panic and return to the breath?
how can i practice mindfulness when my brain's default is mindlessness? [more inside]
I need mindfulness training, but I really don’t want to find my chi. [more inside]
Reaching the observing ego has been elusive recently when months ago it wasn't. I'm not pushing for it, just waiting. Even after 45min sit, it is more common to find emptiness. Suggestions?
What are we fighting when we fight against depression? [more inside]
Please help me brainstorm: how can technology be used to increase, otherwise augment,or lead to greater self-awareness in the real (non-virtual) world? I'm putting together a presentation around what I perceive to be a growing trend in Human Computer Interaction: systems that help us to become more self-aware, or at least help us to understand the hidden consequences of choices that were once invisible. I'm particularly interested in the area of personal health and wellness but I'm not parochial in this respect. [more inside]
Dear Type A personality, what helps you ward off insomnia? [more inside]
Can cognitive behavioral therapy be reconciled with mindfulness into a single, integrated approach to the world? [more inside]
I heard a story on NPR some time ago, and am having no luck finding it now. It was about a man, possibly a professor of architecture, who taught students how to mindfully walk and study the suburban landscape. Who was this person? [more inside]
Questions about mindfulness CBT and biofeedback. [more inside]
I'm looking for a symbol that represents mindfulness, as in "awareness of the present moment without conceptualizing it or adding anything to it". [more inside]
What is a good book/article on mindfulness in everyday life? [more inside]