My mother gave up a son for adoption in 1979 in the state of NJ. She hid this from me for most of my childhood, and now I would so much like to find him. I have her consent and a few bits of info, but am unsure how to proceed. Where do I go from here? What are my next steps? [more inside]
Just got a 90 day Audible trial and as best I can tell that lets me choose three books. I would like good looooong books, well read, quite possibly scifi or urban fantasy, recommendations? [more inside]
I want to know how I can reduce the length of the laces on my Hi Tops. A few ideas have popped into my head, but most aren't ideal. [more inside]
My fiance just helped my--to be as melodramatic as possible about it--archnemesis into the same elite career/institution he's in, so that now I have not one, but two people to pathetically peer at, looking in with my nose pressed to the glass. He also had a thing for her before we started dating (and during). I'm freaked out and bitter. Help me figure out how not to be a huge evil baby while I taste the many acrid flavors of the jealousy rainbow. [more inside]
In my last question I asked how to structure long, intricate arguments. Now I'm specifically asking for book-length examples that make the argument explicit. [more inside]
I met a guy who lives 8 hours away and really like him. Should I invite him to visit or focus on meeting people locally? [more inside]
Sprint no longer provides wire line (land line) long distance service here. Their announcement said that the local phone provider would have a list of options, but AT&T only tried to sell me their own long distance. Now what? [more inside]
I am currently considering a big move, but I have zero idea how to figure out if this is a good idea, or if I can expect to command the salary that I will need where I want to go. BEAN PLATE WITHIN. [more inside]
Our kid is turning one-year-old and we're throwing a big party in a couple of weeks at my parent's house in Long Island. We'd like to hire a photographer to document the day and have been looking around, but we're mainly just finding wedding photographers. We'd like to hire a professional (or, at least, expert) photographer -- we don't want to just give a camera to one of the guests. Are there professional photographers who aren't on the wedding circuit who'd consider doing this sort of thing? Would art or MFA students be interested in doing this sort of work (and, if so, how would we find them)? Are there other non-wedding routes that we haven't thought about but should be exploring?
Your tips for a road trip from Toronto the East Coast of Canada, please! [more inside]
Trying to find a song based on what I remember on the music video. Was sung by a woman, kind of melancholy sounding. Most notable part of the music video was a woman riding a horse and she had dramatically long hair that floated through the sky. [more inside]
Four of us will be heading from Williamsburg (Brooklyn) to Roslyn Harbor/Glen Head in Long Island for a wedding on a Saturday. Does anyone have any car service recommendations that will be less than $100 each way? FYI it looks to be about 45 mins/25 miles on a Saturday afternoon. [more inside]
How do you handle long distance relationships, or rather potential long distance and keep your mind off of things without dwelling on it too much? [more inside]
I have a long torso (36" sleeve) and I'm currently wearing the longest gi top I could find locally. It has a tendency to ride up and I'm constantly pulling it down. Is there someone who sells extra long karate uniform tops anywhere (and takes credit cards)?
So, I really like fresh, clean smelling perfumes - like you just stepped out of a shower. I love Pure Grace by Philosophy, which pretty much encapsulates this. My only issue is that the scent doesn't last long and I have the EDP version. Can you recommend a fragrance that smells like soap and water but has longer lasting properties? Basically Pure Grace except with staying power.
Should I take the leap, and take the risk, or should I just forget about it and move on? [more inside]
Most cheap non-rechargeable AA Batteries (typically from China) go flat very quickly. About 15 years ago, typical batteries seemed to last about 4 times longer (my subjective opinion). I want long lasting batteries, what is a good type, what should I look for, what terminology "alkaline?". Thank you.
Have you sent mail to Finland from the U.S. with Priority Mail International? Has that ever taken longer than 10 business days? (No customs value involved, in my case - just a standard flat envelope of papers with no value.) [more inside]
Looking for a recommendation for a LONG (6 feet) Apple Certified Lightening Cable that works works to charge my iPad. [more inside]
I have a few hours waiting in an airport, i know most of the art history documents, but does anyone know any examples of brilliant long reads, in theology, music criticism, general culture and the like, that could keep me entertained, in downloadable pdfs.
I moved cross country 4 years ago. It's hard to stay in touch with my friends from back there, and I know people move on and away from friends at times. But I'm thinking I should stop trying to keep a connection with them after an email I sent asking for encouragement was ignored. [more inside]
I've got PTSD and am socially isolated in graduate school. I met a hot guy, and had to friend-dump him because he's in a long distance relationship. Tell me I did this right! [more inside]
I broke up with my LDR significant other ("SO") because of SO's emotional affair, which SO concealed from me. Is my regret and doubt for breaking up with SO a signal to reconcile or a natural part of the loss? [more inside]
I have thick, between wavy and curly, longish hair that comes to about mid-upper-arm. I have used the same plastic cushion brush for over a decade (yes, I wash it) and have been fine with it. I recently read about ionic and ceramic brushes and am curious: is there a demonstrably better brush for my type of hair? [more inside]
What meals-in-a-box should I send to my darling? [more inside]
I am in a strange situation. Around 8 or so months ago I met a man on a message board. We started private contact and things quickly turned romantic. He lives in another country that I will be visiting in a few months. There are some concerns in if I should bail now or go through with the meeting. Details inside. [more inside]
Is there any chance that a relationship with a girl with issues from her past could work long term? have there ever been any that have been successful? [more inside]
In other words, something, like a pipe, that is so long and straight that it can't be laid flat on the earth because of the latter's curvature?
What is this really, really stupid bug? [more inside]
I am off to Vegas for a long weekend with my Mum this weekend. What are the Top Things we should see and do? [more inside]
My daughter's on the other side of the ocean for a little while, but we keep up with daily video chats. We talk, goof around, make faces, play with puppets, but I sometimes wish I had more ideas to keep her entertained. Can you think of any other fun things we could do? [more inside]
Casually dating a great guy. He's smart, funny, we're comfortable with each other. We've been seeing each other for 2 months now. The issue is... I don't find him incredibly physically appealing. Can I overcome it? [more inside]
I'm living on a sailboat for the summer, currently in Wickford, ri. My car is down here but I would like to go away for a month or two. Currently I don't have a place to leave my (old but important to me) car. Can you suggest a very cheap or free place I can leave my car somewhere in the vicinity? [more inside]
I'm in a new relationship, long distance. We skype almost daily. Often, mid-convo, I can tell his attention is on something else. Turns out he's flipping through Reddit. This makes me feel hurt, b/c he's not listening to me. When I suggest we end the convo and talk the next day, he says, "No, no! I'm done! I'm done!" Then I feel like a nagging mom, policing his behavior. What should I do? [more inside]
I met a guy online and I'm interested in him. The feeling seems to be mutual, but I feel like we're stuck in an awkwardly unclear moment that leaves at least one of us (me) in limbo. How can we crawl out of this limbo and progress to something meaningful? [more inside]
I'll be in Montreal and Longueuil, Quebec, Canada for two weeks. What budget-friendly things should I do there? [more inside]
Do you know some long-wait presents? I am planning an anniversary gift, and I would like to show that I want to be with this person for a long time. I am interested in signing up for some long wait tours, experiences or gifts. I am thinking of things like the Canadian flag at parliament hill - a 25 year wait list, but anything >1 year is good. [more inside]
Where can I find leatherworking supplies and leather at a storefront on Long Island, preferably Suffolk County? All I've found are hat shops or defunct addresses. [more inside]
I live in a major east coast city and my boyfriend of almost two years lives in a much smaller city 2.5 hours away in another state. We are both in our late 20s. We see each other almost every weekend - he has a car, and I take the bus. We have lived like this for the entirety of our relationship. Our relationship is great and we're very happy together - we agree we want to live together, get married and have kids. We've known this from pretty early on in the relationship, but have always struggled with figuring out how to close the distance gap. At the New Year, we agreed that by the end of this year we would have figured out how to be in the same place if we were not there already, but the same arguments are flaring back up. [more inside]
How likely are these particular conditions of our home to affect an appraisal? Additionally, is there a significant benefit to addressing these condition concerns prior to appraisal for the purposes of a refi? Very long winded details inside… [more inside]
How to bring a Melbourne woman a little romance from half a world away? [more inside]
I have been getting annoying and possilby disturbing calls from an old friend. I looked up the number and it's registered as a cell phone with an out of state area code. However, since it is a cell, the person could still be placing those calls from the local area. I called my phone provider and unsuprisingly, they couldn't help. Is there another way to find out the physical location of the caller?
Hoping for advice, encouragement, discouragement, honesty, etc. I just ended a marriage (shy of one year) last year and am newly single as of four months, I was in a 6 year relationship which ended because I realized my ex was not faithful and continued to question our marriage. [more inside]
How to pack a soundbar? [more inside]
I like him a lot, but I don't feel like I have much to give in a relationship. He wants to wait, I have PTSD and I'm not so sure.
I like him a lot, but I have PTSD don't feel like I have much to give in a relationship. He wants to wait, but I'm not so sure. [more inside]
Is it more important to be near family or to follow career developments? Snowflakey existential question that needs review. [more inside]
I'm tired of buying cheap stuff that doesn't last. Instead, I'm trying to buy better, long-lasting products, even if they cost a bit more up-front. Since it's not always obvious where to find them, I'm querying the hive. What are your favorite well-made, long-lasting products, in any category? [more inside]
Where is the cheapest long term parking around the San Francisco Intl Airport? [more inside]
Can you really be addicted to a certain kind of sadness? Ugh...I hate that song. My boyfriend has serious intimacy issues but is trying to work on them. I feel intermittently insecure/frustrated/sad/angry and I don't know how much longer I can take it... [more inside]
For a while now, maybe several months or so (this only proves further how terrible my memory is) I have been experiencing long term memory loss. I have great trouble remembering my childhood, places I've been to, anything at all that i learned in school a year or two ago. I always forget what I say to people even a few weeks ago. They will talk about something I said or something I did and I won't remember. When I go to bed, the hours just before become unknown to me. When I try to remember what happened in the last hours of the night it is all foggy and fragmented. This is not something I normally experience, especially all the things I've done with family and friends, I can barely remember anything and it makes me very sad. [more inside]