My husband is suffering the sexual doldrums of early middle age. Unfortunately, it's a catch-22: you have to be motivated to seek help...but when your sex drive is that low, you really don't care. How can I help him even want to have sex again?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 20, 2013 -
30 answers
I desperately need help resuscitating my sex drive. Embarrassing, painful wall of text inside.
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 7, 2013 -
21 answers
Horny Old Man Filter: Tips for ensuring that my straight dude's libido ages gracefully.
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posted by sureshot
on Dec 23, 2012 -
39 answers
My wife has been expressing concern about the long periods of dormancy in our sex life in the past 6 months or so. I don't notice it unless she mentions it. I'm trying to figure out the next step. Many more details within.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 6, 2012 -
32 answers
Mismatched libido: we've been together for five years, we're both mid-twenties, she says "once a month would be okay."
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posted by moonroof
on Jun 25, 2012 -
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Testosterone supplementation for women - looking for research or information to share with my doctor.
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posted by anonymous
on May 17, 2012 -
5 answers
I recently started taking Sertraline (zoloft) to deal with anxiety issues, kind of on a trial basis. I think it's been working pretty well, but there are some side effect issues that are making me second guess things.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 6, 2012 -
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I've lost interest in sex with my boyfriend, and find things increasingly uncomfortable in that department. What should I do?! I'm a 28 year old female, and have been in a long term committed relationship with my current boyfriend for about 3 years now. I'd been a virgin up until about 2 and ½ years ago. My upbringing was uneventful, and I've never had any traumatic experiences that I can recall involving sexuality, however I have always felt embarrassed about sex related things, which is why before my current boyfriend I always just made out with whoever I felt like.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 28, 2012 -
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I'm 67, male, and have a very low libido, which comes as a surprise after having a very high one all my life until three years ago. I'd like to be more interested in sex since I still love women - any thoughts on a way to turbo-charge my lagging desire? (Viagra, of course, relies on desire to activate its useful effect)
posted by nickji
on Jan 9, 2012 -
9 answers
How can I get my sex drive back? I am a 26 year old male. I don't recall exactly when my problems started, but it's been going on for over a month. I'd like to think that I'm too young still for such a steep drop in libido to be normal. What makes it more worrisome for me is that I have no idea what might be causing it.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 29, 2011 -
16 answers
How can I have a more sexual relationship with my boyfriend, and stop freaking out all the time? Or, how can I accept that this is the relationship we have and it's not going to change? Warning: this is going to be both long and stupid.
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posted by krakenattack
on Nov 14, 2011 -
47 answers
Henry Miller makes my sex life hot, True Blood makes it not. What should I be reading / watching in order to get in the mood?
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2011 -
15 answers
ahem... this is a little embarrassing. I am female in my late 20's and have been attracted to both men and women before, and have sort of had relationships/ people I dated.
When friends talk about their, hmm, libido, I never really know what they are talking about, and the phrase "physical attraction" as opposed to emotional or pretty face has never made sense to me. Until the other day. This woman with whom I have been working on a project came to the last meeting in a tight-fitting shirt, which accentuates her very slim and nimble waist. And uh, hmm, let's just say, both physically and mentally, I reacted instinctively and unexpectedly. (good thing nobody noticed.) And 2 weeks later I still can't stop thinking about it, so here it is, hive mind, explain to me.
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 22, 2011 -
22 answers
Anecdotal experiences wanted: I am considering trying SSRIs for my anxiety, but I am worried that my already-low libido will disappear altogether. Psychiatrist suggests that the low libido may be caused by anxiety, and so taking SSRIs could actually help. Has either of these things happened to you?
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posted by anonymous
on Sep 13, 2011 -
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I am a 21 year old male who took paxil for a little over a year. I took the medication in order to deal with the depression an anxiety associated with transferring colleges. Some of the sexual side effects that I experienced while on the medication was difficulty achieving orgasm and at one point I lost my sex drive.
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posted by bringdaruckus
on Aug 31, 2011 -
10 answers
I suspect that I am becoming a pushover in my relationship—how can I reverse this trend?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 22, 2011 -
29 answers
I'm a mid-thirties man, committed relationship, wonderful kids, good job, great life, but I can not stop chasing attractive women. And it is wreaking havoc. How can I stop this, and why don't I want to?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 25, 2011 -
69 answers
My sex drive has completely vanished. Is it because I'm breastfeeding? If it's because I'm breastfeeding, will my libido return when my baby eventually weans?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 22, 2011 -
14 answers
So, I gave birth to my first child 11 months ago. And I still have no interest in sex. What now?
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 6, 2011 -
22 answers
SSRIs, birth control, and my significant other’s libido: how do these add up to a severely diminished sex drive?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 22, 2011 -
16 answers
MentalHealthFilter: Anyone personally dealing with bipolar partners sexual issues? Mildly NWS, and long as heck.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 23, 2011 -
8 answers
At what point does it go from typical pregnancy hormones to a physiological/psychological concern?
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 1, 2011 -
14 answers
I'm a 24yr old guy and I have a problem with premature ejaculation. I think it's partly erectile dysfunction as I don't feel as hard as I used to and partly premature ejaculation as I last for a couple of minutes post 10+ mins of intense foreplay.. What should I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 26, 2010 -
17 answers
23 year old male. My libido is gone. I’m freaking out. Any guys been through this? (NSFW and REALLY LONG).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 30, 2010 -
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Is a totally mismatched sex drive between two otherwise well matched people who like each other a rational reason to end a relationship?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 20, 2010 -
42 answers
I think I may have a hormone deficiency. I plan to see a doctor. What should I expect?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 22, 2009 -
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Choosing my penis over the pills. How long will it take my libido to recover after a few months of Zoloft?
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 5, 2009 -
16 answers
Depressionfilter: Help me understand a sudden increase in libido and its emotional aftermath.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 5, 2009 -
9 answers
Falling in love pretty quickly. First time for a lot of things. Some issues are coming up.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 19, 2009 -
14 answers
Is the theory of sublimation—the idea of channeling sexual energy into creative or physical output—still considered valid? Is there evidence that it "works"?
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posted by Busoni
on May 10, 2009 -
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I'm a healthy 27 year old guy, but my libido has plummeted just in the past 7 months. No other relevant changes that could explain why, and I feel totally fine otherwise. Any explanations? And how do I fix this?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 9, 2009 -
11 answers
I am a 30 year old male who wants more sex than my partner, which causes all kinds of frustration and resentment on both sides. What can I do to lower my libido?
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posted by anonymous account
on Jan 6, 2009 -
106 answers
Is there anything I can do to counteract the negative effect Yasmin is having on my libido?
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 10, 2008 -
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I'm an otherwise healthy 29 year old male who easily gets exhausted and mentally foggy on a regular basis, sometimes seemingly without cause. Not normal-tired, but feeling as if I were 80 years old. It's been like this for at least a year and a half. I have an appointment to see a doctor (endocrinologist) in two weeks, but now that I've finally admitted to myself that I've got a problem... I'm antsy to start figuring out what it might be. Any ideas, hive mind? More details inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 8, 2008 -
31 answers
I seem to have lost all my libido (sex-drive). Mid-forties male, not health related. Advice? More details inside.
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posted by lndl
on May 6, 2008 -
10 answers
The type of guy I like to spend time with isn't the type I like to have sex with. What now? Probably NSFW!
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posted by anonymous
on May 5, 2008 -
31 answers
