I'm in an amazing relationship, with someone I've known for over two years, and we've been dating for a year-ish. We're both women in our early 20's. I've only dated women up to this point, and been very happy with that. It seems that my brain doesn't want to keep that status quo anymore and is trying to convince me I want to experience being with men. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2013 -
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
Is it normal for a woman to begin feeling invisible in her thirties? Please excuse the fact that this question might come off as totally narcissistic and a little crazy but it's been something that has been on my mind a lot lately and I was hoping to get some perspective on the situation. [more inside]
posted by thelastgirl
on Apr 4, 2012 -
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make? [more inside]
posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
What is good sex for men? Once, I was married, in an abusive relationship. I've suddenly realized it is 15 years ago, and that I still haven't moved on. I've been in relationships since, each in their way failed, and each more or less failed because of my inability to get over the trauma of the abuse. Now, I've met someone new, after an almost total abstinence of 10 years. And I need to move on.
The main issue for me, right now, is lack of confidence regarding sex. My ex-husband repeatedly told me I was no good in bed. And now I feel I have no idea what is good in bed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 8, 2012 -
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 7, 2010 -
I'm in a new relationship with a great guy. Of course there's a but. He has a hard time getting to orgasm, and I'm having a difficult time dealing with that. NSFW [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Nov 19, 2010 -
Which cardinal rule of dating am I breaking? If I don't know what I'm doing wrong, how can I stop doing it? (Perhaps mildly NSFW). [more inside]
posted by motsque
on Aug 17, 2010 -
In all of fiction and literature, what's the best (or any) example of a male character thinking furiously about baseball, algebra etc. in a desperate attempt to postpone his orgasm? [more inside]
posted by gelcap
on Jan 28, 2010 -
I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there.
My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points: [more inside]
posted by starpoint
on Dec 21, 2009 -
How do men's patterns of sexual attraction change as they age? That is, are older guys really attracted to older partners, or are they just being polite/settling for what they can get? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph
on Sep 25, 2009 -
How accurate are the media portrayals of young people engaging in risky sexual behaviors? [more inside]
posted by reenum
on Jul 8, 2009 -
Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata
on Nov 10, 2008 -
As a man, does talking to a woman about your adventures with other women put you on the friends ladder? [more inside]
posted by harwons
on Sep 5, 2008 -
My girlfriend and I have religious and cultural differences. How can our relationship work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2008 -
Not sure if this is AskMeFi material, but google returns mostly porn results for "Asian wife backseat," and I can't find any previous question: I often see Asian men driving with women (presumably their wives) in the backseat. Nobody is riding shotgun. It is definitely the exception (i.e., most putative Asian couples I see are riding side-by-side). Does anyone know what this is about? [more inside]
posted by oxonium
on Jan 20, 2007 -
Why does male performance anxiety continue to severely hamper my sex life? [more inside]
posted by kyle
on Mar 12, 2006 -
Is there a book for heterosexual guys similiar to She's Not Into You
and other similar books for chicks?
posted by itchie
on Nov 27, 2005 -
So apparently it's legal
to have sex in a bar bathroom in Italy, but what about the U.S.? Related question: is it illegal for a woman to go in the men's room (or vice versa)? Anybody ever gotten in trouble (beyond just embarrasment) for something like this?
posted by rorycberger
on Oct 6, 2004 -
SexFilter: Chaps, how do you postpone the little death? An intriguing office discussion (sparked by a picture of Margaret Thatcher) has brought out the most amazing answers to this...
(Ladies you can play too, although I guess the question is how do you hurry it along?)
posted by bonaldi
on Jul 4, 2004 -
Why are sexually promiscuous men "studs" and sexually promiscuous women "sluts"? And on that note, is it studly or slutty to hook up with one person on a Monday and go out with a different person on a Tuesday? Just asking.
posted by adrober
on Dec 16, 2003 -