I am currently in a transition stage in my life--ending my Study Abroad semester in France, potentially moving out of a dysfunctional home after moving back in temporarily, spending a lot of time on my own traveling/at home.
I'm writing because for some unbearable time, I've been feeling like my life is in a rut. I don't play my guitar or sing my own music anymore. I eat badly and without thought--often eat pasta dishes or friend eggs for a meal twice or thrice a day. I am messy as ever--My tiny room is in a disarray and I have a hard time keeping it even regularly clean.
I've gained about 6 lbs since I've been here. I don't work out--I guess I lack the motivation to do so here. I listen to music all day, eat whatever I want, go out and enjoy a party whenever I feel like it, get dinner at awesome restaurants often. I just have no structure and it seriously is having an impact on my discipline and motivation levels.
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posted by rhythm_queen
on May 12, 2013 -
16 answers
Hi Everybody,
I'm new here. I'm trying to identify my next steps in life and am looking high and low for options, ideas and answers. I'm still working, but have also taken on more than a couple volunteer roles to try out a different industries. I found MetaFilter a few months ago and tho I haven't posted much, I've been reading and I thought it would be a good idea to put it to you. I want to apologize in advance for any newbie mistakes. And say thanks in advance for taking a minute to read this. Here goes.
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posted by round_four
on Apr 9, 2013 -
14 answers
Should I join the Coast Guard? No really, I suddenly find myself with no ties to anywhere or anyone in life. I have no lease. I have a boatload of medical debt, and about $100k in law school loans. I am currently in SF, but willing to change that. What should my next move be?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 2, 2013 -
14 answers
I'm 30. By living rent-free with my parents, I should be debt-free by early next year. Is it worth it to go back to school and get a professional degree?
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posted by srs airbag
on Jan 18, 2013 -
19 answers
After nearly six years, I've decided to pull up stakes and move out of Boston. Tell me how to get excited about taking this leap, and, well, where to go!
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posted by Sock Muppet Acct!
on Jun 17, 2012 -
28 answers
What book (or other purchase) would you recommend for my defeatist, unskilled step-father, that might help him improve his life?
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posted by ElfWord
on Jan 13, 2012 -
5 answers
Help me find a new career (apologies for the long ramble) - I know there are lots of posts asking about switching to a more creative career, but I want to go the other way.
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posted by Megami
on Nov 16, 2011 -
9 answers
I know there's been questions about changing one's name before, but this relates to the temptation to change my name...to a popular literary character.
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posted by DisreputableDog
on Oct 3, 2011 -
48 answers
I need advice on coping with the (situational) anxiety that accompanies big life changes? I've already done some work and made a major career shift that I think will make me happier, but it's a much more precarious course of action, and the risk-averse part of me is complaining, loudly.
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posted by p.soul
on Aug 9, 2011 -
5 answers
Planning a major life change (leaving work to go back to school): do we need a financial planner, a college planner, a money manager, a tax expert, all of these or something else entirely?
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posted by julthumbscrew
on Mar 22, 2011 -
2 answers
My husband and I have decided to leave New York City for the midwest in order to settle down and start a family. We've been talking about this for more than six months; now that it's here I'm scared out of my wits and having second thoughts.
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posted by peanut_mcgillicuty
on Mar 17, 2011 -
32 answers
Doing my first house/apartment room hunting experience out of college and sort of unclear on the craigslist etiquette AND if I should even be looking. Would really appreciate input and advice. This is really long because I ramble...but I SWEAR it's good!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 14, 2010 -
21 answers
i grew up in a home where asking an innocent question such as, "why" resulted in verbal or physical abuse ("why are you so stupid", "don't ask why", and if I did, a hand or a fist would come at me). no surprise that i've also come to realize that I am SO much more insecure than I thought I was. now that I look back, I see that i've never asked the right questions at work, with doctors, or anything like that. My brain would shut down and I would just nod and agree to what I was being told only to think about what happened much later and realize that I should have asked this or that or responded in a certain way. My thought/response patterns have been pretty consistent throughout my life (sad, I know, as I'm nearing 40) and I desperately want to work on communicating better. I struggle to figure out how to say things "nicely" or in a way that's effective as opposed to what often times is more harsh/rude/ineffective.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 21, 2010 -
15 answers
TERROR! After 25 years in the IT industry in Ireland I feel like the 21st century equivalent of an expendable 19th century coal miner. I'm about to be made redundant (again) this afternoon and am gripped by terror. I don't even know now what I want. Any career counseling advice?
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posted by lndl
on Feb 12, 2008 -
15 answers
I'm getting burnt out doing system administration work in high profile operations. It's not the stress or complexity, but more that I'm at a point where i want off-hours to be MY time and not on-call basically 24/7.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 9, 2008 -
7 answers
About to go through a big life change, and I want to get through it the best I can.
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posted by lucyleaf
on Dec 18, 2007 -
13 answers