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Planning a special weekend for an out-of-town cutie.

What would be fun things to do when a long-distance makeout buddy is visiting? (other than, uh, make out) What little things would make this special and interesting and fun? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 11, 2014 - 9 answers

Saltpeter?

I am a woman in my late 30s embarking upon an LDR. We plan to be together about half the time. After about 2 weeks of separation, I find myself going out of my head with sexual frustration. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 31, 2014 - 3 answers

Has this life stalled, or stagnated, or does it just need a new hobby?

I'm either going to need a radical overhaul, or just a new activity to keep me going a bit longer. Can't decide which, either because I'm indecisive or out of ideas. I'd like some input on either front: a) should I throw caution to the wind and take charge of my destiny? b) any suggestions for new preoccupations to get absorbed in while this current life persists? Piled embankments of soggy sleet within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 4, 2014 - 18 answers

we had a rom-com meet-cute…11 years ago. now what?

Is this something worth pursuing? About 11 years ago, i went to a destination wedding at the Oregon Coast. I met a close childhood friend of the groom's at the wedding. Nothing inappropriate happened because he was married, but we hit it off that week. He was one of the funniest, fun guys I had met and I immediately developed a crush on him. Five years later, I had by then moved to Portland (he lived in DC), and we ended up at another destination wedding in the northwest with the same group of friends. I don't remember a lot of this second wedding bc I was emerging from a deep clinical depression and was on meds. I do remember again hitting it off with the same guy again—and again, nothing inappropriate bc he was still married and had a daughter by this time. Every once in long while, we would exchange an email message or a comment on FB, but as he was still married with children (by now two) and lived in DC, I didn't think much about him beyond a fondness every time I saw him post on FB. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 23, 2014 - 18 answers

Christmas Present for friends in a LDR

Because of work, my very good friend and her husband live on two different continents (she in Asia, he in North America) and see each other every couple of months. I'm wondering if there are any apps or digital subscriptions that they can share/use together around $25 that might make a good Christmas gift for both? [more inside]
posted by Pineapplicious on Dec 23, 2013 - 5 answers

Can/Should I rebuild trust in an LDR? How difficult might that be?

I broke up with my LDR significant other ("SO") because of SO's emotional affair, which SO concealed from me. Is my regret and doubt for breaking up with SO a signal to reconcile or a natural part of the loss? [more inside]
posted by sciolisticfelix on Dec 9, 2013 - 15 answers

What should I put in a meal in-a-box?

What meals-in-a-box should I send to my darling? [more inside]
posted by justalisteningman on Nov 23, 2013 - 6 answers

LDR Distress: did I lose the love of my life?

I have been in a (very) long distance relationship that I think might be over. I need closure but I am not sure if I can get it. I am always worried something very bad happened to keep this person from contacting me. I have no idea what to do. Loooong story. [more inside]
posted by his median eminence on Nov 20, 2013 - 24 answers

LDRs: Tales and travails

Have you been in an LDR? What worked, what didn't, and what's your analysis of the outcome? I'm in an LDR now (after 1.5 years of togetherness and half that cohabitating) and I'm struggling for a number of reasons. Your thoughts/experience/advice/et cetera welcomed. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving on Nov 15, 2013 - 12 answers

How to manage an LDR when there's no end to the distance in sight?

I have just moved to a new city for my dream job and I can’t stop crying. Long distance relationship woes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 4, 2013 - 7 answers

Do I tell my job why I'll be traveling?

My relationship just turned long distance. My natural reaction is to not tell my work anything because 1. Personal life and 2. I don't want them to assume I'll be leaving to follow (I might, but that'll be around a year from now). Is that paranoid? [more inside]
posted by platypus of the universe on Oct 15, 2013 - 19 answers

Question for mature members on Relationship

Would like advice from mature members here. What is your opinion on how to move forward in my situation? Do long distance relationships work? I really like this girl a lot...but she's gone. We met, the chemistry was amazing, we both fell in love. She's a very sensitive girl. Insecure. Quiet. Shy. A very sweet, and a good girl. Shortly after, knowing her for 3 weeks, she goes back home overseas. Her and her best friend were crying when they left at the airport. But she spent almost every day of her final three weeks with me (Not her friends) She made it clear that she wants a relationship. [more inside]
posted by Nicholas Geary on Jul 27, 2013 - 29 answers

Best transportation between PHL and ROC?

During the last year, my long-distance boyfriend and I have gotten used to making the trip between NYC and Rochester, NY for weekend visits. Now I'm moving to Philadelphia, and we need a new plan. What's the fastest, least painful, least expensive way to get between Philadelphia and Rochester? [more inside]
posted by i_am_a_fiesta on Jun 30, 2013 - 6 answers

A breakup means you break things off...

This was me. Short version: was in a 6 year relationship with about a year of long distance, partner dumped me for someone else out of the blue. A month later he broke up with her and has since been really working hard for us to get back together. I can't imagine trusting him enough to get back into a relationship, but I love him and he's my best friend so we're doing this weird friends-who-miss-one-another and love-one-another thing that I know will eventually end badly. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 11, 2013 - 25 answers

Pre-marriage counseling is fine. But how committed is he?

It's been a few months after my fiance proposed and he made plans to move in with me and my 15-year-old son this summer. As predicted, my son began acting up, basically in the form of talking back and being a little rude to me in front of the fiance, who comes here every weekend. It's important to note my son does not act this way when it's the 2 of us and I completely understand what's going on and we're talking to someone. [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Apr 27, 2013 - 26 answers

LDR or not?

5yr relationship relationship about to embark on potential 2 years or longer LDR [more inside]
posted by Trinergy on Mar 13, 2013 - 22 answers

Partner of 6 years kissed someone else - what next?

That's basically what I know right now. He kissed someone he's in a group with after the two of them went out to lunch. We've been together for 6 years, have been living in different states for the past year and a half; the distance was supposed to end this summer when we moved in together in a new city, but now I don't know what to think. He told me himself this morning; the kiss happened yesterday. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 4, 2013 - 24 answers

Long-distance relationship or debaucherous partying?

As a 22-year-old woman with zero real relationship experience, I'm turning to AskMe in this time of indecision. One of my best friends wants to date me, and I like him, but I also want to make out with boys I might like more. Does that make me a bad person? Should I forget about the other boys? Details inside, naturally. [more inside]
posted by jouir on Feb 12, 2013 - 33 answers

Hitting the like button just doesn't cut it.

Hit me with your best asynchronous communication tips, games, tools & tricks. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself on Nov 14, 2012 - 7 answers

Dysthymia care package

How can I constructively help my newly long-distance boyfriend with possible low-grade depression? I'd like ideas for what to send him in a care package, and I'm also wondering if I'm being overbearing / Jesus Girlfriend-y. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetofexistentialconfusion on Nov 2, 2012 - 7 answers

Taking the LD out of an LDR

Advice for long-distance partners finally settling together? [more inside]
posted by harujion on Oct 11, 2012 - 9 answers

Will He or Won't He?

My wonderful long-distance boyfriend and I have discussed him moving in with me and my kid. But I'm starting to wonder if it's really going to happen and I need some hivemind advice here. [more inside]
posted by kinetic on Oct 1, 2012 - 17 answers

Advice for someone new to crossdressing and D/s.

My husband just told me he's into crossdressing and wants to introduce D/s into our sex life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2012 - 15 answers

How to resolve rational/emotional conflict over temporary LDR?

My serious partner and I are not going to see each other for about two months, and its causing intense depression for me. Is this period of long distance in my serious relationship an opportunity to work on improving myself and fixing the mental health issues it triggers? Or is the difficulty I'm having a sign that I'm not cut out for this kind of relationship? Help me think this through and make the right decisions! [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle on Sep 12, 2012 - 15 answers

Cutting line and fishing

I broke up with my boyfriend when I moved across the country several months ago, because of the distance. Now I want to date him long-distance. Should I talk to him about it or wait it out and hopefully stop wanting to date him? Flurries inside. [more inside]
posted by momus_window on Sep 5, 2012 - 12 answers

Should I maintain radio silence?

I cut ties off with someone, and every few months she sends me an e-mail or Facebook message trying to get back in touch. Should I send her a message to tell her to stop? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 24, 2012 - 25 answers

Shall I visit my kind-of-ex or not?

Travelling to a country where someone that I was involved with fairly recently and parted on amicable terms lives. Shall I visit him - and risk either rekindling a relationship that doesn't really have a future, or becoming even more heartbroken? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2012 - 18 answers

Is it normal to feel this way before moving for an ldr?

I move across the country for my boyfriend tomorrow, and I am not feeling very relaxed about it. [more inside]
posted by queens86 on May 31, 2012 - 38 answers

How to Handle the Hormones

Emotional cheating vs. Real Life cheating (with prostitutes!) or how to handle hormones... [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2012 - 71 answers

Do I throw away a half-bottle of maple syrup?

Throw away or keep? A Maple Syrup love story. [more inside]
posted by LemonGardot on May 10, 2012 - 26 answers

long distance custody

Is there a way for parents to move far apart without hurting the kids? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 26, 2012 - 22 answers

What advice to give to my fiance, who is in law school and in a bad place?

My fiance is not speaking to me. We are in a long-distance relationship. He is depressed, has ADHD, a probable gaming addiction, and not doing well in law school. How can I help him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 21, 2012 - 23 answers

when is it OK to forgive someone for their mistakes?

when is it OK to forgive someone for their mistakes? [more inside]
posted by timsneezed on Apr 4, 2012 - 30 answers

Long distance relationship or transfer university?

I'll be moving to London in October for work, but my partner is enrolled in university here with two years of studies to go for his undergraduate degree. We need to weigh up our options and are looking for advice on transferring schools or the prospect of a long distance relationship. [more inside]
posted by hannahlambda on Mar 13, 2012 - 9 answers

LDR Coping Strategies

My SO would like advice on how he can overcome some of the frustration and sadness he feels about the LDR he and I are in when he misses me. [more inside]
posted by iLoveTheRain on Feb 7, 2012 - 13 answers

Hard man is good to find - help me make him hard

My guy has a sex issue I need help with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 13, 2012 - 12 answers

How did you know when it was time to go from being in a Long Distance Relationship to being in a Short Distance Relationship?

I am in a relationship with the most wonderful person. However, a job has taken me 3 hours away from him, and we're at the point in which we're struggling to see how this LDR will eventually work out for us. A flurry of snowflakiness within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 10, 2012 - 20 answers

Replacement for WoW for a long-distance pair

Help me find a substitute for World of Warcraft to serve as common ground and entertainment for myself and my long-distance boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith on Nov 7, 2011 - 26 answers

Should I grant my girlfriend a "last hurrah" before settling down?

My long-distance girlfriend wants to have a "last hurrah" and make our relationship open just for a few months before I return to her city and we make a long-term commitment. Are we courting disaster? [more inside]
posted by kramer1975 on Oct 6, 2011 - 65 answers

Fun little games for LDR.

Internet interactivity for long-distance relationship; games for non-gamer girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by Buckt on Sep 11, 2011 - 21 answers

Booty Call disguised as genuine Me Likey?

Can a Long Distance Relationship Work Out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 7, 2011 - 16 answers

Where do you meet people IRL who will not mug/kill you?

Where do you meet people IRL who will not mug/kill you? [more inside]
posted by becomingly on Aug 19, 2011 - 14 answers

How do I make this LDR work? Or what are my options?

Am I being ridiculous in my relationship expectations? How do I figure out what it is I want? [more inside]
posted by thegmann on Aug 4, 2011 - 34 answers

Not sure how to deal with family drama!

How do I avoid a potentially upsetting and tricky family situation in an already stressful event? [more inside]
posted by snowysoul on Aug 2, 2011 - 19 answers

Do I force myself to feel the pain or do I let a callous grow?

Do I force myself to feel the pain or do I let a callous grow? [more inside]
posted by Submiqent on Jul 29, 2011 - 12 answers

There's a beach but no-one to walk it with!

I moved/relocated four months ago to a small island in SE Asia. I never really thought much about dating before this - I always seemed to have a partner if I wanted one - but there are so few single guys here looking for Western women that it might become a bit of an issue. But if I try online dating, my matches are likely to be from hundreds of miles away which could end up with me not meeting anyone that way either. Should I give it a go? [more inside]
posted by mudkicker on Jul 27, 2011 - 10 answers

In need of new insights re cross-cultural LDR with issues

A long-distance relationship complicated by issues relating to (his) ex-girlfriends, potentially alarming interaction and cross-cultural issues. Also, wonderful and lovely in most ways. So, since my head and heart are a hodgepodge of contradictory thoughts and feelings, I would like to ask for your help with this. Trailing past discussions has provided some valuable insights, but did not clarify my core issues, so I hope this AskMe is on track. [more inside]
posted by miorita on Jul 22, 2011 - 25 answers

Chocolate biscuits? Check. Now what?

What are some healthy ways to mark the amicable end of a long-term relationship and the start of my new, single life? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 29, 2011 - 20 answers

How much is too much worrying when moving to a different state (complete with snowflake story)

How much is too much worrying when moving to a different state (complete with snowflake story) [more inside]
posted by becomingly on Jun 11, 2011 - 13 answers

Break-up Remorse: Reconciliation?

For 5 years, I was in a great relationship with a fantastic woman. Never crazy with infatuation, but never, ever bad. Shared values, great time together, all-in-all great. Story ends when LDR, move to a new city, and new person contribute to my decision to end things. Now I'm not sure what to do and looking for resources, related journal articles, advice from strangers. A lot of details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 8, 2011 - 20 answers

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