My husband and I have been together for 9 years, married for the last 3. We met when I was 19, and him 21. Recently I have been feeling like I might want out. I still love him, but I am not sure that he is going to change in ways which I would prefer him to.
Should I tell him I want to separate or wait to see if things get better?
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posted by anonymous
on May 19, 2013 -
35 answers
I'm 45, female and just discovered I'm bi. Now what?
Yes, I know it seems unlikely, and the nearest I can figure is my arousal/desire for every single one of my lovers has occurred after being desired, rather than finding someone hot in advance. I was married for a very long time, and possibly oblivious to any gay come-ons, in my premarital time. For the sake of the information I seek, can we please assume that I am correct - that I am bi, and that this wasn't just experimental? (which has been suggested to me by a straight friend).
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 25, 2013 -
23 answers
I ordered a 2-piece sectional sofa 15 weeks ago, and it was supposed to be delivered in 8-10 weeks. Half of it was delivered at 8 weeks, the other half is still missing. How much should I ask for in compensation as the delivery gets later and later, and what's the best way to handle asking for such compensation?
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posted by vytae
on Mar 24, 2013 -
15 answers
I am very embarrassed about this. Last September, I attended the wedding of some good friends who live far away from me. At the brunch the day after the wedding, I discussed with the bride the gift I planned to give them to make sure it was one they'd want. AskMe, I still have not ordered that gift. Can I fix this by ordering it now and enclosing a note of apology? What do I say? Or do I get in touch with the couple first to find out if they still need it or would prefer something else in case they've already gotten one for themselves?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 4, 2012 -
13 answers
SleepFilter: Does quality of sleep suffer if you go from earlybird to night owl and do most of your sleeping after midnight/in the morning?
"One hour of sleep before midnight is worth 2 after." How true is this saying?
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posted by Not Supplied
on Sep 5, 2011 -
13 answers
My boyfriend is in his articling year at a criminal defense firm. All of a sudden, he's so rarely around! Have you been in this situation? What strategies can make this sudden shift in our lives easier on us both?
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posted by Clotilde
on Aug 13, 2011 -
11 answers
I'm writing a book and want to include a scene set in the mid-1990s in Boston. I'm looking for articles, blog posts, photos and books that capture that era. Things that talk about specific bars, clubs and restaurants would be perfect. The main character is a college kid who visits Boston and is taken around to all the "cool" spots by a local girl he meets randomly.
posted by haqspan
on Jul 9, 2011 -
13 answers
Please help me find some place pleasant, close to a train station, to pass the time from 10:00pm-12:00am north of Chicago, IL.
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posted by Vorteks
on Jul 7, 2011 -
4 answers
Last year I went on a hardship repayment plan with my Bank of America visa. No problem...until I see my credit report!!! They are now saying I should have known better, and there is nothing they can do. Do I have legal recourse to force them to revise my credit rating?
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posted by archivist
on May 5, 2011 -
13 answers
I go to college in California, and my school recently charged me a $250 late fee for failing to pay a bill by January 2nd, even though the semester does not begin until January 19th. In California, can a late fee be charged for a service that has not yet begun?
posted by holympus
on Jan 11, 2011 -
57 answers
Question: Trying to rebuild after leaving an abusive relationship; how can I recover my lost sense of self, while facing a competitive job market?
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posted by anonymous
on Jan 9, 2011 -
8 answers
Specific travel filter: Anyone know any hotels, hostels, guesthouses, B&Bs etc at Bangkok Suvarnabhumi airport that a) can pick up and return my hapless self to the airport (the next day) and b) offer 24 hour check in and out?
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posted by mudkicker
on Dec 26, 2010 -
3 answers
I am at JFK waiting to fly to Bermuda. Most likely, my flight is going to be cancelled due to weather in Bermuda. In the event my flight does get cancelled, what is the best thing to do regarding finding a room for the night that isn't going to be dodgy? I have had a look at rates in Manhattan and even something as simple as the Courtyard Marriott on 3rd is going for $450 a night. Should I stay near the airport? If so, where? Do I have any leverage on such short notice? Can I just call the hotel, and say 'Hey, I need a room, if its not you, its gonna be someone else. What's the best rate you can give me?' Help me find a decent place to stay and not pay an arm and a leg in NYC.
posted by trinigirl
on Dec 5, 2010 -
16 answers
Is anyone aware of the specific elements of The German Ideology that the later Marx is said to have disavowed or been unproud of?
I understand that Marx's economic understanding was developed far beyond what it was at the time of this writing due to his research on the matter, but I'm concerned about if Marx came to feel any different on the historical materialism expressed within his earlier works?
I could've sworn I had saw one reference that reflected how Marx felt about his early work (specifically, The German Ideology) but I can't find it now, and I know that I couldn't trace that observation into any sort of specific elements that Marx came to disavow.
posted by SollosQ
on Nov 12, 2010 -
3 answers
I am late for everything - dentist appointments, work, lunch. Not by much - about 10, 20 minutes at the most. I want to be on time, or even early! What are your tips and tricks for being punctual?
posted by lucyleaf
on Sep 8, 2010 -
55 answers
It's 23:00 / 11:00PM. I'm in London, near St. Pauls. Where can I eat right now? Nothing fancy, just something to get a decent late casual dinner. Takeaway or delivery is fine (or even preferred), and totally flexible on cuisine. A good curry or Kebab shop would be idea. I don't mind taking a taxi or the tube, but I don't want to be out all night. Any ideas?
posted by true
on Aug 11, 2010 -
12 answers
Renters in our condo are loud and obnoxious to their neighbors. Well, one of them is. Their lease is up for renewal. Should we?
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posted by Spyder's Game
on Jan 13, 2010 -
18 answers
Oh no! I forgot "Administrative Assistants' Day" - what should I do / get my secretary to make it up to her? Any gift ideas?
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posted by anonymous
on Apr 23, 2009 -
17 answers
Quick! What is the joke about the vindow vasher? My friends and I are going nuts! ..and looking up salmon PR)N.
posted by xorry
on Jun 29, 2008 -
11 answers
I'm looking for a good deli that delivers in Los Angeles, Beachwood Canyon to be precise. I need a website or very patient people.
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posted by arha
on May 27, 2008 -
7 answers
Tsk, tsk. I still need to file my taxes from 2006. Is there any website you can recommend that will help me do this?
posted by anonymous
on Dec 16, 2007 -
4 answers
How do I apply for an ideal job whose application deadline has *just* passed?
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posted by Chorus
on Apr 21, 2007 -
9 answers
(Denied boarding Airline question) -- I just got back from what was supposed to be a cheap trip to Paris (rtrp $464 after tax) but on the return leg, I missed my Air France flight because NO COMPUTER SCREEN in CDG (Charles de Gaulle airport) had the flight listed. By the time I located the terminal of the flight, it was 45 minutes before take-off and despite not having carry ons and perhaps 5-10 people in the line for tickets, I was told the flight was closed and I was not going to be able to board......
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posted by skepticallypleased
on Nov 27, 2006 -
32 answers
I'm almost 31 and though I have had some achievements in life they're not spectacular. Most of the time when I see a biog in the paper the 'achiever' was already doing well from a very early age.
To give me hope that achieving at this stage in life is possible I would like to hear of people who went on to make great achievements relatively late in their life (ie 30+) with not much happening before then. These can be anybody, famous or people you know, in any field, both creative and career wise. I haven't defined great achievement but I mean something rather outstanding (unusual I suppose) rather than 'passed my driving test' or 'got married'.
posted by razzman
on Jun 19, 2006 -
73 answers
I'm pretty much always hungry at night. I work at home, mostly at night. What's the least bad, most filling thing I can eat? I'm not fat, just a little squishy. Trying to focus on eating fruit but it doesn't always work out that way.
posted by clango
on Feb 1, 2006 -
25 answers
How do I break a 12+ year old habit of staying up too late? Is there such a thing as being addicted to staying up late? Or would it be addiction to sleep deprivation?
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posted by twiggy
on Nov 10, 2005 -
31 answers
