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What makes a woman "creepy?"

There's plenty of literature out there about creepy men, "nice guys" and other types of that sort. Where are all the resources for this regarding *women?* Google is only giving me examples like she put [something gross] in my food or she made inappropriate references to getting pregnant. I'm looking for something more subtle. Bonus points if it's aimed toward socially-awkward nerdy types. [more inside]
posted by Autumn on Apr 9, 2014 - 23 answers

How do you untangle the threads of a beat-up heart?

I'm in the early stages of a relationship with a wonderful woman; it's our second go at this. I'm pretty sure this is love. But my anxiety and depression is holding me back, or making me doubt how I feel, or stopping me from actually expressing how I feel. And I don't know how to navigate this. I don't know whether to push through all these uncertainties or walk away. Help me work it out, mefites. [more inside]
posted by six sided sock on Feb 11, 2014 - 18 answers

How To Talk About Sex

Occasionally, I bring up the subject of sex with my partner, and I always get nowhere. Sex has never been something that we've really talked about. We had those first few conversations when we met several years ago: disclosures of risks, general preferences, expectations for monogamy, etc. and from there we just let it develop naturally. We need to talk about it because our sex life isn't meeting my needs, and I've asked to talk about it, but I still don't know how to talk about it, and I'm afraid this is just going to become another in a string of failed attempts to talk about sex. [more inside]
posted by this *is* my happy face on Dec 19, 2013 - 28 answers

Advice for the anxiously attached.

I'm in a great new relationship, yay! It's been about 4 months. I like her. She likes me. But I am a classic anxiously attached type, and I would like your advice on how to cope with the "omg what will I do when she figures out I'm a loser and she dumps me and why didn't she call last night and she seemed annoyed when I said that and omg what if she doesn't like me anymore" feeling. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2013 - 11 answers

Taking time off from a relationship

My boyfriend and I have been dating for five months. After a big fight this weekend, we've decided to take a week off from seeing each other. Has this strategy EVER improved a relationship? &How do I best manage anxiety this week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 3, 2013 - 21 answers

Trying to simmer down now.

What do you wish you had done just before you moved in with your SO? Pretty SFW. [more inside]
posted by OompaLoompa on May 22, 2012 - 13 answers

How to distinguish relationship doubts from a complicated history?

I've been with a wonderful man for 4 years and I'm panicking about ending the relationship for no good reason. I still get smiley when he texts me and he makes me laugh, he's gorgeous, but I have these sudden adrenalin rushes and an overwhelming panicky feeling that I have to end the relationship immediately. I asked for three weeks apart to clear my head, and we made it to two before I wanted him here again... but the panicking is back! [more inside]
posted by Anne Onymouse on Feb 24, 2012 - 29 answers

The L-bomb is about to be dropped, roger that.

Help me say "I love you" for the first time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2012 - 23 answers

What happens when you marry someone you love but aren't deeply "in love" with?

Have you (or someone you know well) loved someone but weren't "in love" with them (had a strong, warm, happy relationship but one that wasn't very intense, passionate, etc) and gotten married/been in a long-term partnership? Did it matter that you weren't "in love" exactly? If it led to problems, what were they? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2011 - 56 answers

Please help me manage my obsessive thoughts

Why do my obsessive thoughts focus so much on my relationship, and what can I do to manage them? After living through years of sexual abuse as a child and teen, followed by a severely unhealthy relationship with an older man soon there after, I've actually found someone with whom I have potential to build something that could be really great. The trouble is that my brain is trying incredibly hard to sabotage this relationship, despite my best efforts to control it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2010 - 18 answers

Help me move through this PLEASE

Insight, advice, perspective required for relationship dramas/attempt to become emotionally unstuck (longggggg) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2010 - 12 answers

How to mend a broken heart

HeartbreakFilter: Help me come to terms with the end of my relationship and quit being in denial. [more inside]
posted by mesha steele on Dec 1, 2009 - 24 answers

How do I fix me?

I feel like my life is over and I'm only 35. I feel completely stagnant and stuck, relationshipwise and jobwise. Do I need to change things or do I need to learn how to deal? Help me figure out how to be a happier person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2009 - 34 answers

How did you find love or companionship in spite of anxiety?

What steps did you take to find your partner in spite of social anxiety or severe shyness? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2009 - 33 answers

Can love without infatuation still be "real love"?

I read this question about how to tell the difference between love and infatuation. Most of the answers seem to say that love and infatuation feel the same in the beginning but love is what lasts in the long run. My question is, is it possible to fall in love with someone with out really experiencing true infatuation with them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 24, 2008 - 26 answers

Fizzled Out on Passion

Depression has knocked my passion (for everything) out. Gwargh. What do I do while I get therapy sorted? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Jul 21, 2008 - 13 answers

How can I get over my fear of hurting others?

In relationships, I'm very, very afraid of the possibility having to break up and hurting the other person. DTMFA threads like this make me want to hide under my bed. I often don't get into relationships or pre-emptively end relationships quickly -- even if things are going great -- if I can imagine a time in the future when things won't work out. The fear makes it hard for me to know myself how I really feel. So my question to you all: can you give me advice -- maybe links to psychological studies or just from your own life experiences-- on how someone can know if a relationship is worth pursuing. Not looking for guarantees of eternal happiness and marriage, just the knowledge that even if things don't work out, I'm pursing the relationship in good faith... and not being an asshole. [more inside]
posted by specialfriend on Mar 18, 2008 - 27 answers

I love my boyfriend, but feel tense near him. Why?

I love my boyfriend and enjoy his company. He loves me a lot. Why then do I feel on edge when I'm near him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2007 - 16 answers

I guess I'm not over her after all.

How can I get over the selfish jealousy I feel towards my ex-girlfriend who is also my best friend and her new man? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 14, 2006 - 29 answers

Autophobia!

How can I deal with irrational attention craving issues when I'm out at the bar with my girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by ZackTM on Jun 15, 2006 - 29 answers

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