To elaborate a little more - I've been 2 years in a relationship. We are engaged and are looking to get married later next year but I have some hesitations. I cannot tell if these hesitations are warranted or if its steming from my fear of commitement or both. [more inside]
Someone with whom I have only a passing acquaintance is harassing me by phone (many more details inside). What is the best way to proceed with de-escalating this situation now? What should I have done differently in this situation? How in the future can I avoid getting in a similar situation? [more inside]
I recently got back from Burning Man. Even though I'm not into live music or partying, it was super fun! I notice there are a lot of festivals and parties in the Bay Area that have similar aesthetics or involve the same people (Symbiosis, Lightning in a Bottle, Further Future, SF Decompression, Ghost Ship, etc.) but I'm wondering which ones are really "music festivals with some art" and which ones have plenty of stuff for the art-and-science lovers. [more inside]
My divorcing bf of 5mo ended it, saying he wants to fall in love with me and give himself wholeheartedly to me but can't let himself and needs time to heal from his marriage. He messaged next day saying he has set up counselling and will sort everything out, I responded to say he should take the time he needs to heal. He messaged again to say he enjoyed every minute with me and is sorry he's not himself at the moment. Every time he messages it's hard as I miss him but I don't want to cut contact as I hope he'll come back. What should I do?
How did you “know” you’re trans? [more inside]
Is there a story behind this gif? I seem to need to know this answer more than I need to work today, but with your help maybe I can get back to being productive. Odd man skipping in water... Thank you!
There's a famous study of gender bias in which people were shown a picture of a person next to a sink....when the participants were told the person was female, they reported that she was washing dishes. When the participants were told the person was male, they reported that he was repairing the sink. But if it's such a famous study, why can't I find the picture? [more inside]
I want to give an ultra-thoughtful gift to a formally healthy and work-focused family member who suffered a stroke. He is only 38 but he can’t currently leave his home due to extreme vertigo. [more inside]
Hello I am a lady in her late 30s and until 3 weeks ago, in a long-term relationship (12 years). We were not married and had no kids, and lived together for a decade. My ex and I shared a deep understanding, laughs and interests, and I thought this was enough until I met a younger guy a few months ago, for whom I immediately felt a crazy infatuation. [more inside]
The single appearance of the footprint in Daniel Defoe's 1719 novel, Robinson Crusoe, is perhaps one of the most famous events in all of literature. I am interested in who has referenced it, and for what ends, especially in critical theory. I also wonder whether Michel Foucault's famous closing lines to 'The Order of Things' is a subtle reference to the appearance of that footprint? Can other allusions to 'the figure of man' and marks in the sand be traced back to Defoe's novel?
I'm proposing to my fiancée this week at Burning Man, and my jeweler (a friend of mine) wasn't able to finish the ring before I left. He's going to have it finished by Sunday night, and suggested that we investigate options for mailing it. Is this doable? We've both done some research, and it seems like there *are* some options... [more inside]
Waaay back I ran across it and now I can't find it again. Google is failing me. Can you help? It was humorous in nature pointing out all the major flaws and whatnot. Link would be ideal! Thanks!
I'm going to Burning Man this year and would like to build a swamp cooler for my Hexayurt. Tricky part is that I'm noticing there are a TON of designs out there, many with optional recharging circuits involving Arduinos and things, which seems much more complex than I actually need. Can someone recommend a specific parts list and instruction set that I can simply order online, and assemble over the course of a couple of hours? [more inside]
Help me identify a TV comedy about a regular dude who's dating a famous woman. [more inside]
As a straight man, help me gracefully decline when men occasionally ask me out, because I am bad at it. [more inside]
My close male friend is in infatuated love with me – I fancy him and think he’s great. I don’t want a relationship with him or anyone else. We keep on being friends but his love keeps on pouring out of him and it makes me feel pressured. What should I do? [more inside]
I'm getting married for the first time, but I'm almost 40 and haven't had a 'best friend' in at least 10 years. I also don't have any brothers. [more inside]
I have a very very niche job. I've been doing it for over ten years now and have made about $28,000 per year. Because of my experience, I was called in for a meet and greet. It was going to lead nowhere. So, I pretty much blew it off, and blew the next one off, and showed up to the third because it was on my way home. They hired me and gave me a job that pays about $786,000 per year. I was told that they had reservations about me and told me they were bothered by the fact that I wore "denim with unpatched holes" at the interview. I didn't even think I was being considered. This is very unreal. And now I will have a job that pays me more in my bimonthly check than my last year's entire gross. I will be working with a different clientele, and my position will have more prestige than previously. So how do I dress? [more inside]
I'm planning on building a Hexayurt and driving it to Burningman and back. I'm told that Hexayurts fold up into a package that's approximately 8x4x1' large. Unfortunately, my car is a 2002 Toyota Camry LE without a roof rack (and without rain gutters, so roof racks are challenging/expensive to install). What's my cheapest option that's still safe for a 1300 mile car trip? [more inside]
My girlfriend and I will be going to Burning Man this year. It was the sort of thing we've both wanted to do forever, and finally bit the bullet to do it. I'm scared, but purely for logistical reasons. Any advice? [more inside]
In my old job (a small creative outfit), I used to wear what is known as "sport-chic attire", which pretty much means a nice shirt and high-end jeans. It was all about having a shirt for every day of the week with 2 or 3 pants and 2 or 3 pairs of shoes. Now that I'm changing jobs, should I change my dress code as well? [more inside]
I am looking for links to places online (or names of brick-and-mortar shops accessible to the Seattle or Portland area) where I can find a unique and unusual pendant for a man. The price should be in the $75-$150 range. I already have a white gold chain so I am looking for the pendant alone. [more inside]
how/where do i go about getting a dress with a man print like this one? i'm at a loss as to even how to search for such a dress - as man print gives me either leopard print, or mad men dresses. i'm based in australia - but happy to buy o/s and i'm a large size - around a aus 14. i'm fine with change - going without sleeves, finding a print option where i just get one made, finding a large man print fabric and getting a dress made - i'm just looking for how to go about getting one.
From "The remains of the day"by Kazuo Ishiguro.- In one regreattable case,which I myself witnesses, it had become an established sport in the house for guests to ring for the buttler and put to him random questions of the order of,say, who had won the Derby in such and such a year, rahter as one might to a Memory Man at the music hall.- What is "a Memory Man" ?
We've gone to Burning Man for a few years. This year a friend is joining us who is a burgin. We know there are things that have become automatic to us that we won't remember to pass on - and probably things we've never figured out that are great ides. What's your best tip, or tips, for Burning Man?
I'm about to ask a—perhaps sexist—question about the possible differences in how men and women—broadly speaking—identify with songs in marketing. But first, some set-up. As a branding exercise, I've been working on tackling a fictitious start-up consisting of two fashion retailer brands. One's a men's brand, and one's a women's brand, both part of the same fictitious umbrella corporation. When fleshing out the details of any brand, I like to immerse myself in the environment of that brand as much as possible, approaching it almost like a method actor approaches a role. Part of this process for me is usually creating a playlist of music I identify as feeling right for that brand. Songs I can imagine playing in the store itself. I noticed my thought process behind selecting tracks for the menswear and womenswear brands were entirely different, and I'm wondering if there's any underlying truth or data to support my intuitions. [more inside]
I'm in China and I can get any suit custom made. That's great because I'm tall and heavy. That's also daunting because I have to show up with pictures of what I want. I find it tough to find good links to websites with tips for people like me. What modern suit would look good on me?
Asking for a gentleman without a metafilter account: Can you recommend a stylist in Manhattan who specializes in, or at least does an excellent job with, male curly hair? [more inside]
I'm trying to think of a movie where a man is having an affair with another woman. During one of the encounters while he should be watching his child, the child accidentally dies I think by falling into a pool. After feeling grieved, he goes through some sort of cave in a park and goes back in time and can make things right again. Apparently, there's something weird about the new neighborhood he's in (spoilers so I won't say more). Anybody know what the movie is called?!
Pampering Products For Dudes [more inside]
Another question about my LTR: how much should I try to give another chance to my potentially EUM partner? [more inside]
What replacement speaker should I get for my amp? [more inside]
How can I build confidence to incorporate more femme elements into my gender presentation as a young straight(ish) man? [more inside]
Does anyone know which movie / show / video this .gif is from? [more inside]
I want to send a care package to my friends at Burning Man, what should I include? [more inside]
Help searching for old PC and Playstation 1 games? Probably about early to mid 90's [more inside]
2.0GHz Intel Core 2 Duo processor, 4GB, 320 GB. Hi I won a Mac Mini at a local auction. I only got the unit and the power supply. I purchased a Mini-DVI to VGA Female Monitor Cable Adapter to use with my existing monitor. I have a keyboard as well. I hooked up everything but all I get is blank screen. One time I got a message insert bootable dvd, I think. Please help an apple newbie. Thanks
Looking for a particular song, or barring that at particular song type. Sort of vague. [more inside]
Can I, a man whose clothes comes from Marks & Spencer (US: think JC Penney), get away with having a pink mobile phone? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: How can a person get over a crippling anxiety of getting dumped? [more inside]
What long-term issues arise with marrying an older man? [more inside]
Relationships in which the woman is older (8 years). Will this work for us? Do you know any couples like this? Advice? Please share. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 years. We are happy and are sexually active, but we just don't have sex. I know that everybody does it at any age now, and that everywhere you turn, you are somehow reminded of it, but is that so bad? Basically, when we first got together, everything was (of course) perfect. He was a virgin but I wasn't, and he knew that. I liked the fact that we had a lot of sexual tension but that he didn't ever pressure me to do anything I didn't want to. Basically, he wanted me to make the shots. And I feel almost like it's still that way now. [more inside]
I need to find a picture or two of a specific long haired red-headed male model. [more inside]
Academics: Searching with texts that promote a fair hearing for the opposition. [more inside]
ComicFilter: I am looking for a one-off comic strip that depicts a man going through some sort of Wolverine-esque operation in a secret government lab. He then breaks out, and his identity is revealed.... [more inside]
Guy, boy, gal, girl. What's offensively diminutive, what's acceptable? [more inside]
Are you a bad person if your guy friend leaves his girlfriend for you? [more inside]
Halloween Costume Filter: I want to be Macho Man Randy Savage for Halloween (the cowboy hat version) [more inside]
What does the man being the head of the household mean for a Christian husband and wife? [more inside]