I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2013 -
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I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 2, 2012 -
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Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2012 -
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Looking for a lesbian/bisexual lady bar in Chicago. I'm in my mid-20s and looking to meet other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 29, 2012 -
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I am a gay female in my late 20s who has understood my own sexuality for as long as I can remember and has been out to all of my friends for many years. My orientation is certainly not anything I would consider a defining characteristic about myself. The kind of profession I am in, the kind of experiences I have had and my life goals have greatly shaped who I am as a person, and have absolutely nothing to do with who I am attracted to.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 20, 2011 -
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I'm a straight female, I think, but I'm terrified of dicks. And for the past few months, I've been wondering if I'm gay, but the thought scares me. (NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2011 -
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Am I a lesbian? Bisexual? Or, straight but asexual? Please help. I am, obviously, very confused.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2011 -
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I think I'm a lesbian. I'm married. I have no gay friends. My family is Conservative Christian. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 16, 2011 -
46 answers
My partner and I are a lesbian couple. One half of our happy couple is pregnant with our first child, the other half is a transsexual woman, and because of that we have been able to conceive a child that is genetically related to both of us. We know one other couple in the world who has dealt with these issues. Is anyone else out there?
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2011 -
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My same-sex partner and I have separated (to my shock and opposition) after a few years of hard financial times. While I am holding out hope that she will come to her senses, I need help deciding on what to do (especially regarding our house) in case we can't resolve our issues.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 28, 2011 -
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I'm 21, mostly lesbian, and kind of insecure. It's very rare that I can attract a girl, and so I "settle" for (and encourage) male attention to feel better about myself. Tell me how to stop.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2011 -
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I consider myself straight, but am interested in having sex with a girl just to see what it's like. I am under the impression that lesbians are not big fans of people like me.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 7, 2011 -
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I have just been seduced by a relatively older, more experienced, kinky woman who's keen to show me the darker side of pleasure. I'm a relatively inexperienced younger woman. What could I do so that *she* gets some fun out of it too?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 21, 2010 -
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Woman in early 30s coming out as a lesbian for the first time in the Twin Cities. What's the city LGBT scene like? (Asking for a friend.)
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2010 -
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GetMeTheHellOutOfTheHouseFilter: I need to get out badly, I need a temporary escape from the insanity I'm in right now. My fantasy? To go somewhere and be straight up hit on by a lady (who likes other ladies (who are butch-ish (as in I will not be seen in pink ever, but can't fix my own car))). And this needs to happen in Chicago. Please help!!!
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 7, 2010 -
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I'm a queer girl who would like to ask another queer girl out on a date. I have never done this before. How do I do this without being stupid?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2010 -
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I'm a twenty year old gay woman. For 2010, I want to learn how to flirt with other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 24, 2009 -
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My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now?
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2009 -
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Late start at dating, and I'm worried that I don't/can't express attraction on dates or around people I like. Halp!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 18, 2009 -
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I have a first date with a girl coming up, which is awesome and I'm psyched. Only... I've never dated girls before! Help!
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 3, 2009 -
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I'm straight, but I've been seeing this girl. She's beautiful and a socialite and I've been feeling conflicted about being seen in public together. More inside...
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 13, 2009 -
32 answers
Lesbian-dating-a-man-filter. When should I tell a guy that I'm dating that I've only ever dated girls before? And how? And does it even matter?
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posted by anonymous
on May 30, 2009 -
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What is a lesbian daughter to do, when the mode and extent of her mother's display of affection becomes "too much"?
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posted by anonymous
on May 29, 2009 -
31 answers
Lesbian seeks men's (or men's-like) suit in Montréal ASAP. Other non-location-specific genderqueer shopping advice appreciated.
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posted by anonymous
on May 27, 2009 -
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Lesbian monogamy filter: I am really just a hopeless romantic no matter how hard I try not to be? Should I not move right on to the one waiting in the wings?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2009 -
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I'm a married woman and I developed a maddening crush on another woman. Now I can't figure out how to get on with my otherwise really happy life and wonderful husband. Help me sort this out!
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 19, 2008 -
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After a long time in a lesbian relationship, I'm coming to the realization that I think I'm straight. I don't want to leave my wife (I really love her), but I can't stop thinking about men. Please help me figure this out. Sexually explicit details inside. NSFW
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2008 -
23 answers
Help me sort out my feelings about the relationship I’m in because I just can’t seem to figure it out. (long and complicated - sorry!)
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 25, 2007 -
23 answers
I identify as a lesbian. Friends have recently begun discussing the fact that they think that that I'm bisexual. I honestly don't know if they're right. Help me find good essays/books/etc, preferably online, that deal with some of these issues...
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posted by anonymous
on May 23, 2007 -
22 answers
Can I help two teenagers in a violent relationship when they don't seem particularly interested in being helped? One of the teenagers lives with me.
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posted by anonymous
on Dec 3, 2006 -
15 answers
Can a non-Canadian man donate sperm to a Canadian lesbian couple and use that child as justification to apply for immigration? Furthermore, once his immigration goes through, can the non-carrying lesbian adopt the child and be a legal parent?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 15, 2006 -
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Help me cure lesbian bed-death. Lesbians and non-lesbians alike are welcome to reply.
It's a not-so-funny joke in the gay community that a few months into a serious relationship. lesbians stop having sex. My partner and I have been together for six years now, and, although we talk about sex (especially how much we miss it!) we don't have sex. Maybe once a month, possibly less often than that.
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posted by anonymous
on Oct 11, 2005 -
13 answers
How did you come out to your parents / friends / family?
posted by anonymous
on Apr 21, 2005 -
34 answers
I am a hetero male. Why am I attracted to lesbians? I know it's a fairly common thing for guys, but I just don't understand where it comes from, and this disturbs me -and hurts my hetero relationship.
posted by anonymous
on Feb 6, 2005 -
28 answers
