I'm childfree, meaning I don't have kids and don't want them. I'm also on the far end of the loner scale. I have some questions about finding a partner and using OKCupid to do it.
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posted by moonlit walk on the sun
on May 19, 2013 -
46 answers
I really miss the affection, romantic interest and even just the regular physical touch of another human being. I'm going through several life transitions and can't really start a relationship until at least the fall, but how do I tide over the desperate feelings of loneliness until then? I don't want casual sex or a pet.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 27, 2013 -
17 answers
My father-in-law lives alone, has a poor diet and a heart complaint, is a hoarder, is lonely and socially isolated, and it makes my partner miserable worrying about him. How can I help my partner, help my FIL, and help my partner help my FIL?
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 20, 2013 -
10 answers
I'm having a hard time dealing with feelings of profound loneliness and paranoia about the states of friendships which in turn affect my dreams and my moods (being a vivid dreamer) and I don't like the affect it has on my happiness. Is there any good literature or advice that you can give to help me conquer these feelings and appreciate what I have in my friends or branch out to finding others? Any communication advice to being clear with friends and alleviating my paranoia without insulting them or sounding weird?
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posted by Recca
on Jan 22, 2013 -
6 answers
I'm a 20 year old girl who has had little experience with real romantic relationships. I also have trouble with friendships---though I am super extroverted and can mix and mingle in parties with ease, creating sustainable friendships is very difficult for me. I'll be going on exchange in France for 5-6 months in January. I'd like to practise and build intimate friendships and romantic relationships (short-term, but meaningful!) when I'm there, and try to get a handle on WHY I usually have trouble. How can I do this? More deets inside.
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posted by rhythm_queen
on Oct 22, 2012 -
18 answers
I'll try to make this not too long-winded, but basically I find myself at square one for like the hundredth time in the past 6 years, and I'm just flat out of resilience. Help me form a plan for getting through the impending long dark winter.
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posted by like_a_friend
on Oct 16, 2012 -
25 answers
This is a very difficult and embarrassing question to write. So please be kind. But essentially, I have been (involuntarily) celibate for many many years and it’s driving me CRAZY. How can I stop this decade-long dry streak? And if I can’t, how can I learn to make peace with it?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 24, 2012 -
42 answers
How can I help my grandma feel less lonely? She has dementia and alzheimers, but it still pretty together most of the time. She should be surrounded by family, but isn't- we are all so spread apart. . .
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posted by abirdinthehand
on Aug 25, 2012 -
13 answers
Everyone is leaving me! How I do deal with everyone else moving away and moving on while I'm stuck here?
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posted by gumtree
on Aug 19, 2012 -
12 answers
I'm in a funk through completely failing to take my romantic/social live into my own hands. How do I fix this?
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posted by neilb449
on Jun 16, 2012 -
11 answers
How does a single parent cope with an already limited social life and general stress with the added crap of breaking up (again!)?
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posted by retrofitted
on Apr 16, 2012 -
10 answers
My dog is about 7 years old, she is a Australian mini. Whenever I go away after work for more then a few hours she cries, mopes and whines. She has this annoying habit of whistling through her nose. I live with my family and commute to work with my Dad & to school, so most days we're leaving at 8am and back 6pm--she does fine then but then if I'm gone & my Dad is home is when she is really fussy. I typically spend the weekend with my Fiancé, which really bugs her (I can't take her with us as my Fiancé lives in a Resident Hall).
If I go out of town, or away for the night she is still really needy and fussy.
How can I get her to be less annoying for my family, to be less fussy about me being gone? I take her for walks and love on her when I am home but that's not enough.
Any suggestions or ideas would be most helpful.
posted by snow_mac
on Apr 15, 2012 -
6 answers
I'm a lonely extrovert looking to take the edge off the loneliness by playing an MMO. Which one should I play?
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posted by Pericardium
on Mar 29, 2012 -
11 answers
My partner recently moved to NYC from the Northwest. Help me help him (geeky, science-loving, and politically active) find friends that aren't already mine!
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posted by corb
on Feb 21, 2012 -
22 answers
How do I handle the reaction of my family and (people I thought of as) close friends to the news of my divorce? Lots of special snowflakes ahead.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2011 -
27 answers
Extroverts: What do you do when you have to be alone for a long time? Or you have to make a decision and there's no one to call and talk it through with you?
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posted by sweetkid
on Dec 13, 2011 -
20 answers
When it comes to interpersonal relationships, I’m having a difficult time managing. I only have 3-4 good friends, and I haven’t had a girlfriend since before GW Bush was re-elected in 2004. Lately it even seems like the few friendships I have are suffering. I cant figure out how to move forward from this point in my life.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2011 -
11 answers
How do I go about making friends? I know the
theory I just never manage it in reality...
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posted by twine42
on Jul 18, 2011 -
14 answers
Recently single, depressed, and lonely. Need things to fill my nights and weekends where I can meet people and potentially find a community.
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posted by lacedcoffee
on Jun 22, 2011 -
40 answers
I broke my left hand (I am right handed), what are some things that can make my recovery more successful, entertaining, and easier?
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posted by Jsn7821
on Jun 10, 2011 -
10 answers
Single female traveling solo for nine days in Kuala Lumpur and Bali. Please reassure me that I'm not going to be sad and lonely and freaked out the entire time.
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posted by ladybird
on May 19, 2011 -
16 answers
I wait until, I think a task needs to be done ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY or NO MORE DELAY possible to do anything.
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posted by daveg02
on Apr 27, 2011 -
23 answers
I am feeling a little lonely, and want to get involved in some local activities, but I don't know where to start. I'm looking for specific suggestions and recommendations.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 11, 2011 -
16 answers
Help me with this brain feeze?
No one visits me, I have no friend or I can get along with anyone socially great first few times. So I decided to let everything go. I cant ask help to anyone in person so this post.
I do have a good job, good credit, somewhat healthy, good education {May be I never learned :) }
Couple of days in a week I think as follows...
I am living a life, lifestyle thats truly less than the true potential.
Selling myselves less
so called "plucking the low lying apple"
Not stretching my comfort zone.
Some people have said that may be I get depressed.
The problem is I dont always try to change it.
Instead I just think about all the chances I screwed up and all the people, relationships I have pissed off.
Its like my brain freezes to come up with solution and want to just watch TV and eat pizza(comes later though).
For few days I live a very lethargic , lazy life.
Dishes lie unwashed, no laundry, no bath, no gym, exercise.
I live alone, so need to be ashamed of someone might say something.
I am 31 years old, live alone, never been in a relationship, no gf(as I piss off everyone in some way I cant understand).
I do have a good job, good credit, somewhat healthy, good education {May be I never learned :) }
Help me with this brain feeze?
posted by daveg02
on Feb 9, 2011 -
9 answers
My first boyfriend/first love and I recently broke up after nearly four years together. I know this was the right decision, but I feel like I'll never feel this way about anyone else ever again. I realize that sounds dramatic, silly, and naive, but I'd really like to hear from the perspective of someone who's been through it that, yes, life does go on (and maybe get better, in a different way) after a first love.
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posted by gypsyhymns
on Jan 4, 2011 -
24 answers
I'm 35 years old. I'm funny, smart, beautiful. I make good money and have a lot of friends. But I've never been in love, nor has anyone told me they loved me. Forever Alone?
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posted by boostershot
on Dec 30, 2010 -
93 answers
I have weird feelings of guilt/empty-nest role reversal?? My parents are relatively young (dad is 54, mom is 57), and I just moved out a few months ago 500 miles away, and I am scared to death that something is going to happen to them and I won't be there to save them. Is this psychological torture completely crazy?
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posted by LemonGardot
on Dec 30, 2010 -
16 answers
Should I suck it up and get into a relationship with/sleep with someone I'm not really attracted to, to gain some relationship momentum (ie break the streak) and get over someone I can't have?
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posted by vilolagrl
on Dec 28, 2010 -
53 answers
Given that I know my defence mechanisms are still operating on high after leaving an emotionally abusive relationship, and I keep getting cold feet with anyone who tries to get close to me, and yet still crave small doses of intimacy, how can I ethically conduct myself with people who are/could be interested in me?
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posted by Chrysalis
on Dec 21, 2010 -
6 answers
When I was 23, I got married. It was really great for six years, and then for a year and a bit, really pretty horrible. We worked hard at it, but it didn't. Now I'm 30 and we've been separated for 3 months. Definitely feels right that it's over, and in time we'll divorce. It feels too soon to start dating - problem is, I'm lonely and really missing sex.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 23, 2010 -
15 answers
Logistics of a license-less carless introvert ending a 20 year marriage: I don't know where to start with my preparation.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2010 -
17 answers
How do you break out of a depressed/unmotivated/lonely funk? (see: in college and on your own for more details..)
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posted by isoman2kx
on Nov 19, 2010 -
10 answers
what is the secret to make people like you and call you back to hang out or to go on a second date?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 1, 2010 -
24 answers
My 29yo sister lives 3,000 miles away in NYC and just broke up with her long-term, live-in boyfriend. She's devastated. I want to be supportive and present for her even though I'm far away. Aside from phone calls, what can I do from here to help her there?
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posted by DarlingBri
on Jun 8, 2010 -
33 answers
Should I date someone I'm not attracted to if the other option is never dating?
I'm a girl. I went on a date with a boy I met on the internet, and it was pathetic. We talked about my mother, his mother, and lesbian movies I've seen. (Was that a bad subject for a first date? I'm inexperienced.) He was using open body language and I was using closed. I didn't realise this at the time. He was totally uninitiative and way too nice and I found that unappealing.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 6, 2010 -
32 answers
I love collaboration and teamwork and I need your job and career suggestions.
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posted by mleigh
on May 21, 2010 -
6 answers
How do I meet new people when I am embarrassed because I have had no friends for a while? I'm afraid I'll come across as desperate.
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posted by anonymous
on May 18, 2010 -
19 answers
I need to get out more. Problem: Back when I was outgoing, the people I ended up meeting through meetups were totally weird.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 11, 2010 -
9 answers
