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Where do I meet Older Lesbians in NYC who are into Younger Women?

Hi there! Where can I meet Older Lesbians in NYC who are into Younger Women? I've been scouring the internet, MeetUp, etc, but there has to be an event for this, right? NYC is supposed to have everything ;) Cheers, G
posted by Kombucha3452 on Sep 30, 2014 - 6 answers

Rejected Craigslist Roommate = Possible Date?

My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour. I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier on Aug 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Feels like I'm 15 again

I'm in my early thirties, bisexual/queer and just ended a decade-long relationship with a cisgendered man. I'm starting to date women but haven't had sex with a woman in a decade and didn't have a lot of experience even then. I have always been a visible part of the LGBT community and most people assume I'm a lesbian, which makes people think I have more sexual experience with women than I do. I'm basically nervous about not knowing what to do anymore and being bad in bed. Questions are as follows: Should I disclose this lack of recent experience to the women I'm starting to casually date and have sex with? How can I stop being so nervous, which I know won't help? And: what does real-life lesbian safer sex look like when you're an adult and not a 23 year old with no sense of risk?
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2014 - 8 answers

Transmasculine / Masculine-of-Center Fashion Blogs

I'm a queer girl who sometimes likes to dress like a boy. I would like suggestions for fashion blogs that focus on genderqueer/butch/trans fashion. I'm especially looking for style aesthetics other than the very popular "dapper" look. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Aug 23, 2013 - 6 answers

Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.

The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Mar 5, 2013 - 5 answers

Unobtanium suddenly becomes obtainable; drat! complications!

I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts on Oct 14, 2012 - 34 answers

You are not a bad person for wanting to break up, and neither is he.

Any resources for healing after a breakup when you're the one that initiated it? And that doesn't demonise either party? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Oct 6, 2012 - 11 answers

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school?

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school? How? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Sep 19, 2012 - 32 answers

Who's your favourite butch dyke?

Help me compiling a list of well known butch dykes [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood on Jul 26, 2012 - 31 answers

No, no, I'm not attracted to women! I just find women attractive!

Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 38 answers

Kiss My Grits

I would like help in finding a book mentioned in passing during one of my lesbian literature in English classes in undergrad. This was ages ago in the early 90s. The woman fell in love with a diner.
posted by MidSouthern Mouth on Feb 13, 2012 - 3 answers

Seeking: Mentor/Protege

Recommendations for stories about the mentor/protege dynamic that are sexy. Bonus points if both parties are female. [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 2, 2011 - 8 answers

Good LGBT blogs and websites?

I'm looking for some good blogs and sites related to LGBT issues [more inside]
posted by nickhb on Aug 10, 2011 - 11 answers

Not as hard as coming out, but still not easy

[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life? [more inside]
posted by zahava on Jan 27, 2011 - 33 answers

What do you give the girl who has everything?

I have just been seduced by a relatively older, more experienced, kinky woman who's keen to show me the darker side of pleasure. I'm a relatively inexperienced younger woman. What could I do so that *she* gets some fun out of it too? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2010 - 18 answers

Awkward Girl tribulations

I'm a queer girl who would like to ask another queer girl out on a date. I have never done this before. How do I do this without being stupid? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2010 - 12 answers

Lesbian assault help

My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2009 - 18 answers

Previously straight-acting queer girl needs the dating 411!

I have a first date with a girl coming up, which is awesome and I'm psyched. Only... I've never dated girls before! Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2009 - 9 answers

Dyke seeks suit.

Lesbian seeks men's (or men's-like) suit in Montréal ASAP. Other non-location-specific genderqueer shopping advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2009 - 3 answers

Notable Gay Women in the LGBT Rights Movement?

Where are the lesbians in the history of the Gay Rights Movement? [more inside]
posted by crossoverman on Feb 1, 2009 - 20 answers

Why do straights use the word "partner"?

I want to know more about the use of the word "partner," especially for straight couples... [more inside]
posted by iliketolaughalot on Sep 22, 2008 - 68 answers

Places for queers to dance and hang out in San Antonio?

Where's a nice place for two queer women to hang out, eat, or dance in San Antonio this weekend? We're staying at a hotel about half an hour west of downtown, and we'll have a car. [more inside]
posted by expialidocious on Mar 22, 2007 - 10 answers

Help me get out of this closet before the house burns down!

I've never dated a girl before. Where do I start? Oh, and I am one, too... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 31, 2006 - 24 answers

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