I want to be a healthy, fit person, and I want my partner to want that, too. What's the selling point? How can I convince my SO to make this change with me and notice how our generally very sedentary life is sucking the life out of our relationship? Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 16, 2013 -
31 answers
I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
21 answers
I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 3, 2013 -
41 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
Straight guy here, mid-30s. I'm a relationship virgin apart from two or three very brief and superficial ones, and would be an actual virgin if not for a handful of sexual encounters, almost all of them very unsatisfying. I've always fantasized about love and sex but whenever things get real my heart and body seem to lose all interest. What's wrong with me and are there other people out there in the same boat?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 13, 2013 -
35 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
I've recently been through some major life changes and find myself feeling strong romantic feelings for an old friend, former co-worker. I fear acting on my feelings because I don't want to jeopardize our platonic friendship which, at my age (65) is precious. I worry that even talking about my change in feelings for this woman might ruin our friendship. I'm not certain that she has reciprocal feelings for me, although I think she might. We are very compatible in most regards, intellectually, shared interests and activities, etc. And the friendship just as it is is rare and cherished. Should I 'confess' and risk what we have, or accept it for what it is and look elsewhere for the intimacy I seek? As might be obvioius, I have limited experience in physical (sexual) and emotionally-close relationships.
posted by NorthCoastCafe
on Dec 3, 2012 -
10 answers
On herpes and forgiveness. Nine months into our relationship, my boyfriend told me that he has HSV-2. That was almost a year ago. It still bothers me. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 2, 2012 -
47 answers
My wife of 14 years never tells me she loves me. She never initiates sex. She never holds my hand, kisses or casually touches me. No pillow talk. No thoughtful little gifts. I do all of these things for her as often as I can.
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posted by anonymous
on May 22, 2012 -
43 answers
Do healthy, happy couples ever have periods where one or the other feels the ennui of "I love you, but I'm not
in love with you?" If so, how do they resolve it? How do they decide if it's worth resolving?
posted by Caligula's Idiot Cousin
on Apr 10, 2012 -
12 answers
My partner and I feel comfortable and safe in our relationship, and we feel love for one another. But we are sexually unfulfilled, and to a smaller extent emotionally and/or intellectually troubled. How do we know whether to break up or to work at it?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 28, 2012 -
20 answers
Is it possible to get over some pretty big sexual chemistry if you really frigin love someone?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 21, 2011 -
21 answers
Should I marry the girl I like having sex with, or the one I like the rest of the time?
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posted by fraac
on Sep 16, 2011 -
102 answers
Coping advice for a dating trauma? Soothing words before I can see my therapist? Do I go through a job interview tomorrow?
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posted by angrycat
on Jun 26, 2011 -
33 answers
I met a girl from a club and we had sex. She had a boyfriend then (she cheated on him with me). She is now single & we have been incredibly close. I think I'm being clingy and I need help BIGTIME because I really like her.
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posted by Vandal
on Apr 30, 2011 -
23 answers
Savage Inequalities? Menopause and Erotic Intimacy. I have skimmed many AskMes and haven't seen quite this combination. Dan Savage is often touted and cited, but this combination is not well covered. What do Mefites and others do when their sex life is on indefinite hold due to their female partner's menopause? What if polyamory is off the table?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 8, 2011 -
9 answers
Stuck in an impossible dating dilemma: overhaul my entire self, or never have a relationship with a man?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 7, 2010 -
28 answers
Struggling writer asks: Help me write a non-cringeworthy love scene! What are some of your favourite literary love scenes, and what made them great?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 11, 2010 -
25 answers
So I'm a late-twenties bi woman, and I'm still a virgin who's never had a boyfriend or girlfriend (I prefer guys). I'm glad I waited this long, though - even when I was 18, my Asperger's had me feeling somewhat younger socially and emotionally, and I was nowhere near ready to date or do anything. But now I've reached the point where I'm ready to start meeting some nice prospects, looking for a relationship and, yes, having sex. (NSFW)
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posted by tamagogirl
on Nov 1, 2010 -
15 answers
My fiance has basically told me, that she will NEVER/practically never be willing to do my personal fetishes with me..... I don't know what to do about that.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 3, 2010 -
89 answers
I usually cry the first time I have sex with someone. Does anyone have explanations for/experience with this?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 11, 2010 -
17 answers
How do I stop feeling so mercenary and unconsenting in my relationships? Right now my issue is primarily in romantic situations. I think that I know why I'm like this and have figured it all out mentally, but I need some practical strategies for avoiding situations that trigger my weirdness.
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
10 answers
(relationship filter] Please help me choose between true love and great sex. Of course, I don’t really mean that. But I do need help making a decision and whatever I decide to do, someone’s heart is going to be broken.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2010 -
47 answers
Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg)
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 16, 2010 -
12 answers
I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 28, 2009 -
34 answers
I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 4, 2009 -
31 answers
Am I addicted to pornography? If I am, what can I do? Is there a Porn Addicts Anonymous?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 31, 2009 -
23 answers
I'm trying to figure out a way to approach my boyfriend concerning an issue about our sex life, but I'm having a hard time knowing what to say. For all intents and purposes, we have a fulfilling sex life, however the vast majority of the time he's not able to come inside me. It's been this way for the duration of our 3-year relationship and, though I'm not taking it personally, I'm really beginning to miss a certain level of intimacy that goes along with that particular part of sex. As always, there's...
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posted by actuallyiam
on Aug 17, 2009 -
31 answers
My wife and i are working through some difficult issues. We love each other dearly, but we're no longer physically intimate. Neither one of us is willing to give up on our relationship. How do I make things work while we're trying to make things work?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2009 -
10 answers
my fiancee and I have been going through a rough patch. I have no one else to turn to about this, so I'm here.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 4, 2009 -
47 answers
I am looking for opinions on my lifestyle of multiple casual relationships.. Is it healthy to be inherently against a committed relationship because you enjoy the company of new people quite frequently?
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posted by Macallister Vagabond
on Jan 19, 2009 -
29 answers
