I've been married for a few more than 10 years. For most of that time, I did not really listen to my wife or honor her goals and desires for our life together. Starting in 2012, I have made a change in my attitude and actions, and we are communicating and making significant progress in our relationship. If it were just making the current state of affairs good, I think we're on a good track and we'd be ok. My question is: How do I make up for the previous ~10 years? If you want to email: accommodatee@mail.com. Thanks in advance for any advice, here or via email.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2013 -
30 answers
I have major depression, and I am receiving treatment. However, I am still not master of my own mood, and now I would like some specific tips, pointers and ideas on how to stop myself from harassing my poor husband about imaginary problems.
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posted by ADent
on Mar 8, 2013 -
15 answers
My friend is in extreme crisis after his wife of seven years left him completely out of the blue. I'm not sure what to do to help him. Relevant details inside.
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posted by ronofthedead
on Jun 8, 2012 -
19 answers
Four years ago I married a great guy. We've been together a total of eight years. Sometime around when we got married...maybe a little before, I stopped wanting sex with him. I dreaded it on our wedding night/honeymoon. At first I thought it was just a phase, something to do with wedding planning burnout and general nerves. Four years later, it's even worse than it was. Otherwise, we have a good relationship, I think. We have everything in common, a shared worldview, good communication. Because of the sexual issue, we have talked numerous times about separating. I guess what I can't figure out is, why this has happened, and if our entire relationship is worth ending over it.
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2012 -
80 answers
The psychological fallout of my wife's 13-month unemployment is going to make me crack. Please help me deal.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2012 -
31 answers
Getting married TODAY. Things are good, but I'm kind of terrified and my thoughts are distorted. And then there's the honeymoon... Got any coping strategies for RIGHT NOW?
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posted by Madamina
on Sep 10, 2011 -
36 answers
Please help give me some perspective on my marriage and our situation. Long, as can be expected.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2011 -
29 answers
How do I talk to my mother about her depression, especially when I'm trying to create better boundaries but simultaneously plan for my family's future?
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posted by Madamina
on Oct 25, 2010 -
9 answers
How can I stop being hypersexual, get my therapist to see that it's threatening my marriage, and start focusing on my husband again?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 6, 2010 -
35 answers
I have had a rough year and my husband thinks I may be depressed, but I think it may just be a rough patch. There are a few things that have happened in my life over the past year or so that are making me bummed out and exhausted almost constantly. What does your experience with depression tell you about my situation?
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2010 -
22 answers
A common story: after 7 years of marriage, post-partum depression and a now-3 year old kid, sex (and sexiness) is long gone. I (husband) would like it back. I'm trying to be a supportive partner and make things better, but don't seem to be having any impact. She says she cares, but doesn't make efforts to help. Any suggestions?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 10, 2009 -
38 answers
I came home unexpectedly yesterday to discover my fiance kicking our beloved dog. I am not sure how to proceed. Please help.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 18, 2009 -
107 answers
I have two toddlers and a wife with severe postpartum depression that went untreated for two years, all of whom I love very much. However, I think I'm starting to crack, and am not thrilled about my children potentially having two emotionally unstable parents.
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posted by anonymous
on May 21, 2008 -
29 answers
How do you ignore someone's attitude instead of letting it bring you down? How do you handle living with someone who can be really negative a lot of the time?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2008 -
17 answers
I am thinking about asking my girlfriend to marry me. Things are great in our relationship, with one big exception: she suffers from depression, with serious depressed periods several times a year. I feel very shut-out during these times. And it's hard to not be influenced by her mood. I am looking for advice from married individuals who have depression or those who are married to someone with depression about what it takes to make a marriage like this work.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 9, 2006 -
22 answers
My partner shows all the classic signs of depression, yet vehemenently declares that they are not depressed.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 20, 2005 -
15 answers
