29 posts tagged with limerence.
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Help my rational mind prevail.

I (26F) have just started seeing a guy (27M). I like to think of myself as an analytical, rational person, but ever since our first date I have been basically unable to properly eat, sleep, or focus on anything. Help me avoid getting swept up by my elevated dopamine and lowered serotonin levels! [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl on Oct 4, 2016 - 11 answers

Money Etiquette, with a twist

I have an entirely inappropriate strong crush even though I'm a married parent, but that's not really what this question is about. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2016 - 19 answers

Is it limerence, sexual obsession, or something else?

Even though I am generally happy, I sometimes have a hard time with a breakup from last year. I know it wasn't love. But it's messing me up. Confusion inside. [more inside]
posted by destroying_angel on May 23, 2016 - 8 answers

You're just ok. Don't like me anymore? NOW I love you

I've got a bad romantic ailment. I have a hard time bridging the gap between reality and fantasy, and I have a big romantic ego. I have a tendency to build infatuation mansions, when reality perhaps only calls for a modest log cabin. Excuse the length of the navel gazing essay below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 9, 2016 - 7 answers

Real life stories of reality overcoming limerance?

I'm looking for examples of person A pining after person B for a long time. We're talking years of building this fantasy in their head about a person they couldn't have, for whatever reason. Then A finally gets with B romantically or otherwise gets to know them well, and are disappointed by the reality of who person B is or what the relationship is really like. [more inside]
posted by atinna on Feb 23, 2016 - 16 answers

Seeking romantic compatibility anecdata

Deep in limerence, but the first attempt at sex was disappointing. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl on Jan 31, 2016 - 21 answers

Tell me this isn't limerence

I have been pretty sure I like this girl for a while now, and now that the issue has been raised and left unresolved, I'm in crisis mode and don't know what I'm feeling. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina on Dec 13, 2015 - 12 answers

Getting out of limerence while still maintaining the relationship

Help me figure out how to get back to a place where I once was with a close friend? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 6, 2015 - 5 answers

If only they made Crush Begone

I have a longstanding (10+ years) crush on someone I do not want to have a crush on. How do I go about eradicating it, when going no-contact is not an option? [more inside]
posted by Sockrates on Jun 19, 2014 - 13 answers

How to control limerence

Just started seeing a man who I'm a bit gaga about. Trouble is, we both have really important stuff coming up in the next few months and I need to find my concentration again. How do I cope with the desire to see him ALL THE TIME and to remember my other priorities in life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2014 - 9 answers

Is this limerence? Because it sucks.

Whenever I get into a romantic/sexual relationship I always start feeling obsessive. I am totally sick of it because when it kicks in, it completely obscures what's really going on in the relationship, whether good or bad. [more inside]
posted by summer sock on Aug 10, 2013 - 9 answers

Stupid brain, stop it.

I am done with letting limerence rule my life. Tell me your stories of conquering limerence. How did you cope? Is it even really possible to say "no more limerence" if you're prone to it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2013 - 15 answers

Why can't I accurately predict my feelings ten years into the future??

Help me relax and enjoy my budding relationship without stressing needlessly about The Future! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 14, 2012 - 6 answers

When is love actual LOVE?

When does "I love you" mean something? And is there a way to say "OMGZ I'M HAVING SUPERSTRONG LIMERENT FEELINGS TOWARDS YOU" without sounding quite that weird? [more inside]
posted by f3l1x on Nov 6, 2012 - 33 answers

Have part-time confidence, want full-time confidence.

I would like help in turning situational confidence into all-the-time confidence, particularly as it pertains to romance and dating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2012 - 6 answers

Summer fling, don't mean a thing - or not

Getting far too emotionally invested in a fling. Would love advice on how to move forward... [more inside]
posted by pikeandshield on Jul 1, 2012 - 18 answers

Girlfriend has a crush but not on me

My girlfriend told me that she has a crush on another guy. Not really sure how to deal with this revelation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 22, 2012 - 34 answers

Losing limerence.

How do you get over ten years of limerence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 29, 2012 - 20 answers

Limerence in new relationship.

In practice, how can I deal with limerence in the early stages of a relationship? [more inside]
posted by peterf12 on Apr 28, 2012 - 18 answers

How do I deal with limerence for a total stranger?

How do I deal with limerence for a total stranger? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 11, 2011 - 17 answers

Cancel him and let him go!

I'm going to wash that man right out of my hair! Help me figure out how! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 24, 2010 - 19 answers

How do I stop from giving my heart away too quickly?

How do I stop from giving my heart away too quickly? (relationshipfilter--long, natch.) [more inside]
posted by freem on Apr 15, 2010 - 10 answers

How important is being "in love" to a happy marriage? What's the difference between love vs "in love" vs limerance?

What's the difference between loving someone versus "being in love" versus limerence/new relationship energy? And how important is the presence and intensity of the "being in love" feeling to having a long and happy marriage? [more inside]
posted by EmilyClimbs on Apr 2, 2010 - 23 answers

Limerence part II

Limerence filter How do I ask someone out but minimize the other person’s discomfort, especially if this person has been a friend for a long time? [more inside]
posted by Dances with sock puppets on Mar 23, 2010 - 17 answers

I need blunt, direct advice about a recent crush.

I need blunt, direct advice about a recent brief crush. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 19, 2010 - 34 answers

"No, of course I like you. It's because I like you, I don't want to be with you. It's a complicated...emotion."

Help me stop crushing on my classmate! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 23, 2010 - 12 answers

I'm crushing my heart.

Help me stop living on crushes (way much info inside). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 18, 2008 - 16 answers

Years-long crush, need to get over it

My window to get over a crush of many years - how to stay on track? How to deal with mutual acquaintances? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 20, 2007 - 17 answers

How can I get a guy to like me -- again?

What can I say or do to get a guy to want me again? (Or, can movie cliches be useful in the real world?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 1, 2007 - 13 answers

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