I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2013 -
23 answers
Seeing as how I was an utter failure at my LAST crush, I’m determined to do things differently and boy do I want to move on from that nightmare. Help me figure out how to do it.
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posted by christiehawk
on Dec 31, 2012 -
12 answers
My Mormon parents won't let me bring my lesbian partner to my brother's wedding (and other big events in our lives). How do we get through this?
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posted by timpanogos
on Nov 12, 2012 -
41 answers
Help me navigate my way through dating in my twenties and escaping the perpetual friend zoning: lesbian edition. Long story with links to my dating profiles for critiquing.
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posted by HiphopAnonymous
on Nov 12, 2012 -
19 answers
I have two romantic interests in my life: one who adores me and is giving herself to me wholeheartedly, and one who seems to be a better match but lives 850 miles away and is just getting out of a relationship. What should I do?
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posted by sockpuppetryarts
on Oct 14, 2012 -
34 answers
My partner and I plan to move to Austin, Texas, in January. We’re looking for recommendations about neighborhoods, information about the housing market, or any other useful information.
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posted by maurreen
on Oct 9, 2012 -
6 answers
Any resources for healing after a breakup when
you're the one that initiated it? And that doesn't demonise either party?
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posted by divabat
on Oct 6, 2012 -
11 answers
Toronto lesbian community/friends filter: Where in Toronto can I find and join some sort of lesbian social groups? Where are the non-alcoholic local hang outs? I am single (so, the couples-only ones are out) and in my late 20's. I'm really just looking for friends.
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posted by atetrachordofthree
on Sep 30, 2012 -
1 answer
Would like insight and education into the various ways that gay men -- both as individuals and as a group, both historically and currently -- relate to, regard, and interact with gay/lesbian women, and vice versa.
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posted by jjjjjjjijjjjjjj
on Aug 29, 2012 -
8 answers
I'm a 22-year-old lesbian. I have never made any effort to look hot, but suddenly I want to, and it's raising some serious identity issues for me.
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 2, 2012 -
65 answers
Mid-20s, female, sort of starting to wonder if I might maybe be bi, kind of hating on myself over it.
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posted by anonymous
on Jul 10, 2012 -
38 answers
I'm looking to work in/maybe move to, a country where same-sex marriage is legal and gay people are treated equally. Any recommendations? Any advice from expatriates?
I've been in a committed and loving relationship with my partner for over 6 years. Looking forward, I would like to move to a country where I can get married, live, work, raise a family and be openly gay in a country with as much respect from the law and the community as everyone else.
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posted by Firegal
on Jun 18, 2012 -
35 answers
First things first: I am a gay female. I have had a crush on my friend for several months (also a gay female), however, being inexperienced at making first moves and being shy, I have been moving very slowly. I thought perhaps she felt something for me, but never made any overt moves. Recently she drunkenly hooked up with another girl (whom she had just recently met within the last 2 weeks and this was only the second or third day they had really hung out together) at a party. I am wondering if I have completely missed my chance, and what I should do.
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posted by christiehawk
on May 19, 2012 -
22 answers
What are the ways we could expand services and support available to LGBT young people online?
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posted by Kirn
on May 2, 2012 -
7 answers
I'm looking for poetry with a feminist leaning and/or covering a certain set of topics.
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posted by kanata
on Mar 23, 2012 -
30 answers
What are some ways my partner and I (two women) can signal to restaurant staff that we are on a date and hope to receive service similar to straight couples?
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posted by tr0ubley
on Mar 5, 2012 -
25 answers
Looking for a lesbian/bisexual lady bar in Chicago. I'm in my mid-20s and looking to meet other women.
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posted by anonymous
on Feb 29, 2012 -
6 answers
I would like help in finding a book mentioned in passing during one of my lesbian literature in English classes in undergrad. This was ages ago in the early 90s. The woman fell in love with a diner.
posted by MidSouthern Mouth
on Feb 13, 2012 -
3 answers
Recommendations for stories about the mentor/protege dynamic that are sexy. Bonus points if both parties are female.
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posted by divabat
on Dec 2, 2011 -
8 answers
I am a gay female in my late 20s who has understood my own sexuality for as long as I can remember and has been out to all of my friends for many years. My orientation is certainly not anything I would consider a defining characteristic about myself. The kind of profession I am in, the kind of experiences I have had and my life goals have greatly shaped who I am as a person, and have absolutely nothing to do with who I am attracted to.
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posted by anonymous
on Nov 20, 2011 -
42 answers
Where should I stay in Amsterdam and what should I check out?
I'm going to Amsterdam for two days and two nights the first week of January. I am a 26 year old single lesbian who is very interested in checking out the local hotspots for gay women and also visiting some art galleries. I would like to see some unusual art installations and/or performance art while I am there. Thank you! : )
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posted by thatgirl1985
on Oct 24, 2011 -
6 answers
What are some lesbian/queer events, gallery exhibitions, movies, bars, etc. to see in Paris?
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posted by msk1985
on Oct 7, 2011 -
2 answers
I'm a straight female, I think, but I'm terrified of dicks. And for the past few months, I've been wondering if I'm gay, but the thought scares me. (NSFW)
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posted by anonymous
on Aug 25, 2011 -
43 answers
The parents kicked me out for being gay. What can I do now to make sure I stay emotionally healthy, and how do I deal with my complicated feelings surrounding this? Has anyone else been through this?
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posted by Autumn
on Aug 24, 2011 -
69 answers
Am I a lesbian? Bisexual? Or, straight but asexual? Please help. I am, obviously, very confused.
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 24, 2011 -
33 answers
I recently came out to my parents. How can I not let their opinions about my sexuality lower my self esteem and mess with my sex-drive?
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posted by Autumn
on Jun 16, 2011 -
31 answers
I think I'm a lesbian. I'm married. I have no gay friends. My family is Conservative Christian. What do I do?
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posted by anonymous
on Jun 16, 2011 -
46 answers
My partner and I are a lesbian couple. One half of our happy couple is pregnant with our first child, the other half is a transsexual woman, and because of that we have been able to conceive a child that is genetically related to both of us. We know one other couple in the world who has dealt with these issues. Is anyone else out there?
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posted by anonymous
on May 28, 2011 -
17 answers
My same-sex partner and I have separated (to my shock and opposition) after a few years of hard financial times. While I am holding out hope that she will come to her senses, I need help deciding on what to do (especially regarding our house) in case we can't resolve our issues.
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 28, 2011 -
9 answers
Have you ever successfully fought for a relationship that you knew was worth saving? How did it work out?
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posted by newlyminted
on Apr 28, 2011 -
24 answers
I'm 21, mostly lesbian, and kind of insecure. It's very rare that I can attract a girl, and so I "settle" for (and encourage) male attention to feel better about myself. Tell me how to stop.
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posted by anonymous
on Mar 25, 2011 -
16 answers
Foreign Movie Filter: I need help remembering the name of a movie I saw at the Verzaubert festival in Berlin in November 2006. I know that it involved a wedding where the Bride did not show up and it ended with 5 people living in a polymorous relationship. Massive details below the fold.
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posted by Nackt
on Mar 19, 2011 -
5 answers
My little sister is a lesbian, and seems misinformed about some basic sexual concepts (eg: safe sex for lesbians) ....
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posted by starfyr
on Mar 14, 2011 -
46 answers
