I can't find an article (or an informal study) about the gender differences between a group of grad students. The male students were consistently doing better because they went to the professor and asked for more responsibilities (like teaching a class), while the female students thought the professors would come to the female students when the professors thought the female students were ready. [more inside]
I'm afraid I don't understand the ways of the barbershop. Perhaps you can help? [more inside]
Are there any magazines out there like Bitch or Bust, or Ms., but targeted toward the hetero-male gaze? I'm talking about magazines that hold values inherent in third-wave feminism in relation to current events, topics like bypassing heteronormativity, overcoming masculism, fighting homophobia, speaking out against domestic violence, working toward gender equality, supporting reproductive rights, ending rape culture, etc. Zines are also ok. [more inside]
Here is a picture of a person wearing a jacket. What material is this jacket made of? Are there any retailers where I could get something similar for a 46-48 waist?
My beau has decided he'd like to neaten up his beard, and I suggested finding a professional to do it the first time. (After that, it'll likely be easier to maintain.) Any recommendations for a beard trimmer or shaper/men's grooming salon/private individual in Austin? (Obligatory beard-and-kitten picture.)
What are examples of colleges that are doing new or innovative things in addressing HIV? I am most interested in approaches directed at men who have sex with men, but any general approaches about HIV that are directed at everyone or at other high risk populations would also be helpful. [more inside]
I'm a 23-year-old guy, my hairline is starting to recede, and I want to know what my real options are. [more inside]
I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
My dog is scared of men. [more inside]
I'm in my 30s but still feel/look/act like I'm much younger, so I tend to roll with a younger crowd and my last 3 boyfriends were all 2-4 years younger than I am. This needs to stop. [more inside]
I am looking to re style my hair. I would like to go to someone who can recommend styles that suit me. I have some idea of what I want but could use some advice. Currently I go to supercuts. As you probably know they are not the best for advise. I am willing to pay significantly over supercut prices to get this advice. Just dont know who to go to. Any recommendations?
I'm a Former Fat Kid who's had to exercise religiously to stay in some kind of (refrigerator-like) shape as an adult. My distribution of fat and muscle means that I have huuuuge glutes and quads. Pants are therefore my enemy. Help me find a fit! [36yo/M] [more inside]
It's warm weather season. I want to wear shorts, but I also want to up my style. [more inside]
We've been invited to "a 1940's wedding party" in a few weeks. If someone told you to dress the part, as a man, what would you do? I'm not too concerned about super historical accuracy, but more just looking a little on-theme vs. every other wedding. And buying a new suit is not in the cards.
Do men and women really have distinctly different communication styles. For those of you who are in healthy relationships (romantic love or platonic), is there a wedge in communication that you constantly have to go against your natural instincts and fine-tune in a way that you don't have to with same-sex friends? Is the stereotype true, do women need to 'talk it out' and men need to 'go to their cave'? Can women really improve the relationship by NOT talking about it and can men really improve the relationship by practicing reflective listening? Is there really a pre-programmed way to communicate based on your gender? Something in this widely-spread viewpoint really rubs me the wrong way, and I'm not sure if the cultural/societal views(at least in my area) regarding men/women relationships are in fact, entirely valid and its just my own personal issues that need work. What are your experiences?
I never initiate the texts except for a couple of times, but always reply and am nice and friendly. He texts me about anything, and usually sends funny images. He also hangs out with me randomly, for example yesterday I was giving out food for an event and he came without his friends to be with me. But he has made no moves other than that, as in no touching or complimenting me, but maybe he is not very good at flirting. I have had bad experiences when telling a guy first that I am interested. I don't like playing games, but I am wondering if I should be more challenging and mysterious? Does it seem like he is interested? He's been texting me for a month now. Thanks!
My husband is driving me up the wall. He has always shown a reluctance to make a plan for anything, but I love planning stuff (trips, etc) so it's never come to be a huge issue. Except for now. [more inside]
My dad is around 70 years old and has subsisted on a steady diet of shortbread cookies (those ones in the yellow box from the convenience store) and vanilla Ensure drinks for the past 2-3 years. How can we help him to help himself and eat real, nourishing food? [more inside]
I am only approached by men who are much older than me. I approach men my age, and it doesn't go so well. How do I stop this? [more inside]
I've asked a couple questions about building a richer social life on AskMeta, and a few times I've gotten the suggestion that I should be spending more one-on-one time with friends and acquaintances. My observations suggest that women socialize this way more often than men do. Tell me I'm wrong, then share tips. [more inside]
OK, weird question this week, but I have wondered about this for a while. I've noticed in public bathrooms there are a lot of men who either 1) spit in the urinal continuously while peeing or 2) keep pulling the flush handle while standing there pissing or 3) do both of these at the same time. I'm sure there are multiple reasons for why to do this, but I am curious as to your speculations about why they are doing it. Is the spitting some way of being macho? Is the constant flushing some way of disposing that which is "dirty"? the "normative" behavior is to piss and then flush, so why this variant (which also wastes a lot of water BTW)? Why the combination of both spitting and flushing? I think we may reveal something about male psychology or social ideology here.
So a couple of friends are putting on a night called Skirt, and in the progressive / queer-positive spirit of the event, guys are being encouraged to come wearing one. I'd like to do it, and I'd like to make it look damn good. Skirt-wearers of MeFi, please help me. [more inside]
Our first child is due in a few weeks and I would like to give him something extra romantic and special (maybe even a bit pampering) for V-Day before the big event. Desperately seeking suggestions, romantic gifting for men is hard! [more inside]
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me. It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
Asking for a specifically male perspective here: what do you wish you'd known before having kids that would have made your relationship better? [more inside]
Pampering Products For Dudes [more inside]
He's just not that into you, yadda yadda yadda... or is he? [more inside]
What should my grooming regimen include? [more inside]
Men of Mefi please explain - how do I give advice to a man? My male friend gives me lots of good advice but never asks for any from me. How do I keep the ledger balanced? [more inside]
indecisive ex -- how do I handle this and do they ever come back (for the right reasons)? [more inside]
How can I allow myself to be open to a relationship and not go nutsy thinking about guys, and/or how do I cultivate relationships with men without constantly screening them for evidence that they may "like" me? [more inside]
Dressing as an adult... for men. I've spent a bunch of time randomly googling and browsing through clothing regailer sites and blogs, but haven't come across quite what i'm looking for. As a man who doesn't like to shop, I would love to find a web-site that has photos of people wearing clothing that I like... along with links to where I can purchase those clothes. Seems simple, right? Well, not so fast. [more inside]
Am I a silly prude or is my boyfriend's dancing inappropriate? [more inside]
Why are there so many whiny supporting male characters in anime? [more inside]
Is woman's value really only physical? [more inside]
What is going on with me and/or the men I date? [more inside]
Can any German history lovers tell we what these sweet old naked fat men are doing in this old postcard? [more inside]
Help me choose between the men in my life. [more inside]
How do I deal with strange men who talk to me...even though they're not directly hitting on me, I can just tell the conversation is going to be a 'special' one? [more inside]
I started dating a guy who is great but his fashion sense is ruining my buzz. Ill fitting clothes, sort of a "Scarface" aesthetic, age-inappropriate hats--you name it. And I haven't even gotten to shoes that I can only describe as . . . puzzling and vaguely medieval. What should I do with this? [more inside]
Where can a guy with long legs and muscular calves get interesting socks that fit? [more inside]
Looking for menswear suitable for the office. Problem: relocated to a hot and humid tropical country, and my current wardrobe just isn't working here. And it's not even July/August. [more inside]
Do most men fear cooking naked? [more inside]
You are a woman. You frequently go to concerts alone. You like rap and/or metal. What do you wear and what do you do at rap/metal shows to minimize molestation? [more inside]
Guys: He froze up in front of me, but does he have a girlfriend? [more inside]
Adult uncircumcised males - do you ever wish you had been circumcised? [more inside]
Can you recommend a good men's blog or community? [more inside]
What are some good clothing brands for young men in their 20's? [more inside]
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem? [more inside]
What to do in London this Friday? My brother is coming to London for some male bonding and mantime. I haven't spent any time working out how to fill the day with fun. [more inside]