With next month's Valentine's Day looming, what are the most preposterously imaginative romantic gestures you have ever given / received / heard of?
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posted by skylar
on Jan 4, 2006 -
21 answers
I just started a new relationship.. It's phenomenal and we've both felt that we're in love. I care deeply for her, but I don't know how to tell her about the fact that I have Herpes. Does anyone have advice on how to break the news?
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posted by bhenry
on Dec 23, 2005 -
20 answers
I have known Ben for about a year. We went on dates a few times at the beginning of our acquaintance, but nothing happened. A while later, we declared our desire for each other and ended up in bed. He has been in an open relationship with Sarah for the last 9 months, and in that time he and I have become close friends and also slept together three times. I have really fallen for him - should I declare my desire for a relationship with him? [More details...]
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posted by pollystark
on Dec 19, 2005 -
37 answers
So, I'm a 22 year old male, straight virgin. I used to be really nervous and self-conscious around women, but lately I've gotten a lot more relaxed. I've started doing some online dating, and it seems to be going fairly well. I've had relationships in the past, but nothing serious or sexual, but I think that's going to change soon. I could use some advice.
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posted by JZig
on Dec 14, 2005 -
30 answers
Im just starting out in a relationship with a really great girl. Problem is, when we met she was also starting a relationship with another guy. Now shes torn between us. Help me win her over musically.
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posted by lemonfridge
on Dec 10, 2005 -
57 answers
My ex wants me to come over and find out where we're at in our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship that ended a few months ago when I was intimate with another man (no sex, just so you know, but enough to make it cheating). When I told him, we swore we still loved eachother, but decided break up so we could have a chance to grow, and start again when we lived in the same city (likely spring '06).
Since then I've found clarity, come to terms with the nearly unbearable guilt and done my best to change the part of me that went wrong. Come to find out he's been busy....very busy...with many women where he lives. I made a mistake, I know that....so it confounds me that he says he loves me but turns around and does all that stuff with all those girls?
I'm very in love with this man, and I want to believe in him so badly, but I can't understand how he can hold such a double standard. Is it just too much to ask of a 24 year old, to actually live the lifestyle he expects of his partner? Is it a Man thing, that you have to get action?
And, in light of all this, can I believe that he loves me or am I playing the fool.
posted by aquavit
on Dec 9, 2005 -
66 answers
I'm an still-in-the-closet (but perhaps soon to be out) gay man in his early 20s. What are the best ways to meet good-hearted, intelligent, and personable gay men in Boston (or generally), people who are interested in relationships and not just quick hookups?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 8, 2005 -
17 answers
I understand what right wing christians are upset about, but how do I get them to understand and not dismiss my beliefs?
posted by bigmusic
on Dec 6, 2005 -
24 answers
WhydItEndFilter: Why did your marriage/long term relationship end (or almost end)? If you dodged that scythe, how'd you save it?
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posted by soma lkzx
on Dec 5, 2005 -
25 answers
So you met someone online and experienced the technological equivalent of the "thunderbolt." You found yourself in love, based only on text, knowing it was crazy. Then you met in person. How did it go?
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posted by helcat
on Dec 1, 2005 -
52 answers
Is there a book for heterosexual guys similiar to
She's Not Into You and other similar books for chicks?
posted by itchie
on Nov 27, 2005 -
7 answers
My housemate and I have been having a relationship (of sorts) for the past 2 months. Two nights ago he ended it all, saying he wasn't ready for a relationship and it was making him unhappy. I know it was only 2 months but I feel distraught and broken hearted, and what's worse, I live with him, I have to see him every single day. What can I do to make this easier to get over and move on from?
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posted by trampesque
on Nov 23, 2005 -
21 answers
How can my girlfriend and I work past an aversion or barrier to intimacy that has come up in our relationship?
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posted by aussicht
on Oct 31, 2005 -
13 answers
The girl I love is leaving our work team, and before she goes I want to buy her an engagement ring. I think she may be the one.
The trouble is that (a) I don't know what kind of rings she likes, (b) I don't know what size ring she wears, (c) I don't think she'll say 'yes', and (d) I love her more than she loves me. Quite possibly my love for her is unrequited.
We're both professionals in our 30s, we've had a couple dates, and she knows I care about her. She doesn't know how much though. What are your thoughts and suggestions?
posted by anonymous
on Oct 27, 2005 -
66 answers
Did the movie NIGHT OF THE HUNTER (discussed
here) originate the device of having HATE tattooed on one hand, with LOVE tattooed on the other?
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posted by eschatfische
on Oct 25, 2005 -
8 answers
I am in love with a long time friend. Do you think it would be emotionally/ otherwise risky to go visit her?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2005 -
46 answers
Love-triangle Filter. I am close friends with a guy called Phil. He is in unrequitedly in love with Jennifer. At a party on Friday, Jennifer and I talked for ages and she asked me for my number, which I gave her. I have talked to Phil and he has said he doesn't mind Jennifer and I being friends, "but will never speak to me again if anything happens between [us]." Jennifer and I are going for a drink on Friday. Is Phil being unreasonable, or should I not let anything happen between Jennifer and I?
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posted by pollystark
on Oct 10, 2005 -
97 answers
I'm in a long-distance six-month-old relationship with a wonderful woman (we see each other every weekend, and I plan to be with her next year), who recently, literally turns nasty on me, casting all sorts of wild accusations (details below). We "talk" all night - usually her throwing all sorts of things at me and saying we're over and how she no longer trusts me - essentially trying to push me away. I deny it and try to remind her of all the wonderful things we have.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 30, 2005 -
33 answers
Would it scare off a guy to know that I'm 21, have never had a relationship (short or long term) and am still a virgin?
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posted by trampesque
on Sep 8, 2005 -
45 answers
Where can I find a stuffed cow that was once for sale at The Enchanted Forest, a store previously located at 85 Mercer street in New York City but now closed down?
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posted by ducksauce
on Aug 30, 2005 -
13 answers
I turned 21 last week and I want to know; what do you wish you'd known when you were 21? What do you wish you'd done but didn't, or what did you do that you think was an unmissable experience?
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posted by trampesque
on Aug 30, 2005 -
62 answers
My husband has a crush on a woman friend of his. I heard it in the sound of his voice when he spoke to her on the phone. As I'm not a jealous person, this has really taken me aback. He doesn't deny it but says that it will never progress to anything else and that they are very good friends. I like her too, don't believe that either of them would ever be unfaithful. Just knowing that he has romantic feelings for another woman makes me feel terrible, and I can hardly look him in the eye. How do I deal with this and move along?
posted by anonymous
on Aug 28, 2005 -
19 answers
I went on a course with work last week and I met someone who made me feel something that I've not felt ever before in my life. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 20, 2005 -
34 answers
I lied to my SO about how many girls I had slept with before her. Should I come clean? (more interesting stuff inside)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 11, 2005 -
25 answers
ShootingBlanksFilter: I'm a single male in my mid-twenties, whom after taking a long break from the opposite sex, is getting back into the game. However, reading about
fertility control issues, and also having first-hand experience with this, I've come to realize that men do not have the same reproductive control options available to them that women do.
So now I'm considering a vasectomy.
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posted by id
on Jul 31, 2005 -
26 answers
"When someone shows you who they really are, believe them the first time". Is this right? Here's why I'm Asking:
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 30, 2005 -
20 answers
My girlfriend and I are in college and we've been together for almost a year. I know that she loves me, and we have a good relationship, but I'm not as attracted to her as she is to me. What should I do?
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posted by ludwig_van
on Jun 15, 2005 -
58 answers
I like a girl. She likes me. There's two small but big things keeping us apart, and I dunno how to solve them. The first has nothing to do with her, and the second does. Advice would be appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 15, 2005 -
23 answers
Three months ago, my then-girlfriend and I broke off a 2.5-year relationship. We were doing it long-distance for the entirety of it, though that never hurt us. Two summers we lived together, too. We had started to fight a lot later—usually about stupid things—and basically just started to drive each other nuts while we were apart. When we were together in person, things were wonderful, but we had to support each other across the hundreds of miles, too. It was a mutual break-up for the most part: she wanted to take a month off, but I said it was inappropriate for us to pretend to be with each other when we're really trying to get away. This may have been the biggest mistake of my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 29, 2005 -
46 answers
How do I do this love fortune thing? When I was in junior high, I learned how to tell love fortunes using playing cards, where...
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posted by Katemonkey
on Feb 20, 2005 -
5 answers
I'm in Boston, Mass., and she's in Boulder, Colorado, with my heart. How do I tell her I love her?
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posted by koeselitz
on Feb 15, 2005 -
24 answers
RelationshipFilter: In a new relationship where you fell for each other rather quickly, how do you get the other person over the hump when they find out that you're not their perfect, ideal knight in shining armor?
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posted by SpecialK
on Feb 10, 2005 -
27 answers
Any tips for coping with a broken heart? Particularly the immediate aftermath.
posted by penguin pie
on Feb 10, 2005 -
39 answers
I've fallen in love with one of my best female friends, someone I have practically no chance of ever being with, and I'm unsure of how to deal with the situation. Do I cut her off completely and try to get over it? Do I act like nothing's happened and continue to be her friend despite the fact that it gets worse every time I talk to her? Do I ask her to give me space without telling her why? Help me, mefites; this is rotting me from the inside out.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 22, 2005 -
46 answers
[TrannyDatingFilter] I am a relatively well adjusted
pre-op male-to-female transsexual who has been living as a female since I was a teenager (almost a decade). I put myself through school on my own, gotten a very good job, and have a small group of close friends. I don't advertise what I am - I don't think that I should have to and I
pass well enough that people have rarely
clocked me. As of late I've been feeling very lonely. I would really love having a boyfriend and eventually a husband and children. I've never dated a man before and I'm wondering how realistic it is for me to find one who isn't interested in me only for my "defect". I've met
tranny chasers before and I want nothing to do with them. I don't want to be someones fetish object. I'm kind, sensitive, (mostly!) intelligent, and not a complete eyesore. Is it reasonable for me to think there's a regular guy out there for me? Someone who can love me despite my past? If you're a guy, under what circumstances (if any) could you accept someone like me as a partner? I don't believe my transsexualism defines me - can someone in the role of potential partner be expected to see anything else? You get the idea. I've had this discussion with other transsexuals but I'm interested in the non-transsexual perspective.
posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2005 -
23 answers
