I never initiate the texts except for a couple of times, but always reply and am nice and friendly. He texts me about anything, and usually sends funny images.
He also hangs out with me randomly, for example yesterday I was giving out food for an event and he came without his friends to be with me. But he has made no moves other than that, as in no touching or complimenting me, but maybe he is not very good at flirting.
I have had bad experiences when telling a guy first that I am interested. I don't like playing games, but I am wondering if I should be more challenging and mysterious? Does it seem like he is interested? He's been texting me for a month now. Thanks!
posted by lovisa91
on Mar 21, 2013 -
38 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
How can I allow myself to be open to a relationship and not go nutsy thinking about guys, and/or how do I cultivate relationships with men without constantly screening them for evidence that they may "like" me?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 24, 2012 -
9 answers
I keep picking women who don't give as much as I feel I give and so I always end up feeling used. And because I keep picking them (even though the last one should've been enough to warn me off of the next one), I also end up feeling stupid too. Meanwhile, I've had women who've given to me the way I've given to those others, but I never seem to end up with them, even though they are exactly what I say I've wanted. How can I keep the good one and stop picking the bad ones? What is my problem?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 26, 2012 -
15 answers
Seeking Dear Abby, handholding and guidance for Dummies. Yes, this is about a man and yes I'm feeling totally clueless. Help.
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posted by infini
on Feb 20, 2012 -
66 answers
Is it a poor idea to let your partner have sex with other people, knowing that you will be hurt by it? Will it be more likely to help or hurt our relationship if he indulges in his fantasies with other women – and is this a reasonable compromise for someone to make?
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posted by labandita
on Jan 22, 2012 -
107 answers
Can anyone recommend a website where I can get input from other men (and I'm not against input from women too) about problems I have with my wife with her excessive moodiness, total lack of interest in physical intimacy, and general verbally hostile and abusive ways? I'm thinking either a traditional forum or a more contemporary Q&A type site.
posted by Dansaman
on May 18, 2011 -
9 answers
Why is the guy who appears to have a crush on me suddenly acting so nervous? Why isn't he contacting me more now that I have expressed interest?
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posted by sunnychef88
on Apr 28, 2011 -
70 answers
I'm 35 years old. I'm funny, smart, beautiful. I make good money and have a lot of friends. But I've never been in love, nor has anyone told me they loved me. Forever Alone?
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posted by boostershot
on Dec 30, 2010 -
93 answers
My friend asked if I was bisexual and I am feeling really angry about it. Should I be mad at her?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2010 -
39 answers
I am a newly single 40 year-old woman who’d like to be in a stable relationship and to start a family. I’m afraid that the man I’m looking for does not exist.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 24, 2010 -
35 answers
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers
How can I begin taking steps to get past this heartache that I've been hanging onto after falling in love with my best friend and move on to find someone who is actually emotionally available?
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posted by dorothyrose
on Jun 6, 2010 -
5 answers
I'm 27 and single. I've never had a serious boyfriend. Just throwing that out there.
My brother is 24. Our 1st cousins are visiting for Christmas. One of them is male and 19, the other is female and 16. Tonight we somehow got into a huge discussion about relationships. Basically my brother and cousin (the 19-year-old) were making the following points:
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posted by starpoint
on Dec 21, 2009 -
115 answers
Anyone who has been to Australia or talked to any Australian males (sometimes females) will know they frequently call people they have never met before or even people they're angry with: "mate". What other expressions of universal male bonding are used in other countries?
posted by vizsla
on Jun 18, 2009 -
35 answers
"Women are different than men. In a relationship, a man needs to be the one who takes care of a woman when she's angry, who tells her to calm down. A man needs to be more understanding than a woman, and a woman needs to be allowed to have her moods."
Really? I'd like to call bullshit, but I don't quite know how. (Long explanation inside)
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posted by saysthis
on Apr 18, 2009 -
25 answers
Sex is often touted as beneficial for one's health. Is this supposed to be true for both men and women, and how much evidence is there for the claim (apart from calorie expenditure, which is still negligible compared to actual aerobic exercise)? And is it primarily the orgasm that's supposedly healthful, or even sex sans orgasm?
posted by taramosalata
on Nov 10, 2008 -
20 answers
4-month long distance "relationship" - he's fantastic when we're together, but "off" when we're apart.. what's up?
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posted by freshsprout
on Nov 10, 2008 -
26 answers
He likes me.. says I'm cute, smart and does want to be intimate.. but doesn't want a relationship. What is wrong?
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posted by freshsprout
on Sep 27, 2008 -
38 answers
I have a question about paying physical compliments to men, especially in the early stages of a relationship. Men compliment women about their appearance often. Do they want these compliments returned, or is there a separate protocol for woman-to-man commentary?
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posted by toomuchkatherine
on Jul 9, 2008 -
42 answers
Here’s one of those how-do-I-play-this? relationship questions. At the very beginning of a possible relationship (with a touring musician) that I'd really like to give a chance to, but he may be too scared. (explanation inside)
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posted by FlyByDay
on May 6, 2008 -
25 answers
My girlfriend and I have religious and cultural differences. How can our relationship work?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 21, 2008 -
47 answers
So he's younger, I'm older. We are good friends.. we have fun.. but I find myself falling in love with him. There are many reasons to not let myself do it, so how do I stop those butterflies?
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posted by TerraM
on Oct 16, 2007 -
23 answers
I am a guy who has been dating a wonderful girl for four years. We have been living together for most of that time. We are both out of college and in our mid-20s. Though this is my first relationship I feel like we are perfect for each other. She's had other relationships (long and short-term) and feels the same way. I am thinking of asking her to marry me, except for one thing: I am bisexual and it is difficult to give up men.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 28, 2007 -
39 answers
If a guy is not a player why would he continue to frequent a dating site a month into what seems to be a pretty good relationship for both of us?
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posted by terra
on May 19, 2006 -
36 answers
Is there a book for heterosexual guys similiar to
She's Not Into You and other similar books for chicks?
posted by itchie
on Nov 27, 2005 -
7 answers
