I was with my ex-wife for a long, long time. She cheated; we separated and ultimately got an easy divorce. We’ve each moved on, and I’m close to proposing to my girlfriend after about two years together. We’re a great pair. But I often feel unanchored, cast about by the knowledge that nothing lasts forever. Am I doing it wrong? Other divorced folks (esp. those on the dumped side)—what’s the path forward?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 20, 2010 -
18 answers
Cue in cliche drama: I have a great boyfriend but a guy I had chased after earlier this year is still hanging in my heart because he only half-rejected me.
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posted by formaltide
on Sep 20, 2010 -
20 answers
Got infatuated with co-worker. She is getting married this Saturday. Strangely I don't feel jealous and I am genuinely happy for her. This is strange to me as it contradicts all my previous experiences. That is excellent but what is the catch? Is it possible that some kind of delayed catastrophe will happen?
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posted by przepla
on Sep 14, 2010 -
13 answers
"God Only Knows" by the Beach Boys has the best opening line to a love song:
I may not always love you. Can you think of any other love songs that have the same vibe of: "I really hope this lasts, but I can't make or ask for promises."
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posted by ictow
on Sep 10, 2010 -
62 answers
I'm completely in love with the girl who sits next to me at work. I can't stop thinking about her. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 7, 2010 -
31 answers
RelationshipFilter: being patient when your partner is trying to figure things out that we're discovering in couples' therapy.
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posted by inmyhead
on Sep 7, 2010 -
17 answers
I'm in a relationship that is the best I've ever had (and in some ways the only serious one I've ever had), but it's still not that amazing. Do I abandon my notions that there is someone better out there and give this a real shot or do I just need to accept that being single forever is better than being in a not quite right relationship? (so very long inside...)
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 2, 2010 -
29 answers
I'm crazy over my new girlfriend. However, I recently discovered that she's from a very wealthy family. And, I grew up very, very poor. What should I know?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2010 -
59 answers
I'm ending an awesome relationship because I'm moving to a different city for a much better job. How to make the best of our last few weeks together, and what's the "healthiest" level of contact to maintain?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2010 -
6 answers
Is it possible to forgive and go on loving someone who stole from you? (Long-winded story inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 19, 2010 -
40 answers
Everyone has it harder than me. So I should be taking advantage of that, right?
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posted by defmute
on Aug 12, 2010 -
17 answers
My roommate is a pretty heavy drinker and smoker and he spends his Saturday nights passed out on the love seat in the den. His feet extend over the arm of the love seat. He sleeps on his back and I'm concerned that the pressure on his leg from the arm of the seat could cause a blood clot. Is this a real danger? Example of his position
here.
posted by zzazazz
on Jul 31, 2010 -
14 answers
I need help on how to deal with (i.e., break up with) my girlfriend with mental health issues.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 27, 2010 -
17 answers
RelationshipFilter: How can I look at the relationship more objectively? When I read the huge long journal entry I just wrote about my relationship, I realize he comes off as kind of a jerk. And he is kinda. But how do I know if I'm being a selfish bitch? How have you learned to draw these lines?
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posted by inmyhead
on Jul 20, 2010 -
18 answers
This would be a fairly standard 'how do I make friends' question, except I know the reason I can't. Lack of social skills, not liking normal socialising exercises (e.g. parties), and living miles from anywhere are part of it, but before I get to those problems I have this one: I don't like anybody. Seriously, this is an even bigger problem than people not liking me.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 15, 2010 -
32 answers
Needle-In-Haystack-Filter: Where is the pink website with quotes on the various stages of love?
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posted by Atrahasis
on Jul 12, 2010 -
2 answers
I usually cry the first time I have sex with someone. Does anyone have explanations for/experience with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 11, 2010 -
17 answers
Did she just take the easy way out or am I just that guy? About 8 months ago I started talking to a girl I have known for many years. She is 7 years younger than me and I never noticed her until boom she magically grew up. I always thought she was a loser ( hung around with the wrong crowd made bad choices). We began talking every so often then it turned into a daily ritual txt, fb, and phone call situation once she got rid of her BF. I slowly began to develop feelings and we started hangin out when....
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posted by SleeveHearted
on Jul 2, 2010 -
36 answers
Regarding polyamory and potentially breaking up a monogamous LTR. A question for a friend. Special snowflake details inside.
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posted by NoraReed
on Jun 28, 2010 -
15 answers
Looking for a way to deal with the bad feelings, both within me and coming from the ex, after a relationship ended. Problem: I am a massive tool and it was all my fault for cheating on her. How do I say sorry?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2010 -
30 answers
How can I begin taking steps to get past this heartache that I've been hanging onto after falling in love with my best friend and move on to find someone who is actually emotionally available?
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posted by dorothyrose
on Jun 6, 2010 -
5 answers
I'm looking for a short (1-2 minute) humorous wedding reading. Ideally, it's from a well-known/classic author (Mark Twain, Jonathan Swift, etc.). I'm specifically hoping to find a bit of wit, and perhaps even a little snark, but still with a happy/warm tone. The topic could be love, weddings, marriage, men & women, or anything along those lines.
The key is to have some lightness and humor in it.
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posted by davebug
on Jun 5, 2010 -
14 answers
Failedpolyamoryfilter: Help! I care for two people and I have to choose between them. What does one base a decision like this on? How do I tackle this situation?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 4, 2010 -
26 answers
My friend has asked me to have a conversation with her about whether she should leave her husband for a new man. I have a strong view: should I tell her and can I do so in a way that is constructive? What else should I consider about the content and format of what I say?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 3, 2010 -
27 answers
He lives on the west coast. I live on the east coast. Its the most passionate relationship I have ever been in, except we never talk when we're apart. Do I try or do I move on?
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2010 -
14 answers
I have found "the one" I want to spend the rest of my life with and I cant stop thinking that one day she will die. How to deal?
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posted by anonymous
on May 25, 2010 -
36 answers
Sexuality seems to be a very fluid and complex matter, and perhaps bisexuality even more so. My question is, when and how did you realize you were bisexual? And on a side note, I'd like to hear some opinions on a unrequited love situation.
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posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2010 -
11 answers
Should I leave my wife??? I have doubted my feelings for her from day one... story below... This is lengthy, sorry...
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posted by anonymous
on May 20, 2010 -
54 answers
How do I stop feeling so mercenary and unconsenting in my relationships? Right now my issue is primarily in romantic situations. I think that I know why I'm like this and have figured it all out mentally, but I need some practical strategies for avoiding situations that trigger my weirdness.
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
10 answers
