We've been together for a little more than ten years. He's an all around nice level-headed guy and we share many interests. He's very handsome and I am attracted to him still. However, I've cheated on him a couple of times since we've been together. No sex. But recently, the invitation was offered...by me. The invitation was declined - good thing but of course I badly wanted it to happen as the chemistry was intense. It was purely lust in both incidences but neither led to sex. I am wondering why I got married in the first place. I do care for my husband very much and enjoy spending time with him. We go out together, we do day trips, etc. Sex is good but not great. I have tried communicating this with him many times but nothing really changes. Either way, I still love him immensely and love being with him so I'm not sure why I let myself do these things. Naturally, I don't trust myself... After the first time, I tried to work on my "hormones" by focusing only on him but now, I find myself back in the same spot. Should I let him go so he can find someone better (we're both in our mid-30s) or try to change...
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