I would like to know whether I am a hopeless mess or simply too strict with myself. [more inside]
I've been selected for USAF Officer Training School, as a Nuclear and Missile Operations Officer. Should I accept the opportunity? [more inside]
For me, 2015 is a year that I'm keen to see come to an end soon. I've been working stupidly long hours in a job I hate, and though I'm now changing jobs I won't — for financial reasons — be able to take any vacations before the end of the year. How can I go about getting some of my energy back whilst still working a 40-hour week. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I currently live in NYC. We hate it - we're tired of the noise, the garbage, the tiny apartments and the high prices for nearly everything. But we're considering having a baby in the next few years, and both our families are nearby - should we stay for family support or move to a location where we would likely be happier? [more inside]
I met this really great guy a few months ago (in a pretty romantic/spontaneous way) after a string of not great relationships. Everything is really healthy, relationship-wise right now. We both have loads of space to sort our brains/ lives, and the small amount of time we do spend together (looking like once a week/ once every two weeks) is really, really something special. However, he’s on a career fast track and has a hard time balancing work/family. [more inside]
Could I be forced to leave college due to my depression/current situation? I feel like I've hit the dead end. [more inside]
Due to a series of unfortunate events I'm now homeless and lost all my savings. Looking for overall advice how to rent a room in NYC and survive. [more inside]
I read an article several years ago in which the following argument was made: "life" exists to modify carbon. The assertion was that "life" arose as the most efficient method for creating certain forms of carbon utilizing all available resources, including sunlight, etc. Does anyone know of the article or of the broader theory?
I'm looking for more songs similar to M. Ward's "One Hundred Million Years" for a 20-minute baby photo/video compilation. I have found plenty of kids' songs and songs written about having children. I'm looking for more indie songs that echo the sentiment, "And this love, this love between you and I, Is older than that burning ball of fire up in the sky." Songs by indie singers about endless love, happiness, joy, the beauty of life, etc. would fit the bill. [more inside]
An impoverished friend that I haven’t seen in 5 years contacted me about lack of closure. There were a lot of bad things that happened then, that are not necessarily morally bad... I’m just not sure how to feel about it all or respond in kind? [more inside]
Turning 27 - help me make the best of it. [more inside]
How did you deal with self-doubt and uncertainty after committing to a path you are not so sure will pan out? [more inside]
Life has been really good to me, yet I feel unfulfilled in this endless cycle of daily routines. Am I expecting something unrealistic or is this a sign I need to change my lifestyle? [more inside]
I have recently undergone a lot of change in my life - ended a long-term relationship, moved into a new place (previously lived with partner), quit a long-ish-term career (9 years including profession-specific study) and as a combination of the above, changing a lot of my social group. I think this is a sort of make-or-break crossroads time in my life - so would like to actively work on and question what I want to get out of my career/personal relationships. My therapist suggested doing "life check-ins" where I spend time thinking and writing down these things. Does anyone know of any "worksheets" that might give me some guidance to work with? Even a check-list would be helpful, but I'm envisioning maybe a list of questions. Google has brought up some options but I'm looking also for personal anecdata about what has worked for mefites. Thanks!
So, I'm selling my house and will have some extra cash, finally. I have a consolidated student loan that after years of steady payments, has come down to a very low 1.85% interest rate. Given the current economic conditions, and an intense desire to have my money work hard for me after years of being in the doldrums, should I up the payment and try to save a tiny bit on interest? Or would it be better to stuff my IRA, or put money into a no-load fund or index? [more inside]
I'm finishing my second semester of a MA program, and am realizing that I am not happy in this program and (most importantly) it isn't fulfilling my academic and professional needs. I have identified another MA program which I know would be a good fit for me, and am considering switching. Assuming money is no object here, would I be crazy to make the switch? [more inside]
After seeing and reading about the death of parents, one of the biggest regrets seems to be not knowing them better. I have a cordial but distance relationship from my parents and while I don't ever see us being BFFs, I would like to know them better as people and their life. How do I do this, considering I live 6 states away? [more inside]
Can nuts and dried fruit be mixed in a container with no decrease in quality or shelf life? [more inside]
In December I started working for a mill that manufactures flour, and although most employees there are excellent and fun to work with, I am discovering that many of my immediate co-workers appear to sabotage others for their own benefit. [more inside]
Magical video of festive people speaking lines in rhyme about life and fun? [more inside]
I lean to the insane side of life when it comes to always trying to change. I have tried three times now to change from an enterprise programmer to SOMETHING! ANYTHING else... Here I am trying again... bound for failure? [more inside]
On NPR today, I heard an explanation of why there are less safety requirements for cargo planes than for passenger planes: Every time the government (USA) wants to implement a new safety measure, they are required to run a cost/benefits analysis. Since an accident on a passenger plane can kill a whole bunch of people, while one on a cargo plane is likely to only kill the pilot and the copilot, it's more difficult to get a safety measure past the required threshold on the cost/benefits for a cargo plane than for a passenger plane. This to me implies that they must have put a dollar value on each human life; otherwise they couldn't compare cost in dollars versus benefit in lives saved. What is that price? [more inside]
I had a talk with my gf who recently dumped me. She told me that she needed to be with someone with similar life experiences as hers. School is a big part of her life, and she is working toward a degree in medicine as well as an MBA (she already has another master's in biology). I'm 28, and at one point in my life I was very bent on finishing college, but till now I haven't been able to because of circumstances in my life. What she said made me think about my decision to postpone college for now. I have a writing business that is just now getting off the ground. I haven't even earned a two-year degree, but it hasn't stopped me from utilizing my writing talents to make a living. On the other hand though, going back to school would help me a lot in the long run to gain expertise and credibility in the fields i write in. [more inside]
Because of troubles at school, I have been forced to take some time off to re-evaluate. My question is, what would be beneficial things to do, what should I try and focus on, how can I improve myself within the context of my situation, etc. [more inside]
Greetings - I "inherited" a MacBook Pro last year. It was a Apple MacBook Pro Core 2 Duo 2.4Ghz from Spring 2008. So it was 4 years old when I got it and I was told that the battery was dead and as long as I kept it plugged in, it worked fine, however, I would need a new one. So last year, I purchased a new battery and installed it. However, I am still noticing that the battery life is horrible. It seems like when I am using it to type a document or check emails and surf the web, etc, I literally can watch the battery drain. I would assume that it might hold a charge of about an hour and a half maybe? Is there any way I can "test" it to see what my actual battery life if? To ensure there isn't something else going on? Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks,
Interested in a Netbook or lower power laptop that runs cool (doesn't require external cooling like this) and has long (6-8 hour) battery life. Would like to run Windows 7 so Chromebook is not a good candidate for me. And of course want to come in around $200. I know there a lot of candidates here but would really appreciate user's real life experience. Thanks.
I realize that 70K is a lot for most people, but how much is it if I were a single mom with one child living in/near a large city? I have always had the belief that I should be able to support myself and my child, should anything (divorce) happen. I face a choice now between starting a career I am passionate about (helping others) but will probably pay a steady 70K for the rest of my life. The other alternative is to stay in my boring, high paying job (100K by my 30's) that lets me enjoy the nights and weekends but does not make me feel satisfied or that I am contributing to society. I already volunteer on the side, and still desire a meaningful job. I obviously want to go with my heart and pursue my passion, but I am in my mid 20's and cannot even imagine what my income requirements / priorities will be in my mid 30's when I will hopefully have a kid and a mortgage.
Recently, my life went bonkers and now I'm "starting over." [more inside]
Mr Jujulalia and I have the option of moving to London or Cardiff. Seeking advice from colleagues/friends/the Guardian isn't filling our advice needs. Can you help? [more inside]
I'm a cataloging librarian who works a couple hours a week on the reference desk. This morning I had a patron come in to ask me for sources that back up the claim that the probability that life on earth formed by random chance is so small that some kind of divine intervention is more likely. [more inside]
Something about the importance or value of living honestly/doing something good while never being rewarded for your actions or even recognized for them. [more inside]
My wife (27) and I (30) are moving our small family (+2 year old son, -anything that won't fit in 6 suitcases) across the country to Portland, Oregon. In large part we're leaving all of our (supportive, loving) local family and friends looking for adventure and to consciously decide the sort of people we will be (Along with a serious upgrade of location from suburban Central Florida). Have others done a similar reset with themselves or their entire family? Any recommendations on how to be loving and charitable to family and friends while you are leaving and enjoying the next phase? Or pointers on how to meet and embrace a new set of friends and "family"? [more inside]
I have an iPhone 4 and since the iOS 6 update, my battery life is horrible! Help! [more inside]
What techniques do you use to process big changes in your life? I'm interested in specific tips to deal with change once you've accepted it and made it. [more inside]
Questioning life decisions about college and the future. [more inside]
How have you gamified your life? [more inside]
Where can I find personal blogs from people suffering from illnesses? [more inside]
You helped me feel depressed through novels. Can you now help me feel good about being alive and connected to humanity through books? [more inside]
Like many people, I have A Novel... I have been working on it for a while and now have the opportunity to submit it to a friend of a friend who expressed interest. How am I supposed to act? What do people expect from novel-submitter-people? [more inside]
What advice would you give your 25-year-old self? [more inside]
How did you summon the strength to bounce back and/or change your life? [more inside]
I quit my "Dream Job" after 5 months, currently face-to-face with the unknown. Advice? [more inside]
Just saw the trailer for "Life of Pi" and it looks stunning. However, I want to know if animal action was supervised by the ASPCA (or the appropriate organisations for the countries where the movie was filmed).
What is this life-simulation game I played in the early days of the web? [more inside]
Ex-gf continued to stay friends with my closest friends. I haven't come to terms with it. [more inside]
What short stories have further defined your conceptual understanding of "the meaning of life?" [more inside]
What type of doctor should my friend become? Emergency Medicine or Endocrinology? (Snowflake details inside) [more inside]
Knowledge-based hope is much needed. Since my first plea -- which helped a lot, really, this month of May has been sorrowful for Maria João and for me. A metastatic brain tumor (around 3 cms) was detected and removed. Gamma-knife surgery is next. Tomorrow starts the search for other cancerous tumors in her body. We both feel, against all odds, that we will be lucky. But what should we do? What should we hope for? Statistics are againsts us but we love each other truly. Two months ago we found a beautiful house to move into. We could move in come July, after all the tests are made. What should we do? What should our attitude be? Should we move or stay put? Should we change country? Should we prepare to die? Or live as much as we still can? Desperate questions need realistic answers. We're fighting for our lives here. Please tell us, knowingly, how to behave. For what it's worth - usually nothing - I think this time we'll be lucky enough to survive. Whatever happens.
My moms want me to devote my life to writing. I'm 30 and want to explore life. How do I get them off my back?
My moms want me to devote my life to writing. I'm 30 and want to explore life. How do I get them off my back? [more inside]
Is my ipad2 up to the job? I have to give the same hour-long presentation in three separate sessions in one day. I am planning to use Keynote on my ipad2 attached to a projector but I'm worried about battery life on the iPad. Does anybody have experience using their iPad in this way? I will of course, turn off every battery draining thing I can find. I could also switch to my iPhone 4S if I had to, I guess. Will I be okay for three presentations?