A few months ago during pillow talk, I gave my husband permission to have sex with me while I was asleep. Last night he did it, and I felt far more violated than I expected. How should I deal with these feelings of resentment and regret, given that I gave him prior consent? (Possible TW.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 6, 2012 -
23 answers
You decided to leave your marriage, which has had good times but also so many bad ones. You finally came to the point where you realised you had to get out; how did you go from realising it to actually doing it, despite the inertia of being with someone whom you still loved (just not enough to overcome all the negatives in the marriage any more)?
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posted by six sided sock
on Nov 5, 2012 -
33 answers
I feel like I am experiencing sleep paralysis--I know I want to wake up but I just can't move. I've had no shortage of difficult life challenges over the years. Leaving a drug-addled, abusive family behind, holding dying loved ones, quitting cigarettes, I've ended LTRs in the past (and had them ended by partners too). I am not an over-thinker or an indecisive person and this feels so weird.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 2, 2012 -
5 answers
Please help me deal with my parents ever-strained and unhappy marriage, my fathers refusal to seek marriage counseling, my mother's emotional affair, and my grandparents horrible influence. This has been happening forever--now that I'm 20, my parents are divulging more and more. It's too hard to deal with. Any suggestions welcome.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 31, 2012 -
24 answers
Pretty sure I don't want to get married or have kids. Problem is, almost all my friends are doing so and it's just getting to the point where I am the only one who isn't doing either of those (not a bad thing).Help me not go crazy if I hear one more person say the words 'I'm engaged" or "I'm pregnant".
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posted by Autumn89
on Oct 30, 2012 -
55 answers
My history with money, coupled with recent life challenges, is affecting my marriage. I am stressed and angry; my partner is (probably) depressed and overwhelmed. How can we grow together, not apart?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 29, 2012 -
13 answers
My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2012 -
65 answers
Divorcee getting married for the second time and a full wedding's to be planned, mixed feelings on the wedding part. Tell me the personal side of your 2nd (+) wedding experiences.
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posted by lizbunny
on Oct 20, 2012 -
31 answers
My counsellor tells me that I need to stop enabling my wife's anxieties; my wife tells me that my not sharing what I'm talking about in counselling sessions is making her anxious. How do I square this circle?
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posted by six sided sock
on Oct 17, 2012 -
61 answers
Can you recommend a good therapist in Vancouver, BC with experience with open relationship/marriage and LGBT issues?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2012 -
0 answers
Does anyone have recommendations for a couples counselor or marriage/family therapist in Houston, TX -- or, at least, what resources I can use to find a good one? Thank you in advance!
posted by Pwoink
on Oct 9, 2012 -
1 answer
My fiancée and I are thinking of getting married in a few months and we're both still in school, I work part time and make about $20,000 a year. She does not work but receives vocational rehab and Social Security (SSI) for her permeant disability she was born with.
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posted by snow_mac
on Oct 9, 2012 -
7 answers
After discussing marital separation my husband searched online for what happens to life insurance in the event of suicide
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posted by momtothreedc
on Oct 7, 2012 -
30 answers
Supposed to be getting married to my long-term girlfriend, developing feelings for someone else, unsure of how to proceed.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 7, 2012 -
36 answers
What do you wish you had known before you embarked on an intercultural relationship/marriage?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2012 -
37 answers
My friendship with coworker evolved into something which is apparently neither "just friendship" neither ethical behaviour.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 1, 2012 -
12 answers
My husband just told me he's into crossdressing and wants to introduce D/s into our sex life.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2012 -
15 answers
I'm happily married, but it's ridiculous how much I want a good first kiss. Help me get over it!
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 25, 2012 -
44 answers
I have recently separated from my wife of 6 years and have moved out of the family home into temporary accommodation. It has been about a month since I left and I am in a very confused place at the moment. My wife has put forward an ultimatum that is tearing me apart and I would appreciate some perspective from the hive mind.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 25, 2012 -
79 answers
My girlfriend and I want to do that 'public display of commitment' thing, but we don't want to get
married. Heterosexual
Civil Partnerships are not yet available in the UK. Can we do it elsewhere with legal status? Or should we wait?
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posted by bollockovnikov
on Sep 20, 2012 -
31 answers
AdviceFilter: What life experiences (or fun things) should my partner and I make time for, before having a baby?
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posted by amoeba
on Sep 19, 2012 -
19 answers
How should my husband and I celebrate our 10th anniversary given some recent marriage difficulties? I am looking for ideas that honor our years together but aren't traditional romantic gestures, which might feel a bit hollow or forced right now.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 18, 2012 -
18 answers
Someone I just met has suggested getting married for me to get UK citizenship and her to get US citizenship. Is this insane?
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posted by slartibartfast
on Sep 16, 2012 -
41 answers
What does it feel like to find "The One"? How do you know when you have found this person? How essential is this feeling for a successful and happy long-term relationship?
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posted by UniversityNomad
on Sep 15, 2012 -
51 answers
My husband has just gotten a new job in his dream company at much higher pay/benefits after a long and stressful search. That's the good part. The bad part is this job involves a lot more responsibility, longer hours, commuting time, and a much bigger project to oversee. How can I help him deal with the increased workload and stress when he is clearly having trouble adjusting to it?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 12, 2012 -
13 answers
Cool or uncool: your spouse gets a second dog from a local shelter without asking or consulting you?
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posted by fatllama
on Sep 7, 2012 -
88 answers
Should I pay off my wife's student loans? Should we file our taxes jointly? 60K in student debt!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2012 -
7 answers
Immigration Calibration: if the love-of-his-life returns to the Phillipines, will he ever see her again? Or rather, give me a general sense of how easy it would be for her to get another tourist visa to US; get visa to travel here for wedding, live here after marriage.
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posted by metahawk
on Aug 24, 2012 -
15 answers
I need help in guiding my brother-in-law, who may be developmentally challenged, with some important life decisions. I am pretty much his only family contact, am at a bit of a loss, and not quite sure where to start; (slightly lengthy) details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
12 answers
My friend has heard that people marry those who are similar to themselves (in looks, age, social class, education etc). He worries this will rule out all the "good" women.
Help me advise him how marriages really work.
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posted by EatMyHat
on Aug 15, 2012 -
36 answers
Rather out of the blue, my husband of 7 years brought up the baby question, about 5 years after our last conversation on the topic. I came back to him later that evening with one "neutral" (and sufficient) class of reasons why I was not interested in forming another babby: I don't want to give up my current freedoms to go back to the baby/preschooler parenting lifestyle. But behind that there is a big pile of more emotionally charged reasons that I didn't mention, and I don't know if I should.
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posted by drlith
on Aug 15, 2012 -
38 answers
How do I figure out if I want to get married, without, you know, getting married? I feel like I need to figure this out, because I'm at an age that a lot of guys I date definitely *do* want to get married, and I don't want to waste their time.
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posted by peacrow
on Aug 13, 2012 -
41 answers
Tell me about how you worked through a difficult period of your relationship and had it turn out well.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 8, 2012 -
27 answers
Stuck in the middle of spouse and parents - How to tell parents to lay off? How to support spouse while also seeing my parents/visiting my hometown when I want to?
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posted by wannabecounselor
on Aug 7, 2012 -
22 answers
What are the general qualities that make someone marriageable? I need to develop those qualities.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 6, 2012 -
36 answers
Looking for a relatable, compassionate, pill-free mental/emotional/marital health specialist in Seattle, for a spouse who hates doctors. Any recommendations (or advice in general)? Details inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 25, 2012 -
9 answers
Getting married soon (woo!). The plan is to change our names to Me Mylast-Herlast and Her Herlast-Mylast. I don't know much about traditional name hyphenation. Will this be interpreted differently by people who are more aware of the customs? I'm worried about people thinking that my family name is HerLast and her family name is MyLast, etc. Any other advice on the topic would be appreciated as well.
posted by rebent
on Jul 24, 2012 -
75 answers
What should I do make sure my best friend has the very best experience as my Maid of Honour as possible?
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posted by gwenlister
on Jul 23, 2012 -
20 answers
