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How to evaluate news from acquaintance that partner is cheating&on drugs

I have a relationship and thought it was solid. Today my partner's former best friend and current room-mate contacted me to advise my partner has been cheating from the start of the relationship with random people met online. Also, partner has a $100 a day drug habit and is stealing from the elderly mother. Details and specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose on Jun 18, 2014 - 37 answers

It's a bad time...but when is it ever a good time?

I'm coming to realize that my partner is seriously abusing alcohol (and being cavalier about other substances) just as he's embarking on an existential crisis following a messy legal situation (finalizing a divorce that's 2+ years in the making). The relationship needs work; he needs work; hell, I might need work; but he's got a lot on his plate and I can't really pile on. I have kind of lost sight of what is reasonable here, and could use some perspective. [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Jun 18, 2014 - 30 answers

Trying to find a quote from Gone with the Wind

I'm trying to find an excerpt/quote from Gone with the Wind (the movie). Someone (I think Rhett but I'm not sure) is criticizing Ashley (to his face? behind his back? can't remember) for being unfair to both Scarlett and Melanie. I thought it was along the lines of Ashley being too weak to either love her properly or give her up properly. Help? [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous on Jun 14, 2014 - 4 answers

I have *the feels* for a boy that I made friends with.

We met as travelers on the Greyhound bus and developed a platonic friendship. I like him so much though. And he may have a girlfriend. Should I just let it go? [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Jun 8, 2014 - 20 answers

Help me stop becoming a man-hater/bitter ice queen

I used to be a soft, sensitive, hopeful young woman but too many knocks is making me feel hard, and it shows. I am too young to feel this way, help me figure out new thought processes to prevent this from getting worse. [more inside]
posted by DeadFlagBlues on Jun 6, 2014 - 21 answers

love in complicated times

What are some good movies that follow complicated (but not needlessly miserable) adult relationships in the context of larger social changes or problems? [more inside]
posted by AtoBtoA on May 2, 2014 - 36 answers

How to express love with Saturday Matinee clichés…

In my (D/s) relationship saying “I love you” is totally out of the question. However, expressions of affection and adoration expressing that sentiment are allowed and highly encouraged. In old B&W movies of the 1930’s/40’s I hear phrases like: “In my eyes there’s no man taller” (about a vertically challenged suitor), and “You set the sun, hang the moon and paint the stars"... Sappy, sentimental, campy, corny, kinky (bonus points for kinkified!), and just plain funny phrases that will let someone know that they are "the only duck in my pond" are what I’m after.
posted by goml on Apr 16, 2014 - 18 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

Small Valentine's gestures, not too corny, delivered sneakily

Ideas needed for a low-key sneak attack expression of "I'm glad you're in my life and I adore you, even if this holiday is for the birds (according to you)"? I expect no reciprocation (really) other than verbal acknowledgment + kisses. This relationship is good--fabulous, really--but scheduling/logistics and his stubbornness against "Hallmark holidays" mean that Valentine's will likely pass unmentioned. And yet...I love any excuse to do something special with/for him, so I'd like to leave something sweet on his doorstep. [more inside]
posted by magdalemon on Feb 5, 2014 - 27 answers

Can We Be Friends?

I had a sort-of breakup recently, and I'm wondering whether I should move forward as friends or never speak to this guy again. [more inside]
posted by cscott on Dec 23, 2013 - 24 answers

Oh the fun you'll have!

Magical video of festive people speaking lines in rhyme about life and fun? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo on Nov 25, 2013 - 2 answers

What Does a Woman Taste Like?

However bizarre my inquisition, for those men and women who have 'been down,' and eaten the proverbial flower, what have your experiences been like? What does it taste like? Men taste like skin and smell a bit earthy.. and sometimes taste incredibly salty which is slightly unpleasant but not off-putting in the moment lol. So what do we taste like?
posted by OneHermit on Nov 18, 2013 - 19 answers

Happy endings, the second time around

I'm seeking fictional stories of second chances at love that work out successfully, but not the standard Act II breakup with a happy Act III resolution. [more inside]
posted by The Wrong Kind of Cheese on Oct 28, 2013 - 11 answers

Is this breakup necessary, and if so, how can I survive it.

After 20 months, we're still passionately in love, but he "wants to make a life with me" and I am not sure either way whether that is what I want. But breaking up is really hard because we are really in love. [more inside]
posted by winterportage on Aug 27, 2013 - 54 answers

Talking about previous relationships?

I'm curious about how people talk about their previous relationships when they're with their current partner. How do you gauge what's right to say and what is not? [more inside]
posted by turgai on Jul 1, 2013 - 32 answers

Falling in love is the easy part.

I'm looking for movies about relationships that aren't about falling in love. [more inside]
posted by ruby.aftermath on Jun 26, 2013 - 30 answers

Benefits of living together (either married or not) versus living apart?

I've read about Living Apart Together (LAT) relationships and I can see the benefits of this arrangement for some specific situations/couples. I can also see the drawbacks. Living together -- either as a married or unmarried couple -- also has benefits (perhaps many more) and some drawbacks as well. [more inside]
posted by Lescha on Jun 24, 2013 - 28 answers

How to get over this urequited crush or limerence?

I have had feelings for my thesis advisor for a number of years. He is very extroverted and charming and what I always thought were signs that he is interested in me, I now see that it's just his personality. He is in an on/off relationship with a woman with whom he has 2 children. I want to get rid of these feelings and don't know how. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r on Jun 4, 2013 - 14 answers

I loved him, he loved me, but it was complicated and now he's dead.

I just ended a year-long relationship two months ago with the love of my life. He was a brilliant, creative, talented and generous man with Asperger's and a long, complicated history of severe mental illness. He was an Army vet and had lived an incredible life, full of adventures but also extreme trauma and heartbreak. He killed himself on Friday. How do I go on? [more inside]
posted by cardinality on May 5, 2013 - 20 answers

My friend is in love with another friend's sister?

tl;dr: Friend likes friend's sister. Friend is very socially awkward and sister is very scared of him for his "creepy" demeanor (according to her words) and the sister needs to know how to make him stop liking her. Ideas discussed include outright rejection, fake boyfriend, fake pictures, which I had mostly disagreed with, and need advice to sort this out. [more inside]
posted by JYuanZ on Apr 8, 2013 - 18 answers

Is mutual attraction as common in real life as it is in the media?

I've been in very few relationships in my life: 2 boyfriends of about a year each, and marriage for 8 years. I'm in my early 50s. I split with my husband at the end of 2001, and I've only had a very few first dates since then with men I met online, and no dating activity now for about 6 years. I am very overweight and have severe self-esteem issues, especially about my looks. But apart from that and the whole question of how to even meet men, I'm curious about the phenomenon of people meeting and feeling mutual attraction. I'm not talking about falling in love or the development of a relationship, but the first moments of meeting and reacting to another. In the media mutual attraction is depicted as happening commonly; it's the norm, like if one person has something in them that makes them react to another, it's kind of because that second person also has that same thing in them and reciprocates the attraction. Is this just a media construct? Is it pretty true-to-life?
posted by primate moon on Mar 8, 2013 - 23 answers

*Arabic speakers*: Brokenhearted girl needs your translation ability

Here is the photo with the Arabic message: LINK What does this say in English? I think the girl might represent me. She looks brokenhearted, too. Thank you so much for your help!
posted by thatgirl1985 on Mar 8, 2013 - 3 answers

How to get through these next hours, these next days.

My partner just ended our relationship, what strategies can I use to get through the night and next few days? [more inside]
posted by Asherah on Jan 19, 2013 - 34 answers

A song that describes slowly blossoming love that is held back?

What's a good song that embodies the feeling of... "you found the person with whom you want to spend a lifetime together... but you're kept from being together (not because there are other people, but other reasons)... and every day it hurts to dream about, in a sweet way." kind of like a song that would describe Jim and Pam's tentative pre-lationship in The Office season 1 on... thanks!
posted by dracomarca on Jan 16, 2013 - 21 answers

Another "One More Chance" Question

I’m considering ending my relationship. Should I give him another chance to make changes? of course it's long [more inside]
posted by Ms.Stocking on Jan 4, 2013 - 47 answers

Haven't forgotten my first love

can't forget my early love [more inside]
posted by lloubee on Dec 28, 2012 - 58 answers

Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?

Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk? [more inside]
posted by tamagogirl on Dec 27, 2012 - 109 answers

How do I feel better after all this?

How long is too long to still be upset about a break up? It's been 3 weeks for me as of today and while I'm approving a little bit, something is holding me back... [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Dec 23, 2012 - 15 answers

Help my younger cousin learn to love her skin.

How can I help my adopted cousin learn to love her skin? Have you been part of a transracial family? What did you find helpful or comforting? [more inside]
posted by turniphead on Dec 17, 2012 - 15 answers

is something very wrong here ???

I have an ex who seems to be be depressed and has sent me a few emails telling me that we are all programmed by the "Source" that free will does not exist, that nothing depends on us etc and that the "Source" has decided that he would always be unhappy in love ! And that if the "Source" has decided that he would be unhappy, unaccomplished, alone then he must be happy with that decision. (He's 55, pianist/composer, not well known, gets by with the financial help of his parents., never been able to commit or live with a woman. His father is bi-polar, been hospitalised a few times for that). This is contrary to my world view, which I told him but I'm rather worried about where his mind is going. Any thoughts, help much appreciated
posted by hopefulmidlifer on Nov 11, 2012 - 21 answers

When is love actual LOVE?

When does "I love you" mean something? And is there a way to say "OMGZ I'M HAVING SUPERSTRONG LIMERENT FEELINGS TOWARDS YOU" without sounding quite that weird? [more inside]
posted by f3l1x on Nov 6, 2012 - 33 answers

With this BBQ I thee wed...

My partner is planning to propose in a matter of a few months. I want have something that I can surprise HIM with when he proposes to me! Is it acceptable for a woman to give a reciprocal proposal gift to the man? And if it is acceptable, would a barbecue be a little too bizarre? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Oct 9, 2012 - 53 answers

Wistful Songs of Emotional Conflict?

I am looking for more songs similar to 10cc's "I'm not in love". Specifically, songs about attraction or falling in love but feeling conflicted over it or uncomfortable with it or questioning it. Difficulty: Must also be non-venomous, non-hostile, non-accusatory. So I am not looking for songs like "You give love a bad name" or Britney Spears "Toxic". [more inside]
posted by Michele in California on Sep 5, 2012 - 55 answers

Delicate Situation, a bit complicated

How long should I wait to tell my friend about my feelings? So here goes (sorry in advance for the very long post, please stick with me). First time around that I ask for advice on any website... [more inside]
posted by 560fence_cat on Aug 29, 2012 - 31 answers

Midlife relationship question

I recently met online a former high school boyfriend from 25 years ago. We've seen each other briefly at reunions, but now we are both single and he is over the moon with me before we've even had a chance to meet in person again, which will happen tomorrow. I am confused and overwhelmed by his interest in me, how do I proceed? [more inside]
posted by waving on Jul 17, 2012 - 15 answers

Rescue me! Stories of heroics & love

What are your favorite amazing stories? [more inside]
posted by Ys on Jul 15, 2012 - 15 answers

Like Being a Teenager

Still feel comfortable, happy and awkward around him. How can I stop the awkward part? [more inside]
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Jun 25, 2012 - 5 answers

He loves me, he loves me not- what does love look like besides a petal-plucked flower.

How do men act when they are in love with a woman? [more inside]
posted by saraindc on Jun 1, 2012 - 30 answers

Beautiful women, what should the ugly, creepy guy do after saying I love you

I made a horrible mistake. I told Tracy I love her. [more inside]
posted by CodeMonkey on May 30, 2012 - 28 answers

Trying to simmer down now.

What do you wish you had done just before you moved in with your SO? Pretty SFW. [more inside]
posted by OompaLoompa on May 22, 2012 - 13 answers

How I learned to stop worrying and love the dog

Tell me your experiences getting over fear or discomfort with dogs. My wonderful brother, bless him, loves me, but fears dogs. But now I'm getting a second one (German Shepherd puppy), the breed of his nightmares, and he is struggling. He's told me himself he wants to get over it, and I'm sure exposure and puppies will help, but I'd love to hear your own experiences and anecdotes getting past this. [more inside]
posted by Elfasi on May 3, 2012 - 27 answers

I love someone who can't show up. Ouch.

I love someone who can't show up for me now. Any insight? [more inside]
posted by dolce_voce on Apr 17, 2012 - 25 answers

when is it OK to forgive someone for their mistakes?

when is it OK to forgive someone for their mistakes? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Apr 4, 2012 - 30 answers

Can this be done?

Do the strategies in "Why Men Love Bitches" really work? I'm almost at my wits end in the dating scene. I'm not clingy or anything of that sort but I could use a little help in self-preservation. Is there a proper way to use the tactics in the book w/o too much manipulation?
posted by InterestedInKnowing on Mar 27, 2012 - 31 answers

How to get to Arlington, TX from DAL

Flying into Dallas Love Field Airport late in evening. How best to get to Arlington, TX? [more inside]
posted by anya32 on Mar 18, 2012 - 2 answers

what is the name of this werewolf love song?

What is the name of that song about a werewolf in love? [more inside]
posted by dolce_voce on Mar 18, 2012 - 4 answers

Trying to find a short story about love and loss, titled "Red."

[StoryFilter] I'm looking for a printed or electronic copy of the full text of a story titled simply "Red." [more inside]
posted by ArgyleGargoyle on Feb 9, 2012 - 2 answers

I am confused and alone.

Psychological/Romantic Filter: I don't know what else to do anymore. More inside. Not asking for advice on taking rejection. [more inside]
posted by Angel of Khaos on Jan 31, 2012 - 22 answers

Should I date my baby daddy?

Should I date my son's father, when we never really did way back when we were busy procreatin'? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame on Dec 28, 2011 - 21 answers

He is not sure about me or what he's doing with his life?

As everyone has already reminded me, I asked questions on here before about my bf. He admitted he is not in love with me but cares deeply for me? Still wants to be together? [more inside]
posted by Chelsaroo650 on Nov 14, 2011 - 27 answers

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