I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what? Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 25, 2013 - 23 answers

I am a gay female in my late 20s who has understood my own sexuality for as long as I can remember and has been out to all of my friends for many years. My orientation is certainly not anything I would consider a defining characteristic about myself. The kind of profession I am in, the kind of experiences I have had and my life goals have greatly shaped who I am as a person, and have absolutely nothing to do with who I am attracted to. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 20, 2011 - 42 answers

BookFilter: I am looking for well written fiction/novels where the main character is a woman in a relationship with another woman. Whether they are lesbian or bisexual doesn't matter. [more inside]
posted by deborah on Jan 11, 2011 - 40 answers

I have just been seduced by a relatively older, more experienced, kinky woman who's keen to show me the darker side of pleasure. I'm a relatively inexperienced younger woman. What could I do so that *she* gets some fun out of it too? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2010 - 18 answers

My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2009 - 18 answers