I have known Ben for about a year. We went on dates a few times at the beginning of our acquaintance, but nothing happened. A while later, we declared our desire for each other and ended up in bed. He has been in an open relationship with Sarah for the last 9 months, and in that time he and I have become close friends and also slept together three times. I have really fallen for him - should I declare my desire for a relationship with him? [More details...] [more inside]
posted on Dec 19, 2005 - 37 answers

Love-triangle Filter. I am close friends with a guy called Phil. He is in unrequitedly in love with Jennifer. At a party on Friday, Jennifer and I talked for ages and she asked me for my number, which I gave her. I have talked to Phil and he has said he doesn't mind Jennifer and I being friends, "but will never speak to me again if anything happens between [us]." Jennifer and I are going for a drink on Friday. Is Phil being unreasonable, or should I not let anything happen between Jennifer and I? [more inside]
posted on Oct 10, 2005 - 97 answers