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Did I bury my cat wrong?

I had to put my beloved cat down last week and I'm frankly stunned by how hard the grief has hit me. He showed up at my back door 14 years ago and never left. We had a great time together. I decided to bury him in the garden but when I got home I found I couldn't dig down further than about a 8-12 inches because of tree roots and sprinkler lines. I have a bad back already, so in a panic, I buried him in his towel at that depth and put a 38-pound paver stone on top. I have a fenced yard and only a few stray cats (I note the ones always bullying him have disappeared) and maybe a possum find their way in. Now I am wracked with anxiety, worrying that he is not safe and I should not have done it, and maybe I should dig him up and cremate him, which would be awful to imagine...I can't stand it. Is there some drawback to this more shallow grave I don't know about? No animal could lift that stone. So far this anxiety and fear is the worst part of it. So if you could allay my fears, I'd appreciate it.
posted by PJSibling on Apr 25, 2014 - 28 answers

Impending pet death (probably). How do I take care of the remains?

I think I'm about to have to deal with the loss of a beloved pet cat. I am not sure how to best handle dealing with her remains. I want to keep them. Can anyone help me figure this out? [more inside]
posted by Because on Apr 16, 2014 - 13 answers

Help me figure out how to trust again (both other people and myself)….

What I’m trying to figure out now is how to trust people again, trust myself again, and find myself/my voice again. [more inside]
posted by lullu73 on Apr 9, 2014 - 11 answers

Afraid of being fired: how do I keep the fear from crippling me?

I have crippling, perhaps justified fear of being fired. My fear is making my performance suffer, causing me misery and probably making firing more likely. How do I stop thinking like this? [more inside]
posted by Marered on Jan 20, 2014 - 21 answers

In search of zero calorie beverage inspiration!

I'm trying to lose weight, again. One thing I perpetually struggle with is the impulse to snack, especially in the afternoon and evening. I'm trying to distract myself from snacking with new and exciting calorie free beverages, and I'm stuck in a rut. I love Diet Coke, but am trying to reduce my intake of chemical sweeteners. Plain water is obvious, and seltzer with citrus is only a little less so. I've experimented with cold brewing green tea, and I like that, but I am looking for more creative ideas. What are your favorite ZERO CALORIE beverages? I am really not interested in anything that involves any form of sugar. Ideally your idea does not involve artificial sweetener, but if it's an enchanting concoction that REQUIRES aspartame or sucralose, I'm down. I am in the U.S., if that matters, and you may assume I can procure just about any ingredient/beverage within reason. I'm interested in product recommendations as well as recipes, and note that I'm fine with a moderate level of fiddliness, as a project recipe that ends in calorie free indulgence will keep me away from the chips and ice cream for MINUTES AT A TIME. :)
posted by little mouth on Sep 18, 2013 - 62 answers

The amazing CPAP weight loss plan?

CPAP users: Did you manage to lose weight after starting CPAP? [more inside]
posted by Rosie M. Banks on Jun 25, 2013 - 11 answers

I loved him, he loved me, but it was complicated and now he's dead.

I just ended a year-long relationship two months ago with the love of my life. He was a brilliant, creative, talented and generous man with Asperger's and a long, complicated history of severe mental illness. He was an Army vet and had lived an incredible life, full of adventures but also extreme trauma and heartbreak. He killed himself on Friday. How do I go on? [more inside]
posted by cardinality on May 5, 2013 - 20 answers

Cat is allergic to Merrick--what should I try next?

Are there non-prescription simpler, yet awesome cat food to try to alleviate his allergies? [more inside]
posted by rawralphadawg on Feb 25, 2013 - 17 answers

Oh no you didn't

Recently in a social situation I was asked my thoughts on a budgeting item and I gave it along with a solution that I had given thought to and was planning on presenting to the budget chair. (We work in different departments but run things past each other on occasion). One of the people at the gathering was a woman with political ambitions for our small town. A few days later she wrote a letter to the editor that gave my exact idea. What would you do? On the plus side it was very well received, OTH it was mine. I realize I should have said nothing and it was my mistake. I figure people that were there would know it wasn't hers and hopefully someone will point that out. Can I address it or should I leave it?
posted by lasamana on Jan 28, 2013 - 12 answers

How to get through these next hours, these next days.

My partner just ended our relationship, what strategies can I use to get through the night and next few days? [more inside]
posted by Asherah on Jan 19, 2013 - 34 answers

What are some effective ways to process the emotions around big life changes?

What techniques do you use to process big changes in your life? I'm interested in specific tips to deal with change once you've accepted it and made it. [more inside]
posted by rockpaperdynamite on Dec 21, 2012 - 6 answers

How can I become more healthy and fit?

I've never eaten too healthy in my life. I feel like it's taking a toll on my body and my mood at a relatively young age. More details inside. (long and some things about my past) [more inside]
posted by Autumn89 on Oct 22, 2012 - 28 answers

Find me some motivation

I'm losing focus on my weight loss goals and I don't want to fall off the wagon. I have had to fight hard to lose what I have lost, and I do not want to back track. How do you get your head back in the game and really find the time to focus on it and prioritize it when your life has become extremely busy? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson on Sep 18, 2012 - 12 answers

Skinny people die

I have been overweight all my life, as has all of my family. I have noticed that as we age, get sick, and eventually die, between the sick and die part they get skinny! So each time I lose weight and look at myself I look like a cancer patient waiting to die and I gain it back. I've talked to a counselor who did a lot of hmmm and mmms which was too expensive to repeat. Any ideas how to fix my psyche and eventually fix my physique?
posted by msleann on Aug 24, 2012 - 14 answers

In the past 4 days I've had 4 lapses in memory. Otherwise I'm 100% fine. Is this a problem?

In the past 4 days I've had 4 major-ish lapses in memory. Otherwise I'm 100% fine. Is this a problem? [more inside]
posted by Chorus on May 20, 2012 - 27 answers

Should I send my condolences in hard-form?

My cousin's wife just lost her baby at 4 months along. This is her second miscarriage (one full-term pregnancy in between, daughter is now 1.5 y/o). I would like to send a card or have flowers delivered, but is it appropriate? [more inside]
posted by kthxbi on Apr 27, 2012 - 27 answers

New site is so much better, but no one wants to come!

Replaced an old website with a new (better?) version in Wordpress and traffic went down. Why? [more inside]
posted by doomtop on Apr 12, 2012 - 14 answers

how to get over an ex completely?

how to get over a breakup when you don't want the person back, but feel no closure? (note:very long) [more inside]
posted by teaforone on Feb 24, 2012 - 22 answers

I'm afraid of people seeing me exercising-while-fat. Please help me get over myself.

I have trouble breaking through my mental block on the path to weight loss. How do I mentally adjust myself towards an exercise regime and stick to it? Special self-loathing snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Ashen on Jan 13, 2012 - 43 answers

3100 kCal: Insane?

I'm assuming that the RDI of 3100 calories from my Android App is a bit high, right? YNMD. [more inside]
posted by glaucon on Dec 1, 2011 - 9 answers

Love Lost

How do I get over an ex girlfriend? No joke, I cannot get over this girl. we met last summer, and shared great times and it lasted for months. It was intense. Then, it just died. She lives in another state and I cannot just go see her, not without her wanting me to do so. We have talked some but that is all. I can accept that it's over, but I just cannot stop thinking about her. Help! I don't want to forget her, but I don't want to have her on my mind always! [more inside]
posted by cvoixjames on Oct 4, 2011 - 11 answers

Achieved a 100% Increase in Thumbs-up from the Creative Director!

How can I quantify achievement in a non-sales media job on my resume? [more inside]
posted by droplet on Oct 2, 2011 - 3 answers

Nom Nom Ow!

Is my diet triggering migraines? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust on Apr 19, 2011 - 25 answers

For the sake of something to carry.

Help me identify the author of this poem. [more inside]
posted by ThaBombShelterSmith on Jan 13, 2011 - 9 answers

Gift for a friend on an anniversary of loss

Gift ideas for a dear friend on the 3rd anniversary of a lost baby? [more inside]
posted by Zophi on Jan 7, 2011 - 36 answers

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him?

My friend's dad just passed away. How can I help him? What can I do? I live couple thousand miles away from where he is. Can you give me some suggestions? Is it bad if I start compiling list of government agencies or funeral homes for them to call? What else I can do?
posted by Carius on Jan 2, 2011 - 16 answers

Help me talk to Mamma Grizzly and Joe the Plumber.

What, if anything, is suddenly missing from the daily lives of rural, conservative Americans? How can I better understand the Tea Partier's point of view? [more inside]
posted by The 10th Regiment of Foot on Nov 15, 2010 - 49 answers

Baby you can have whatever you like

How much exercise do I need to get before I can eat whatever I want?! [more inside]
posted by Rocket26 on Aug 31, 2010 - 50 answers

How to pursue an ID Theft Affidavit when it involves family and the mentally unwell?

How to pursue an ID Theft Affidavit when it involves family and the mentally unwell? [more inside]
posted by panoptican on Jun 23, 2010 - 13 answers

How to support a grieving family.

Sadly I lost a friend to a long battle with cancer last night, her husband and teenage children are without any extended family in the area and will rely on some of us for the next while. Two things: 1 - Can you tell me of things that friends and family have done for you in similar circumstances that really helped at the time: large, small, immediately, over days, weeks, months, whatever. We'll sort out food, the pets and cleaning the house but what else can we do? 2 - Any advice on striking the right balance between giving them their space to grieve and being there to support to them?
posted by HopStopDon'tShop on Mar 21, 2010 - 22 answers

Whistling tea kettle that doesn't destroy my hearing?

Where can I find a tea kettle that plays a melodic sound when the water boils, rather than the common high-pitched screeeeee? I heard one once, so I know they exist, but I'm having zero luck finding one. Even when they claim to be pleasant, they aren't, and buying and returning tea kettles (especially online) is getting old fast. Do you have a lovely sounding kettle? Please tell me all about it.
posted by kestralwing on Feb 16, 2010 - 15 answers

(What's the Story) Morning blurry?

IKnowYouAreNotMyDoctor-filter: one blurry eye in the morning. [more inside]
posted by XiBe on Nov 4, 2009 - 14 answers

Anosmia - is it forever?

Getting over a lousy cold/flu, can breathe again but can't smell anything. Is this permanent? [more inside]
posted by terrierhead on Sep 17, 2009 - 13 answers

Do I need insurance for my web business?

Do I need to insure my web business? I am setting up a to-do list + calendar web application that holds users' data. Do I need to insure against data loss, or down time? Or can I put all that in a EULA (e.g., [web application] will not be responsible for any data loss, down time, data corruption etc)? [more inside]
posted by tomargue on Jul 12, 2009 - 7 answers

Huh?Filter: Advice needed on getting a hearing aid

Huh?Filter: Advice needed on getting a hearing aid [more inside]
posted by mad_little_monkey on Jun 29, 2009 - 23 answers

Would a tire that is losing pressure rapidly be safer on the front or back of the car?

I have a tire that keeps losing pressure rapidly. In a car with front wheel drive, would it be safer to have the tire on the front, or the back? At least until the tire can be replaced. [more inside]
posted by Malice on May 17, 2009 - 18 answers

How much weight loss is too much?

How much weight loss is too much? [more inside]
posted by TypographicalError on Dec 3, 2008 - 18 answers

Why Does Wellbutrin Cause Weight Loss?

Why does Wellbutrin cause weight loss? Even my doctor doesn't seem to know for sure. Are there unproven medical hypotheses or studies amongst doctors or pharmacists or anyone else that lean towards an as-yet-unofficial answer? (Feel free to get technical. If I don't understand, I'll Google.)
posted by WCityMike on Jul 20, 2007 - 10 answers

No-nonsense, serious weight loss community via mailing list?

I am looking for an e-mail mailing list in which weight loss is discussed. However, I'm looking for one with a very specific sort of attitude. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike on Feb 7, 2007 - 8 answers

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