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Should I get back together with my ex-wife?

I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by normal_guy on Jul 17, 2014 - 37 answers

How do people find money to move out when separating or divorcing?

A asks B for a divorce. B is not surprised. B agrees, even though B would prefer to stay in an unhappy marriage rather than be branded with a scarlet D*. A wants to move out ASAP. Generally speaking, how do the financial logistics of this work? No special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 11, 2014 - 17 answers

SSRIs and the end of romantic love

Four months after my husband went on Lexapro, I could see it in his face that he didn't love me anymore. At seven months, he asked to separate after four years of marriage. After finding this article online, I'm curious as to whether others have had similar experiences. Have you or your spouse experienced a decline in attachment/romantic love after starting an SSRI? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2013 - 71 answers

My future just doesn't fit anymore

When leaving is terrifying, but staying's unbearable: please help me figure out what to do. [more inside]
posted by morninganyway on Nov 1, 2013 - 42 answers

What the hell did I just do?

I have asked a previous question about my situation and was really grateful for the advice. So last week I took it, and I told my SO that I thought we weren’t working and it would be better for both of us if we separated. So we did at the weekend. And now I don’t know if I’ve made the biggest mistake of my life. Where do I go from here? Oh so many, many details below. [more inside]
posted by outoftime on Sep 30, 2013 - 25 answers

How hard should reconciliation be?

My wife and I separated at the end of last year for a three-month period. We've now ended our separation and have moved back in together. Whilst things are often wonderful, they're equally as often stressful and hard work. My question is: how hard should it be? Snowflakes, wall-of-text inside. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jul 24, 2013 - 28 answers

How do I help my sister whose marriage is on the rocks?

Ten year marriage that includes a 4 yr old kid is about to fall apart. How can I help directly or help them help themselves through this rocky period? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2013 - 8 answers

Putting a Humpty-Dumpty marriage together again.

My wife and I separated six months ago. Now, after marriage and individual counselling, it looks like we might be ready to give things another shot. How do we go about re-integrating our lives whilst there are still small alarm bells ringing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 32 answers

Prepping for amicable split... Cliff Notes me

Spouse and I calmly decided it's over. Help me prepare. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2013 - 15 answers

To stay [gone] or go [back]?

My wife and I separated a few months ago (which was my choice, not hers) and it seems that many of the things that I left over may have been addressed, but I still feel cagey about it all. How do I square this circle in my head and in my heart? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 26, 2013 - 40 answers

Is it still your business even though I left?

I split up with my wife a couple of months ago, and have been doing really well since then. Recently I've been feeling a little bit like she's been stalking me on social media, and today I've woken up to messages asking me why I'm in contact with someone from my past. How do I handle this? (I've tried to anonymise this as best I can) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 24, 2013 - 45 answers

I'm sorry I don't feel pain the way you think I should, but...

A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without. How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without). [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 22, 2012 - 27 answers

Help me get to January

Marriage fizzling; need your best holiday coping methods to get through the rest of the year. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 4, 2012 - 12 answers

Selfish or selfless? I can't tell.

I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 23, 2012 - 69 answers

Stuck on the cusp; how to step over?

You decided to leave your marriage, which has had good times but also so many bad ones. You finally came to the point where you realised you had to get out; how did you go from realising it to actually doing it, despite the inertia of being with someone whom you still loved (just not enough to overcome all the negatives in the marriage any more)? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 5, 2012 - 33 answers

My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this?

My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2012 - 65 answers

Can a healthy marriage last?

How do I regain my trust in marriage when my role models of healthy marriage are separating? [more inside]
posted by horizonseeker on Oct 5, 2012 - 16 answers

Things are bad.

Our marriage is crumbling, and it's taking me with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2012 - 29 answers

Some semblance of normality?

I'm increasingly certain that my marriage is  dying, and I need some help negotiating the time between now and my first realtionship counselling appointment. (Apologies for the long post) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2012 - 27 answers

Help me cope with the idea of a coming separation

We've been together for the past 15 years. My wife recently discovered that she in fact does not love me. It's making me feel very weak - we've started therapy, but i'm looking for ways to cope between sessions, and also come to terms with the fact that we may separate. Long story follows. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 21, 2012 - 20 answers

I’m looking for advice on how to handle an unexpected separation from my husband.

I’m looking for advice on how to handle an unexpected separation from my husband. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2012 - 52 answers

Separated from wife, got involved with someone else, should I reconcile with my wife?

I've been separated from my wife for over six months. During that time I got involved with someone else, but now I'm thinking about going back to my wife. Please tell me I'm not making a mistake. [more inside]
posted by quoth_the_raven on Apr 23, 2012 - 53 answers

Is this really what I want?

If this divorce is really what I want, why do I keep second-guessing myself? [more inside]
posted by tryniti on Jan 16, 2012 - 32 answers

Life moves on

What do you wish you had known before you separated from your spouse? [more inside]
posted by postel's law on Dec 7, 2011 - 20 answers

Why is my ex stuttering?

My ex has developed stuttering when he talks to me. Am I being played? Is there such a thing as emotionally-caused stuttering? [more inside]
posted by b33j on Oct 18, 2011 - 19 answers

How to cope with my wife who's "fallen out of love" with me?

My wife and I married over 27 years ago when she and I were 25; we’d known each other for three years. Our marriage has had its ups and downs--in many cases, the "downs" were provided by her unwillingness/inability to communicate honestly and openly and by my anger at same as well as my on-and-off depression. That said, we always had fun and shared love. In particular, I always stuck in there during arguments in order to try to get her and us to a point of honest communication. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2011 - 38 answers

Separation within a marital residence: is it doable?

I think I need a break in my marriage. I've been a lot of emotional pain, and his behavior is making it worse and worse. However, we'd so damn poor that we couldn't even afford to physically separate. What's the likelihood of a separation within a marital residence actually working out? Have you tried it? What happened? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 9, 2011 - 22 answers

Is it already over?

My husband treated me unfairly for a long time, I got emotionally set to divorce and ... now he's doing all the right things. Internet, is it already over? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 1, 2011 - 43 answers

marriage separation

Differences with wife. [more inside]
posted by jassi on Feb 26, 2011 - 13 answers

Advice or resources for dealing with guilt/fear in a divorce?

How do I stop myself from second-guessing my decision to get a divorce? Does the little bit of doubt mean that I'm doing the wrong thing? Are there any books or resources for people in my situation? [more inside]
posted by catfood on Feb 16, 2011 - 43 answers

The spouse and the house

How to deal with the guilt of leaving a spouse with a house they can't afford? [more inside]
posted by catfood on Feb 3, 2011 - 42 answers

Suddenly my wife wants me to leave without her and to leave our son in her custody. Can she do this?

We are visiting my wife's parents in another state. Suddenly my wife wants me to leave without her and to leave our son in her custody. Can she do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 27, 2010 - 25 answers

i don't know what to say

A week ago, my sister and her husband (they have a four year old) have decided to undergo a trial separation. Please help me figure out how best to support her, and whether or not I should keep my mouth shut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2010 - 17 answers

Resources for helping family deal with divorce

My brother's wife is leaving him, and it is hitting the whole extended family hard. None of us seem to know how to support him or how to deal with the depression that has resulted. Can anyone point us towards resources like books or websites to help this close extended family deal with this painful time and learn to support him and the young kids?
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2010 - 3 answers

When is it ok for recent ex to introduce new boyfriend to children?

When is it ok for recent ex to introduce new boyfriend to young children (1 and 3)?? [more inside]
posted by gnash on Apr 11, 2010 - 32 answers

Advice needed on an amicable separation.

Advice needed on an amicable separation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2010 - 17 answers

Have you taken back your mentally ill partner and wish you hadn't? Or wish you had?

Do you do this? How do I escape the pattern of going back to, because I can't resist helping, my (I think) mentally ill (or unstable/intense) husband. See, he's not all bad... Do you regret going back? Do you wish you had? [more inside]
posted by Toto_tot on Nov 25, 2009 - 42 answers

Talk her out of it?

How, and should I, breach the subject of my best friend's perhaps ill-advised marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 3, 2009 - 37 answers

Is there a separation of debt in a marriage (NZ)?

Separation of Personal Debt in an Ongoing Marriage (NZ Law) [more inside]
posted by thomasck on Jan 16, 2009 - 4 answers

Help me keep it together

I feel like my marriage, and my relationship with my wife, are falling apart, and I can't stop it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2009 - 16 answers

How do you explain divorce to an eight-year-old?

I'm at University and far removed from home geographically. My parents are planning on getting divorced soon and anyone semi-observant would've seen this coming years and years ago. Both wonderful people, both wholly incompatible. So what can I/they do for my adorably clueless, naive, 8-year old sister who still has no idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2007 - 14 answers

How to help good friends enduring marital issues?

How do I best help and support long time friends in the midst of marital issues? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2007 - 9 answers

Should I Stay Or Should I Go?

I have been in a troubled marriage for so long, I have lost perspective on how bad it may or may not be. Outside opinions welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2006 - 62 answers

Help for a couple in which one is a loner and the other is not?

Relationship-oriented books for a separated (married) couple in which one member is a loner and the other is not? [more inside]
posted by scody on May 31, 2005 - 4 answers

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