My wife has confidence, self esteem issues. We have been married for four years and we have two kids. I live in Canada and she's from S. Africa. She lived there all her life until she was 22. We met there. Got married there. But now live in Canada. [more inside]
posted by alshain on Nov 15, 2009 - 48 answers

How do I make it feel like home? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2009 - 16 answers

ETIQUETTE FILTER: Why is it taboo for an expectant mother to publicize her own baby shower? [more inside]
posted by mynameismandab on Nov 13, 2009 - 31 answers

Help me plan a romantic evening for my wife for our anniversary [more inside]
posted by jpdoane on Nov 13, 2009 - 11 answers

Visafilter: I've been hitting a brick wall with the Japanese consulate regarding same-sex partners and dependent-visa eligibility. Any Mefites have experience with this sort of thing? [more inside]
posted by azuresunday on Nov 9, 2009 - 8 answers

The legalization of same-sex marriage is very important to me. What can I do to help? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Nov 6, 2009 - 19 answers

I (male) have been married for a number of years (~10). Nothing is necessarily bad about our marriage, but I've felt that we've been lacking passion since before we were married. It just never seemed to matter enough to be worth a divorce.. except that it does matter in the end. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2009 - 34 answers

I keep noting a familiar pattern among my friends who "settle down" - either in marriage or a long-term relationship. They inevitably seem to cut themselves off from their friends and refuse to leave the house, even on weekends. Job situations remain a stable variable from their earlier, more social lives - the only thing that changes is the seriousness of the relationship. Kids being a time commitment (and source of exhaustion) I understand - but many if not most of the couples I'm describing do not have children. Is this "normal"? Or is it dysfunctional? What causes it, do you think?
posted by macross city flaneur on Oct 21, 2009 - 82 answers

I'm married and we want to live in different geographical areas. Is this fixable in a way where everyone will feel satisfied? [more inside]
posted by imabanana on Oct 18, 2009 - 17 answers

Harry and I got married when I was 42. Ours was a rocky relationship at its worst and absolutely riveting at its best. Even today the passion we share and yes, even the fights we occasionally have are intense, but all the laughter, that is what kept us together. We are sharing our 25th wedding anniversary on our wedding day this December. We are writing vows and I wanted to know what are the little things in relationships that made you love someone the most? I feel like all the things I want to say are cliche I need inspiration. I don't want to disappoint him.
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2009 - 13 answers

If you are recently married and have taken your husband's last name, do you go by "Mrs"? [more inside]
posted by mdn on Oct 14, 2009 - 50 answers

I am in (long-term, abiding) love with more than one woman. I am marrying one, but I need to deal with my feelings for the other. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 12, 2009 - 30 answers

You're not my lawyer, but when getting a divorce, how does a house with an underwater mortgage count toward dividing assets? [more inside]
posted by cnc on Oct 11, 2009 - 11 answers

So my boyfriend and I had the marriage talk; he said no. I'm having difficulty coming to terms with it. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2009 - 54 answers

Help me save my family. I am looking for a really good marriage counsellor in Edmonton, AB. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 29, 2009 - 7 answers

Attracting married men is my superpower. What gives? [more inside]
posted by giggleknickers on Sep 27, 2009 - 60 answers

Major life decisions thrown my way. Feeling totally inept at making a good decision. Any ideas on how to sort it out and get on track? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper on Sep 24, 2009 - 27 answers

I'm trying to "detach with love" and get therapy. He's stuck and resistant. What next? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2009 - 15 answers

I want to get married. He doesn't. We're at an impasse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2009 - 72 answers

I have no idea what to do for our first wedding anniversary. There are time and money complications. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2009 - 9 answers

To wed or not to wed: that is [sort of] the question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 22, 2009 - 81 answers

Stuck in a rut. Help me find meaning, direction, and help me get back on my feet. [more inside]
posted by saragoodman3 on Sep 19, 2009 - 16 answers

Looking for a therapist for marriage counseling in the Easton/Stroudsburg PA area. Any recommendations?
posted by frogmoses on Sep 19, 2009 - 2 answers

Several years ago I read a small stack of relationship books. I swear it was in Maggie Scarf's Intimate Partners, but having re-read that one cover to cover looking for the precise blip it is not in that one. Do you know of any anthropology or psychology or sociology academic study which (perhaps famously and/or authoritatively) concludes: the best prediction of relationship success is you grew up in the same (or very similar) neighborhoods? [more inside]
posted by bukvich on Sep 17, 2009 - 0 answers

My husband is cheating on me. I am paralyzed with fear. I need advice for our unique and complicated situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 12, 2009 - 49 answers

I'm posting this as myself because my S.O. doesn't read ask.mefi, and even if he does, he's aware of the problem anyway. I'm very ambivalent about getting married. Our wedding is three months away. We've been together for three years. We share a house we just bought a few months ago, but either of us could afford to live in it alone. We have no kids. [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress on Sep 10, 2009 - 66 answers

My husband is cheating on me and has been for at least two years. He doesn't know I found out. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2009 - 67 answers

Engagement ring woes... to diamond or not to diamond? Any alternatives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 28, 2009 - 86 answers

Recommend a good Boston Metro Relationship/Marriage Therapist/Counselor? [more inside]
posted by kryptonik on Aug 27, 2009 - 6 answers

My significant other and I have started introducing swinging to our marriage and need some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 27, 2009 - 11 answers

Should I try to breed out the parts of me I don't like? Or is it ok to make super neurotic kids? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 17, 2009 - 19 answers

Late 20's life planning, do I plan for the family I may never have or do I live my life as if I'll be single forever, unless I just happen to meet someone at which point i reevaluate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 13, 2009 - 25 answers

I found out recently that my ex-girlfriend of 3 years is engaged and getting married in less than 2 months. Should I acknowledge it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2009 - 54 answers

If you are married, is it mandatory to say so on your Facebook profile? [more inside]
posted by farmersckn on Aug 9, 2009 - 58 answers

i've become somewhat chummy with an intern at work this summer. i guess i have a stupid little crush on her actually. she's leaving in a couple of weeks. is it a bad idea to have lunch with her away from the workplace? professionally AND socially? nothing is going to happen beyond this, it would be logistically impossible. (i'm twice her age, married 15+ yrs) - it is rare for me to "click" with people, but when i do, it's significant, as in this case, i'm somewhat of an individualist. i've talked a couple of times to my wife about intern etc, but would not go out of my way to tell her about a lunch, "lunching" is atypical for me --but if she learned, would probably roll her eyes.
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2009 - 48 answers

What's the easiest/best way for us to be together with regard to immigration and all the associated considerations? [more inside]
posted by nostrich on Aug 4, 2009 - 16 answers

What would make a good, thoughtful gift for this newlywed couple? [more inside]
posted by alice ayres on Aug 3, 2009 - 15 answers

Best practices for proposing/having an affair? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2009 - 66 answers

We'd like to get married in Oklahoma, and we were hoping for a courtroom marriage for now with a big to-do later on, but it turns out that the state has stopped providing this service! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 28, 2009 - 15 answers

No abuse. No affairs. No kids. How long do you keep trying to fix a broken marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2009 - 43 answers

Did you marry someone you felt "ok" about at first? How did it work out? [more inside]
posted by abdulf on Jul 20, 2009 - 30 answers

Stay vs. Go Showdown 2009 Also starring: 2 kids!!!!!!! Is it better to stay in a bad marriage so that the kids can be with both parents, or to divorce and hope for the best? [more inside]
posted by rahnefan on Jul 18, 2009 - 38 answers

How do you handle your crushes as a married person (or someone in an LTR?) Do I have a problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 16, 2009 - 33 answers

Help- how do I save my marriage! Long description and details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by TheBones on Jul 15, 2009 - 41 answers

If you've felt the temptation to cheat, or have cheated, on a guy: what sorts of things was he neglecting to do around that time? Or what things was he doing? [more inside]
posted by surenoproblem on Jul 13, 2009 - 32 answers

Looking for a marriage/couple's retreat or seminar. [more inside]
posted by gm2007 on Jul 11, 2009 - 3 answers

What conversations are a MUST before two people get married? [more inside]
posted by mittenbex on Jul 7, 2009 - 54 answers

My heart just got smooshed, and then I woke up to this on my iGoogle page. Can you help me keep the hobgoblins of my mind at bay today? [more inside]
posted by ohyouknow on Jul 1, 2009 - 31 answers

How do I make a wife who is unhappy where she is living happier? Largish explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by elder18 on Jun 30, 2009 - 67 answers

I love my husband. But we can't really have sex, and that's not going to change. I'm thinking of looking elsewhere for it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 28, 2009 - 74 answers