Is it automatically wrong to stay with someone if you have doubts regarding the ultimate strength of your compatibility and ability to stay together for the long-haul? For once I want to try to relax and see where things go, but I don't want to be hurtful to this wonderful woman. It is a bit complicated, since we broke off our engagement 2 months ago, we are both women in our early-to-mid 30s who each want a child at some point, and I have serious anxiety problems which paralyze my thinking, and which make me feel extra immature when faced with overwhelming questions like this.
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posted by wombat stork
on Feb 18, 2011 -
23 answers
I consider myself straight, but am interested in having sex with a girl just to see what it's like. I am under the impression that lesbians are not big fans of people like me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
21 answers
[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life?
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posted by zahava
on Jan 27, 2011 -
33 answers
BookFilter: I am looking for well written fiction/novels where the main character is a woman in a relationship with another woman. Whether they are lesbian or bisexual doesn't matter.
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posted by deborah
on Jan 11, 2011 -
40 answers
I have just been seduced by a relatively older, more experienced, kinky woman who's keen to show me the darker side of pleasure. I'm a relatively inexperienced younger woman. What could I do so that *she* gets some fun out of it too?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2010 -
18 answers
I've felt like I was most likely gay my entire life, and after years of trying to "train" myself to be sexually interested in men I realized I was just meant to be with women... or so I thought. I met an amazing guy a few months later, and now I'm having trouble choosing between being with him or sticking to women.
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posted by Autumn
on Dec 13, 2010 -
38 answers
I'm looking for recommendations for good genderqueer and/or lesbian novels, in the vein of Sarah Waters or Malinda Lo.
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posted by criacow
on Dec 7, 2010 -
12 answers
How strong is the correlation between non gender conformity and homosexuality?
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posted by antgly
on Dec 1, 2010 -
32 answers
I'm looking for some research (e.g. papers, books, documentaries, websites, etc.) on why it appears that most men attracted to (
lipstick) lesbians?
posted by lrnarabic
on Nov 26, 2010 -
10 answers
How can I come out to my extended family without it being a holiday "surprise" or confessional atmosphere?
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posted by nakedmolerats
on Nov 20, 2010 -
22 answers
Woman in early 30s coming out as a lesbian for the first time in the Twin Cities. What's the city LGBT scene like? (Asking for a friend.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2010 -
5 answers
Recommend me some well-made lesbian feature films. Ones I have liked: Go Fish, When Night is Falling, Bound, Desert Hearts, High Art, The Incredibly True Adventure of Two Girls in Love.
posted by maryrosecook
on Oct 29, 2010 -
44 answers
So I'm gay. Turns out a lot of folks in my extended family are as well. What are the odds? Has anyone studied extended family charting specifically?
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posted by Tchad
on Aug 30, 2010 -
11 answers
GetMeTheHellOutOfTheHouseFilter: I need to get out badly, I need a temporary escape from the insanity I'm in right now. My fantasy? To go somewhere and be straight up hit on by a lady (who likes other ladies (who are butch-ish (as in I will not be seen in pink ever, but can't fix my own car))). And this needs to happen in Chicago. Please help!!!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2010 -
10 answers
Invisible Lesbian Filter: how do I get my sisters to see me without looking like a walking Pride parade?
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posted by kidelo
on Jun 14, 2010 -
35 answers
I'm a queer girl who would like to ask another queer girl out on a date. I have never done this before. How do I do this without being stupid?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2010 -
12 answers
I need examples of gender-specific songs covered by singers of the opposite gender. For instance, Jack White's cover of Dolly Parton's "Jolene".
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posted by domo
on Apr 19, 2010 -
114 answers
queer-judaism filter: can't find an answer online: two moms, one jewish, the other not. how does traditional matrilineal descent apply to "lesbian" couples?
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posted by anya32
on Mar 29, 2010 -
15 answers
Are there any clubs, bars, or what-have-you in Chicago that are both lesbian-centric (and hopefully straight-friendly) and open to the under-21 crowd?
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posted by ThePantsAvenger
on Feb 25, 2010 -
7 answers
I'm a twenty year old gay woman. For 2010, I want to learn how to flirt with other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 24, 2009 -
15 answers
How do I more effectively encourage gay young adults in the criminal justice system to engage with the larger gay community? (long question)
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posted by The Straightener
on Dec 8, 2009 -
39 answers
My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2009 -
18 answers
Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2009 -
8 answers
I have a first date with a girl coming up, which is awesome and I'm psyched. Only... I've never dated girls before! Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2009 -
9 answers
There are gay icons and lesbian icons - are there people who are bisexual/pansexual icons?
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posted by divabat
on Sep 15, 2009 -
47 answers
I had an absolutely terrible incident with a homophobic doctor. I have taken all the steps to report him to the local College of Physicians and Surgeons, and I hope he gets disciplined, but that doesn't address the systemic problem of homophobia in family physicians in my area (and it doesn't help me find a less homophobic doctor to switch to). I would like to blog about the incident, contact gay and lesbian associations, etc, but I am worried about being sued for libel/slander/I don't know. Will I get in trouble if I write publicly about this incident? Can I use the Dr's name? I'm in Alberta, Canada.
posted by arcticwoman
on Sep 11, 2009 -
25 answers
I am one half of a lesbian couple with small children thinking of moving out of Baltimore and out to the suburbs. So far Timonium looks like the best bet. Will we be welcome there?
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posted by lodie6
on Aug 27, 2009 -
3 answers
I'm straight, but I've been seeing this girl. She's beautiful and a socialite and I've been feeling conflicted about being seen in public together. More inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2009 -
32 answers
Lesbian-dating-a-man-filter. When should I tell a guy that I'm dating that I've only ever dated girls before? And how? And does it even matter?
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posted by anonymous
on May 30, 2009 -
35 answers
What is a lesbian daughter to do, when the mode and extent of her mother's display of affection becomes "too much"?
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posted by anonymous
on May 29, 2009 -
31 answers
Lesbian seeks men's (or men's-like) suit in Montréal ASAP. Other non-location-specific genderqueer shopping advice appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2009 -
3 answers
Can you recommend a nice/interesting place for a weekend away on Maryland's Eastern Shore or thereabouts?
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posted by Morrigan
on May 1, 2009 -
7 answers
Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2009 -
16 answers
Were Miss Hinchcliffe and Miss Murgatroyd perceived as lesbians?
(Warning: Contains SPOILER for book that is almost 60 years old.)
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posted by DU
on Jan 21, 2009 -
38 answers
Do straight chicks dig lesbian erotica? My wife trolls the net for stories of girl on girl sex. No pics. No videos. Oh, and by the way, our sex life is not so good. Might she be gay? curious? or do straight girls dig lesbian sex stories?
posted by teg4rvn
on Jan 2, 2009 -
41 answers
I'm a married woman and I developed a maddening crush on another woman. Now I can't figure out how to get on with my otherwise really happy life and wonderful husband. Help me sort this out!
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2008 -
17 answers
How do married same-sex couples hold title? Any recommendations or resources for California same-sex unions wanting to change title to their property?
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posted by Graygorey
on Nov 13, 2008 -
4 answers
Low-Budget Lesbian Space Adventure...filter: What was the name of this late-90s Northern Virginia community access channel show?
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posted by el_lupino
on Sep 7, 2008 -
8 answers
