I am divorced and retained my married name because I like it and it suits me, and my kids share it. I would like to keep my name, even if I married again. I am dating someone casually who has mentioned that anyone he would marry would have to change her name to his. What is the hive opinion of keeping a name from a previous marriage? Is this unheard of? Should this be a dealbreaker?
posted by Goodgrief on Dec 11, 2009 - 90 answers

Help me find a comedy bit about gay marriage? [more inside]
posted by macfly on Dec 2, 2009 - 3 answers

ETIQUETTE FILTER: Why is it taboo for an expectant mother to publicize her own baby shower? [more inside]
posted by mynameismandab on Nov 13, 2009 - 32 answers

Help me plan a romantic evening for my wife for our anniversary [more inside]
posted by jpdoane on Nov 13, 2009 - 11 answers

You're not my lawyer, but when getting a divorce, how does a house with an underwater mortgage count toward dividing assets? [more inside]
posted by cnc on Oct 11, 2009 - 11 answers

Recommend a good Boston Metro Relationship/Marriage Therapist/Counselor? [more inside]
posted by kryptonik on Aug 27, 2009 - 6 answers

Stay vs. Go Showdown 2009 Also starring: 2 kids!!!!!!! Is it better to stay in a bad marriage so that the kids can be with both parents, or to divorce and hope for the best? [more inside]
posted by rahnefan on Jul 18, 2009 - 38 answers

What conversations are a MUST before two people get married? [more inside]
posted by mittenbex on Jul 7, 2009 - 54 answers

My heart just got smooshed, and then I woke up to this on my iGoogle page. Can you help me keep the hobgoblins of my mind at bay today? [more inside]
posted by ohyouknow on Jul 1, 2009 - 31 answers

How do I make a wife who is unhappy where she is living happier? Largish explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by elder18 on Jun 30, 2009 - 67 answers

How do you define "success" in relationships? [more inside]
posted by pauldonato on May 27, 2009 - 22 answers

(Several questions in one. Sorry.) We're getting hitched in Vegas, and friends are traveling from overseas. Help us plan out some basic wedding stuff (like location, wedding bands, etc.), as well as how to make our friends' stay enjoyable. [more inside]
posted by metalheart on Apr 26, 2009 - 10 answers

What's the easiest way to get a copy of my baptismal certificate if I only have a vague idea where I was baptized? This is embarrassing, but in my defense, I don't really remember it all that well. [more inside]
posted by smurdah on Mar 18, 2009 - 6 answers

I'm from a South Asian culture and made the mistake of allowing my parents to start looking for a girl for me. How do I get out of this? [more inside]
posted by reenum on Feb 24, 2009 - 16 answers

How difficult is adopting a child going to be for a "non-traditional" couple? [more inside]
posted by geekchic on Nov 19, 2008 - 24 answers

He's British, I'm not. I plan to travel to London on a fiancee visa so we can get married. How long does it take after the wedding for the visa extention/ work permit to arrive? [more inside]
posted by tavegyl on Nov 16, 2008 - 8 answers

Immigration Law! Help me get my bagged Aussie into the U.S. and A. [more inside]
posted by metalheart on Oct 26, 2008 - 14 answers

Complicated name-change issues. I am changing my last name, but not due to a legal marriage. Can I get my name changed now, but start using it for everything later? [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake on Jan 30, 2008 - 11 answers

I recently bought a paperback book from an antique shop. The book's called The Mystery of Love, Courtship and Marriage Explained, and it was written by Henry J. Wehman, published by Wehman Bros. But there's no copyright date! Anywhere! In any form! The cover looks like it's a "newer" edition (1920's or so) of an older writing, since the writing uses language and refers to customs that seem outdated even for the early 20th century. There are details such as proper flirting with your parasol, the inappropriateness of women's rights meetings, marrying outside of your social class, calling your husband "Mister" instead of his first name, etc. The word "hugging" (not the act itself) is even called a vulgarity. So, it's old. But how old? How can I find out when this was actually written? Google turns up nada. [more inside]
posted by katillathehun on Oct 2, 2007 - 13 answers

What are the next steps for a wife who's husband has just walked out? Not-so-delicious twist: husband is mentally ill and probably going to worsen. [more inside]
posted by jquinby on Aug 27, 2007 - 19 answers

InternationalMarriageFilter: So The Dark Princess has consented to marry a Mutant. We think three ceremonies in three countries are needed. Looking for tips / opinions / advise on the whole sheebang lest we say the hell with it all and elope. [more inside]
posted by Mutant on Jul 20, 2007 - 25 answers

Please school us about premarital counseling. What kinds of issues do people discuss? What is the difference between secular and religious counseling? [more inside]
posted by Alison on Aug 10, 2006 - 10 answers