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How can I cultivate intentional kindness & decency despite fear & anger?

Like many of you, I've been imbibing a heady emotional cocktail of fear and anger since the US election. I'm putting more time/effort/money toward opposing Trump's agenda and supporting progressive policies at the local level, and I'm working to stay on top of self-care (therapy, as-needed anti-anxiety meds, occasional spiritual counseling, sharing love & support with family/friends, closing the fucking tab when I need to). Here's where I'm concerned: I think it's important to maintain the capacity for moral outrage in the face of injustice. However, I worry about turning into an "angry person." [more inside]
posted by duffell on Jan 9, 2017 - 14 answers

Less introversion, more openness

I've solidified some tendencies over the last 10 years or so that I wish I could dissolve. It looks like introversion, but that's not a perfect label. It is not coping strategies that I seek, but ideas to really effect change, and any hope you can give me that such change is possible. [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Aug 6, 2016 - 22 answers

If you can't say something nice, don't say anything at all.

How can I settle feelings of resentment towards someone I can't just boot out of my life? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. on Jan 17, 2016 - 19 answers

I've maybe depended too much on the kindness of strangers...

How can I become a kinder and more trusting person? [more inside]
posted by Toddles on Sep 6, 2015 - 8 answers

Acts of kindness and affection beyond romantic relationships?

Can life be as rich and wonderful without that deep intimacy with someone romantically? Can one channel openhearted and loving acts of kindness and affection in other ways that are just as fulfilling? [more inside]
posted by jpritcha on Jul 15, 2015 - 14 answers

Cultivating niceness

Would love suggested reading on the subject of compassion or the oneness of humankind or... anything that comes to mind when you read on. Please inspire me! [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing on Jul 4, 2015 - 17 answers

little ways to make the world a slightly better place?

When I'm out drinking, I bring my group's empty bottles and glasses back up to the bar so the bartender doesn't have to come out and get them. When I go out to eat, I consolidate the plates and cutlery after the meal so they're easy to bus off the table. What are some other similarly inconsequential-seeming habits I can adopt to help make the world a slightly easier and more pleasant place for my fellow travelers to live? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Feb 6, 2015 - 81 answers

Tell met about times that you were honest but kind

I have only a vague idea of what honest-but-kind looks like in close relationships. I find it hard to imagine saying, "I like you, but I don't like that about you," without it coming across as a harsh rejection. Do you have examples of times that you were honest-but-kind? If it's something that you do well on a regular basis, what's the most important thing you're bringing to the interaction? [more inside]
posted by clawsoon on Jan 27, 2015 - 27 answers

Dismissed from full time position, but HR offers to reclassify

I was recently dismissed from a new full time job less than 3 months after starting it. A recent note from HR has kindly offered to reclassify the position as a temporary one if it would help me. Is this wise? It sounds like I can go forward without the stigma of being fired but will it affect unemployment, or anything else I don't know about? (It was a bit of a shock, tho it wasn't a great fit. Wisconsin is an at-wlll state and there were no issues of misconduct. )
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2014 - 14 answers

Social Media Etiquette for Homewreckers

How long should one wait before indirectly notifying a recent ex via social media that they are in a new relationship? Is this even a thing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 7, 2014 - 31 answers

how did you learn to accept kindness and positive feedback with grace?

I have an awful reaction to being on the receiving end of compliments, gifts, and expressions of gratitude: visceral discomfort followed by impotent self-directed rage at having failed to insulate myself against any/all kindness. Ideally, I would love to be able to do things that other people consider to be nice without ever receiving any sort of thanks or even acknowledgment, but I know this is not a realistic goal. What are some concrete steps/resources I can use to learn how to change this overwrought bad attitude, and start meeting others' generosity, kindness, and gratitude with equanimity and grace rather than petulant rejection and destructive anger? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio on Oct 7, 2013 - 15 answers

Is there any answer I can give that won't result in more pushups?

I need advice for gracious, loving, kind, and assertive ways to deal with a very specific type of bullying. I don't really know what to call it, but I will describe it as best I can. [more inside]
posted by windykites on Jul 19, 2013 - 34 answers

Where can I find a list of Save The Cat moments?

I wonder whether there is a good listing somewhere of "Save the Cat" moments from movies? [more inside]
posted by steinsaltz on Dec 15, 2012 - 7 answers

Good people do still exist!

A good human being is returning my lost iPhone and declining the posted reward. What's a good way to thank him? [more inside]
posted by dynamiiiite on Nov 26, 2012 - 28 answers

What items/objects should be in a guest bedroom?

What items/objects should be in a guest bedroom? [more inside]
posted by Year of meteors on Apr 1, 2012 - 45 answers

Need advice from alcoholics

I made my alcoholic husband of 10 years leave a couple weeks ago. How to I be supportive, civil, and not lose my newly found sanity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 5, 2012 - 27 answers

Where can my wife read heartwarming news stories on a regular basis?

Every other night or so, my wife pokes around the internet for heartwarming news stories. But she doesn't have any reliable source for this process (she's taken to reading the Daily Mail (!) in hopes of finding her glurge fix; but of course the stories are as likely to rend her heart as warm it). She needs a reliable place on the internet to go for her heartwarmth. Please hope her! [more inside]
posted by Jpfed on Jan 19, 2012 - 24 answers

Help me plan ahead for anonymous holiday gifts

I know I'm a chronically early planner, but bear with me. I have two questions about the upcoming holidays: 1) Organizations similar to this one that sends shoe boxes of toys to needy children. 2) Random acts of anonymous kindess but AT WORK. More details inside: [more inside]
posted by librarianamy on Nov 3, 2011 - 8 answers

Is it okay to surprise my best friend at the airport?

Would it be inappropriate to surprise your best friend at the airport who has been on a long international flight? She'll be arriving alone in Abu Dhabi from Toronto this evening. We haven't seen each other in about five months. See further details below: [more inside]
posted by thatgirl1985 on Aug 26, 2011 - 19 answers

Creepy or Nice? How to tell the difference!

Dating Filter: Is he creepy or just nice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2011 - 71 answers

Tell me about a study that links kindness and affinity.

We know that an abuser's contempt for his victim increases, the more he abuses her, in a vicious feedback loop. Are you aware of any studies suggesting the converse, that when I treat someone with kindness, my affinity increases, in a virtuous circle?
posted by markcmyers on Jan 13, 2011 - 5 answers

How can I temper my tendency to despise people?

How can I temper my tendency to despise people? [more inside]
posted by foursentences on Jan 2, 2011 - 53 answers

Be kind to everyone? Says who!

The aphorism "Be Kind, For Everyone You Meet Is Fighting A Hard Battle" is widely attributed (at least online) to Plato of Athens. I am having a difficult time finding the particular line in the dialogues where he makes this statement. Is this quote apocryphal? [more inside]
posted by joe lisboa on Jun 11, 2010 - 9 answers

Am I too late in saying thanks?

Someone made a small, kind gesture to me years ago. It was just a few kind words but it meant a lot at the time. Do I email him and thank him? Or is that too weird? [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp on Apr 24, 2010 - 35 answers

Random Acts of Kindness you have done?

What "random act of kindness" have you done recently? I'm looking for ideas! [more inside]
posted by greenish on Mar 4, 2009 - 75 answers

The art of the "day-maker" is subtle...

Share your clever ideas on how to make a stranger's day [more inside]
posted by nnevvinn on Dec 10, 2008 - 59 answers

Are random acts of kindness not appreciated anymore?

Would it be inappropriate to perform so-called "random acts of kindness" to strangers or the people around me without asking? What about with permission? [more inside]
posted by joshrholloway on Dec 1, 2008 - 21 answers

Fix my faux pas or forget it?

Should I try to fix some insensitive behaviour of mine? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 13, 2008 - 28 answers

when things are this down, there's only one direction they can go: sideways

What are some little things I can do to stay positive and kind to myself while going through some heartache? [more inside]
posted by loiseau on Jan 28, 2008 - 50 answers

How do nice people do it?

I've always admired people who are just genuinely nice, warm folks and inspire everyone they talk to. I'd like to be one of those people when I grow up, but I don't know how to do it. Sometimes, when I do or say nice things, people get freaked out and think that I'm hitting on them, want something from them or am being insincere. That isn't the case, but every time it happens, I get a little more timid about doing nice things for people. It's easy to get by with a prickly Dorothy Parker routine, but that's not how I want to live my life. And I'm sick of not doing or saying nice things just because I'm not socially adept enough to pull it off. Being an asshole is easy, and no one ever questions your motives. How can I, as an introvert, act upon my nice impulses without freaking people out? What's the secret to being a mensch?
posted by freshwater_pr0n on Nov 14, 2007 - 28 answers

So maybe I'm a bit of a keener...

What makes a great roommate really great? [more inside]
posted by gursky on Oct 29, 2007 - 31 answers

How to stop being a racist?

How (or: Why) do people begin to stop being racist? How did you begin to learn to appreciate people of different races to your own? [more inside]
posted by cleardawn on Sep 21, 2005 - 37 answers

How can I stop being nice?

I am one of those people who will give you the shirt off their back. Problem is, sometimes it's a little chilly being half-nekkid in this damnable British weather... [more inside]
posted by longbaugh on Feb 23, 2005 - 31 answers

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