Ask MetaFilter posts tagged with man

Now that the powerthirst has worn off..

bradly — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 09:24:58 -0800

Help a college student find a (simple) no-frills man bag! I like the mini bag here, but am looking for more ideas before I make the jump.

What I like:

Artsy
Original designs/unique artwork
Vintage (or vintage-esque)
Small size (less than messenger bag)

What I don't like:

Synthetic woven materials
Shiny leather
Plastic buckles

I have seen some South American woven bags around that fit these characteristics, but what can you recommend?

Thanks!

I'd like to explode, but can't.

Anonymous — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 11:28:28 -0800

I'm a man and I can't orgasm. What can I do to remedy this? I am a late 20's male who recently began having sex, and I am having a distressing problem. Namely, I can't achieve orgasm.

The first time my partner and I did it, I orgasmed, but since then, nothing.

I masturbated a lot through the years and have the feeling that this lies at the core of my problem. A vagina doesn't grip my penis as tightly as my hand does. I also masturbated without lotion or lube. Like a good boy, I've also been using condoms. As a result, the friction needed to make achieve orgasm isn't there.

Is there anything I can do to remedy this problem? Any techniques or toys that might get my penis more accustomed to the slippery looseness of a vagina? My partner assures me that her vagina is pretty tight.

If you need more details or want to e-mail me privately, please e-mail me at chronicmast at gmail dot com.

Thanks!

We're big and getting busy. How can we get busier?

Anonymous — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 20:12:40 -0800

Sex positions for overweight people? NSFW details inside A friend and I recently began having sex, but have run into a problem. I'm a man, BTW.

I'm a bit overweight (6 feet, 225). She is obese (5'7', 200).

I tried missionary, but my penis had problems staying inside her, since I couldn't get it all the way in. After a bit of trying, I was able to climax.

I'm wondering what sorts of positions people like us can use for maximum pleasure.

Thanks!

How do I tell people I'm not going to work in an office?

Anonymous — Sun, 29 Jun 2008 11:47:45 -0800

I am almost done with college. Since I've started, four separate times I've taken a semester off to study abroad, work overseas or do unorthodox things in the name of adventure. I've come to terms with myself and I know that this is I want out of life, and I know that when I graduate I'm not going to get a steady job with benefits or any of those other things that responsible people are supposed to do. How do I explain this to the people I care about in a way that makes them feel good about me? In the years since I graduated high school I've gotten pretty good at politely blowing people off when they ask me when I'm just going to finish university and get a job. "lol i dunno" usually works fine.

That's not really an acceptable answer for people close to me, though. My parents are starting to ask what kind of job I'm going to get, how I'm going pay for health insurance, what my degree is good for, and the respective answers are "I don't know, maybe I won't, probably nothing." I care about my parents and my close friends too much to cry "Nobody understands me!!!" and ignore them, but at the same time I worry that's the case.

I'm convinced I'll make out well no matter what I do, but I'm concerned that everyone I know thinks I'm a bum and is worried about me. How do I answer the question "What are you doing with your life?"?

Blue Man, not the group.

Slap*Happy — Fri, 27 Jun 2008 22:25:47 -0800

I'm looking for an old science fiction novel about an evil, blue giant titled "The Blue Man" - the Google and Amazon search is poisoned by both The Blue Man Group, and a young-adult science fiction novel "The Blue Man" which isn't it at all. There is a science fiction novel I read long, long ago called, I think, "The Blue Man" - the Google and Amazon search is poisoned by both The Blue Man Group, and a young-adult science fiction novel "The Blue Man".

It was about a mysterious giant, the titular Blue Man, who laid waste to various human colonies on alien planets, a scene sticking out the most was of the giant being filmed rampaging though a domed-over city, then noticing the camera man and reaching for him, the broadcast going blank thereafter...

It was (I think) a cheesy 60's environmental/war political message dressed up as science fiction, but the scenes where the giant was doing his thing were really thrilling to this closeted giant-monster fan.

I think I would like to read it again, but it's been hell trying to track down a copy. I may have the title wrong.

Should I take this relationship to another level?

Anonymous — Wed, 25 Jun 2008 17:52:44 -0800

My friend is willing to become a friend with benefits. Should I do it? I'm male. A friend of mine who I've known for the last 10 years recently told me that she has the hots for me. At the time, I told her that I was flattered, but not interested in her romantically.

Since then, I've been thinking about whether or not a friends with benefit arrangement would work. She always complains about needing sex and I am a virgin. It seems like it might work. When I broached the subject the other day, she seemed receptive. She's done the FWB thing before, and has sex with her son's dad whenever he's in town.

There are a few complicating factors:
1. She has a 4 year old son.
2. I'm really not interested in being romantically involved with her.
3. I worry that this will change our relationship for the worse.

Oh MeFites, help me decide whether I should go through with this. I'm so conflicted.

Men, what would set your hearts aflutter?

n'muakolo — Tue, 10 Jun 2008 03:30:01 -0800

What is the male equivalent of jewelry? My boyfriend is making a big sacrifice for me, my job, & our relationship and I would like to give him something durable, valuable and sentimental to express my thanks. In a similar situation years ago he gave me earrings and a necklace, and I still treasure them and when I wear them I think how sweet it was that he gave me that jewelry to express his thanks. I want the exact same thing for him, but not in the form of earrings and a necklace.

A watch might be the obvious choice, but he has a decent one and doesn't wear it now that he has a cell phone on him all the time. We've talked about fancy watches, and he doesn't really seem interested. He's not the kind of man who wears jewelry, so I can't get him a ring or necklace or something. He recently got himself a new wallet, so that's out.

I know there are a kagillion "gift" questions on AskMe but I didn't find this one answered.

Bonus points for links to an actual item for sale!

Iron Man plot holes?

Cosine — Sat, 24 May 2008 12:39:13 -0800

Movie Filter: I can't believe I am saying this but I couldn't follow the plot of Iron Man, or it just didn't make sense... ***SPOILERS INSIDE*** Ok so, Obadiah Stane hires terrorists to kill Tony, no reason for this is ever given as far as I could tell, the terrorists don't kill Tony but instead decide to have him make weapons for them... weapons that they appear to already have as it is revealed that Obadiah has already been dealing to them. Can anyone straighten this out?

Here are some possible ideas, none of them good:

1. Obadiah wants Tony dead for some general unspoken reason, like greed (weak!).

2. We are supposed to think Obadiah wants Tony dead for turning pacifist, despite the later revelation that he was trying to kill him BEFORE Tony changed (also weak).

3. The terrorists not killing Tony as instructed also makes no sense, Obadiah has agreed to give them Stark weapons in exchange for killing Tony so why do they need Tony to hand build them a missle?

Hey Mrs. Robinson!

gmodelo — Thu, 03 Apr 2008 12:12:39 -0800

I'm considering marrying a woman who just turned 37 and I'm 28, which actually puts us at 8 years and some months apart in age. I would like to know if anyone has experience in a marriage that's older woman/younger man type. I've always kind of been attracted to women a bit older than me for some reason, but when considering the biological implications of fertility and youthfulness, I'm somewhat stuck.

Both of us are of compatible maturity level, as well as share many of the same values, beliefs, hobbies, and interests, and both are autonomously economically viable (we make our own money and don't need the other to support us). The sex life is excellent. But any thoughts, caveats on marrying a woman who's going into her forties? I know Demi Moore and Ashton Kutcher are doing well, and this type of arrangement isn't unheard-of nowadays.

Neither of us want to have kids at the moment, and based on what she says, she could probably live a life without ever having children. I may want them in the future, but not now, and I worry a bit about fertility issues associated with women over 40 (not that it's a bad thing or impossible, my mother was 40 when she had me). Thanks in advance for your input.

Is it too soon to date again?

stedman15 — Thu, 20 Mar 2008 11:00:41 -0800

I'm on the cusp of dating someone soon after a breakup. Is it too soon? I'm 29 and male, living in the Midwest.

Back in early February, I broke up with my girlfriend of 10 months. A gulf had been building between us since November. We were in a long distance relationship and my ex had began making a big issue out of us being from different faiths. For the two weeks before we broke up, I was in a lot of pain. She wouldn't talk to me at all, and the breakup was a relief of sorts.

About a week and a half after my breakup, I began talking to another girl. We have been friends since 2003. She went through a divorce last year. She listened about my breakup and offered her own insights.

Then, about a week later, she said that she had always had feelings for me. I also had feelings for her in the past, but due to life circumstances, I did not think it would work.

My "more than friend" lives in Houston, so it's another long distance thing. This time it might work, though. We are both of the same religion, we can talk for hours, and I can't stop thinking about her.

My question is whether it is too soon. I think this relationship has potential, and I don't want it to be a rebound. I hardly think about my ex. I want to talk to this girl all the time, and am already planning a trip down to Houston in late April to see her.

Am I moving too fast?

I'm not religious. Why is it that all the girls I meet are?

stedman15 — Wed, 27 Feb 2008 08:03:58 -0800

I keep attracting girls who are incompatible with me. How can I get women who I actually have a future with? I'm 29, male, and just got out of a 10 month relationship earlier this month. The girl I broke up with left me because we couldn't get over our religious divide. She was hardcore Catholic and I am culturally Muslim. I don't have a problem with religion, but don't practice.

In the past couple of weeks, I've been talking to a girl who I've been friends with since 2003. She has told me that she has liked me since we first began talking. We have a good rapport, but I fear that this relationship is doomed because of the religious divide. I was talking to this new girl on the phone, and she said she wants a religious guy or someone who is leaning towards becoming more religious. I don't think I fit either criteria.

In my relationships, I try to respect the woman's wishes. I don't pressure a woman to have sex with me. I treat my girlfriends well. I don't play mind games. Yet, I cannot find a girl who I can have a lasting relationship with. All the girls who are into me are religious, and want someone similar in the long term

I'm not sure how I can go out and get a girl who is non-practicing as far as religion goes.

I don't actually think I want to have a family for a while

parmanparman — Sat, 23 Feb 2008 00:06:14 -0800

I am 28. I am a man. I am broody. For the last year or so, I have been having rather intense and conflicting feelings about wanting to have a child. Last week, my brother wrote to tell me that my nephew said, "Do you remember that Uncle John is tall and runs fast?" That just broke my heart.

How do men deal with feelings of wanting a kid?

A story about madness? or apathy?

lou — Thu, 21 Feb 2008 00:05:04 -0800

ShortStoryFilter: A bachelor gradually finds out he has a wife? It's hard to explain it in one sentence. I seem to remember a story about a man who's living alone, but starts noticing ever-increasing signs of a (feminine) presence over the course of some time. The changes in his home are really minor at first, like he comes home from work and notices the dishes are washed, or something got moved, but at first he just figures he forgot it was something he did. Then it becomes obvious that it's not his doing, like the drapes get changed, furniture moves around. He sees someone else's stuff, women's clothing, etc. At the end of the story the final piece of the puzzle appears: it's a woman who identifies herself as his wife, and acts as if she's been there all along, but he's never seen her before.

I hope I'm not just making it up? But it's been in my memory for years. Anyone know what it is?

Stuff to do on the Isle of Man?

jack_mo — Fri, 08 Feb 2008 10:49:09 -0800

Fun things to do on the Isle of Man? I'm in Douglas on the Isle of Man for a few days later this month - I'll only have a limited amount of free time, so was wondering what I absolutely shouldn't miss.

Especially beautiful spots to take some photos? Great pubs for a quiet pint? Architectural oddities? Best place to eat Manx Kippers? Etc.?

Also, I'm kind of into funicular railways did I just say that out loud?! - is it easy/possible to get access to what remains of the Douglas Head Incline Railway and the Falcon Cliff Lift?

"Last Man on Earth" Stories

Ziggy Zaga — Fri, 25 Jan 2008 16:27:27 -0800

I'm looking for stories involving "last man on earth" type scenarios. Recommendations of any media will do so long as it's not on Betamax or Laserdisc. Anything on paper is ideal.

The story doesn't have to be about one person or even a man; it can be about one person or a small band of survivors of the apocalypse or something. I'm interested in the stories of how one or more people cope with the solitude and the ramifications of repopulation (if even possible) when faced with the fact that you're the last of a decimated human population.

I know about the movie "The Last Man on Earth" and the "I am Legend" series (the latter of which has dubious relevance). If I recall correctly the end of Vonnegut's "Cat's Cradle" focuses on the subject as well. Ellison's "I Have No Mouth..." would count too.

There were also a short series of comics called "The Survivor" in which humanity is wiped out and the world is dominated by robots, save for the female protagonist and a handful of others. Borders on smut, but it counts.

I am *NOT* looking for zombie movies. "28 Days Later" and the Will Smith "I am Legend" do not count. Aliens, maybe.

Thanks for any suggestions :)

What was this site called, where a community advised a guy on what to wear?

Isdaron — Fri, 02 Nov 2007 12:17:49 -0800

I remember that there used to be a website, where a guy asked what he should wear, and the community voted on his outfit - and he actually put it on. Every day. But, dang, I don't remember what the site was called and what URL it used. Can you help out?

60% titanium, 40% cotton.

nomad — Wed, 24 Oct 2007 07:31:35 -0800

Where can I get the signature shirt of Artie, the Strongest Man in the World... in three days? So I want to be Artie, the Strongest Man in the World (from the Adventures of Pete & Pete) for Halloween. I've had this costume idea for the past two years and I sort-of assumed it would be easy to find the shirt once the season rolled around, but I'm coming up way short. I need it for Saturday and I'm willing to beg, borrow, steal or pay exorbitant shipping fees to find the perfect match.

this is his wikipedia article.
Here's a better picture of the shirt.
and another.

I know this is my own fault and I deserve to be a lame ghost this year for my procrastination sin, but I throw myself on the mercy of the ax. If anyone can find this shirt, you can. yes YOU.

P.S. There need not be any real titanium in the shirt (although it would be nice), I plan to change the tag with a sharpie.

My name is John, and I am trying not to be a workaholic.

parmanparman — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 16:36:38 -0800

Is there a support group for a charming, literate, young, kissable workaholic media professional who is trying to be less of a flake in his personal life? Seven weeks ago I moved back to the San Francisco Bay Area. At a coffee shop the first week of September, I met a really awesome woman* but around the same time my professional life really took off with a vast amount of management work. I turned into a flake with all the work I had to do, and that ended the relationship. Since, I have really worked hard to make sure all of the work is not on my back. I hired two new employees, have (nearly) kept to my commitment of being smoke-free, and am working out at the gym on a regular basis. Now that I have a semblance of free time, I am trying to put an end to my free-time flakiness so that I don't make the same mistake with a wonderful woman (and friends) again. I should note that at this point, I am really more interested in making friends and dating (and keeping those commitments) rather than jumping into an LTR. Advice, suggestions, encouragement, "cool beans" are asked for and gratefully received.

*And what a kisser.

Why can't I get the movie "Quiet man" from Netflix?

fx3000 — Tue, 16 Oct 2007 08:49:07 -0800

Why can't I get the movie "Quiet man" from Netflix? For a while now it has shown availability "Unknown" and just shows up in the "Saved" section. A couple of months ago, it was in my queue but it always had "Very Long Wait".

Large Fire-breathing Tiki explodes.. news at 11

niteHawk — Tue, 04 Sep 2007 12:26:20 -0800

Manly projects? What completely useless but cool thing could a bunch of 30-something guys build as a bonding experience? There is A group of friends and myself have been having an on and off poker night for the last few years, that has become stale - we been trying to do different things (bowling, shooting pool, etc) but nothing seems to catch our attention. So wifeHawk suggested doing something large and ludicrous. I like the idea, but was hoping for the hive mind to help come up with ideas. The guys and me are decently competent with tools, electronics, plumbing for air and water, etc... basically if the idea takes us, I'm sure we'll figure out how to get it done.

A few ideas I've come up with is building a Soap Box racers (or two) and racing down a block, a huge fire-breathing tiki, "pimping" out a wreck of a car (although no idea where it'd be stored)....

So I put it to the hive - what have you always thought.. "hey that's cool, I should build one of those!"

Turkish men kissing?

kraigory — Fri, 31 Aug 2007 23:59:26 -0800

culturally normal for turkish college-age men to kiss before bed? I recently got a new college roomate, and he is from turkey. He has a friend here with him, also from turkey. The other night when his friend left our room, he gave my roomie a big kiss (probably on the cheek, i didn't see it real well 'cause i was behind them) goodnight. Is this a normal cultural thing, or could my roomate be homosexual? Note that he does have two luis vuitton bags, although I know that isn't really weird for men to be so stylish in most parts of europe.

So, if anyone familliar with turkish, or just general european culture and customs could enlighten me as to what's going on with my roomie and his friend, I would appreciate it. PLEASE NOTE that i'm not trying to discriminate or anything here, I wouldn't care if he was gay, but i'd just like to know.

Thanks!

A little something after the cake, anyone?

Anonymous — Thu, 30 Aug 2007 09:37:03 -0800

Looking for some great interracial bisexual porn on DVD. I am looking for some good bisexual porn on DVD that fulfills any of the following requirements:

1. Features a thuggish, built black man, a white man and a white woman with natural red hair. Or some combination of those three things.

2. A lesbian/hetero/bi DVD with two woman, one of them with natural red hair and one without and a white man (and, if possible, an addition black man)

The key points that are needed, to summarize: 1. Red-Headed woman; 2. Built black man; 3. DVD; 4. Able to ship cross-country.

And what a birthday it is going to be!

If you know of places where I can find this, and you don't want to answer here, you can e-mail me.

Does anyone know where I can find the Matchstick Man?

bolognius maximus — Mon, 13 Aug 2007 14:09:31 -0800

Where can I find this naughty matchstick dispenser? I am hoping MeFi can help. I am looking for a matchstick dispenser that I thought I saw in Honduras, but am not sure (it's been a while). It's a little man and when you push down on his head, he pulls down his pants and reveals his matchstick penis. Has anyone seen something like this in their travels or online somewhere?

I suppose one might wonder why I ask...a friend of mine had seen this as well, and wants to buy some to give away as tacky gifts to everyone he knows. Besides, who wouldn't want a little man that dispenses matchstick in such a naughty manner? Thanks!

Adjectives and nouns

captaincrouton — Sun, 22 Jul 2007 20:57:19 -0800

Why do we say ".... the first woman *blank* ..." instead of "... the first female *blank* ..." Headlines seem to always read "The first woman president of India ... " We don't write "The first man president of India," it would be "The first male president of India..." So what gives? It kinda drives me nuts. Is there a reason we specify an adult female for things like this?

Weather man end credits track name??

maxmix — Sun, 15 Jul 2007 12:23:41 -0800

Anyone have the name of the track used at the end of the Weather man movie (when the credits are rolling)??? I'm pretty sure it's by Hans Zimmer, but does anyone know the name and where i might be able to get it from??