My wife and I are having a lot of problems in our marriage, have been for quite some time. Infidelity on both sides. Unresolved childhood trauma. Lack of trust and honesty from both parties. We have a wonderful life and two amazing children and are best friends, have been since high school.
We're both starting therapy (separately) and then maybe marriage counseling. And I suppose this is one of those things that I can expect or hope to work out in therapy? But right now, how do I know if I should stay in my marriage?
What signs did you have that your marriage was over or was salvageable?
posted by anonymous
on Apr 9, 2013 -
13 answers
My wife and I separated six months ago. Now, after marriage and individual counselling, it looks like we might be ready to give things another shot. How do we go about re-integrating our lives whilst there are still small alarm bells ringing?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2013 -
32 answers
My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside.
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posted by six sided sock
on Feb 26, 2013 -
40 answers
Hello. The other Boston area marriage counseling posts are several years old. I hope metafilter can help me find a good marriage counselor.
My husband and have been together for 17 years, married for four years. He is at his wits end dealing with my depression (which I'm currently in treatment for).
We need to talk to someone soon. Please give me some recommendations of good couples counselors.
posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2013 -
5 answers
Have you been in a marriage or LTR where you were on the brink of breaking up but then you didn't? If so, how did that work?
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posted by dawkins_7
on Jan 15, 2013 -
10 answers
My counsellor tells me that I need to stop enabling my wife's anxieties; my wife tells me that my not sharing what I'm talking about in counselling sessions is making her anxious. How do I square this circle?
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posted by six sided sock
on Oct 17, 2012 -
61 answers
Does anyone have recommendations for a couples counselor or marriage/family therapist in Houston, TX -- or, at least, what resources I can use to find a good one? Thank you in advance!
posted by Pwoink
on Oct 9, 2012 -
1 answer
I've been married to my wife for a few years, but she confessed to me recently that a neighbor molested her when she was a child. How can I respond to this in a helpful, supportive way?
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
33 answers
My husband and I need recommendations for couples' counseling in NYC, Manhattan or Brooklyn, and would love something relatively affordable (under $120/session, if possible).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2012 -
4 answers
Asking for a friend. Marriage counseling in the Arlington/DC area? Recommendations needed...
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posted by raztaj
on Feb 12, 2012 -
1 answer
Do you have a recommendation for a book about relationship ground rules and agreements in marriage? I'm interested in a book that might help someone to consider how they want to be treated, how to set reasonable expectations for interaction, and how to define what would constitute a good relationship for them.
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posted by OmieWise
on Nov 30, 2011 -
7 answers
Can anybody recommend a sex positive relationship therapist in or near Chicago?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 21, 2011 -
1 answer
Recommendations for marriage counseling in the greater Chapel Hill area. Particularly, therapists that offer a sliding scale.
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posted by sickinthehead
on Mar 13, 2011 -
7 answers
How do I talk to my mother about her depression, especially when I'm trying to create better boundaries but simultaneously plan for my family's future?
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posted by Madamina
on Oct 25, 2010 -
9 answers
Need to find a therapist for my husband and I in the area. Preferably not affiliated with any religious organization. Need to make the appointment
soon. Wanted to go to
CAMHC, but they're booked up until January. Recommendations?
posted by Alias Unknown
on Nov 26, 2009 -
1 answer
My wife and i are working through some difficult issues. We love each other dearly, but we're no longer physically intimate. Neither one of us is willing to give up on our relationship. How do I make things work while we're trying to make things work?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2009 -
10 answers
Any suggestions for a pre-marital counselor in Chicago? My fiance and I are doing a church wedding, and we are doing the Catholic pre-Cana requirements, but we actually think our church's requirements are too...minimal.
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posted by bibbit
on Mar 10, 2009 -
3 answers
My 60 year old mom, married 40 years to a husband with NPD, is drinking and crying in the evenings, angrily lashing out, taking sleeping pills in order to sleep at night, and anguishing over whether she can leave her marriage. How can I help her?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 3, 2008 -
9 answers
I need to find a very good marriage counselor in the Kansas City area, ASAP. My relationship has ended and there's a child at stake.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 18, 2008 -
8 answers
My brother has his head up his butt and I want to help him remove it. As his sibling and one of his only friends, I wish to provide him the best advice possible. So my questions are these: 1) What is a constructive thing to say to a sibling who wants a divorce for all the wrong reasons, 2) How do you get someone into counseling when they don't believe in it? and 3) How does one go about finding a very specific kind of counselor? He'd be best served and less apt to argue with a strong, smart father-figure.
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posted by Fuzzy Dog
on Sep 4, 2007 -
17 answers
Can anyone recommend a couples therapist here in New York City (ideally Manhattan)? Trying to work through a few outstanding issues in our pre-marriage relationship, and looking for some outside help.
posted by thomascrown
on May 21, 2007 -
3 answers
