After 4 years of happy dating, I'm taking the plunge and asking the lady friend to marry me. We've discussed it in the past, so it's not out of left field, but she doesn't know that I've got a ring in hand. Now, her birthday is in a few weeks and my plan was this: Scavenger Hunt fun that ends with a proposal and then after we've had our little bliss, the last surprise: Our friends and family gathered for a surprise birthday party/omg -lemme-see-the-ring party. I told a friend about the plan and she looked at me like I was crazy. She insisted that after her engagement she just wanted private time to chill and bask and that I was going to be putting my beloved in a weird place. So- If you've been proposed to, does that plan seem out of line? Did you want chill, private time after? Obviously, everyone is different, but I wanted to hear it from the Hivemind. Thoughts/concerns?
Help me figure out what I need to know before proposing to my girlfriend. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I have been together for a little under 3 years, and we have lived together for over one year. We are in our late twenties. We are extremely compatible 90% of the time, have so much fun together, are mutually supportive, generally very communicative, and love each other deeply. We get along with each others' families, we travel and live well together, and we share so many interests. I am ready to marry the man, and he is maybe/kinda/sorta ready to marry me. Ouch! [more inside]
I asked my boyfriend if he wanted to marry me and he said 'why not'. Now what? [more inside]
Little help with Christmas proposal ideas? [more inside]
I asked my girlfriend's father for permission to marry her and got shot down. What now? [more inside]
How do you cope with waiting for a proposal that isn't likely to come? [more inside]
Proper etiquette to ask parent's permission/blessing for marriage [more inside]
How do I get over feeling disappointment in the way that my boyfriend proposed, and just enjoy being engaged? And also, how do I overcome the shame associated with being disappointed? [more inside]
Me and my girlfriend are going to get engaged in a couple of weeks and both decided that we would rather avoid a formal proposal. Instead, we will spend a day together at the beach and magically emerge engaged. Given the fact that the surprise quirky engagement is off the table, any ideas for how I can make this an even-less forgettable day? Bonus question: What are the technical things that you regret missing from when you got engaged? More pictures? Who to tell first? What am I missing?
Surprise marriage proposal filter, askee edition: how did you handle it and what did you notice your spouse doing a lot of before he/she proposed? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I are in our late 20's and we've been together for almost three years. We've talked a lot about marriage (both casually and seriously), and we've both been enthusiastic about it. I'm getting the feeling that he may propose soon, and suddenly I feel nervous about it. I think I'm just generally scared of making such a big life decision. I know it's normal for people to get pre-wedding jitters, but what about pre-engagement? [more inside]
Hopefully-soon-to-be-fiance can't wear rings. What should I do instead? [more inside]
I've got the ring. I've got the location where I plan to ask the question. Now what do I actually say? [more inside]
How can I stop wondering whether my boyfriend will propose during our romantic getaway? [more inside]
Help Me Propose! (In Chicago) [more inside]
I want to propose to my long-distance girlfriend this weekend, but I have some lingering doubts. The opportunity for a special/romantic proposal is coming soon, so I know that if I don't pop the question then, it will be too late. I don't have a ring, and I'm not sure if I should get one. But I have a few doubts that I would feel better hearing other people's opinions on... [more inside]
What should I say for my geeky marriage proposal? [more inside]
Help me solve a disagreement about an unlikely hypothetical situation: the public marriage proposal. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I (a woman) have been dating for less than a year. I want to propose marriage to him, but I want to do my due diligence first. What do I need to do, other than wait? In the same way that people say you should focus on the marriage, not the wedding, I want to focus on the engagement, not the proposal. [more inside]
Proposals/Marriage: Does the subsuming feeling of "I'm lying to myself" mean something's wrong? [more inside]
Calling all 'alternative' girls! I need some advice on how to propose to my girlfriend (I'm male). Expensive gifts don't impress her, and her tastes are more 'classic' than the norm. I love how she is, but my tastes are much more modern. I'd like to do (and offer) something unique and unforgettable but can't figure out what. [more inside]
I want to get married. He doesn't. We're at an impasse. [more inside]
[Proposal Filter] We've lived together for 7 years, been together for 9. We've discussed the future, kids, plans, etc. I was always okay with our living-in-sin/unmarried status until recently. [more inside]
ProposalFilter: I'm proposing in New York City tomorrow, can a New Yorker or someone with good city knowledge make sure my plan will work alright? [more inside]
What is the appropriate way to ask one's future father-in-law for his blessing to propose to his daughter, in Spanish? (asking for blessing in Spanish, not proposing in Spanish). This is urgent. [more inside]
How sure should I be before accepting a marriage proposal? [more inside]
How can I propose [again] to my wife? [more inside]
After asking this, and this, I am headed to NYC to pop the question under the guise of a shopping trip. She doesn't have a clue! She suggested the trip, and I thought it would be a perfect time and place to do it. I know what I am going to do and say, I just don't know where to do it. Where should I pop the question in New York City in the wintertime. Because I don't want to tip her off, and because the weather being what it is, I need spontaneous options that are both inside and outside venues. It can be amongst the public, but I wouldn't want it to be a spectacle. Examples would be the skating rink at Central Park or glancing at a piece of art at the Met. I do not want to do it over dinner. I am looking for spectacular indoor and outdoor venues that will not require reservations, long lines, or the possibility of going pear-shaped. Help me compliment my proposal with a spectacular backdrop in NYC.
My girlfriend and I have decided to get married. Rather then try to guess what she'd really like, we went down to the jewelery store together and picked out an engagement ring design together. It's currently being 'built'. Since she knows she's getting the ring and she knows what it will look like, I'd like to find a way to 'offically' propose when the ring is ready that will surprise her. I've also thought it would be nice to get her an early wedding gift, so there's an additional surprise. I'm looking for advice wherever I can find it. Considering the situation, does anyone have any ideas? [more inside]
Beautiful, quiet, or out-of-the-way locations in San Diego one might go to should they want a special place to propose to someone? [more inside]
What are the practical repercussions of getting married and not telling anyone? [more inside]
Popping the question with movable type (not Movable Type). [more inside]
After great advice on the green I am getting close to asking Rachel to marry me! I have met her parents and we get along extremely well. The problem is that I would like to ask her father for his blessing but he is 2000 miles from me and I most likely will not see him for a while. What is the classiest way to ask for his daughter's hand in marriage without doing it face-to-face?
NerdProposalFilter: Looking for a creative way to ask my boyfriend to marry me, via World of Warcraft. [more inside]
What is the coolest / most unique / romantic marriage proposal you have ever heard of? A friend of mine is trying to come up with ideas on how to propose and I would like to tell him a few awesome anecdotes.