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anxiety + sleep loss + self-love/esteem

This will be a long one, so bear with me! I've had self-esteem issues for a while now, around 10+ years. I'm in therapy, I go to Al-Anon, call people in Al-Anon for support and have a decent social network. However, I'm in a healthy relationship that I value a lot and it's brought out a lot of my own personal insecurities as well as a decent amount of nights for the past 4 months of below average sleep. How can I address my anxiety better? Details in main post. [more inside]
posted by isoman2kx on Nov 28, 2016 - 13 answers

Letting go of a failed relationship...while we work together?

Gay filter: I am a 23 year old gay male. I started a relationship with a man of the same age that I work with. The relationship started fast and ended even faster. I went back to him after he hurt me, but soon decided enough is enough. Now I can't stand the pain when I see him in work, and I am still lingering over feelings of attachment to him...even though he hurt me! What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Lewnatic on Nov 15, 2016 - 10 answers

How do I pick myself up during the worst year of my life?

I have lost everything this past year. How do I move forward? [more inside]
posted by ladykitty5 on Oct 27, 2016 - 35 answers

Tell me this isn't limerence

I have been pretty sure I like this girl for a while now, and now that the issue has been raised and left unresolved, I'm in crisis mode and don't know what I'm feeling. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Dec 13, 2015 - 12 answers

Advice for dating someone with clinical depression

Most of the posts I found here were by posters suffering from depression themselves. I'm interested in those perspectives (what a partner can do to help) but primarily those of people who've been in relationships with a depressed person, but aren't depressed themselves. More specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by ism on Nov 6, 2015 - 24 answers

Can't love someone or just don't love someone? How do I fix this?

I have been a series of unsuccessful relationships where my feelings disappeared over time. I cannot feel love for my long term partner, but also no longer feel love for family members. I have a history of severe depression, which is clearly an issue, but am not currently feeling particularly depressed (by my own standards, if not those of most people). I don't know how to proceed in my current relationship, as I don't know if my feelings are masked, possibly recoverable or just gone forever. I have posted here before about other emotional issues, but I’m keeping this anonymous because the other threads would link this one back to me. The MeFi community was *amazing* last time. This is a much more complex issue, but I would still appreciate your views. Can I learn to love - my partner, myself, anyone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2015 - 8 answers

How to properly enjoy happiness?

I realize this is almost a bratty question to ask, but it's giving me a hard time. I am happy. Things are going well. I feel like I'm looking at a pretty sunset and thinking "eh, okay. enough of that. ho hum." How can I maximize my enjoyment (?) of this blessedly uncomplicated time in my life without screwing it up? [more inside]
posted by witchen on Oct 6, 2015 - 21 answers

How do I stop worrying about my loved ones getting hurt?

I can't stop envisioning scenarios in which people I care about get into horrific car/train/plane accidents or get sick and die. How do I accept my powerlessness to protect my loved ones 100% beyond the shadow of a doubt and just live with it? [more inside]
posted by Guinevere on May 13, 2015 - 12 answers

Powering through when it feels hopeless

I am having the worst holiday season of my life. Help me cope. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 29, 2014 - 41 answers

Please help me decide if I should move back to NYC from SF

Can't decide if I should move back to NYC from SF. Please help me find some new ways to think about the problem. [more inside]
posted by apostate street preacher on Dec 4, 2014 - 27 answers

Cant. Seem. To. Move. On.

I'm 30 and female. A year and a half ago I broke up with this guy who I had been with for just as long. I didn't want to break up with him, because I loved him dearly, but I had to because he was treating me so poorly near the end. Ever since we broke up, I've been a semi wreck when it comes to anything romantic. I had an ill-advised rebound with a secret alcoholic followed by a guy who took me for a three month long ride. Meanwhile my ex got back in touch from afar (he lived in another state) this summer and started calling me every night, telling me he loved me and was open to us being together again when I moved to where he lived. But when I actually did move to NY (where he lives) not for him but to start my career in earnest, he abruptly changed his tune. Suddenly he didn't even want to be my friend and couldn't stay in touch. We last spoke a month and a half ago (we've been in very sporadic contact since I moved) and I haven't heard from him since. [more inside]
posted by caseofyou on Mar 30, 2014 - 26 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

I feel like I’m not good enough. How can I battle my depression

I’m a 25 year old female and have been going through a lot of depression over the past year, mostly in the areas of finance and romance. [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 on Jan 25, 2014 - 19 answers

Will love tear us apart?

I'm experiencing a very tumultuous time in my relationship with my partner of 4 years. I don't know what part of our relationship problems are due to his ADHD, general depression on both our parts or incompatibility. Where can I go from here? What questions can I ask myself and him to get a clearer idea of the origin of our problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 26, 2013 - 4 answers

Taking time off from a relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 21 answers

Breaking up is hard to do

I'm ending my marriage. How do I do it with kindness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2012 - 25 answers

Breakup diplomacy, help me find peace

Breakup customs-filter. I did my boyfriend wrong, by becoming an exhausted-complaining mess, on a recent depressive lapse I had, partially due to a physical condition. He left me, scared and confused, though we were madly in love, after 3 months of this. I wish to part in peace. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 16, 2012 - 52 answers

Learned the lessons, still doomed to repeat

Regarding family and friends, how have you been able to let go of dark/problematic pasts, and moved forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 18, 2011 - 15 answers

Please help me find a purpose in life.

Please help me find a purpose in life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2011 - 15 answers

Please help me manage my obsessive thoughts

Why do my obsessive thoughts focus so much on my relationship, and what can I do to manage them? After living through years of sexual abuse as a child and teen, followed by a severely unhealthy relationship with an older man soon there after, I've actually found someone with whom I have potential to build something that could be really great. The trouble is that my brain is trying incredibly hard to sabotage this relationship, despite my best efforts to control it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2010 - 18 answers

WAKE ME UP!

Everyone has it harder than me. So I should be taking advantage of that, right? [more inside]
posted by defmute on Aug 12, 2010 - 17 answers

How can I resist the temptation to despair?

How can I resist the temptation to despair as I get older and still find myself unable to break consistent patterns of frustration in my work and personal life? (long) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 12, 2009 - 14 answers

How do I get out of this emotional hole and get things done?

Seeking short-term coping mechanisms for being productive in school during a devastating breakup, and for comedy TV I can watch to help me through it. Long story inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2009 - 32 answers

How do I stop feeling like I'm living someone else's life?

How do I stop feeling so detached from everything? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2009 - 15 answers

Fizzled Out on Passion

Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 21, 2008 - 13 answers

How can I moderate my behavior so I don't ruin my relationship?

I need help with my behavior regarding my boyfriend. He's absolutely great, but when he's not around I worry myself sick, to the point of incapacitation. What can I do to stop this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 24, 2008 - 17 answers

I love my boyfriend, but feel tense near him. Why?

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2007 - 16 answers

I Need Love! (Boyfriend withdrawing affection.)

My depressed boyfriend is withdrawing affection; I'm miserable. [more inside]
posted by Teevee's Bella on Dec 28, 2006 - 66 answers

I'm pretty sure I don't love my baby.

My baby is six weeks old. Increasingly, I have the feeling she's not very fond of me, which isn't unexpected since I'm coming to realize that I don't really love her either. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2006 - 52 answers

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