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Second Guessing my Gender Identity

I'm 27 years old, designated male at birth. I recently recalled a bunch of gender dysphoria from when I was in middle school/high school, and I'm trying to work out if it matters, and what exactly I am. A part of me worries that it might just be a rational response to toxic masculinity rather than anything to do with me myself. [more inside]
posted by MuppetNavy on Sep 26, 2016 - 15 answers

Advice about gay culture?

I now identify as gay, and want to learn more about what it means to be gay in a broader, cultural sense. [more inside]
posted by rebent on Aug 28, 2016 - 15 answers

LGBT on NPR?

Is there a branded LGBT program (other than a podcast) anywhere within the public radio universe (NPR, PRI, APM, PRX)? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind on Jul 23, 2016 - 4 answers

Partner's struggles with anxiety have killed our sex life

I am really struggling with my partner’s anxiety and its impact on our sex life. I am 33, he is 25, and we are a gay male couple. [more inside]
posted by ninefour on Jul 13, 2016 - 13 answers

What's the correct way of the completing the LGBT acronym?

What's the correct way of the completing the LGBT acronym? Should it be LGBTA, LGBT+, LGBTQ, LGBTI or LGBTQ+. I've seen all of them lately and I want to get this right but numerous style guides and sources offer different options.
posted by feelinglistless on Jul 13, 2016 - 10 answers

Best LGBT-related charities/nonprofits?

Two gay friends are getting married (finally! yippee!) and have requested no presents. Lots of us (the buddies, including the wedding party) want to respond by making donations to organizations that have supported marriage equality and other LGBT issues. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa on Jul 9, 2016 - 14 answers

Recommendations for LGBT-friendly custom clothiers in S. Ontario/GTA?

I'm getting married in the fall, and I'm also a queer, nonbinary person (assigned female at birth). I'm planning on wearing a suit, and I'd really like to have one custom made. I'd also like to avoid any gender-policing BS from potential tailors, so I'm looking for suggestions. If anyone knows of any shops in Southern Ontario (Greater Toronto Area would be ideal) that are known to be LGBT friendly, I would greatly appreciate being pointed in their direction!
posted by Jynnan Tonnyx on Jun 21, 2016 - 5 answers

what's it like to tell coworkers your partner is trans?

Soon my husband will begin publicly transitioning. I want my coworkers to start addressing him as my husband in casual conversation, but I'm kind of at a loss for the protocols or tactics for such an announcement. [more inside]
posted by rebent on Jun 21, 2016 - 5 answers

Can I find out how many LGBT youth there are in my metro area?

Any ideas on where I can find a reasonably accurate estimate of the LGBT Youth population in the St. Louis metropolitan area? I've tried several things (listed inside) but keep coming up empty. [more inside]
posted by Ufez Jones on Jun 10, 2016 - 6 answers

Toronto For First Timers!?

We're NYCers going on a 2 week trip to Toronto on the 26th. We've never been! What are the new exciting sites? The old established stuff? (Again, we've never been!) We like history, werid engineering dork stuff, movie stuff, dive bars, gayness, unusual stores and secondhand vintage menswear. We don't drive, but we'd like a nice trip out of town by train or even bus. Exciting cuisine a must overall. [more inside]
posted by The Whelk on May 13, 2016 - 52 answers

My therapist just mentioned God. Should I dump her?

At our last session my therapist alluded to God in an entirely benign way but it still leaves me wondering whether I -- as an irreligious gay man -- should start shopping elsewhere. [more inside]
posted by lecorbeau on May 11, 2016 - 68 answers

Dating in a Foreign Country While Gay

I've really been enjoying living in China, but I've been wanting to get out of the house and go on dates. I would love advice on dating across language and culture barriers, especially for LGBT people. [more inside]
posted by Trifling on Mar 12, 2016 - 2 answers

Help me make coming out to my parents as bearable as possible

I've managed to put off coming out to my parents as transgender for close to a year now. I'm 22 and have spent the majority of the last 4 years studying and volunteering abroad. Coming home last summer (to live with my parents, I should add) I thought I'd finally felt prepared enough to tell them what I'd been trying so desperately to hide from them. Over nine months later now I still haven't "gotten around to it", I guess. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2016 - 10 answers

Why do some cultures develop prejudice toward LGBT individuals?

Some cultures foster majority-held, strongly anti-LGBT beliefs, and some do not, and religion doesn't seem to be the source of these attitudes, just a justification for them. Considering all this, what cultural forces account for anti-LGBT attitudes? What are the origins of these beliefs? [more inside]
posted by Lownotes on Feb 15, 2016 - 18 answers

Motherhood, One Not Too Distant Day

What personal development strategies/hacks would you recommend for somebody preparing to adopt as a single working mother in 3-4 years? Special snowflakes inside, general advice welcome too! [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish on Jan 30, 2016 - 15 answers

Ok to still be friends with someone you have slept with in the past?

Say you're in a committed monogamous relationship. Your partner has a friend with whom they once had a one-night-stand, which was a singular event at the start of the friendship. This friend is close with your partner, and they discuss personal things like sex, and talk regularly. Is this ok, or not? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by mymbleth on Jan 23, 2016 - 46 answers

Help protecting my niece after coming out to her parents

I'm gay and my husband and I are concerned about the safety of our 13-year-old niece who is in a relationship with another girl. My husband's brother and sister-in-law have reacted very poorly to learning about this. What we can do for his niece? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 14, 2016 - 18 answers

What do you wish you'd known before coming out as trans at work?

I am a trans man and I am legally changing my name and gender marker in 2 weeks. I have still not come out at work. I am extremely anxious about this and want to hear other people's experiences. Preferably from the trans person perspective, but also HR or managers of trans people, especially in white collar environments. [more inside]
posted by desjardins on Dec 7, 2015 - 10 answers

Depression Hospitalization Primer?

As my life unfolds, there is in the short term a growing likelihood I may need to seek residential treatment / hospitalization for major depression. I’m finding it very hard to do research, as most easily accessible search engine results appear (to me) to have been gamed or SEO’d, and what few respectable websites I do come across are barebones or tight-lipped. Perhaps this is because of a wider turn from institutionalization or residential treatment. But still I have questions, and I’d be grateful for any insight... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 30, 2015 - 10 answers

One neat trick to dismiss Kim Davis' asshole bigotry

For some reason my mom decided it would be a great idea to let her married, lesbian daughter know that even though she supports gay marriage, she "sees Kim Davis'" point of view and thinks she should have the right to a religious exemption, or that she should "have the right" to keep her job because "the rules of her job changed". I was shocked in the moment and don't feel like I explained the case well. Now I'm looking for one good, objective resource that will explain this situation better. [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats on Sep 21, 2015 - 18 answers

YA Literature for Young Lesbians?

My niece mentioned/complained to me recently that there is very little YA lit for and about lesbians. I took a look on goodreads and found a couple of lists with what appear to be a nice selection of books. However, on reading further, I'd like to narrow the list down to actually well-written or otherwise reasonably good books. Any thoughts? [more inside]
posted by janey47 on Sep 17, 2015 - 25 answers

Why does Wikipedia say Howard Stern is "LGBT"?

The Wikipedia list of "LGBT people from New York" includes Howard Stern. I don't think the "LGBT" part is accurate, but I don't see any way to edit it. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by John Cohen on Aug 27, 2015 - 14 answers

Looking for children’s books that tell a non-standard narrative

I’m ordering 300ish books for a children’s library. After reading this thread asking for books featuring feminist-anti-racist-queer-ally characters I realised that our collection is full of books focusing on straight, white (usually male) youth in nuclear families and it’s seriously lacking. Can you folks recommend any books to help me improve our collection? [more inside]
posted by eisforcool on Jul 27, 2015 - 32 answers

What are some trainings/conferences in my field that I don't know about?

I work as a director in for an equality non-profit in my state. There is money for travel and registration for trainings, conferences, etc in our budget that I want to make the most of. I know of Creating Change, the EQ Fed's Summer Meeting, and some random conferences by the LGBTQ Task Force, but what are ones I am missing?? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos on Jul 10, 2015 - 3 answers

States that don't discriminate on SO or GI in public accomms?

What are the states that have a statewide law protecting gender identity and sexual orientation in public accommodations under state law? Many articles I read cite "several states" but I don't know which states.
posted by rabu on Jul 9, 2015 - 5 answers

cold lake, summer vacation

I live in the Deep South; everyone goes to the beach for vacation. I hate the beach in the summertime (it is way too hot). Where should my wife & go on vacation this summer? I would like a cold, deep lake to swim in, hiking trails, and some privacy. She would like a cottage or cabin on said lake. Would prefer an area that is LGBT friendly (will settle for agnostic), and that we can get to on Delta (we have vouchers to burn).
posted by wearyaswater on Jul 8, 2015 - 15 answers

How can I become attractive to anyone other than straight men?

Basically only ever men show any interest in me, ever. I can go to a party where like 95% of people aren't straight and of course it'll be the two straight guys there that talk to me. Only guys ever message me or respond to my messages on okcupid. Honestly I don't really want anything to do with men, but it's so disheartening I feel like I'll basically have to get into a relationship with a man if I want any kind of companionship at all. I want to know what I should be doing differently like do I need a makeover or change my attitude or what? [more inside]
posted by ninjablob on Jul 1, 2015 - 23 answers

Poppy anthem for the musical break at a SCOTUS marriage equality rally?

I am looking for a song for a female vocalist to sing during the middle of a series of speeches at an upcoming marriage equality rally I am planning for SCOTUS decision day. (Music kind of breaks up the monotony of these types of things) [more inside]
posted by rabu on Jun 18, 2015 - 13 answers

Can married lesbians be foster parents in Utah?

Mrs. Timp and I have become very interested in becoming foster parents in the next 6-12 months. I have read every many foster parent threads on this website but haven't found the answer to my question. [more inside]
posted by timpanogos on Jun 14, 2015 - 2 answers

80s Gay Men's Fashion?

I need to buy a costume to fit a character who is a young gay man living in the early 80s. Looking for ideas or reference images. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Erberus on Jun 11, 2015 - 15 answers

Hotel for San Francisco Pride

I've never tried to book a hotel room during an event as big as SF pride and I'm having difficulties finding somewhere for 5 or 6 people to stay 45 days in advance. Our fav motel (Becks Motor Lodge) is full for Pride Weekend (June 27th+28th). Most other places seem to be as well. General or SF-specific tips for finding a room for the night would be really helpful. [more inside]
posted by Strass on May 14, 2015 - 10 answers

Gender Presentation in Africa

I am a 31yo queer woman who is considered fairly masculine presenting in my daily life (I am frequently addressed as "sir" by waiters, customer service people, etc, and many never realize their mistake). I'm headed to Cameroon for the first time for a business/research trip and I want to be received well, which I unfortunately suspect means changing my gender presentation. I would love tips and tricks, and support, particularly for people who have been to West Africa before. [more inside]
posted by zug on May 3, 2015 - 21 answers

What job/field should my partner search for?

My partner wants to get a new job and would like advice for what kind of jobs / industries / job titles to look for. We are in southwest michigan right now, but my partner wants to build skills they could take elsewhere in the country in a few years. After graduating college with an English degree, my partner got a job through a temp agency, and is ready to move on. But neither of us are knowledgeable about what jobs they might be qualified for. Hopes and dreams inside [more inside]
posted by rebent on Mar 20, 2015 - 5 answers

Because you enjoyed ...

I am working on diversifying my pop culture experience and am feeling limited by what Netflix thinks I should watch. Please recommend some of your favorite movies, TV shows, and documentaries streaming on Netflix that would help me expand my pop culture diet - especially if they are directed by/acted by/about women, people of color, and people outside the upper middle class New York/LA milieu.
posted by ChuraChura on Mar 11, 2015 - 38 answers

How to support myself while supporting my transitioning spouse?

Looking for emotional guidance while my spouse goes through gender reassignment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2015 - 10 answers

Unsupportive grandparents of a transgender child

My oldest child, age 12, has recently come out as transgender. We are trying to show her our unconditional support, but her grandparents are unlikely to be as supportive. Suggestions for coping? Difficulty: Asian and Catholic. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2015 - 22 answers

Dealing with the fact that someone you loved was not who you thought?

How do you reconcile the person you loved at the start with the not-so-nice actions they did to lead to the end of the relationship? How do you stop yourself from feeling stupid/hurt/betrayed/unable to trust? [more inside]
posted by gatsbyisgreat on Dec 30, 2014 - 30 answers

Does my obsessive worrying mean I was wrong to break up?

I am a 23 year old woman who recently broke up with my first serious girlfriend (32 yr old) whom I dated for 18 months. I cannot stop obsessing that it was the wrong decision even though there were many reasons why we wouldn't have worked. Is this normal or a sign I'm making a mistake? [more inside]
posted by gatsbyisgreat on Dec 10, 2014 - 30 answers

Going to university and becoming a talking therapist

I have made the decision that I want to change careers to become a counsellor (talking therapist) and I'd additionally like to specialise my therapy (but not exclusively) in gender and sexual identity issues. What study paths should I follow to turn this ambition into a specific plan? I never went to university after leaving school - so I would like to go back into academic education and get a degree while working towards this career rather than just doing a vocational course. Difficulty level: UK. [more inside]
posted by winterhill on Oct 23, 2014 - 4 answers

How do I deal with a relationship that'll end when I move away?

Started a relationship with someone and it feels like the closest most intimate relationship I've ever been in, but, I'm financially committed to starting a new job in another country, in a month's time. We've already talked about spending as much time together as possible before the move (and we have a trip somewhere planned our last weekend together) but I don't know what to do after I move away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2014 - 8 answers

Are there vaccinations I should get before I explore my sexuality?

I'm mid 30s, gay, currently working in Adelaide, South Australia (my work takes me all over the globe, so some context). I'm wanting to explore my sexuality, but I am wondering if I should visit a doctor to get some vaccinations for STDs? (I've been reading about HPV on ask.mefi) [more inside]
posted by TrinsicWS on Sep 17, 2014 - 11 answers

Questioning my gender, need resources.

I'm questioning my (female) gender identity. I am looking for online resources, maybe a forum or online community that is specifically ftm or has specific ftm threads/conversations. I've combed reddit but the format of reddit feels less like a conversation and I don't feel comfortable posting there. Links I have found to specific resources are surprisingly mostly out of date or MtF specific. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 14, 2014 - 17 answers

What engagement gift should I get an LGBT couple?

My longtime friend of more than 20 years is having a formal cocktail party to celebrate his recent engagement to his partner. The invite says no gifts, but I definitely plan to bring a gift. This friend is very special to me. Given this is an LGBT couple (not sure that really matters here, isn't a cocktail party a cocktail party whether it's a gay or straight couple?) I would appreciate your gift ideas. Thank you!
posted by gocubbies on Sep 5, 2014 - 25 answers

I want to help, but I want to help me out of this situation more

Family member asked me to help Christian dude struggling with gay feelings. After agreeing to meet him I see his beliefs are way more extreme than I'm comfortable with. What do? [more inside]
posted by yellowbinder on Sep 1, 2014 - 25 answers

Name my brass quintet!

My brass quintet is giving its debut recital next month. We all identity as LGBT (and have slight aspirations of trying to get gigs playing at weddings, same-sex or otherwise), and we rehearse on Capitol Hill. At a loss for what to call ourselves. Hope us?
posted by QuantumMeruit on Aug 15, 2014 - 36 answers

Advice for a 25 year old feeling lost?

I'm not sure how to ask this question. I've been in a weird funk lately where I've been feeling lonely and frustrated due to many factors. I guess I am just having a quarter life crisis in that I am 25 and feel a little lost professionally and personally. [more inside]
posted by pando11 on Jul 15, 2014 - 10 answers

What do you wear to dress up if you're androgynous?

Looking for something in between gowns and suits. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon on May 24, 2014 - 23 answers

How to tactfully explain to people that I’m not straight?

I got married last year (!). My husband and I are both queer, and both have a history of same-sex relationships before we met one another. This hasn't caused any problems in our own relationship, but it’s causing some unexpected confusion at our LGBT-friendly church. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 12, 2014 - 34 answers

New queer cinema

Which websites, blogs, forums, etc, should I be following to be kept in the loop regarding new releases in international LGBTQ[etc] cinema? [more inside]
posted by Solomon on Apr 5, 2014 - 3 answers

How do I realistically satisfy my bicuriousity?

I am a cis-female in my late 20s, and I've considered myself straight for most of my life. Around my mid 20s I started to realize that I had a secret desire for a woman to come on to me as a sexy fantasy, but still aligning myself as straight. However this desire slowly grew and I started to have intense dreams of having sex with women and now I really want to make this happen in reality. I have no idea how to approach this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 18, 2014 - 20 answers

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