I've been in Rochester, NY for two and a half years now for graduate study, and I have about that much longer to stay here. I haven't liked the city since I moved here (the weather is terrible, the city is small and geographically isolated, it feels like everything important is happening elsewhere, the natural beauty is underwhelming, etc. etc.). Recently I've come to believe that it isn't really the town's fault, but mine, since I never really gave Rochester a chance. How do you cultivate a love for a city that you didn't grow up in, never intended to come to, and plan to leave as soon as professionally possible? [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns
on Apr 9, 2014 -
I want a device that I can attach to our front door, and if the building's alarm goes off, a signal would be relayed to an alarm outside our bedroom door. Does this kind of thing exist? [more inside]
posted by EastCoastBias
on Apr 8, 2014 -
I've searched around, and it appears the common guideline for considering rent amounts is not to go over one-third of your monthly salary. [more inside]
posted by uncannyslacks
on Mar 23, 2014 -
I just started my first batch of homebrew cider using Lalvin EC-1118. I had a little yeast left over, and didn't want to throw it away, so I fed it some apple juice and honey. I started wondering about what I could do with it, but a little voice said to me "ah, better think twice about this." [more inside]
posted by brenton
on Mar 19, 2014 -
After living the nomadic life for many years, I'm starting to think about settling down again. Search criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by grinagog
on Jan 29, 2014 -
Looking for advice on cost of living in France (South of Paris, Nice or Toulouse area). Partner and I would be making €120 to €140,000 combined household, before taxes. Another option is California where we could make way more money (at least $200-$220k combined, and less taxes). What is the cost of living in California (Irvine or San Diego) as a comparison? Is it expensive to have kids in the US? [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg
on Jan 13, 2014 -
My spouse and I are interested in living in the UK next summer. We'd like to stay for three months, and we're looking for ideas on where to live and how to approach organizing this visit. [more inside]
posted by foggy out there now
on Dec 23, 2013 -
I finally found a place in Brooklyn that seems perfect with one catch: it's in a semi rough area. The thing is I can't seem to get a clear opinion online of exactly how unsafe it is. [more inside]
posted by timsneezed
on Dec 23, 2013 -
Should I get a mortgage even if all the house I can afford right now in the Northern Virginia (NoVa) area is $120k to $150k (according to two different calculators)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 10, 2013 -
I'm moving to Las Vegas for a few years. I have a lot of experience living in tourist towns and dens of vice, but I've never lived in the desert. (I've been more of an ocean person.)
Tell me what I need to know to get up to speed as a local in Las Vegas, Nevada, and the desert. What, from a local's point of view, separates Las Vegas from other cities? What did you wish someone had told you before you moved there? [more inside]
posted by Ookseer
on Dec 4, 2013 -
When I moved into my apartment with my roommate, the manager at the time said we could remove or add roommates as we pleased and could even add a roommate and remove ourselves off the lease completely if we wanted to move away before the lease was up, so long as we notified the manager and signed a form.
I am considering moving out before the lease ends. We now have a new manager and when I checked with her, she says this is not true, that I cannot be removed from the lease at all even if my roommate agrees to it. However, I looked over my lease and it seems to say that I absolutely CAN do that, as long as everyone agrees. (See extended for the exact lease quote.) [more inside]
posted by brista
on Sep 3, 2013 -
I just moved into a new apartment with an east-facing bedroom, and the blinds on the two windows (one is horizontal, one vertical) do a terrible job of blocking out light in the morning when I'm trying to sleep. Installing curtains over them would probably help a bit, but I'd imagine the gap between the window and the curtain is increased by the presence of the blinds and will thus prevent an effective seal, especially from the sides.
What's the best solution to really block out the sunlight in a way that's easily put aside when I wake up and am ready for all that sunlight?
posted by Vexir
on Sep 3, 2013 -
How do I support my brother, his wife, and myself through my sister-in-law coming out as a lesbian? [more inside]
posted by katie521
on Jul 5, 2013 -
Mrs. Quizicalcoatl and I are finally moving to the Boston area with our 9- and 7-year old. What do we need to know? [more inside]
posted by Quizicalcoatl
on May 20, 2013 -
Basically I am a SERIOUS daydreamer and while I love this about myself and it makes me-time fun etc I have been told that I seem floaty and spaced out even in social interactions and I have noticed that people don't connect with me as much/take me as seriously!! This has not affected my daily functioning, but it is becoming a problem in my personal life and also in my work life because how am I supposed to achieve my goals if people don't connect with me or dismiss me because I seem 'distracted'... I would like to be more lively and focused and I would be grateful for any advice on that (I am anticipating lots of 'meditation' but would like other suggestions if possible as meditation is torturous and I have tried it and hated it.)
posted by dinosaurprincess
on May 6, 2013 -
I'm trying to decide whether to stay in my current apt or go to another one. Details including snowflakery below. [more inside]
posted by Prairie
on May 1, 2013 -
Tell me about living in Winnipeg, Canada. All the good, the bad and the ugly. Low salary and in scientific research and a foreign worker....what did you like and hate about it?
For someone who loves being out in the sun, walking/hiking outside a couple of times a week, is this going to be hard to navigate, if its an option at all that is? Or am I going to freeze inside with boredom in my apartment for most of the year and get seasonal depression and what not? I have never lived anywhere where it snows but I love winter. However, I am not sure if I am considering the Tundra here... It is especially important for me right now, at the point where I am in life, to be able to go out and about and walk, as silly as that may sound.
Thanks in advance!
posted by xm
on Apr 14, 2013 -
As per my previous question, my wife is attending a course in London in June so we are moving from Australia for three months. We were thinking somewhere central initially, but the prices are nuts, so we will probably pick somewhere on the tube line (red or black line). Any suggestions for the seasoned London mefites in this thread that would suit our family of four (me, wife and two preschool boys). For reference, our rent here is equivalent to about 250 - 300 pound a week, but no idea how that compares. my wife would also be okay with up to a 1 hr commute, especially if we live at the start of the line and she can get a seat. Thanks all.
posted by ranglin
on Apr 13, 2013 -
Hey, I'm 35 and want to make a will for peace of mind. Nothing much, just want to state how I'd like to be cared for and declare and executor.
I've read that in NYC you don't even have to have a will notarized. I've also seen a few sites where you pay to make a will online like this one:
Any tips on getting started? I don't have or know a lawyer. Should I just fork over the $40 and make a will online?
posted by gpoint
on Mar 18, 2013 -
I have thyroid disease (hypothyroidism) and have been struggling for weeks as my body adjusts to a new medication. How can I keep my spirits up? [more inside]
posted by raintree
on Mar 9, 2013 -
Is there anything to be done about (probably unintentionally) loud neighbors? [more inside]
posted by sucre
on Feb 25, 2013 -
I've got the chance to spend two years doing research work at a university in either Boston or Philadelphia. I've never been to either city, and I can't visit them before deciding. I'm looking for general impressions of what life would be like in each place. (I've posted some other details inside, but because I'm so ignorant of both places, this is pretty free-form...) [more inside]
posted by Beardman
on Feb 22, 2013 -
I'm sure you've all heard the phrase "living in your parent's basement." I was just wondering if it is common or if young adults/people actually live in basements or if it's just a saying. Where I'm from (southern california), I've never actually heard of anyone living in a basement, usually they will have a room in the house.
posted by nathanm
on Jan 22, 2013 -
In the past few weeks, MetaFilter has introduced me to Beate Sirota Gordon
and Aaron Swartz
, each of whom made the world a better place to live. I'm so happy to know of them and their work, but sad that I'm only learning of them via obituary; I celebrate them, and I want to celebrate the living, too. So help me out: who are the people I may not have heard of who, still here and still fighting, have worked or are working to make the world a better place?
posted by davidjmcgee
on Jan 14, 2013 -
I have just accepted an ex-pat assignment to Malaysia, specifically Malacca. I have a variety of questions, some specific to my family situation: my wife is three months pregnant and we have a toddler. See inside for details. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by John Frum
on Jan 8, 2013 -
I'm currently looking for work in Japan. I'm scouring the internet, Dave's ESL cafe, ALT (assistant language teacher) listings and am not really looking for help in that respect. If you have any suggestions however, I am happy to hear more. The only exception would be if anyone knows of any Eikaiwa (Private school) jobs or any forums that post job listings..
It is my question that since the work is not always steady and there is the possibility I would go there just to tutor, there is waaay too much flux in my ability to pay for rent. I need help figuring outside work.
Outside of selling Japanese items around the world, I'm trying to figure out ways to make money with a general skill set. I'm vocal enough and confident in my speaking ability so I figure I can lead tour groups on my free time and post the listings on craigslist. I'm also looking into working as a waiter or dishwasher, but I was hoping for some help generating ideas.
PS - I alreadly have information on career cross and gaijin pot. If anyone knows any temp agencies are teacher employment agencies, that would be appreciated as well.
posted by Nighthawk3729
on Nov 25, 2012 -
I've recently realized that we develop and make progress in our life when we experience new things and get out of our comfort zone. What are the different ways we can experience new things? [more inside]
posted by markbao
on Nov 15, 2012 -
Young couple moving to Seattle area: where to live (rent) with great views, relative serenity, but close to civilization? [more inside]
posted by Talisman
on Nov 13, 2012 -
I feel awful. Please share your resources for reasonable, safe and sane information about nutrition. [more inside]
posted by vignettist
on Oct 29, 2012 -
Lately, I've been fantasizing about pulling a George Costanza
---realizing that if every instinct I've had have is wrong, then the opposite would have to be right. In my case, I want to just abandon my "ethics," stop thinking I'm special, and going out there, and trying to make some serious money.
Has anyone just pulled a George Costanza and taken the 'opposite' approach to life?
For example, have you walked into a job interview and just said exactly what's on their mind, like George does when he meets Steinbrenner, or confessed that you're unemployed, balding and living with your parents when an attractive person hits on you?
If people don't have personal experience of doing these things, I'd love to read accounts of others doing them. Thanks!
posted by shushufindi
on Oct 23, 2012 -
Moving in with two roommates - one friend, and one other guy the two of us just met. What haven't I thought of, and what should I be prepared to deal with? Long list of stuff inside. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter
on Sep 18, 2012 -
I never had disposable income, so I'm realizing I have a weird relationship with money and things. Now that I'm making enough to feel rich (without actually being rich?), what stuff would make my life way better? What do normal people spend money on? I can get over this on my own, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 10, 2012 -
What is it like living in Hounslow or out Heathrow Airport way? Is it possible to find a three-bedroom house to rent that would allow pets? Are there lots of coffee shops?
posted by parmanparman
on Jul 29, 2012 -
I will likely be moving from Australia to San Francisco to take a job soon. Which neighbourhood would be best for me personally to live?
More inside that might help you make a suggestion. [more inside]
posted by jimwhimpey
on Jul 27, 2012 -
Back in May I cosigned a lease for an apartment with a friend of a friend running from July to July. Thanks to changing circumstances since then, I can't afford it and I have no choice but to get out of the whole arrangement by September, before university starts back up again. The province I'm in has extremely pro-tenant rental laws, so transferring the lease will not be a problem. What concerns me is dropping this bomb on the cosigner, who is 4000 km away until, well, just when I'd have to leave. Since we were introduced in April for the purposes of being roommates, he's also shown himself to be far more naive than he appears when it comes to stuff like this. But I've also committed a huge error in judgement by signing for this place, and I feel guilty for helping to convince him. I've accepted I'll have to burn more than one bridge. But I'm way too overwhelmed by the hundreds of responsibilities have piled up on my shoulders, and need to tell him very soon. How do I make this as quick, painless and guilt-free as is possible? More on the "changing circumstances" inside: read just the bold bits if you're short on time. [more inside]
posted by denmarkstreet
on Jul 21, 2012 -
My boyfriend and I are helping out a homeless couple and a homeless single girl-- how do I set boundaries and time limits without seeming pushy? When is enough enough? How do I truly help them? Lots and lots of details inside. [more inside]
posted by camylanded
on Jul 2, 2012 -
I feel really fed up and I don't know why or what to do about it. My current situation may be the best one for me at the moment, so why do I feel unhappy? (A lot of long snowflakiness inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 2, 2012 -
I am a recovering hoarder who still has a tendency to cheer herself up with Stuff. What are some good presents or treats that won't lead to me increasing the level of kipple
in my life? And how do you deal with decluttering when things feel pointless? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Mar 14, 2012 -
I'm looking for super-safe, reasonably nice, boring places to live in the Bay area, specifically a location that would allow me to walk to an Amtrak station and use Amtrak to commute daily to a work location that's next to the Amtrak Station in Emeryville, CA. [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie
on Mar 7, 2012 -
Voracious living . . . how? DarlingBri's freaking awesome comment
thread got me thinking about living voraciously. Because that's something I'm really interested in doing. How does one go about living voraciously?
posted by Sassyfras
on Mar 5, 2012 -