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The Pros and Cons of Marriage

Assuming we'll be together until death, I'm wondering what the reasons are for and against marrying my partner. [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Nov 7, 2014 - 34 answers

How do I "I do?"

My partner and I are having a wedding in two months. We'd like to get legally married before the ceremony, but can't decide what the best option for us would be. My partner is a man, but here in Ohio it isn't possible for him to change his birth certificate to match this. Do we go to another state to marry, or try to get a license in Ohio? [more inside]
posted by dinofuzz on Jul 25, 2014 - 11 answers

How to celebrate six months of marriage at a wedding party?

In March, Mrs. HeroZero and I exchanged vows and rings at City Hall with a very small group of friends and immediate family. On Labor Day, we're having a bigger wedding party with the friends and family who couldn't come to the original, tiny event. What are some ideas for making this ceremony meaningful in a way that's different from how a wedding goes? [more inside]
posted by HeroZero on Jul 20, 2014 - 8 answers

Help my future-husband and I choose a meaningful new last name

We're a mixed-race couple that are getting married soonish and really want to blend our Chinese-whiteness together into one name, but are coming up completely blank. I need ideas! Chinese surname with an alternative spelling? White last name that sounds suspiciously Chinese? [more inside]
posted by Snacks on Jul 18, 2014 - 36 answers

Should I get back together with my ex-wife?

I could really use some input to help me sort through all of this. At 40 years old, she was having a lesbian affair and asked me to move out. I was devastated. But in hindsight, our marriage wasn't a good one. And I suppose it was just a matter of time before something came along to unravel the whole thing. Now she wants me back. I have no clue how I even feel, much less if I even want to try again. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by normal_guy on Jul 17, 2014 - 37 answers

single-hood wasted on the single?

What do you or did you enjoy about being single? What do partnered mefites miss? [more inside]
posted by morganw on Jul 10, 2014 - 88 answers

Any female performers who share a last name with their husband?

I've noticed that female performers tend to keep the surname they were born with, if they don't come up with a whole new artist name entirely. They hardly ever take their husband's name. Please help me find a decent list of exceptions. I am looking for answers in two categories: 1. Women who started as performers, then changed their last names when they got married. 2. Women who got married and took their husbands' last names, then embarked on successful performance careers. Bonus points for women from the above cases whose husbands aren't famous themselves. Important: I am not interested in cases where the actress creates a hyphenation of her maiden name and her husband's name, like Farrah Fawcett-Majors, Jada Pinkett Smith, or Pamela Anderson Lee. Unfortunately those are the only ones I can think of!
posted by oxisos on Mar 30, 2014 - 51 answers

Changing your name...some of the time?

I'm getting married, and am considering what to do about changing my name. My finance and I both like the idea of changing my name, both for personal and practical reason -- we are both sort of traditional when it comes to things like this, both like the idea of both having the same name as our kids, our names sound awful hyphenated, etc. That said, I worry about this professionally. [more inside]
posted by rainbowbrite on Feb 26, 2014 - 43 answers

What is the best, most proactive type of relationship counseling?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 15. We both have our own issues (depression, ADD) and lately things have been very bad between us. Weekly fights with yelling and crying, instead of disagreements or discussion. He wants us to find a "coach" that will help us define and reach our goals, I don't know if just coaching will help us. [more inside]
posted by natasha_k on Feb 25, 2014 - 10 answers

Detaching whilst staying

How does one practice detachment in a codependent, anxiety-rich relationship? How can I be the husband my wife needs me to be whilst also getting what I need? [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jan 22, 2014 - 47 answers

Book for sudden end to a marriage

Asking for a friend: I was approached by a friend today who was looking for a book to recommend to a friend of her's. The friend of a friend is going through a sudden and bewildering end to a marriage (her husband of many years packed his clothes while she was at the store and left). Obviously, she is in tremendous shock and plans to seek help from a counselor, but I'm wondering if anyone can recommend any books for her in the meantime. [more inside]
posted by 4ster on Jan 19, 2014 - 7 answers

Just got engaged. Problem, I still think about the one that got away.

I just got engaged to an amazing guy. He's funny, smart, interesting, stable, settled in his career, and is going places...basically, a "10" by any and every objective measure. The problem is that ever since we've gotten engaged, I keep thinking of the first and only guy I've ever felt was "the one" I was destined to be with, and the problem has only exacerbated since my fiancé wants to drop his life for a year in California to be closer to me as I finish up college. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2013 - 102 answers

What is the ideal age gap in heterosexual relationships?

A growing body of scientific research suggests that the ideal age gap between a man and a woman is fifteen years, provided that the latter is younger so as to mitigate the effect of the midlife crisis. Yet, conventional wisdom posits that the half-your-age-plus-seven rule and that the three to six years rule are equally valid. What do you think? [more inside]
posted by lotusmish on Sep 27, 2013 - 55 answers

Marriage & Work Filter, opposing schedules edition

What non-obvious effects can I expect if I take a job with hours that are very different from my wife's? [more inside]
posted by jon1270 on Aug 31, 2013 - 21 answers

What is going on here? (Relationship clarity)

Some advice needed on a newly poly marriage...issues regarding imbalance of resources/effort, feelings of rejection, control issues, etc Please PM me if you think that will be more helpful. [more inside]
posted by queenba on Aug 15, 2013 - 41 answers

Suggestions for Ceremony lines

Wedding in 5 weeks. We still haven't figured out any of the script for our wedding. The officient sent us a handful of sample ceremonies, but none of them really feel like us. The "I ______ take thee _________ to be my wife/husband, for richer or poorer" etc vows we are totally stuck on, and frankly the ring exchange lines are also sticking us up too. Please help. The green always has such creative suggestions! Don't fail me now! [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Aug 7, 2013 - 24 answers

How hard should reconciliation be?

My wife and I separated at the end of last year for a three-month period. We've now ended our separation and have moved back in together. Whilst things are often wonderful, they're equally as often stressful and hard work. My question is: how hard should it be? Snowflakes, wall-of-text inside. [more inside]
posted by yasp on Jul 24, 2013 - 28 answers

What are good boundaries for married opposite sex friends?

I have a close male friend and our closeness bothers my husband, which bothers me because I care about how he feels. Happy couples, what are things you think are okay and not okay for your spouse to do with someone else? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2013 - 58 answers

Small town bachelor party

Bachelor party, challenge level: wholesome time, tiny Midwestern town, Thursday night, 7 people total, best man (me) arriving in town a few hours before. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg on Apr 22, 2013 - 15 answers

Marriage upgrade

For reasons of being an international same-sex couple, we want to be as married as we possibly can get. For the same reasons, the legal status of our relationship is giving us a headache. What we are currently trying to figure out is, if we have a California certificate of registered domestic partnership but want to get a Massachusetts marriage license, do we have to get domestic-divorced before we can get Massachusetts-married? [more inside]
posted by harujion on Apr 20, 2013 - 4 answers

Finding a wedding officiant on (very) short notice in Portland, OR?

My fiancé and I have decided to elope. We want to get married on April Fool's day (aka Monday), as we're fools in love. We have a marriage license. What we don't have is an officiant. [more inside]
posted by seesaw on Mar 29, 2013 - 9 answers

What happened to churches that refused to hold interracial weddings?

Around the time that the Supreme Court decided Loving v. Virginia, did any churches lose their tax exempt status either due to (A) political activities related to the fight over interracial marriage or (B) due to the refusal to conduct such marriages for its members? [more inside]
posted by jepler on Mar 25, 2013 - 21 answers

Spock loves Kirk but fails miserably as Troi

Dear Vulcan Homeworld, I want to learn how to converse better with my wife. Currently my overly-logical thought and speech patterns upset her, frequently in ways I'm unable even to predict. She deserves better. I've struggled on my own to come up with dozens of different approaches, all of which have ultimately failed in different ways, so I come to you for help. [more inside]
posted by blue_and_bronze on Mar 12, 2013 - 39 answers

How to Deal with Maybe-Possible-Impending Marriage Proposal

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch! [more inside]
posted by tentwentythirty on Feb 22, 2013 - 57 answers

Laid Off Spouse

My husband just got laid off from his position today. It's with a large company and he had excellent reviews but their revenue stream has not been up to par. They told him his position has been eliminated. However, he is welcome to reapply if and when blah, blah, blah... My concern is what is the right way to help him. He has never been laid off before and for the most part never thought this could happen. He is very optimistic by nature. He does seem a little shell shocked. My job is not going to be able to support our family. What are the first things we should do? I am also concerned about his mental well being and being a supportive partner while he looks for a new job. To make matters worse (or whatever) we have one in college, one applying to colleges, one getting ready to apply, and one freshman in high school.
posted by lasamana on Feb 22, 2013 - 25 answers

I'm 36 and immature in love. How can I get some grown up perspective?

I am happily married but have fallen in love with someone else. I think the intensity of my feelings for this other man is due to the fact that I’ve only ever been in one relationship before; I think I am experiencing this the way a teenager would. How do I get over this ‘in love’ feeling? [more inside]
posted by Lollie1974 on Feb 8, 2013 - 14 answers

They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...

This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy? [more inside]
posted by Telpethoron on Feb 2, 2013 - 65 answers

Why does my husband's baptism status matter to his ex-wife's current marriage?

My husband was married briefly and divorced over 20 years ago. Since then, his ex-wife has remarried, divorced again and recently remarried. My husband and his ex wife have had no contact since before the divorce. She has just (out of the blue) asked if my husband was baptized (he was not). She said she would need him to fill out some paperwork acknowledging that he hasn't been baptized so her new marriage is recognized in the Catholic church. Can someone explain what my husband's baptismal status has to do with her current marriage being recognized? They are divorced, there was one child born from their marriage. Could she be trying to have their marriage annulled?? [more inside]
posted by getyourlife on Jan 1, 2013 - 18 answers

I'm sorry I don't feel pain the way you think I should, but...

A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without. How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without). [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 22, 2012 - 27 answers

Where do I stand after my feeble attempt at a marriage proposal?

I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to marry me and he said 'why not'. Now what? [more inside]
posted by TMBelair on Dec 11, 2012 - 50 answers

Help me make a Christmas Picnic

We're moving the week before Christmas. Soooo let's have a Christmas Eve picnic! Suggestions for food and decor? [more inside]
posted by spunweb on Dec 9, 2012 - 12 answers

Remind me to text "I love you."

The "jazz up my marriage" app -- what's it called and where do I get it? [more inside]
posted by spunweb on Nov 30, 2012 - 4 answers

Selfish or selfless? I can't tell.

I'm ready to leave my unhappy, borderline-abusive, caretaker-y marriage (details in a series of posts, most recently here). Do I just wait until I've got all my ducks in a row and then go, or should I be kinder, and give my spouse some kind of notice period. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Nov 23, 2012 - 69 answers

"No gifts please"

Does "No gifts please" on a wedding invitation really mean No Gifts? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow on Nov 8, 2012 - 52 answers

I feel trapped from being too different?

Pretty sure I don't want to get married or have kids. Problem is, almost all my friends are doing so and it's just getting to the point where I am the only one who isn't doing either of those (not a bad thing).Help me not go crazy if I hear one more person say the words 'I'm engaged" or "I'm pregnant". [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Oct 30, 2012 - 55 answers

"Congratulations on getting married a SECOND time!" ... sigh.

Divorcee getting married for the second time and a full wedding's to be planned, mixed feelings on the wedding part. Tell me the personal side of your 2nd (+) wedding experiences. [more inside]
posted by lizbunny on Oct 20, 2012 - 31 answers

To share or not to share

My counsellor tells me that I need to stop enabling my wife's anxieties; my wife tells me that my not sharing what I'm talking about in counselling sessions is making her anxious. How do I square this circle? [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Oct 17, 2012 - 61 answers

How to handle husband's suicidal thoughts

After discussing marital separation my husband searched online for what happens to life insurance in the event of suicide [more inside]
posted by momtothreedc on Oct 7, 2012 - 30 answers

Marriage in Spain

Can a foreign non-priest officiate at a wedding in Spain? [more inside]
posted by tavegyl on Oct 2, 2012 - 5 answers

What fun things should we do before having kids?

AdviceFilter: What life experiences (or fun things) should my partner and I make time for, before having a baby? [more inside]
posted by amoeba on Sep 19, 2012 - 19 answers

Pop the question please?

I want to be engaged, but I want him to propose. [more inside]
posted by nile_red on Sep 15, 2012 - 44 answers

At this rate, there will be sixteen by next week.

Cool or uncool: your spouse gets a second dog from a local shelter without asking or consulting you? [more inside]
posted by fatllama on Sep 7, 2012 - 88 answers

INS vs True Love

Immigration Calibration: if the love-of-his-life returns to the Phillipines, will he ever see her again? Or rather, give me a general sense of how easy it would be for her to get another tourist visa to US; get visa to travel here for wedding, live here after marriage. [more inside]
posted by metahawk on Aug 24, 2012 - 15 answers

"Do you take this man...?" Probably not.

How do I figure out if I want to get married, without, you know, getting married? I feel like I need to figure this out, because I'm at an age that a lot of guys I date definitely *do* want to get married, and I don't want to waste their time. [more inside]
posted by peacrow on Aug 13, 2012 - 41 answers

changing last names at marriage

Getting married soon (woo!). The plan is to change our names to Me Mylast-Herlast and Her Herlast-Mylast. I don't know much about traditional name hyphenation. Will this be interpreted differently by people who are more aware of the customs? I'm worried about people thinking that my family name is HerLast and her family name is MyLast, etc. Any other advice on the topic would be appreciated as well.
posted by rebent on Jul 24, 2012 - 76 answers

Advice for doing a best man speech for someone you hardly know?

Earlier this year I was asked by a friendly co-worker to be his best man. I accepted against my better judgement because I got the sense he had no one else he could ask. Now faced with writing an appropriate heartfelt (possibly humorous) speech I am at a loss. [more inside]
posted by iheijoushin on Jul 23, 2012 - 20 answers

How do I move on?

Help me reconcile the fact that my BF doesn't want to get married and I will have to return home due to visa restrictions. (long) [more inside]
posted by winsome on Jul 20, 2012 - 49 answers

Multiple Wives?

How does US law handle foreign nationals (e.g. Saudis) who have legally married multiple wives? Could someone be prosecuted for bigamy? Could multiple wives get a green card? Would a foreign national be expected to divorce all but one wife should he become resident in the US?
posted by musofire on Jul 16, 2012 - 2 answers

The knot is tying me in knots

Help me find a wedding planning website. Tried 'theknot.com' and I can't get past how disorganized & visually chaotic it is. [more inside]
posted by luciddream928 on Jul 16, 2012 - 11 answers

How can an atheist/catholic marriage succeed?

I'm on the brink of proposing to my Catholic, Indian-American girlfriend. However, I come from a long line of athiests/humanists and I am starting to worry about how we will balance our backgrounds in raising our children. [more inside]
posted by SpicyMustard on Jun 15, 2012 - 49 answers

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