My partner's 18 year old sister wants to marry her boyfriend of one year. They both live at home with their respective parents, are not planning to pursue post-secondary school, and are financially insecure (she does not work, he works part time). They have recently converted to a fundamentalist version of a new faith, and their plan is to rely on her disabled mother who would lose her benefits by caring for them - the mother is against this but of course loves her daughter. Their religious community is encouraging them (but not offering financial aid). What can we do to support her but not her decision? [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose
on Mar 9, 2014 -
I need help in guiding my brother-in-law, who may be developmentally challenged, with some important life decisions. I am pretty much his only family contact, am at a bit of a loss, and not quite sure where to start; (slightly lengthy) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
What sorts of experiences, analogies, and general thoughts can people share about interfaith marriages? Specifically, those that have married significant others that are Muslim, but all general interfaith marriage comments would be appreciated. My girlfriend and I come from very similar backgrounds culturally, but are of different religions and we are at a critical stage in our relationship - details inside. [more inside]
posted by copernicus
on Jun 11, 2007 -
Thanks for all your help with the engagement ring question
. I swear, on my MeFi account, it's not me...I'm just the reluctant best friend. Right...so I need some more ammo
My friend is agnostic, his fiance is athiest...yet her family wants her to have a Jewish
wedding...so much so, that they're again applying the pressure, and since she "feels" Jewish, even though she doesn't believe, she's going along with it. See, her parents won't go to a civil or catholic ceremony, and if they don't have a Jewish ceremony, there's going to be hell to pay. But, my friend's parents are staunch catholics, and while they would go to a Jewish wedding, they won't wear yarmulkes, and some of his family won't even attend.
My advice? Either insist on a dual ceremony, or just let her parents have their way, considering they're going to shell out the money. But on top of that engagement ring debacle, I'm afraid he's set too many precedents.
What the hell can my friend say to her parents to get them to lay off? If he puts his foot down, what can he expect from them? From her? Anybody marry into a domineering family? Anybody intermarry Catholics/Jewish?
We all know this is a downward spiral, and if he doesn't put his foot down, next it's going to be Hebrew school for the kids, etc. (oh yeah, they're also doing the "you're going to raise the kids Jewish, aren't you?" thing).
Oy Vey! If the parents just weren't involved, this entire engagement/wedding thing would be simple. [more inside]
posted by taumeson
on May 26, 2004 -