D...d...dowryfilter? Maybe? I'm getting married to a Chinese woman, very soon, and her rather wealthy parents are asking (hinting, in this face-sensitive culture, so I think that's what it is, but it could mean something else?) where my divorced, broke parents' contribution to the marriage is, or, in lieu of theirs, mine. They've tossed a $140,000 duplex our way, a prime rental property, and a ton of financial support for their daughter. I have about $400 in the bank and an okay freelance career. Barring 10 years to save up and match that...what, exactly, can I do to prevent this from getting really, really, really awkward? A long, rambling explanation follows. [more inside]
posted by saysthis on Sep 29, 2008 - 19 answers

My husband of five months and I have different attitudes towards money. He’s more money conscious that I am, at least, that’s what he calls it. I think of his “money-consciousness” as a cross between minor cheapness and money obsession. I am right now at a crossroads in the relationship and I don’t know how to solve it or whether I should even continue it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2008 - 56 answers

I want to start being more financially responsible. My husband doesn't want to hear it. Can I do this without hurting our marriage? How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 4, 2008 - 35 answers

My husband is financially irresponsible. Do I bail him out? (Sorry for the long post) [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger on May 7, 2007 - 38 answers

Will budgeting help? [more inside]
posted by frosty_hut on Apr 9, 2007 - 22 answers

Help! I need tips for cleaning up my credit before I get hitched. [more inside]
posted by weirdoactor on Dec 1, 2006 - 10 answers

Should I stay or should I go now? How do I decide? [more inside]
posted by Koffeeman on Jul 6, 2006 - 20 answers

Money is difficult. I'm familiar with Your Money or Your Life, "pay yourself first", Quicken, The Tightwad Gazette, etc. but my money problems seem to be intertwined with a lot of relationship stuff that is hard to unravel. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 8, 2006 - 45 answers

Tips for an engaged couple merging their finances? What are some strategies that have been successful in merging your finances? What has not? We're looking to save for common goals and equally contribute towards our household and food expenses, but also have some autonomy with our money so we can buy our own things or treats every so often without feeling accountable to one another. [more inside]
posted by FearTormento on Feb 27, 2006 - 31 answers

Mr. Straight Arrow pays all his bills on time, works like a slave, and has a joint account with his spouse, but wants some fun money to splurge with his kid at a ball game, buy a scooter or go nuts at Sports Authority without his wife giving him grief over spending too much. Is this a separate stash in joint bank account, or something else?
posted by terrier319 on Apr 14, 2005 - 20 answers

How do you handle money within your relationship? [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak on Feb 17, 2005 - 37 answers

My wife and I argue all the time about financial matters, but the problem certainly isn't one that I have heard from anyone else. The thing is, we have plenty of money -- more than enough to be comfortable. Hopefully someone here has an idea to help me (us). [MI] [more inside]
posted by bagels on Jan 28, 2005 - 51 answers