I am lost on how to proceed with my life/diet. Because #1
- There are many positives to eating strict #2
- There are many negatives to eating strict. [more inside]
posted by learninguntilidie
on Dec 17, 2013 -
I have no pets and will be becoming a first time dog owner shortly. I'm interested in learning everything I can to prepare. I've read and learned most of the basics, but would love to hear more. How did going from not having a dog to having a dog change your life? I want to hear it all- what inconvenient, weird, wonderful, mundane, happy, unhappy, and most of all unexpected ways did adding a dog to your family change your life?
posted by long haired child
on Dec 16, 2013 -
Earlier this week I started working at a flour mill driving tractor trailers, after 2 months of training at a truck driving school to obtain a CDL, and I am having doubts about this decision. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend
on Dec 14, 2013 -
There are several people I've been chatting to online for various periods of time, who I'm likely to meet on my next journey around the USA. In the case of a few, they are asking to meet up. Nothing romantic and more than friendship with any, though the level of friendship differs; in some cases it's quite strong or complex. Problem is, the prospect of finally meeting IRL repeatedly terrifies me to the point of making me feel ill. Is this kind of feeling normal or common, or not? How can I subdue it and not make myself hide, literally? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore
on Dec 11, 2013 -
During my studies I've dragged myself into some sort of downward spiral: falling behind multiple times but still managing to pick myself up, only to find myself struggling even more. I've now arrived at a point where I feel completely broken and depressed. I need to find a way to start off again without feeling overwhelmed by everything else that still needs to, or can be done. I seems the only way to regain control is if I could be as carefree as I was as a freshman. [more inside]
posted by csdfa
on Dec 10, 2013 -
I'm in my mid 30s and feel like life has passed me by and it's too late to fix it. Looking for help on handling the situation so it doesn't consume me. Lot's inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 5, 2013 -
Recently I have had to come to terms with the fact that 1) I am somewhere on the autistic spectrum and 2) I am working in a field that is not ever going to be very accommodating for me. Advice and pointers needed; secret spices, more info and toy inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Dec 4, 2013 -
I need some direction toward living a life with more depth and less breadth, less quantity and more quality. Any tips, recommendations or resources you know of would be most appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Jess the Mess
on Dec 2, 2013 -
I co-own and manage a financial services company and I stopped liking my job about 2 years ago. I'm growing increasingly frustrated because I have to spend my time doing things I don't like, and the job (actually thew industry) has changed so much over the years. My problem is to find an alternative. I read many books about finding my path and did many tests, and the usual result is that I love inventing things, fixing things/problems and helping people
. [more inside]
posted by caudingo
on Nov 27, 2013 -
Philosophical persectives on slaughtering animals for food required. Help me work through unexpected questioning? [more inside]
posted by Caskeum
on Nov 19, 2013 -
What have you been wrong about, realized it, and it changed your life?
I remember reading Albert Ellis' wonderful self-help book A Guide to Rational Living
where he gives a great list of irrational and self-defeating beliefs
that people have. Among these beliefs was the importance people placed on other's opinion of them as well the emphasis people placed on being perfectionistic in their own lives. Much of this underlies Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but the effect is even more prevalent than that. We all have had beliefs that have held us back, and I'm curious as to what things you once believed that were holding you back in your personal or professional life. Anything will do. It can be anything from knowing the importance of making good first impressions to the need for keeping oneself physically fit even when one doesn't want to. I'm looking to see whether I share of any of these traits or not. So what are the beliefs that have held you back or others that you know?
posted by RapcityinBlue
on Nov 19, 2013 -
I'm recently back from a long trip through South America, but my travel lust is hardly satiated. I have some savings left, and I'm desperate to take off again. Is this a good idea? And if so, where should I go next? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by lightgray
on Nov 13, 2013 -
My peers all have careers, spouses, houses, families ... while I'm single and thinking of moving to Germany as that's the only way I'll be able to afford a second Bachelors. (I want to study something STEM related to break out of this job rut I'm in).
I can't help but think of it as an incredibly lonely endeavour - to study a new language and then attempt to go to Uni all over again with people more than a decade younger than I, in a country where I know no one at all ... and to top it off, I was never very good at making friends and I am not close to my family members at all.
Are my misgivings valid or should I grit my teeth and just go ahead? I feel stuck, I can't move forwards but I can't stay where I am either. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Cat Set Go
on Nov 8, 2013 -
I lean to the insane side of life when it comes to always trying to change. I have tried three times now to change from an enterprise programmer to SOMETHING! ANYTHING else... Here I am trying again... bound for failure? [more inside]
posted by mrgroweler
on Nov 3, 2013 -
As someone with Asperger's Syndrome (and a few anxiety disorders), I find change, especially sudden change, difficult to cope with, but I could have a chance at a fantastic job if I am able to move across country in the next week. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend
on Oct 30, 2013 -
The fact I never liked the "traditional" forms of exercise never bothered me before. That is, until it recently dawned on me activities like going to the gym or running might be the only options I have left. But, with sensitive knees and shins from growing quickly and the residual effects of childhood asthma still occasionally inhibiting my ability to do cardio, these activities seem more foreign than ever. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by intelligentfool
on Oct 27, 2013 -
Or, more suitably... your best advice to someone trying to learn more about themselves (become stronger, learn what I want/need/wont settle for) to prepare for dating in the distant future. [more inside]
posted by BrandNewMe
on Oct 21, 2013 -
I'm a late 20's native New Yorker - grew up in Brooklyn and lived in Manhattan and Brooklyn for most of my life. I've lived in San Diego for the past year. Lovely place, but it's not for me. Got a job offer in San Francisco and I'm excited and ready to make the move. I've always loved my visits to San Francisco and its walkability, culture, food, shopping, and diversity have always made it comparable to New York in my mind. I love New York, but I don't want to move to San Francisco expecting it will be just like living in New York. I've already noticed some big differences that I embrace (and some I dislike.) People who have lived in both cities (especially as a young person): what are some of the differences you found between life in New York and life in San Francisco? Thanks!
posted by blackcatcuriouser
on Oct 8, 2013 -
I am producing a forum that deal with Life Extension issues. Presentation will run the gamut from Ray Kurzweil to tissue and organ growth to the ethical and moral issues now being face by the medical and scientific communities as they continue with moving forward with their research and applications.
I have contacted futurist, sci-fi and life extension groups here in Los Angeles. What other options do I have beside rejuvenation clinics. I have thought of local universities. To which department do I direct event information
posted by goalyeehah
on Oct 7, 2013 -
I just gave up an awesome internship offer for my principles. Yay! Except I am feeling an overwhelming sense of regret. How do I move past this, stop feeling sorry for myself and remember why I did it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Sep 26, 2013 -
My dad paid for 200k worth of schooling for me, i got a BA in Economics from a good school, went on to do some independent film production, quit my job with my boss 6 months ago, finally saw the last film I helped produce premiere at TIFF, and I've been re-evaluating what I want to do with my life. (Currently 24.5 years old.)
I want to join the Army and become a Ranger, like my uncle (who my dad despises) but I don't know how to go about telling my dad. [more inside]
posted by sawyerrrr
on Sep 18, 2013 -
I was recently left by my partner of 4 years.... after I'd made significant life decisions based on the commitments he made to me. Now I feel like I've learned all these cynical life lessons. What should I take away from this? [special snowflake details inside] [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear
on Sep 12, 2013 -
After years of depression and self-medication I'm trying to live a better life. What should I be doing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2013 -
I wanted to ask others what they would do if they were losing their mental abilities? I have seen a therapist for about seven years and I have frequently told him that other people can do things that I just don't understand. He has always normalized this by telling me that it is simply practice and that if I persist that I will be able to do what others are able to do.
If you were seriously on the decline in the mental health aspect of your life, what would you do? My thoughts are that medication cannot solve everything. I am lucky to have a job right now, but I don't know whether I will be able to continue to work unless something starts getting better in the mental area such as my memory.
posted by nidora
on Aug 24, 2013 -
Me an my girlfriend are planning to get married next year. Right now she is living in Japan. She mentioned to me that a K1 visa is what she will need to stay in the United States once we get married. Does anyone know of any caveats to this visa? Would it be best to hire a lawyer to help us make sure the process goes smoothly? Also, are there any other options for visas that she could potentially get? My idea is to propose to her when she visits me on a 3 month visitor's visa and then get married within that 3 months.
Any relevant experiences are welcome. Thanks for you help.
posted by locussst
on Aug 21, 2013 -
On NPR today, I heard an explanation of why there are less safety requirements for cargo planes than for passenger planes: Every time the government (USA) wants to implement a new safety measure, they are required to run a cost/benefits analysis. Since an accident on a passenger plane can kill a whole bunch of people, while one on a cargo plane is likely to only kill the pilot and the copilot, it's more difficult to get a safety measure past the required threshold on the cost/benefits for a cargo plane than for a passenger plane. This to me implies that they must have put a dollar value on each human life; otherwise they couldn't compare cost in dollars versus benefit in lives saved. What is that price? [more inside]
posted by Flunkie
on Aug 16, 2013 -
What are some options for a bright young man who wants to delay college? It can be volunteer-based, overseas, career ideas, special programs, alternate ideas of how to approach higher learning...anything. The main thing he wants is real-world experience outside of a classroom, something that will help him grow as a person and help him learn what he wants out of life. [more inside]
posted by piratesriding
on Aug 10, 2013 -
I had a talk with my gf who recently dumped me. She told me that she needed to be with someone with similar life experiences as hers. School is a big part of her life, and she is working toward a degree in medicine as well as an MBA (she already has another master's in biology). I'm 28, and at one point in my life I was very bent on finishing college, but till now I haven't been able to because of circumstances in my life. What she said made me think about my decision to postpone college for now. I have a writing business that is just now getting off the ground. I haven't even earned a two-year degree, but it hasn't stopped me from utilizing my writing talents to make a living. On the other hand though, going back to school would help me a lot in the long run to gain expertise and credibility in the fields i write in.
posted by Cybria
on Aug 4, 2013 -
Because of troubles at school, I have been forced to take some time off to re-evaluate. My question is, what would be beneficial things to do, what should I try and focus on, how can I improve myself within the context of my situation, etc. [more inside]
posted by hejrat
on Jul 26, 2013 -
My brother-in-law's girlfriend is on life support and has been for 2 days, her medical team were meeting with family yesterday evening to talk about switching it off, this seems terribly quick, does anyone know if this is normal? [more inside]
posted by Jubey
on Jul 22, 2013 -
My wife and I are at a crossroads, in a good way. We have a few very interesting opportunities, and each carries its own pros and cons. Please help us consider our options. [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jul 19, 2013 -
I'm going to turn 28 this year, and I've noticed a trend when it comes to meeting people as I get older. It's become a lot tougher to meet people and hang out with them outside the workplace or school setting. [more inside]
posted by tnar23
on Jul 8, 2013 -
I once had a to-do list, things I wanted to achieve/experience by the time i turned 30:
Establish a rewarding career / Travel / Find some degree of success with my music / Learn to swim / Get into a sport, get fit / Have a few close friends...
So, I've just turned 40 & I still have not managed to do any of these things.
And now I feel I am running out of time... [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer
on Jul 7, 2013 -
This one might be a doozy. So, I'm a 23 year old recent college grad ( this May) with a B.A. in psychology and no idea what to do with my life. ( Original, I know, but bear with me, it gets better.) Everyone around me seems to have what are at least well-outlined 5 year plans, oriented around either grad school or a great entry level job. Certain circumstances in my life though seem to leave me with a vision of the future that doesn't extend far beyond the living room couch and daytime TV for the next 10 years and that frightens me to no end. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77
on Jul 6, 2013 -
I'm an extrovert. I can't stand alone time. At all. This may be due to a recent falling out with a few friends making me feel lonelier than usual - I don't know. But recently any large gaps of alone time has made me feel incredibly depressed, often to the point of tears. Extroverts, how do you handle being alone? [more inside]
posted by Autumn
on Jun 30, 2013 -
My life is a mess right now, and I can't seem to start taking the steps I need to take to dig myself out of the hole I'm in. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on Jun 12, 2013 -
I have just graduated from university with a bachelor of science in environmental sciences. My dad would love for me to continue down that route and become an environmentalist. I want to be a primary teacher and he is not happy with that decision. [more inside]
posted by lovisa91
on Jun 8, 2013 -
When I looked at the calendar and noticed that this year was half gone, I started to feel panicked. I remember being a child and feeling like each day would never end, now I feel like I can't blink without another week being gone. I know that the feeling that life is speeding up is quite common
, and it's a little scary for me. Beyond mindfulness techniques and seeking out novel experiences, I am wondering if people can share ideas/hacks for how to fight this effect. How do I stop feeling like time is passing me by too quickly?
posted by long haired child
on Jun 3, 2013 -
Looking for ways to soothe oneself during especially trying times in life. One day at a time is fine and dandy but its the hours and minutes that get excruciating, especially when everything seems void of joy and meaningless. If you have gone through some truly rough times, how did you soothe yourself in the moment? While many have family and friends close by, I have neither so I am looking for ways to manage my pain myself. Any tips and tricks will be much appreciated. Thanks!
posted by xm
on May 30, 2013 -
Back in the heady days of my youth I used to wear a rather splendid afghan coat - you know, the typical hippy embroidered brown suede and fur affair, complete with disturbing aromas of patchouli and vague decay (although to be fair that may have been me rather than the coat). And now I'd love to find another one - preferable a full-length white version I can paint the cover of ELP's 'Tarkus' album on, but another brown one at a pinch. Any idea where I could get one, Mefites? Ebay and online searches only seem show women's coats and I'm a 6' chap (from Nottingham, in the UK)! Many thanks in advance!
posted by timpollard
on May 27, 2013 -
I really can't figure out what I want to do in my life. And it's scaring the crap out of me. At many times I really thought I knew what I wanted and then when I started working... I didn't, at all! I tried really hard to figure out what to do. I majored in political science, been involved in campaigns, and I thought I would just go to law school. But felt uneasy about the whole thing like it was just something I was supposed to do cause I would be good at it. So I decided to work a bit in a medical field, which was followed by living aboard for a few years. Now I'm dabbling in film and thinking about architecture.
All amazing experiences but no closer to a conclusion. I feel super strongly about some careers and then realize I only feel strongly about those things because I admire the people in those fields and not necessarily the field itself.
Does anyone have a similar story? Any conclusions? Can anyone help?
posted by LaceyCoffee
on May 26, 2013 -
Corporate has just handed down a large change to our T&E policy that involves us submitting original unredacted copies of credit card bills and/or applying for a company credit card that we need to pay ourselves. This seems really out of line but I don't know how to respond. Slight snowfall to follow... [more inside]
posted by anonymous
on May 24, 2013 -
Those of you post-grads figuring it out in your 20s (or 30s) doing odd jobs, waiting tables, jobs not nec. related to your major, where are you now? What advice would you have if you could go back and do it again? [more inside]
posted by bluelight
on May 22, 2013 -
I have this problem, and I know it isn't rare. I on occasion produce excellent training materials where a knowledge vacuum exists, and as managers and power structures change within my department the memory of my past work gets forgotten almost constantly. Because I'm not really very good at the schmoozing with the new bosses’ game, I never get into the loop for new projects or initiatives where I would shine based on prior work.
That’s a preface to a lot of different questions, but mostly, I'm asking an aesthetic question here, and I’m not talking about ownership of materials or anything like that. These are informal documents, but legitimately useful, and not my main job function. Basically, when they get circulated here and there... I would greatly benefit from managers and other colleagues knowing just who put this awesome thing all together.
How do I do this correctly, and in a tasteful manner... i.e., basically, not put "By Me" on a coversheet in big letters, or not in a manner that would make most roll their eyes. Just some subtle recognition of authorship within the document.
If you have another moment to think, some book recommendations on climbing the corporate latter in an ethical way, (based on competency, the best way to climb), in the face of the usual BS that many of us need to deal with. I enjoy my field... thats why I'm asking this, and not just finding something else to do.
posted by shimmer
on May 21, 2013 -
Hopping off the good advice spread here
, I'd like a guide to navigating my next decade in general as me and my kids enter their tweens and middle school to high school.
posted by tilde
on May 10, 2013 -
Greetings - I "inherited" a MacBook Pro last year. It was a Apple MacBook Pro Core 2 Duo 2.4Ghz from Spring 2008. So it was 4 years old when I got it and I was told that the battery was dead and as long as I kept it plugged in, it worked fine, however, I would need a new one. So last year, I purchased a new battery and installed it.
However, I am still noticing that the battery life is horrible. It seems like when I am using it to type a document or check emails and surf the web, etc, I literally can watch the battery drain. I would assume that it might hold a charge of about an hour and a half maybe?
Is there any way I can "test" it to see what my actual battery life if? To ensure there isn't something else going on? Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks,
posted by dbirchum
on May 3, 2013 -
I have a history of romantic involvements that usually never get past three or four months (with a single exception that went on for 3.5 years). This didn't used to bother me so much, but it's now starting to make me ridiculously sad. I'm 30. How can I learn to hold someone's interest in me and/or choose better? Sorry for the book below, and thanks for any suggestions. [more inside]
posted by oogenesis
on May 2, 2013 -