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Sibling weddings cannot be in same month, even in different years?

I have two brothers-in-law, my husband's younger siblings. Both of them are getting married. The older of the two, who we'll call Brother A, has been planning his wedding for a while. His fiancé and he have been dating for a few years and are planning a traditional wedding for next year in August. The younger, Brother B, is getting married ASAP to a girlfriend he has only been dating briefly, for well... the classic reason for getting married in a hurry. They also want to get married in August, of this year. Brother A says that's "his" month. Is that even a thing? [more inside]
posted by Comrade Doll on Jun 30, 2014 - 53 answers

Love him, leave him?

Please help me sort out my long-term thinking about my very good but maybe not perfect relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 15, 2014 - 23 answers

Do I marry/have kids with longterm love if I'm not ready due to career?

I love my partner - we have known each other for over a decade and have been together for over five years. I am in my 30s and he wants to live together/get married and/or start a family. I have insisted we wait due to my graduate school (and later) career struggles. Now we are older and our time frame for children (if not settling down with children in mind later) is diminishing. I don't know the right thing to do - specifics inside... [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose on Mar 21, 2014 - 25 answers

You Married? You Have Kids?

I got asked about my marital and family status in a job interview. Now what? [more inside]
posted by dortmunder on Feb 19, 2014 - 16 answers

Where should I live?

Looking for a home in a gay marriage state. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on Oct 14, 2013 - 50 answers

How do I help my sister whose marriage is on the rocks?

Ten year marriage that includes a 4 yr old kid is about to fall apart. How can I help directly or help them help themselves through this rocky period? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2013 - 8 answers

My wife doesn't want kids but I do -- is change of her mind possible?

After 2 years of marriage my wife (age 33) still doesn't want to have children while I (age 35) desperately want ones. Before marriage we have discussed it and she said that she would like to wait "for about a year" before trying for a baby. I agreed. Now she is saying that she isn't ready yet, and won't be ready for another 2 years. I thought that we have an agreement, but I was mistaken. Is it at all possible that she will change her mind, or postponing children for more years is just a stalling tactic on her behalf? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 5, 2013 - 64 answers

Planning to have a baby before getting married?

So, I'm trying to get some opinions here: My fiance and I have been engaged for 4 months and are in our mid-20s. We are both in school (undergrad for him, grad for me), but due to my income, we wanted to wait one more year, so that it would be financially better for us (e.g., paying tuition, etc). We are both interested in having children, however, something has come up for me health-wise (ulcerative colitis) that would make it less safe (because of medications) to have a baby later on, compared with now. Here are my questions for you: 1) Would you have a baby before marriage? What would be the reasons? 2) Has anyone actively planned this before? How did it work out? I know some would say suck it up and push up the wedding, but it would save us a good 20K or so.
posted by queenba on Mar 16, 2013 - 49 answers

Speeding up the marriage timeline, need advice

We want to get married, but need to do it much quicker than expected for visa/insurance reasons. How to handle it (snowflakes within)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 13, 2013 - 21 answers

Laid Off Spouse

My husband just got laid off from his position today. It's with a large company and he had excellent reviews but their revenue stream has not been up to par. They told him his position has been eliminated. However, he is welcome to reapply if and when blah, blah, blah... My concern is what is the right way to help him. He has never been laid off before and for the most part never thought this could happen. He is very optimistic by nature. He does seem a little shell shocked. My job is not going to be able to support our family. What are the first things we should do? I am also concerned about his mental well being and being a supportive partner while he looks for a new job. To make matters worse (or whatever) we have one in college, one applying to colleges, one getting ready to apply, and one freshman in high school.
posted by lasamana on Feb 22, 2013 - 25 answers

Marriage on the rocks, but the rest of my life is a disaster too

My marriage is in bad shape and I feel a lot of anger and resentment toward my husband for his lack of initiative, follow-through, and logistical/emotional support within our household, especially during times of crisis. But right now I feel like I'm dealing with the mother of all crises, and on a practical level it would be folly to leave for at least a year, nor will I be in a position to focus on giving him one last honest shot at fixing things for months. What tools/attitudes/approaches can I adopt or employ to keep from making things worse and even more unsalveagable over the next few months? [more inside]
posted by SomeTrickPony on Feb 8, 2013 - 17 answers

I'm sorry I don't feel pain the way you think I should, but...

A couple of weeks ago, I moved out of my marital home (details in my posting history). Whilst I seem to be doing okay, most people expect me to not be. In fact, they seem to expect a fragility and sadness from me that I'm not feeling even remotely. This has lead to some judgements from people that I could have done without. How can I navigate the sympathy of folks during the holiday season without having to pretend to be an emotional mess (which I'm not) and without suffering judgement from people who don't know the whole story (Which I can happily live without). [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Dec 22, 2012 - 27 answers

How to navigate cross cultural family dynamics?

I'm having difficulty navigating very different cross-cultural (U.S./El Salvador) family dynamics. Can you please offer me books, links or your own best practices on keeping an international marriage strong? [more inside]
posted by Coffee Bean on Dec 14, 2012 - 8 answers

My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this?

My sister is separating and likely divorcing her husband after 15 months of marriage, and my family strongly disagrees with her decision. Do we tell her this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2012 - 65 answers

How do I protect my possibly developmentally-challenged brother in law who is intent on getting married to someone we barely know?

I need help in guiding my brother-in-law, who may be developmentally challenged, with some important life decisions. I am pretty much his only family contact, am at a bit of a loss, and not quite sure where to start; (slightly lengthy) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 23, 2012 - 12 answers

Stuck in the middle of spouse and parents

Stuck in the middle of spouse and parents - How to tell parents to lay off? How to support spouse while also seeing my parents/visiting my hometown when I want to? [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor on Aug 7, 2012 - 22 answers

Husbands responsibilities

As a husband and father of two, what are my responsibilities? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 19, 2012 - 27 answers

Aunt In-Law Once Removed?

What do you call your brother-in-law's mom? [more inside]
posted by janelikes on Jan 10, 2012 - 36 answers

Sleeping Beauty - Sleep, Eat, Go online, Yawn…

Sleeping Beauty - Sleep, Eat, Go online, Yawn… [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 4, 2012 - 27 answers

Commitment Ceremonies 101

Commitment ceremonies: how do you do them? Particularly - how do you explain the idea to family? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Sep 22, 2011 - 29 answers

Changing my last name.

Changing my last name. How do I do it and how do I explain it? [more inside]
posted by saragoodman3 on Aug 31, 2011 - 46 answers

How do I stop wanting gorgeous woman who aren't my wife?

I'm a mid-thirties man, committed relationship, wonderful kids, good job, great life, but I can not stop chasing attractive women. And it is wreaking havoc. How can I stop this, and why don't I want to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2011 - 69 answers

How can I help my husband help himself?

How can I support my husband as he works through some issues? [more inside]
posted by your mom's a sock puppet on Jul 22, 2011 - 13 answers

Is she or isn't she?

A family member told me that his wife has been complaining that she is getting emails from online dating services. He said she told him that she has never signed up for them. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind on Jul 12, 2011 - 27 answers

How do you make a choice when one spouse will end up unhappy no matter what?

I want to quit my job, sell our house, and move our family to a house that has been in my family for several generations. My husband cannot get on-board with this idea. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2011 - 73 answers

What's a nicer way to say "BUTT OUT"?

My husband is critical, I'm defensive, we fight. What are some tricks for defusing situations like this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2011 - 33 answers

Wedding bells... again...?

What's the mean number of marriages for Americans? [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley on Apr 24, 2011 - 20 answers

We really should have said something earlier

How do we tell his relatives that we got married...one year ago? [more inside]
posted by cobain_angel on Feb 7, 2011 - 24 answers

Family doesn't understand why we would get married.

Help me mitigate the effects of my family's lack of enthusiasm for our engagement. [more inside]
posted by OLechat on Jan 3, 2011 - 5 answers

How do my boyfriend and I compromise on geography v. career?

What options do my boyfriend and I have to live life under our personal constraints of work and geography? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard on Dec 12, 2010 - 36 answers

i don't know what to say

A week ago, my sister and her husband (they have a four year old) have decided to undergo a trial separation. Please help me figure out how best to support her, and whether or not I should keep my mouth shut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 9, 2010 - 17 answers

There's no "there" there.

How do I talk to my mother about her depression, especially when I'm trying to create better boundaries but simultaneously plan for my family's future? [more inside]
posted by Madamina on Oct 25, 2010 - 9 answers

Why can't I win even if I win?

When you "win" an argument with your spouse, it's not really winning, or is it? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Sep 17, 2010 - 47 answers

Resources for helping family deal with divorce

My brother's wife is leaving him, and it is hitting the whole extended family hard. None of us seem to know how to support him or how to deal with the depression that has resulted. Can anyone point us towards resources like books or websites to help this close extended family deal with this painful time and learn to support him and the young kids?
posted by anonymous on Aug 21, 2010 - 3 answers

Grow up or build a time machine?

How do I make it feel like home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 16 answers

We want to be together for life - but we think marriage is weird. Help?

To wed or not to wed: that is [sort of] the question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2009 - 82 answers

Am I doomed to be a doormat forever?

Are relationships a zero sum game? Is there such a thing as a happy compromise? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 17, 2009 - 28 answers

Scheduling a wedding around a family member's pregnancy?

I've recently become engaged and my fiancee and I were planning on getting married in the fall. We've learned that one of our sisters is pregnant and is due around the same time. How late is too late for her to travel? Are we being unreasonable in picking a date when we know there's a high likelihood she won't be able to come? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2009 - 37 answers

How do I stop feeling like I'm living someone else's life?

How do I stop feeling so detached from everything? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2009 - 15 answers

I think I want to find my own wife now.

I'm from a South Asian culture and made the mistake of allowing my parents to start looking for a girl for me. How do I get out of this? [more inside]
posted by reenum on Feb 24, 2009 - 16 answers

How to deal when others refuse to acknowledge your marriage.

Over the summer, I got married. For the most part, this is totally awesome. Due to circumstances beyond our control, though, we got married by eloping to Canada, and for many people, this seems to make our marriage less than real. I'm having a hard time dealing with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 9, 2009 - 32 answers

Are there any effective birth control pills.

are there any effective birth control pills out there? [more inside]
posted by minsid on Jan 19, 2009 - 32 answers

Will she get pregnant or not?

Is it true that 3 days before and 3 days after a woman's period, there is sort of like a grace period, where the woman won't get pregnant? [more inside]
posted by minsid on Dec 29, 2008 - 21 answers

How to relate to my parents during their divorce?

My parents are getting a divorce. How do I support them? How do I relate to them without it being terribly weird on me? How do I stop worrying about them so much? [more inside]
posted by salvia on Jun 30, 2008 - 6 answers

How to talk to my friend about his arranged marriage?

My friend is having an arranged marriage organised by his parents for him and recently decided to say yes to his bride. He made the announcement to his friends and said he was happy to do it even though it had been a difficult decision. We're not entirely sure he is happy or that this is what he wants and don't know how to talk to him about it. [more inside]
posted by doobiedoo on May 21, 2008 - 26 answers

How do you explain divorce to an eight-year-old?

I'm at University and far removed from home geographically. My parents are planning on getting divorced soon and anyone semi-observant would've seen this coming years and years ago. Both wonderful people, both wholly incompatible. So what can I/they do for my adorably clueless, naive, 8-year old sister who still has no idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2007 - 14 answers

Please help me silence my nosy relatives and friends

I've recently turned 28, and am still unmarried. For various reasons, I would prefer to stay single. However, my extended family has other ideas [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2006 - 17 answers

Help, I can’t bear my in-laws.

I’m a Brit living in the US and my husband is a New Yorker. I really suffer in the presence of my in-laws and don’t know whether this is just a cultural difference and I need to be more understanding and less uptight or if they really are insufferable and I need to draw a line. Below are the main issues. (Long sorry!) [more inside]
posted by anapurna on May 11, 2006 - 61 answers

Why have a baby?

Why did you choose to have a baby? I'm trying to get inside the mindset of people who are older than I am and in a very different part of their life. If you're someone who has always planned on having a family, why did you always plan on it and how do you feel about it now? If you never planned on a family and changed your mind, what made you change your mind? If you never planned on children but one come along by accident, how do you feel about them now? I'm looking for personal stories/anecdotes/opinions about it, not so much statistics or figures.
posted by twirlypen on Dec 26, 2005 - 33 answers

How to resolve our cross-cultural family problems?

My live-in boyfriend and I have been together for six years, and would very much like to get married soon. Our relationship is rock solid. We are both immigrants living in New York City and while we want a low-key wedding both come from backgrounds that value family weddings - while we can keep it small and inexpensive, running off to Vegas would upset a lot of people. Wanting to get married is bringing some unresolved family issues to the forefront . . . . [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2005 - 24 answers

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