A woman i know through business network and common friends entered into my life after a series of events which seems like a fairy tale. However it might also be a a very bad cosmic joke. Now i am struggling to deal with the situation, help me to find my feet. Long version below.
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posted by yamamato
on May 17, 2013 -
13 answers
I’m a 31 year-old female. About 9 months ago, a 2-year relationship ended. I’m still struggling a lot with it. How abnormal is this, and what else can I do?
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posted by anonymous
on May 1, 2013 -
17 answers
I'm seeing a guy who hasn't done much dating. I can't tell how much of our dynamic is his lack of familiarity with dating, how much is just differences in our relationship preferences, and how much might be differences in upbringing. So what I need are some tools for figuring that out. Without using the phrase "Love Languages."
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posted by tulip-socks
on Apr 23, 2013 -
45 answers
I met this guy who approached me on an internet dating site (I am guy as well). I didn't find him physically attractive, but he seemed nice, we had a lot in common, and go to the same college, so I met up (I told him I wasn't really looking for a relationship at the time and just wanted to be friend). We met twice, and had a good time (as friends). He was cool, although we really didn't click like soul mates. I'm pretty sure he's interested in something more, but I'm definitely not. He wants to get together again, but I'm really conflicted about what to do.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 3, 2013 -
22 answers
I recently dated this guy whom I have to admit I liked him a lot for the sex in spite of everything else I hated about him. He is your definition of a player, he is hot and cold, talks to you one weekend, and not talk to you the next. After three months of hot and cold behaviors, I have finally decided to let him go but inside I am still hurting. Any heart to heart advice?
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posted by Likeashadow
on Apr 2, 2013 -
15 answers
I'm in a great new relationship, yay! It's been about 4 months. I like her. She likes me. But I am a classic anxiously attached type, and I would like your advice on how to cope with the "omg what will I do when she figures out I'm a loser and she dumps me and why didn't she call last night and she seemed annoyed when I said that and omg what if she doesn't like me anymore" feeling.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 1, 2013 -
11 answers
I recently met an amazing, smart woman. On our third date, I made a stupid comment that offended her. I made it worse by trying to cover myself. I really want to salvage this situation and see this woman again.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 31, 2013 -
55 answers
I met a girl at a bar and I want to know how to avoid chatting with her all week before our first date.
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posted by Atlantic
on Mar 31, 2013 -
25 answers
My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 3, 2013 -
21 answers
I've slept with a lot of guys and only enjoyed it with like 10% of them. Are my standards too high, or too low, or what?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 18, 2013 -
21 answers
I love him deeply, miss him terribly. He loves me more than anyone he's ever met. We go together like peas and carrots. But I broke up with him over one health problem that he can and would fix if I told him how much it bothered me. Am I nuts?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 3, 2013 -
41 answers
We've been together almost 2 years and at first I thought he was almost a perfect match for me. We got along, he made me so happy, he's so sweet, makes me laugh, and considerate. I know that every relationships get into the comfortable phase but lately I feel like he has taken me for granted and has gotten way too comfortable to the point I'm starting to lose interest in our relationship. I no longer look forward to seeing him and want to be alone, say I love you, kiss, or anything.
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posted by Asian_Hunnie
on Jan 30, 2013 -
49 answers
I have a friend who insists on a certain way of understanding how men and women couple off. Basically, he sees the situation as rather animalistic, where all the women are essentially waiting to be asked out, and the first men to do so get the "choicest" women. The rest of the women are left for, well, the rest of the men. Obviously, this is pretty traditional/sexist/chauvinistic. Anyway, barring all that, he feels a constant urgency to get to women "before somebody else does," because "the best women will be taken." Of course, I understand asking someone out before someone else does, but his theory is off-putting to me.
It seems like human personalities, reasoning, circumstances, geographies, and cultures throw a monkey-wrench into his theory. Things are a lot more complicated in my mind. Do you have an alternative way of seeing the dating world, have a different experience, or are there any studies that you could point me to on this subject?
posted by uncannyslacks
on Jan 23, 2013 -
38 answers
It's been 2 months. You have a great first date with a guy from internet. Chemistry! Romance! Sexual Attraction! Best first date ever. But the female has undesirable qualities. After a few more dates the female confronts the male about his intentions. He then calls her back in a passionate telephone call and says he's willing to have a go. Sadly, he seems to not really be that into her. He then again a few weeks later reiterates his fondness for the female, despite hang ups and she's now rethinking her position.
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posted by Danithegirl
on Jan 15, 2013 -
28 answers
Should I pursue a casual FWB relationship with this narcissistic but very intellectually interesting and sexy jerk?
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posted by tamagogirl
on Dec 27, 2012 -
109 answers
What are the healthy and fulfilling expectations of what a relationship should be and do for you?
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Nov 25, 2012 -
8 answers
The break up I recently is making me confused and it has shattered my confidence. I would like to know what happened, how falling in love is meant to be in reality and how to get back my confidence.
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posted by home
on Sep 22, 2012 -
14 answers
How do you stay in a relationship when you know there's a very good chance it might end soon? [Siberian winter's worth of snowflakes inside.]
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posted by Sockmaster
on Sep 17, 2012 -
42 answers
(re)met the daughter of a family friend last weekend at a wedding. We hadn't seen each other since we were 6 or 7 and she is two years younger than I am. The challenge--spent three hours together, live 600 miles apart, and I can't stop thinking about her. A few more details, but the question is "How can I see if this has potential to go somewhere?"
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 23, 2012 -
13 answers
If I had only known how awesome you are I would have never moved in with you...
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posted by bzzt
on Aug 5, 2012 -
61 answers
Why am I not in love with my girlfriend? I'm 25. She's 28. We're 7 months in and things are fine, but sometimes I wonder if things should be better. Am I over thinking things? Is more time going to change anything? Answers based off a guy's similar experience would be awesome, but all advice is appreciated.
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posted by yeahyeahyeah
on Jun 8, 2012 -
61 answers
Do the strategies in "Why Men Love Bitches" really work? I'm almost at my wits end in the dating scene. I'm not clingy or anything of that sort but I could use a little help in self-preservation. Is there a proper way to use the tactics in the book w/o too much manipulation?
posted by InterestedInKnowing
on Mar 27, 2012 -
31 answers
Falling for a woman. She just told me she just got out of a long term relationship (2+ years, ended this July) and wants to stay single for a while and work on herself because she always rushes into relationships. We've agreed things have been so easy, nice and right between us (3 weeks, 5-6 GOOD dates in), but she was very clear she does not want a committed relationship. I feel myself heading towards wanting just that. Am I headed to The Bad Place if I keep hanging out with her?
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posted by 3FLryan
on Nov 20, 2011 -
35 answers
I'm a woman in my 30's founding a startup that I'm very excited about. I'm also ready to seek out a serious relationship. Are the two mutually exclusive?
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posted by enzymatic
on Oct 28, 2011 -
18 answers
Would therapy fix me? If so, what kind of therapy? Or are there other recommendations for things that I can/could do? Another "I can't find love post" and I don't know what else I can do, please hope me ask metafilter.
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posted by Lord of the Sock Puppets
on Oct 19, 2011 -
8 answers
If you were unlucky in love for most of your life, but then things finally changed and you met the mate you feared you never would, what changed? Or was it just a matter of persistence?
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posted by oceanview
on Oct 15, 2011 -
26 answers
I feel like I'm stuck in that awkward phase of a relationship between dating and when things become serious. I'm ready for something more. I'm not sure my boyfriend is, and I'm concerned. Snowflakes abound.
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posted by erstwhile
on Oct 15, 2011 -
20 answers
Is this how love works? One day it's unmistakable, then next it's almost impossible to find.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 20, 2011 -
34 answers
I will not be seeing (or even hearing from) my boyfriend for a while. Are there any effective ways to cope with the craziness of missing him so badly?
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posted by accisse
on Aug 8, 2011 -
48 answers
What am I doing wrong in regards to dating, if anything? I only seem to connect to the "wrong" people. When someone likes me, I usually don't like them back. And more...
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 1, 2011 -
25 answers
extreme opposite personalities and ages, one fell in love with other unrequitedly, don't know what to do...
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posted by decpmt
on Jul 30, 2011 -
70 answers
I'm a mid-thirties man, committed relationship, wonderful kids, good job, great life, but I can not stop chasing attractive women. And it is wreaking havoc. How can I stop this, and why don't I want to?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 25, 2011 -
69 answers
Coping advice for a dating trauma? Soothing words before I can see my therapist? Do I go through a job interview tomorrow?
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posted by angrycat
on Jun 26, 2011 -
33 answers
