I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

Do I need to know what (or who) he did while we were broken up? Is it wrong to ask? [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser on Oct 7, 2009 - 35 answers

I'm a mid-20s British male and I haven't had sex for about three years. Manual Overides are barely taking the edge off these days and the horniess is getting so bad I can't think clearly. Help me get laid. Complications inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2009 - 31 answers

Am I addicted to pornography? If I am, what can I do? Is there a Porn Addicts Anonymous? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2009 - 23 answers

How do I let my boyfriend know I have herpes? When should I tell him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 22, 2009 - 16 answers

I'm trying to figure out a way to approach my boyfriend concerning an issue about our sex life, but I'm having a hard time knowing what to say. For all intents and purposes, we have a fulfilling sex life, however the vast majority of the time he's not able to come inside me. It's been this way for the duration of our 3-year relationship and, though I'm not taking it personally, I'm really beginning to miss a certain level of intimacy that goes along with that particular part of sex. As always, there's... [more inside]
posted by actuallyiam on Aug 17, 2009 - 31 answers

How does one erase the illusion of "love" delivered by the media? [more inside]
posted by loser8008 on Jun 30, 2009 - 34 answers

Is there such a thing as a dating site for ONLY big breasted women? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 3, 2009 - 23 answers

SexFilter/LoveFilter: I love her, so why can't I think only of her? [more inside]
posted by the NATURAL on May 13, 2009 - 34 answers

Asking for a friend… Should he tell his girlfriend about his cyber fling? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 11, 2009 - 29 answers

My wife and i are working through some difficult issues. We love each other dearly, but we're no longer physically intimate. Neither one of us is willing to give up on our relationship. How do I make things work while we're trying to make things work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2009 - 10 answers

my fiancee and I have been going through a rough patch. I have no one else to turn to about this, so I'm here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 4, 2009 - 47 answers

So what's next after sex in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by symbollocks on Feb 16, 2009 - 26 answers

I am looking for opinions on my lifestyle of multiple casual relationships.. Is it healthy to be inherently against a committed relationship because you enjoy the company of new people quite frequently? [more inside]
posted by Macallister Vagabond on Jan 19, 2009 - 29 answers

When it comes to the hot-'n'-heavy, which is better: going too far and being told "no," or stopping short? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 17, 2009 - 32 answers

I love my SO but I'm no longer attracted to him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2008 - 31 answers

Now that I'm sober ... how the heck do I go about dating? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2008 - 23 answers

How do I deal with someone so verbal about his needs? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Oct 3, 2008 - 22 answers

I was a late bloomer. I was painfully shy and didn't date until I was 24. I'm at a turning point of the longest relationship I've had (almost a year). I don't know if I'm in love or not. Or if that's even the right question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2008 - 12 answers

how do i dump the woman i slept with last night? [more inside]
posted by zingzangzung on Sep 25, 2008 - 20 answers

If I know I wont be happy with him in the long term, why is it so hard to break up with him now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2008 - 38 answers

I'm having trouble understanding and dealing with a sudden wave of sadness which came over me while leaving a new romantic partner's house. (Overly long relationshipfilter details follow.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2008 - 16 answers

SexEd-filter: Need some physical advice to help out a great relationship otherwise... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2008 - 13 answers

Love, intimacy, sexual frustration, distance, inaction... help me deal with the complexities of it all. [more inside]
posted by curagea on Jul 31, 2008 - 19 answers

Can somebody (especially women) point me to images in film, text, or other media of the kind of lover that women would think of as loving, appreciative, and understanding, as well as manly and attractive, or comment on my situation in ways that would help me understand how to be a better lover to my beloved wife? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2008 - 50 answers

Am I fair in blaming a snail's-pace relationship on my weak ability to show affection? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2008 - 24 answers

How do normal people go about finding casual sex? For someone who thinks that taking advantage of drunk girls in clubs is immoral and adult match-making websites are scams or dangerous, is there any outlet to meet nice (albeit frisky!) gentlemen and ladies? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 20, 2008 - 20 answers

I live in DC, and I'm in my late twenties. What I've found, at a time in my life when I'm really looking for something serious - all I can find is ass. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 12, 2008 - 21 answers

I am looking for a magazine that would be interested in a story I've written about being in love without sexual attraction. Nerve is the only magazine that I can think of, but from the looks of things, I doubt they accept anything from writers outside of sunny California. My story isn't sexual explicit, but I don't think a mainstream/family-friendly publication would be interested in this. Does anyone have any suggestions for a Nerve-esque magazine (or zine) that accepts non-fiction that isn't supposed to make you horny?
posted by haasim on Jan 10, 2008 - 13 answers

There are gay bars, lesbian bars, and leather bars. Are there "geek bars"? In geek culture, what institution, meeting, or whatever serves the purpose that "meat market" single bars do amongst the non-geeky populace? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike on Dec 17, 2007 - 50 answers

I have a girlfriend, and we've been seeing each other for about 6 months now. The other day, I ran into an old flame I haven't seen, nor had the opportunity to significantly persue something with her (i.e. no sex, foreplay only in the past) because we stopped communication at some point and just lost touch. I'm feeling torn for some reason; I mean, my g/f now is hot, loves me to death, and extremely good to me treatment-wise. Am I just experiencing a classic case of "More-ism?" [more inside]
posted by gmodelo on Oct 8, 2007 - 27 answers

How can I get over a promiscuous event in my girlfriend's past involving someone I dislike? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 19, 2007 - 48 answers

Should I break up with my boyfriend? Or 'play the field'? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2007 - 40 answers

I'm gay, new at dating, and kind of overweight (though not morbidly so -- say ~ 20/22% body fat), though my face doesn't show it. I'm afraid dates will like me, in part based on that deceptive face, then discover my fatness during a moment of intimacy, and be repulsed. Am I being paranoid?
posted by anonymous on Aug 24, 2007 - 21 answers

sex is boring, not sure how to tell him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 20, 2007 - 34 answers

Stuck in a relationship with small child, love gone, what to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2007 - 19 answers

How do I date more than one person at a time? [more inside]
posted by callmejay on Aug 9, 2006 - 23 answers

If you're in love with a married man, and he says he would leave his wife, would you stay? Whilst i love him very much, i am not sure if i should believe him as surely if he really was going to leave her he would have done this by now. Is it possible to love two people at the same time?
posted by rainbow_2006 on Aug 2, 2006 - 88 answers

I've known a great guy for about 5 years and we have all the facets of a wonderful relationship... So how can I find the courage to tell him I want one? It's so hard to just blurt it out, and we have a pretty light-hearted relationship where we laugh more than anything, so I don't know how to be all dramatic and "I need to get something off my chest" - I need to be funny, casual and still genuine. [more inside]
posted by slyboots421 on Jul 14, 2006 - 34 answers

Olderwomenwholikeyoubutwon'thavesexwithyoufilter: There it is. 75% of the women I've dated in the last 8 months (and ALL of them have been older than me) have a strange issue, in that we can make out all night to the point of being naked, kissing, touching, but that final step of actively engaging an orgasm seems to be too much for them. So... what the... ? [more inside]
posted by saysthis on May 25, 2006 - 37 answers

I recently ended an affair I was having with a beautiful, intelligent, charming, older, married woman (I'm Ashton's age, she's Demi's). After 3 weeks I just couldn't deal with the guilt anymore. I knew the affair was wrong, but I did it anyway. As a Catholic, I'm working on the whole reconciliation thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 17, 2006 - 34 answers

VDayfilter: Woman I like, have for a while. Close friends for years, and she knows how I feel. Have pretty much stayed away from the old 'nice guy' just hang out stuff for the last year, but we still get together for a drink once or twice a month. Other than the occasional fun here and there, we are both single. [more inside]
posted by SpookyFish on Feb 13, 2006 - 18 answers

So, I'm a 22 year old male, straight virgin. I used to be really nervous and self-conscious around women, but lately I've gotten a lot more relaxed. I've started doing some online dating, and it seems to be going fairly well. I've had relationships in the past, but nothing serious or sexual, but I think that's going to change soon. I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by JZig on Dec 14, 2005 - 30 answers

My ex wants me to come over and find out where we're at in our relationship. We were in a long distance relationship that ended a few months ago when I was intimate with another man (no sex, just so you know, but enough to make it cheating). When I told him, we swore we still loved eachother, but decided break up so we could have a chance to grow, and start again when we lived in the same city (likely spring '06). Since then I've found clarity, come to terms with the nearly unbearable guilt and done my best to change the part of me that went wrong. Come to find out he's been busy....very busy...with many women where he lives. I made a mistake, I know that....so it confounds me that he says he loves me but turns around and does all that stuff with all those girls? I'm very in love with this man, and I want to believe in him so badly, but I can't understand how he can hold such a double standard. Is it just too much to ask of a 24 year old, to actually live the lifestyle he expects of his partner? Is it a Man thing, that you have to get action? And, in light of all this, can I believe that he loves me or am I playing the fool.
posted by aquavit on Dec 9, 2005 - 66 answers

Is there a book for heterosexual guys similiar to She's Not Into You and other similar books for chicks?
posted by itchie on Nov 27, 2005 - 7 answers

How can my girlfriend and I work past an aversion or barrier to intimacy that has come up in our relationship? [more inside]
posted by aussicht on Oct 31, 2005 - 13 answers

Would it scare off a guy to know that I'm 21, have never had a relationship (short or long term) and am still a virgin? [more inside]
posted by trampesque on Sep 8, 2005 - 45 answers

How do I make my wife feel sexy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 22, 2005 - 36 answers

Is losing my virginity worth waiting for? A lot [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2005 - 28 answers

I lied to my SO about how many girls I had slept with before her. Should I come clean? (more interesting stuff inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2005 - 25 answers