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Am I uptight, or is he being a perv?

I'm a woman in my mid 40's, and my husband is in his early 50's. We've been married over 20 years, have 3 great kids and a relatively good life. But our sex life has taken a weird turn here lately (at least for me). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2014 - 39 answers

 

Just one year old marriage and in crisis

Just one year old marriage and in crisis [more inside]
posted by Sall on Apr 14, 2014 - 21 answers

How do I ask out my wife?

My wife and I used to go out fairly frequently - not partying but dinner, museum, movie, etc. Almost two years ago we had a child, whom we both adore. However, we have not been out since. We have had offers to watch the child so we could go out and she would not take any up on it. What can I say for my wife to accept a date with me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2014 - 51 answers

What is the best, most proactive type of relationship counseling?

My husband and I have been married for 5 years, together for 15. We both have our own issues (depression, ADD) and lately things have been very bad between us. Weekly fights with yelling and crying, instead of disagreements or discussion. He wants us to find a "coach" that will help us define and reach our goals, I don't know if just coaching will help us. [more inside]
posted by natasha_k on Feb 25, 2014 - 10 answers

ID this joke about what you call an apartment

I've been trying to recall a vaguely remembered joke that goes through different stages in a relationship and for each one has a different, relevant name for what you call an apartment. Something like, when you're just married it's a unit, later on it's something, then when things start to go south it's a flat, and when the marriage ends poorly it's an apartment (ha ha). Does anyone recognize this and know the full text of the joke?
posted by capricorn on Jan 1, 2014 - 1 answer

How do you deal with a guy who has fear of commitment.

I am dating a guy for 6 months and we are super open. We moved in together. We love each other. I think he is afraid of commitment and marriage. Although he said clearly that he wants to get married and have kids, it is clear that not now. He wants to save and then jump in marriage. Although I don't have a problem with this, and he is only 26, do you think that 3 years is really going to change him or he will say the same thing. I want a family and just going to find another guy is not the option because I did that and you know what? A relationship builds in time. I am not willing to start from scratch again and again. I don't want to be looking my whole life. I am a profesional with a great career. My bf keeps saying that I am great, he loves me a ton, but my question is will e commit one day? What will make him change? Should I do something?
posted by barexamfreak on Nov 6, 2013 - 25 answers

Partner lied about previous sexual partners & his faithfulness

A lie of omission, to be more accurate. When I met my (now) husband he understood that I hadn’t had sex and didn’t plan on it before marriage, and that I was looking for someone with similar beliefs about sex. Because he knew this, he was honest and told me that he had been in a long-term relationship with someone before for 7 years - I was fine with this. But I recently discovered that he had sex with 3 different women right as he was getting to know me, (one of whom I've since met at one of his work parties, and cringe to think I was the only one in the group who didn't know about this), and he didn't feel it was important to tell me about it when he proposed to me. [more inside]
posted by Zee101 on Aug 21, 2013 - 43 answers

What do I say?

So my fiance and I broke up recently. While a lot of the people in our community know, I continue to encounter situations in which I'm asked, "How's your fiance?" or "What's new with you?" I want them to know so they stop asking me. But if I say, "Actually, we broke up" their face falls and we enter a very awkward conversation full of forced empathy neither of us want to be in. What can I say in a sentence or two to avoid this fate? [more inside]
posted by ictow on Aug 9, 2013 - 21 answers

Relationship!: The Game (Probably WON'T Supplant Hungry Hungry Hippos)

What activities/questions/elements would YOU include in a [card and/or board] game meant to serve as part of the "maintenance work" of a romantic relationship? [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew on Jul 12, 2013 - 11 answers

My friend with anxiety won't help himself and I don't know what to do

A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help. [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on May 28, 2013 - 15 answers

Separate or wait to see if things get better?

My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to. Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2013 - 35 answers

Am I crazy to consider an old 'marriage pact'?

I've been in a relationship for 3 years, waiting on a proposal. I don't know if it will materialize. Lately I've been fantasizing about an ex-boyfriend who I made a marriage pact with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2013 - 48 answers

First Dance for Friends turned Bride and Groom?

It's another wedding question.. I'm getting married on April 26th (yay) and I'm looking for a good first dance song that reflects our history as a couple. We were best friends for about 6 years before we started seriously dating and I'd love to dance to a song that reflects that. My fiance mentioned Can't Fight this Feeling by REO Speedwagon but I was looking for other suggestions. Any type of music is okay except country because we aren't big country fans. Thanks!
posted by AngryLlama on Apr 1, 2013 - 26 answers

How do I make up for 10 years of blowing her off?

I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2013 - 30 answers

How to Deal with Maybe-Possible-Impending Marriage Proposal

My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch! [more inside]
posted by tentwentythirty on Feb 22, 2013 - 57 answers

Can't we just be happy the way we were?

Girlfriend pushing relationship faster than I'm comfortable with, any way to hit the brakes? [more inside]
posted by el_yucateco on Feb 15, 2013 - 100 answers

How can I make my marriage work?

Need advice to sort out my marriage after a very stressful time - very extended explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 12, 2013 - 15 answers

They told me the first year of marriage would be a tricky one...

This is a question for those of you who are married (or have an SO): When it comes to things like personal correspondence, is there still such a thing as privacy? [more inside]
posted by Telpethoron on Feb 2, 2013 - 65 answers

Whats it really like, an adult relationship... minus the fantasy?

Because I am prone to bouts of idealization and sometimes don't have my feet rooted in reality, I want to hear from those who are happily married or in a committed relationship with someone with whom they plan to build a life with. I have *not one* real life example of a healthy functioning adult relationship, and although I have periods of loneliness, I can't imagine living like any of the people around me do. Are all relationships just people fitting into each others dysfunctions? Are there real ones out there that work, or is that the fantasy ideal that we all chase after and never achieve? [more inside]
posted by tenaciousmoon on Feb 2, 2013 - 18 answers

Talk to me about being married, but choosing to live apart.

Talk to me about being married, but choosing to live apart. It sounds... awesome, for so many reasons. And I have heard that people do this. But I don't know any real people who have done it. If you or someone you know has this type of relationship, i'd like to know more about your experience. Examples of the type of stuff I want to know is: [more inside]
posted by windykites on Feb 2, 2013 - 10 answers

How should I talk to my boyfriend about me being unhappy with him?

We've been together almost 2 years and at first I thought he was almost a perfect match for me. We got along, he made me so happy, he's so sweet, makes me laugh, and considerate. I know that every relationships get into the comfortable phase but lately I feel like he has taken me for granted and has gotten way too comfortable to the point I'm starting to lose interest in our relationship. I no longer look forward to seeing him and want to be alone, say I love you, kiss, or anything. [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Jan 30, 2013 - 50 answers

Is it appropriate to get married for the third time?

Can I do an Angelina Jolie and get married for a third time while still maintaining my integrity? Please help me with your opinion. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld on Jan 13, 2013 - 38 answers

How do I deal with the aftermath of this weird lie?

My husband lied to me in a multi-part, well crafted way, about something stupid. I'm not sure if I'm being unreasonable, and I don't know where to go from here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 11, 2013 - 48 answers

What is intimacy?

How does emotional intimacy work in your marriage/LTR? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 24, 2012 - 18 answers

To cohabit or to marry...or not...

For people who were/are in a long-term relationship, what were your reasons for cohabiting or choosing that over marriage? Was the former a path leading to the latter? Or were the two independent choices and you picked one over the other- and why? If you chose one over the other, did things turn out the way you expected or otherwise? Basically, I am interested in knowing why people who cohabit actively choose that, over marriage, if thats also an option. Did the results corroborate the premise?
posted by xm on Dec 6, 2012 - 60 answers

Convincing my traditional parents that marrying my boyfriend (as opposed to an arranged marriage) is not a "sin". Tried for many years; can you help me try more?

Convincing my traditional parents that marrying my boyfriend (as opposed to an arranged marriage) is not a "sin". Tried for many years; can you help me try more? I will start with a little bit of my background. Please bear with me for the verbose description. [more inside]
posted by alady on Nov 10, 2012 - 41 answers

Oh, what a mess.

Supposed to be getting married to my long-term girlfriend, developing feelings for someone else, unsure of how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 7, 2012 - 36 answers

First Love Issues

Why do I often dream of my ex? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie on Aug 23, 2012 - 28 answers

Fixing general marital communication issues

I feel like my marriage is falling apart. It's not because we don't love each other, but I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2012 - 37 answers

How do I move on?

Help me reconcile the fact that my BF doesn't want to get married and I will have to return home due to visa restrictions. (long) [more inside]
posted by winsome on Jul 20, 2012 - 49 answers

Help me help my marriage

My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 43 answers

I don't want sex with my husband. What should I do?

Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2012 - 80 answers

I don't want to be a psycho bride to be

[Psycho Filter] - I love him. He loves me. We intend to get married next year. YAY! But it feels like a really long time away. Help me to be patient and enjoy the anticipation and build up, because right now I am suffocating in a world of "OMG CAN WE PLZ GET MARRIED YESTERDAY!" eagerness. [more inside]
posted by gwenlister on May 16, 2012 - 28 answers

How do I live with my very own power person?

Those who have read or are familiar with Mira Kirshenbaum's "Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay:" recommend books / resources for dealing with my Power Person wife. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 16, 2012 - 20 answers

Another "should I get married?" question.

Why can't I control my stupid feelings? Love one guy, distracted by another, engaged to be married. Advice/personal experience? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2012 - 33 answers

How to prevent self sabotage?

Asking for a friend: How can a person get over a crippling anxiety of getting dumped? [more inside]
posted by stedman15 on Feb 20, 2012 - 11 answers

Boundaries or ultimatums?

What is the difference between an ultimatum and a hard limit? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2012 - 44 answers

Can you recommend a good relationship counselor in the Bay Area?

Can you recommend a good relationship counselor in the Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 29, 2012 - 3 answers

Book about relationship expectations and groundrules?

Do you have a recommendation for a book about relationship ground rules and agreements in marriage? I'm interested in a book that might help someone to consider how they want to be treated, how to set reasonable expectations for interaction, and how to define what would constitute a good relationship for them. [more inside]
posted by OmieWise on Nov 30, 2011 - 7 answers

Having trouble figuring out if I'm overreacting to my husband grabbing my arm

Help me figure out if this is a relationship dealbreaker-- my husband recently dragged me out of my chair, against my will. [more inside]
posted by DianaV on Nov 26, 2011 - 66 answers

Clueless or inconsiderate?

Marital strife filter: Was my husband out of line to invite three women to spend the night at our house when I was out of town? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2011 - 63 answers

How to go about having a casual fling?

How to go about having a casual fling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 18, 2011 - 13 answers

Schroedinger's ex: I'm over him. I'm not over him.

I'm having a difficult time trying to mentally process an ex's recent wedding because I'm hung up on the sex/religion aspect of it all. I need advice on how to stop thinking about him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2011 - 33 answers

How do you know that a relationship is progressing without the traditional milestones?

How do you know that a relationship is progressing without the traditional milestones (marriage, house, children, etc.)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2011 - 30 answers

What happens when you marry someone you love but aren't deeply "in love" with?

Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2011 - 56 answers

If it will not end in marriage, when do you cut it off?

You know marriage is not in the future of your relationship. The relationship is still good and you're still in love. How do you know when to cut it off? [more inside]
posted by Hey nonny nonny mouse on Jun 14, 2011 - 21 answers

Is it ever okay to go behind your wife's back?

My wife doesn't get along with my sister. My sister is graduating. My wife discovers that I am buying her a graduation gift without her knowledge. She is upset I went behind her back. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 19, 2011 - 71 answers

Wife mistrust me, what do I do?

Wife mistrusts me now over a single comment, and thinks I'm withholding family information. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by pxharder on Apr 20, 2011 - 36 answers

What are the appropriate emotions for an ex during and after divorce?

My boyfriend recently finalized his amicable divorce, but I am more wary than ever. What are the emotions one goes through after divorce and what sacrifices are required on my part? It's a little long - thanks in advance for reading. [more inside]
posted by gardenbex on Apr 8, 2011 - 23 answers

Help me help him help himself

How to help my partner help himself (without snapping)? Have I let this go too far? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 20, 2011 - 67 answers

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