This question is spurred by the recent NYT article on male book clubs. I'm interested in starting one of my own, but without the idiotic grenade manliness rankings and all male authors. What I'm really interested in is creating a safe space for a group of people to talk about the emotional sides of masculinity, and largely the difficulty many men have in expressing emotions and vulnerability. I'm looking for potential books(both fiction and non-fiction) that would help foster these discussions.
I'm looking for a more appropriate word than "non male" that is more inclusive than "female." [more inside]
Men with medium (ear to chin) length hair - how do you get your locks looking so luxurious? Basically, how do you go from this to this?
I am a straight BHM, but find it very hard to accept the supposed fact that there are hetero/bi women out there that could consider me attractive. I would appreciate links to anything that helps straight BHMs feel sexually appreciated: movie/television quotes, op-eds or writings, or pretty much anything you can think of. [more inside]
Im a 40yo Male and I just had some blood work done and although my Testosterone levels are withing the normal range, they are on the low side said my doctor. He prescribed androgel. Ive read all over the interwebs about a possibility of hair loss. Well this makes me very scared to take it. I have no signs of male pattern baldness and im quite attached to having hair as opposed to being bald. Can anyone chime in with personal experience/advice/etc....? Im on the fence here and would like some feedback. Thx!
I hate the feeling of the hot summer sun on my skin. What type of hat should I get to keep the sun off of me? I am an early 30s male living in Philadelphia. My style is pretty casual and I likely being wearing jeans and a t-shirt in the situations where I would wear this hypothetical hat I don't need to look cool in the hat, but I'd strongly prefer to not look goofy in it. I'd prefer to spend less than $100 but I am flexible on that.
I am an early 30's dude who was invited to a friend's wedding. It's in two days. I don't have much experience with weddings, and don't have anything to wear yet. I don't have much money, and don't have a suit of my own. Can you give me suggestions on what to wear so that I don't stick out like a sore thumb? [more inside]
A friend of mine is having some pretty severe personal issues, but refuses to get help and gets mad at anyone who says anything he even remotely doesn't like. Is it time to cut ties and/or call him out? [more inside]
I'm a mid-40s male and my entire life I've been a hair-trigger. Not a premature orgasm, but over very fast. Google-fu came up with scams and creams, but is there any way to fix this? [more inside]
I've seen lots of TV shows where someone will get a guy up to speed with grooming, help him come up with a "style", take him to the right cosmetics people, hair stylist, etc. I want this overall service too. Do these sorts of people exist in real life, what are they called, and can I find one here in the UK? [more inside]
Can you give me examples of male visual artists who are and were known for their gratuitous sexual behavior? Sexuality doesn't matter, and neither does period or style. I'm very curious. Thank you.
I would like to do some reading on a subject I am having trouble wording; the best I can come up with is "positive feminist masculinity." [more inside]
A male equivalent of "fashionista?" [more inside]
Help me find this video or gif that I can't seem to locate with google. Sometime in the past year I've seen either a video or an animated gif where someone made a hack that put a male character skin on a female video game character. [more inside]
It has taken me two years to get over my ex-boyfriend, and now, in graduate school, I finally, finally met a guy classmate whom I think could be great boyfriend material. He is kind, sweet, super intelligent, and not to mention pretty good-looking. We've spent a bit of time together on projects and study together occasionally, and over the past few months I've really developed some feelings for this guy. The trouble is, I am quite shy and not very good at flirting, so I've tried to initiate contact by organizing study get-togethers, asking him questions on Facebook, etc. I don't want to seem clingy or weird by initiating all this contact though. As for me, people have said I'm pretty, kind, intelligent, blah blah blah. I'm at a point in my life where I would like to find the right man for me and settle down, and I think this guy could be it. Unlike my previous relationships in which we met online, with this guy, I've developed a friendship and my feelings have grown from what I've gleaned from his character and interactions with his family and friends. I really like him, and I don't want to let this one go. Do you have any advice for how to maybe hint to this guy that I like him?
I have a question about men's neck hair and shaving; looking for input and suggestions. [more inside]
What stylish mens haircuts are low/no maintenance? [more inside]
My hubby is complaining of mild incontinence. Please help us figure out what to do about it. [more inside]
I've read The Multi-Orgasmic Man. I find Eastern, energy-based philosophy hard to grasp, because moving energy throughout the body is very much experiential and intangible. It's not not like learning physical movements (sports, martial arts, etc.) [more inside]
We are about to move into a much larger home than we currently live. We already have one amazing cat but we are 90% certain we will want to add to our brood once we are settled into our new home, but.... do we get a male cat or a female cat? [more inside]
In my old job (a small creative outfit), I used to wear what is known as "sport-chic attire", which pretty much means a nice shirt and high-end jeans. It was all about having a shirt for every day of the week with 2 or 3 pants and 2 or 3 pairs of shoes. Now that I'm changing jobs, should I change my dress code as well? [more inside]
I want to buy a jacket for vaguely chilly Southern California nights... for $100. [more inside]
Hello, I have a stem-cell related question which I hope someone familiar with said information can help me out with. Basically, I was wondering if it's theoretically possible to grow a brand new male reproductive organ within an existing male organ as its eventual replacement with the aid of stem cells (i.e. via stem cell injection into the organ tissue). The cells could then differentiate into specialized organ cells which could then divide, etc. What are your fact-based opinions about this?
For a bunch of reasons (some good, some bad) I have the next two and half months totally free. I don't have to do a thing, I have no reason to make any more money and I've got oceans of time, a nest egg of savings, and a gym membership. Previous times like this I've focused on making my skill-set or apartment better/fancier, but now I want to focus on myself. No creative projects, no learning and growing, just pure, unabashed vanity. What can I do in two and half months to get all kinds of pretty? Ideally during the day. [more inside]
So, I need to start building a decent work-ready wardrobe and I wanted to try going the thrift second hand route. I'm a 35 year old male with pretty sedate tastes in clothing that skew in the heritage and ivy league directions. Any places in DFW I should look? thanks
I've been cutting my hair very short, and discovered that while I didn't mind my graying hair when it was a normal length, it is much grayer-looking when cut this close and does not look good in combination with my untanned white scalp. Can someone point out good hair color products for white guys with extremely short hair? [more inside]
I'm about to ask a—perhaps sexist—question about the possible differences in how men and women—broadly speaking—identify with songs in marketing. But first, some set-up. As a branding exercise, I've been working on tackling a fictitious start-up consisting of two fashion retailer brands. One's a men's brand, and one's a women's brand, both part of the same fictitious umbrella corporation. When fleshing out the details of any brand, I like to immerse myself in the environment of that brand as much as possible, approaching it almost like a method actor approaches a role. Part of this process for me is usually creating a playlist of music I identify as feeling right for that brand. Songs I can imagine playing in the store itself. I noticed my thought process behind selecting tracks for the menswear and womenswear brands were entirely different, and I'm wondering if there's any underlying truth or data to support my intuitions. [more inside]
What should I, as a new librarian working on a short-term contract at the reference desk, wear to work in the public library in the summer? [more inside]
Mid-to-late twenties male looking to buy a pair of shoes that's more attractive than a sports sneaker and less formal than a business/dress shoe. [more inside]
I'm in China and I can get any suit custom made. That's great because I'm tall and heavy. That's also daunting because I have to show up with pictures of what I want. I find it tough to find good links to websites with tips for people like me. What modern suit would look good on me?
I honestly don't know this, and almost none of the men that I know are circumcized, so I wouldn't know who to ask in person. Is it generally so that lube is more needed/vital/ important/whathaveyou for masturbation if one is a male who is circumcized? [more inside]
Is there a classification of (HR-speak) discrimination when a male employee defers to female coworkers chivalrously (e.g. holding doors open)? Because the activity is solely based on gender, it seems like this would be the case, but it is not addressed as an example in our policies. (Title is Dad-quote from the 70's.)
We have about a month and a half left before Baby Stardust is here, and we still can't agree on a name. Help? [more inside]
Asking for a specifically male perspective here: what do you wish you'd known before having kids that would have made your relationship better? [more inside]
Recently I went on a trip with my kid sister and each time, the pilots were men and the flight attendants were women and even while we were waiting to board, we watched the pilots and flight attendants for other airlines walk to their gates and it was always the same and she was curious and disgruntled about this, so I thought I would ask the hive mind. Are there institutional/systemic/socioeconomic reasons why the pilot/flight attendant makeup isn't proportionate to the population they serve?
What should my grooming regimen include? [more inside]
Help me deal with my boyfriend's ejaculatory impotence -- it's reaching a breaking point for me. [more inside]
I'm almost done with my divorce and in the process of starting a new life. Are there any books out there that might help me steer clear of making the more common corny-recent-divorcee' mistakes? Stuff related to love, the kids, housecleaning, finance, alcohol, furnishings, loneliness, stress, etc. 41 yo male living in the US, three preteen daughters on 50/50 time, comfortable financially, stressful job, amicable split from STBX, big D because I ended up being an employee and not a husband/man.
How can I build confidence to incorporate more femme elements into my gender presentation as a young straight(ish) man? [more inside]
Is there any positive body acceptance / Health at any Size type stuff out there geared towards a male (or even just clearly mixed- or non-gendered) audience? [more inside]
How can I feel happy about being a skinny male (125 pounds, 6 feet tall) when I have never felt comfortable in my own skin?
How can I feel happy about being a skinny male (125 pounds, 6 feet tall) when I have never felt comfortable in my own skin? [more inside]
If RISUG (Reversible Inhibition of Sperm Under Guidance) is approved in India how can I, a US citizen, go there and get the procedure done? [more inside]
What vitamins or supplements should a father-to-be take before conception? Looking for quality swimmers! (Corollary, what foods to avoid?) [more inside]
How should a mid-30s, male public library director dress? [more inside]
How to deal with my unconscious anxiety response to older, male supervisors? [more inside]
A few years ago I attended a talk on women's wellness in which the speaker referred to the idea that in our male-dominated society, work quality/style is considered superior when the work is cranked out regularly (in the way that men produce sperm all day long), whereas a feminine perspective would be more cyclical (as in the menstrual cycle), with production of work involving periods of contemplation/incubation and rest and less volume of production. Does anyone know the origin or source for this concept? I don't think it was the speaker's original idea. [more inside]
What should I do with my hair? White, male, 32. Hair is dirty blonde and wavy but not quite curly. I've never had good luck getting it cut, so I've always gone back and forth between shaving bald and just letting it grow. It's been growing for most of the year and looks like a fro, with the back almost to the shoulder. That was great in my 20's but I'd like something more professional and consistent. As is, it's all messed up and lopsided by lunchtime. [more inside]
I enjoyed these lists of clichés in female online dating profiles. Has anyone seen a similar list for male profiles? [more inside]
Ever since that found-on-facebook date showed up on my doorstep I've had the same feeling : that person has not lived in that female body all her life. That hunch has been confirmed That person doesn't know I know - now what ? [more inside]
I'm a guy, and I'm growing my hair long - what do I need to know? [more inside]