Distilled: I want to know how to legally gather information on somebody.
Expounded: Many moons ago, my parents had a serious row with infidelity when my stepfather admitted to a long-term affair. After much counseling, they were able to save their 15 year marriage, and in time seemed closer and happier than ever before. It was the sort of story that gave people some hope for humanity and renewed faith in the ability of people to make good. Now -- 8 years later -- the specter rears its head again...
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 25, 2005 -
16 answers
My wife and I are bored, but we can't think of any good games for couples. Is there anything out there?
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posted by oissubke
on Dec 22, 2005 -
53 answers
Since my separation and divorce from my wife of five years, I've had a really hard time maintaining an erection during sex with other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2005 -
20 answers
WhydItEndFilter: Why did your marriage/long term relationship end (or almost end)? If you dodged that scythe, how'd you save it?
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posted by soma lkzx
on Dec 5, 2005 -
25 answers
My friend is in a relationship with a married man...the wife already knows but it's causing a lot of pain. She seems to be happy in the relationship, but I don't see this turning out well. I don't want to run her life or play holier-than-thou, but how do I get her out of this before things get worse? What do I say, how do I say it?
posted by aquavit
on Nov 29, 2005 -
26 answers
How many attempts have there been to pass a constitutional amendment that limits marriage to a relationship between a man and a woman?
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posted by xoe26
on Nov 20, 2005 -
5 answers
When it feels right, how long should I wait before asking the woman I love to marry me? What do you wish you knew about your significant other/ex-significant other before you took this step?
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posted by jeffe
on Nov 9, 2005 -
34 answers
The girl I love is leaving our work team, and before she goes I want to buy her an engagement ring. I think she may be the one.
The trouble is that (a) I don't know what kind of rings she likes, (b) I don't know what size ring she wears, (c) I don't think she'll say 'yes', and (d) I love her more than she loves me. Quite possibly my love for her is unrequited.
We're both professionals in our 30s, we've had a couple dates, and she knows I care about her. She doesn't know how much though. What are your thoughts and suggestions?
posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2005 -
66 answers
Is it foolish to marry someone with a chronic illness when neither of you has insurance?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2005 -
21 answers
SanFranciscoFilter: One of my very good friends is getting married soon and wants a bachelor party.
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posted by starscream
on Sep 29, 2005 -
14 answers
Mefibrarians and Mefi-Seattlites: Help us plan the dorkiest wedding ever.
So we didn't end up
making fancy dinner for my birthday on Friday, planning instead to put it off until Sunday, but that is OK because instead I got an engagement ring. Now we need to find a library or library-ish building to get married in.
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posted by librarina
on Sep 19, 2005 -
19 answers
Is it ok for a couple to ask the groom's grandparents or parents if we could hold a small wedding at one of their homes? If so, what's the best way to ask?
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posted by catfood
on Aug 29, 2005 -
12 answers
How do I get over the guilt of having been (very) unfaithful to my loving wife, when she doesn't have any idea it happened?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 26, 2005 -
55 answers
My partner shows all the classic signs of depression, yet vehemenently declares that they are not depressed.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2005 -
15 answers
Seeking advice from US citizens who have married foreigners who happened to be illegal.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 14, 2005 -
16 answers
I have just started to be attracted to a friend I never had feelings for before, in an insidious and subconscious way. But my girlfriend and I are living together, and she's pushing hard for marriage.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 13, 2005 -
23 answers
Does anyone have experience with a moissanite engagement ring? I hate
the diamond industry because I've been doing human rights work all my life, but those Harry Winston diamond ads make me swoon more than I'd like to admit.
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posted by hamster
on Jun 16, 2005 -
34 answers
So have you been in a relationship that was just "ok" or somewhat unsatisfying, or even typefied by ongoing low-level bickering, and then improved it somehow so that it was actually really good?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2005 -
5 answers
How much should I expect to pay for my wedding rings? Just doing some preliminary research in regards to the rings, I've already found a range of prices, both far below and above what I expected to be charged for these. Has anyone had any recent experience with this? What can I expect? Is there a significant price difference between in-store and online ring shopping?
posted by Jon-o
on Jun 6, 2005 -
19 answers
Relationship-oriented books for a separated (married) couple in which one member is a loner and the other is not?
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posted by scody
on May 31, 2005 -
4 answers
Please help my husband! What are your favorite techniques to manage your stress and anger at home, for free, that requires no professional assistance?
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posted by ferociouskitty
on May 24, 2005 -
33 answers
I'm a male - been married for 8 years, I'm 36 - have 2 kids and I'm feeling like I don't want to be married anymore.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2005 -
40 answers
I'm looking to elope later this year. The plan is to go on honeymoon to a place like Belize, starting off (there) with a simple, unattended ceremony. What are the implications of getting married outside of the US, and what sort of things do I need to do prior to the trip down there? Is this a bad idea?
posted by davebug
on May 17, 2005 -
6 answers
Did anyone here keep their last name (female I should add) after getting married? Did your partner have a huge issue with it? Why would you want to change your name? What about the potential children? I'm having a heated debate with a friend.
posted by yodelingisfun
on May 12, 2005 -
135 answers
My live-in boyfriend and I have been together for six years, and would very much like to get married soon. Our relationship is rock solid. We are both immigrants living in New York City and while we want a low-key wedding both come from backgrounds that value family weddings - while we can keep it small and inexpensive, running off to Vegas would upset a lot of people. Wanting to get married is bringing some unresolved family issues to the forefront . . . .
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posted by anonymous
on May 9, 2005 -
24 answers
My identical twin sister is getting married in September. I'm throwing her a party for the foreign relatives that can't attend in June.
After that June party I'll be visiting a long time dear friend from the 'net to see how we get along, and if it works out I'll be moving there in September.
The problem is, my sister doesn't approve of what I am doing - in a very patronizing and closed minded way - and I am honour bound to celebrate her wedding and be supportive and positive, without regard to her attitude about my joyous event.
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2005 -
20 answers
Three months ago, my then-girlfriend and I broke off a 2.5-year relationship. We were doing it long-distance for the entirety of it, though that never hurt us. Two summers we lived together, too. We had started to fight a lot later—usually about stupid things—and basically just started to drive each other nuts while we were apart. When we were together in person, things were wonderful, but we had to support each other across the hundreds of miles, too. It was a mutual break-up for the most part: she wanted to take a month off, but I said it was inappropriate for us to pretend to be with each other when we're really trying to get away. This may have been the biggest mistake of my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 29, 2005 -
46 answers
We're getting married in June at the courthouse. Our parents, and anyone else who's around and wants to go, is welcome to come along but we're not formally inviting anyone. We are, however inviting people to the reception, and I have questions about what the invitations should say.
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posted by jennyb
on Apr 15, 2005 -
18 answers
