What's a good song that embodies the feeling of... "you found the person with whom you want to spend a lifetime together... but you're kept from being together (not because there are other people, but other reasons)... and every day it hurts to dream about, in a sweet way."
kind of like a song that would describe Jim and Pam's tentative pre-lationship in The Office season 1 on...
thanks!
posted by dracomarca
on Jan 16, 2013 -
21 answers
It's been 2 months. You have a great first date with a guy from internet. Chemistry! Romance! Sexual Attraction! Best first date ever. But the female has undesirable qualities. After a few more dates the female confronts the male about his intentions. He then calls her back in a passionate telephone call and says he's willing to have a go. Sadly, he seems to not really be that into her. He then again a few weeks later reiterates his fondness for the female, despite hang ups and she's now rethinking her position.
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posted by Danithegirl
on Jan 15, 2013 -
28 answers
Straight guy here, mid-30s. I'm a relationship virgin apart from two or three very brief and superficial ones, and would be an actual virgin if not for a handful of sexual encounters, almost all of them very unsatisfying. I've always fantasized about love and sex but whenever things get real my heart and body seem to lose all interest. What's wrong with me and are there other people out there in the same boat?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2013 -
35 answers
I am making a "peace and love" playlist filled with songs that urge social consciousness and positive action. So far I have songs like "Man in the Mirror," "He Aint Heavy (He's My Brother)," "Get Together," "Imagine," etc. What are some good songs in that vein?
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posted by AgentRocket
on Jan 11, 2013 -
62 answers
I've been looking at environments, especially my home, and seeing how they impact me in terms of imagery. I'm specifically looking for images I could place in my home that are evocative of successful relationship.
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posted by diode
on Jan 10, 2013 -
8 answers
My best friend and I keep having drama in our friendship because of feelings. I had feelings for him, but he says he just wanted to stay friends. I told him I needed space to get rid of my feelings so we can stay friends. But he won't let me. He keeps bringing me back into his life. Even when he said he was starting a relationship with someone else. What do I do?
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posted by impactsmoothie
on Jan 9, 2013 -
55 answers
I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes?
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posted by Ms.Stocking
on Jan 4, 2013 -
47 answers
Can the hive mind confirm that men need a dark side to seduce women ? I’m a nice guy and I’ve not been lucky in love. Have I not been lucky in love
because I’m a nice guy ?
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posted by Baud
on Jan 2, 2013 -
66 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
How long is too long to still be upset about a break up? It's been 3 weeks for me as of today and while I'm approving a little bit, something is holding me back...
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posted by Autumn89
on Dec 23, 2012 -
15 answers
My partner and I, two girls, have this slight thing bothering us when we talk about our future engagement. We both want to be proposed to. Is there a way we can make this happen?
posted by trogdole
on Dec 17, 2012 -
34 answers
How can I help my adopted cousin learn to love her skin? Have you been part of a transracial family? What did you find helpful or comforting?
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posted by turniphead
on Dec 17, 2012 -
15 answers
How much should we be talking about our feelings for each other? I love him, and I think he loves me...
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 12, 2012 -
9 answers
Why did you break up? More specifically, you thought you found someone you're compatible with, you guys mutually made a commitment, but yet you ended up breaking up a year or two later, or later in life. What was the reason for the breakup?
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posted by never.was.and.never.will.be.
on Dec 5, 2012 -
46 answers
Should I move out from my boyfriend's apartment, or give the live-in relationship another chance - or break up?
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posted by katerok
on Dec 4, 2012 -
12 answers
I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe
on Dec 3, 2012 -
10 answers
On herpes and forgiveness. Nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he has HSV-2. That was almost a year ago. It still bothers me. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
47 answers
What are the healthy and fulfilling expectations of what a relationship should be and do for you?
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
I have an ex who seems to be be depressed and has sent me a few emails telling me that we are all programmed by the "Source" that free will does not exist, that nothing depends on us etc and that the "Source" has decided that he would always be unhappy in love ! And that if the "Source" has decided that he would be unhappy, unaccomplished, alone then he must be happy with that decision. (He's 55, pianist/composer, not well known, gets by with the financial help of his parents., never been able to commit or live with a woman. His father is bi-polar, been hospitalised a few times for that). This is contrary to my world view, which I told him but I'm rather worried about where his mind is going. Any thoughts, help much appreciated
posted by hopefulmidlifer
on Nov 11, 2012 -
21 answers
When does "I love you" mean something? And is there a way to say "OMGZ I'M HAVING SUPERSTRONG LIMERENT FEELINGS TOWARDS YOU" without sounding quite that weird?
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posted by f3l1x
on Nov 6, 2012 -
33 answers
Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness?
Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it...
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posted by entropy33
on Nov 4, 2012 -
14 answers
[heartbreak/confused sexuality filter] Recently admitted my romantic feelings toward a close friend, but have no idea how to pick up the pieces of my actions and move forward. Somewhat messy details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 17, 2012 -
11 answers
I really need help in dealing with a situation of unrequited love with a best friend, to becoming complete strangers, and then back to best friends again.
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posted by stonecutters88
on Oct 15, 2012 -
12 answers
My partner is planning to propose in a matter of a few months. I want have something that I can surprise HIM with when he proposes to me! Is it acceptable for a woman to give a reciprocal proposal gift to the man? And if it is acceptable, would a barbecue be a little too bizarre?
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posted by PuppetMcSockerson
on Oct 9, 2012 -
53 answers
General relationship pattern question about the end of limerance as well as some specifics, with some concerns about monogamy/nonmonogamy. Somewhat long.
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posted by zeek321
on Oct 3, 2012 -
16 answers
I'm happily married, but it's ridiculous how much I want a good first kiss. Help me get over it!
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 25, 2012 -
44 answers
Looking for a Japanese film I saw prior to 2003. It was a dystopian picture of some people trying to have an office romance in the corporate office landscape of Tokyo - lots of shots of bleak urban concrete and highways and faceless office parks full of conformist white collar employees - in the final scene of the film one of the characters is stranded walking along the edge of a highway. It dealt with a complicated love triangle. I know this isn't the title, but it was something like "Kiss me twice, now hold me I love you" or something a little crazy like that- I believe this film was made in the 90s or the early 2000s. It was in Japanese language with subtitles. There is a slight chance it may have been Korean, but I'm pretty sure it was Japanese. This film may have been discussed by Fredric Jameson in one of his essays as it was screened in a graduate school class on Japanese cultural critique.
posted by cmp4Meta
on Sep 24, 2012 -
4 answers
The break up I recently is making me confused and it has shattered my confidence. I would like to know what happened, how falling in love is meant to be in reality and how to get back my confidence.
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posted by home
on Sep 22, 2012 -
14 answers
How can i save my relationship with my girlfriend? We have been seeing each other for exactly one year. We are grown, she in her 30s me in my 40s. she has a young child and my kid is in college. Since we started dating its been pretty fun and loving sometimes hard also.
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posted by tlrjr
on Sep 20, 2012 -
18 answers
My girlfriend and I want to do that 'public display of commitment' thing, but we don't want to get
married. Heterosexual
Civil Partnerships are not yet available in the UK. Can we do it elsewhere with legal status? Or should we wait?
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posted by bollockovnikov
on Sep 20, 2012 -
31 answers
How do you stay in a relationship when you know there's a very good chance it might end soon? [Siberian winter's worth of snowflakes inside.]
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posted by Sockmaster
on Sep 17, 2012 -
42 answers
Mail order bride site that is not a scam? Does one exist?
If you have successfully found yours how did you do it?
posted by digividal
on Sep 15, 2012 -
13 answers
I deeply hurt my partner emotionally. I was insecure and stupid. She was there for me when I wasn't for her. Now, I've gotten all my confidence back, and she's not present in the relationship. I truly love her and want her. Should we continue?
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posted by sunogenous
on Sep 14, 2012 -
26 answers
I am looking for more songs similar to
10cc's "I'm not in love". Specifically, songs about attraction or falling in love but feeling conflicted over it or uncomfortable with it or questioning it. Difficulty: Must also be non-venomous, non-hostile, non-accusatory. So I am not looking for songs like "You give love a bad name" or Britney Spears "Toxic".
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posted by Michele in California
on Sep 5, 2012 -
54 answers
Do we really "need" romantic love in our lives? Is there a magical point of self-love where one just attracts love from others?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 4, 2012 -
27 answers
My first love broke up with me 4 months ago. I had taken her for granted, albeit under difficult circumstances. I want to rekindle things but I know I've hurt her. If I don't try to rekindle, I think I'll regret it forever. How do I do that while respecting her feelings?
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posted by alxnrwd
on Aug 31, 2012 -
117 answers
After many years of living a very social life in a very big city I find myself living alone in a very remote part of the world. Seeking advice and insight into a life of solitude.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2012 -
15 answers
How long should I wait to tell my friend about my feelings? So here goes (sorry in advance for the very long post, please stick with me). First time around that I ask for advice on any website...
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posted by 560fence_cat
on Aug 29, 2012 -
31 answers
My dad has not been in a relationship since his split from my mom 19 years ago. He's turning 60 next year and I want him to finally be able to find someone to grow old with. He lives a few Provinces away - how do I broach this with him.
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posted by Danithegirl
on Aug 28, 2012 -
29 answers
