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Rejected Craigslist Roommate = Possible Date?

My housemates and I interviewed several people yesterday for a new roommate. We chose the person whose move-in schedule logistically worked best. However, we got along with all of the interviewees surprisingly well; each one stayed and chatted for at least an hour. I especially got along with two people, and I'd like to contact them again to see if they want to get together as friends, or - especially one of them - as a date. How inappropriate is this? Would you feel flattered or stalked if someone who didn't choose you as a roommate asked you out? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier on Aug 18, 2014 - 21 answers

Feels like I'm 15 again

I'm in my early thirties, bisexual/queer and just ended a decade-long relationship with a cisgendered man. I'm starting to date women but haven't had sex with a woman in a decade and didn't have a lot of experience even then. I have always been a visible part of the LGBT community and most people assume I'm a lesbian, which makes people think I have more sexual experience with women than I do. I'm basically nervous about not knowing what to do anymore and being bad in bed. Questions are as follows: Should I disclose this lack of recent experience to the women I'm starting to casually date and have sex with? How can I stop being so nervous, which I know won't help? And: what does real-life lesbian safer sex look like when you're an adult and not a 23 year old with no sense of risk?
posted by anonymous on Apr 2, 2014 - 8 answers

Transmasculine / Masculine-of-Center Fashion Blogs

I'm a queer girl who sometimes likes to dress like a boy. I would like suggestions for fashion blogs that focus on genderqueer/butch/trans fashion. I'm especially looking for style aesthetics other than the very popular "dapper" look. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana on Aug 23, 2013 - 6 answers

Playing my part in making life for fellow LGBT countryfolk bearable.

The State-sanctioned homophobia and transphobia in Malaysia, my country of origin, is breaking my heart. What can I do as a currently overseas citizen to make things better for my fellow LGBT folk back in Malaysia, particularly in raising awareness of the issue internationally? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Mar 5, 2013 - 5 answers

Unobtanium suddenly becomes obtainable; drat! complications!

I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts on Oct 14, 2012 - 34 answers

You are not a bad person for wanting to break up, and neither is he.

Any resources for healing after a breakup when you're the one that initiated it? And that doesn't demonise either party? [more inside]
posted by divabat on Oct 6, 2012 - 11 answers

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school?

Should I try to start an LGBTQ organization at my middle school? How? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl on Sep 19, 2012 - 32 answers

Who's your favourite butch dyke?

Help me compiling a list of well known butch dykes [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood on Jul 26, 2012 - 31 answers

No, no, I'm not attracted to women! I just find women attractive!

Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 10, 2012 - 38 answers

Kiss My Grits

I would like help in finding a book mentioned in passing during one of my lesbian literature in English classes in undergrad. This was ages ago in the early 90s. The woman fell in love with a diner.
posted by MidSouthern Mouth on Feb 13, 2012 - 3 answers

Seeking: Mentor/Protege

Recommendations for stories about the mentor/protege dynamic that are sexy. Bonus points if both parties are female. [more inside]
posted by divabat on Dec 2, 2011 - 8 answers

Good LGBT blogs and websites?

I'm looking for some good blogs and sites related to LGBT issues [more inside]
posted by nickhb on Aug 10, 2011 - 11 answers

Not as hard as coming out, but still not easy

[Queer-filter] How do you cope with the ambient heterosexism of everyday life? [more inside]
posted by zahava on Jan 27, 2011 - 33 answers

What do you give the girl who has everything?

I have just been seduced by a relatively older, more experienced, kinky woman who's keen to show me the darker side of pleasure. I'm a relatively inexperienced younger woman. What could I do so that *she* gets some fun out of it too? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2010 - 18 answers

Awkward Girl tribulations

I'm a queer girl who would like to ask another queer girl out on a date. I have never done this before. How do I do this without being stupid? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2010 - 12 answers

Lesbian assault help

My first lesbian experience quickly became assault. What do I do to take care of myself now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 3, 2009 - 18 answers

Previously straight-acting queer girl needs the dating 411!

I have a first date with a girl coming up, which is awesome and I'm psyched. Only... I've never dated girls before! Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2009 - 9 answers

Dyke seeks suit.

Lesbian seeks men's (or men's-like) suit in Montréal ASAP. Other non-location-specific genderqueer shopping advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 27, 2009 - 3 answers

Notable Gay Women in the LGBT Rights Movement?

Where are the lesbians in the history of the Gay Rights Movement? [more inside]
posted by crossoverman on Feb 1, 2009 - 20 answers

Why do straights use the word "partner"?

I want to know more about the use of the word "partner," especially for straight couples... [more inside]
posted by iliketolaughalot on Sep 22, 2008 - 68 answers

Places for queers to dance and hang out in San Antonio?

Where's a nice place for two queer women to hang out, eat, or dance in San Antonio this weekend? We're staying at a hotel about half an hour west of downtown, and we'll have a car. [more inside]
posted by expialidocious on Mar 22, 2007 - 10 answers

Help me get out of this closet before the house burns down!

I've never dated a girl before. Where do I start? Oh, and I am one, too... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 31, 2006 - 24 answers

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