I am in the beginning stages of separation and divorce. I am the initiator and it is completely one-sided. How do I survive the various feelings I'm going through? Bonus: with tween children. [more inside]
I'd like to show my toddler videos/tv shows/movies/books that include genuine affection - parents, families, friends all giving hugs or smiles or other close, positive interactions. Any good ideas? [more inside]
My first grader is asking about multiplication and division. Where do I start? [more inside]
I live in a place with cold gray snowy winters. Despite no family history on either side, both my kids (1 and 4) have asthma that flares when they have a virus. There is still hope that they will outgrow it since they don't have symptoms when they aren't sick. The problem is that this winter they have had viruses All. The. Time. My mom keeps telling me that if I move somewhere warmer the kids won't be sick so much. I have great difficulty believing this and am curious what the hive mind has to say. [more inside]
Most weeknights, I'm responsible for figuring out and cooking a dinner for two adults and a 1-year-old that is on the table by no later than 6pm. I am hands-down finding this the most unpleasant and soul-killing part of day-to-day parenting, as making it to the grocery store is extremely difficult during the workweek and the last thing I want to be doing on the weekends. I'm looking for recommendations of either a cookbook or specific recipes that use ingredients that are likely to already be present in my pantry, freezer, and/or spice rack. [more inside]
Is it weird that I want to have another kid (but don’t want to get pregnant again). Like adopting one, or hire a surrogate (my egg and donor sperm). I am single parent (mother) already. I think I can pull this off financially (We wont be rich, but we wont be poor either). But is it a very radical idea? I am no Angelina Jolie – just your normal average Jane. The world is still a man’s world as much I hate admitting it or observing it. Will I completely blow my changes of ever finding a life partner if I do this. I feel very strongly about adopting and have been thinking about it for a very long time now. Suggestions, anyone? How should I think about this? My therapist strongly advised against it because in her opinion I haven’t accessed the risks of bringing another kid into my life and my daughter’s life.
I graduated from college a while ago and have been trying to figure out what to do with my life ever since. While idly combing through job postings I found a few looking for a babysitter and thought "I could do that... maybe." I'm looking for advice on how to turn that tentative "maybe" into something more confident. [more inside]
A long time has passed since I posted here, and a lot has happened in that long time. Quick update is that now I am legally divorced. I also got laid off last year and thankfully was able to find another great job quickly. Moved to NYC, which is a fantastic city and I went to school here so have a lot more friends here than when I was in Boston. Anyway, so I want to date. I don’t know if I want to get into a serious relationship just yet, but I just want to share my life with someone and do fun things on weekends. Where do I meet responsible, loving, educated men who would want to date me? I haven’t seen anyone in two years (since separation/divorce)… I think I should change that… [more inside]
I'll be in Boston with my kids for one day (two nights) in February. They're ages 8 and 12. Too old for the Children's Museum, too young to be set free to wander on their own. What should we do? [more inside]
I'm going to be a world away from my 9 year old nephew. How can I a) set up a Windows 7 netbook in a kid safe way so we can keep in touch, and b) provide some basic tech support, remotely? [more inside]
Trying to remember a Saturday morning T.V. show, my brain dump is inside: [more inside]
My 9-year-old daughter has an old wifi-only iPhone. Her 9-year-old friend has an old wifi-only android phone (i.e., neither is on a contract). They want to be able to message each other for free. What's the best option? [more inside]
My family including young kids (aged five and up) is flying into LAX on Dec 25th, arriving at around 6:30 AM after a fifteen-hour flight from Australia. We have a seven hour layover. What should I expect from LA traffic on that day? What, if anything, will be open? How easy will it be to call cabs? Any recommendations for kid-friendly things to do, bearing in mind the time constraints, possibly-grumpy kids?
My son is about to get his first laptop, a Windows machine. I'd like to install the necessary software to keep it free from all the nasty stuff Windows machines can catch. We're a Mac family so my knowledge of personal A/V software is minimal. [more inside]
We are friends with a family that has a 6-year-old boy and a 2-year-old girl. I was thinking it might be nice to give them an experience-based gift this year instead of stuff. What are some good things that we can do with them and also take their mom and dad along? [more inside]
I want to find my son a durable play table that he can set up his wooden railway toys on, and that we can store some of them in - do you own one you can recommend? [more inside]
Our otherwise delightful six-year-old daughter has begun to tell an increasing number of lies over the past 6-7 months. The lies tend toward the lazy, (e.g., "yeah, I've already done my homework") rather than malicious or fantastical, but the frequency and ease with which she dashes them off is alarming -- as is her increased propensity for fabricating more elaborate tales. I know some lying by kids is to be expected (I certainly was no saint at that age), but do any parents out there have any winning strategies to help deal with this? [more inside]
Please help me find gifts for my neices so I am at least allowed back next year! (I know, another gift question, but hopefully there is enough special snowflake-ness for yall) [more inside]
I love books with flaps, windows, tabs, slides, wheels and other clever ways of interacting with the reader. Fortunately for me, I also have 2 small children, currently ages 1 and 4, who also love lift-the-flap books. But we need more. MORE FLAPS. [more inside]
My toddler (2 years old) has been regressing big time. She regressed on potty training a while back, but that's not what concerns me. Now she refuses to feed herself, she has stopped making verbal requests, she whispers instead of speaking aloud. I'm not asking why the regression, so much as how do I deal with it? [more inside]
Where will the ocean be warm sometime in February or March? [more inside]
I am a bookmobile librarian and the majority of my patrons are kids wanting chapter books. I have a variety of series that I try to keep current: The Littles, Junie B, Magic Tree, Goosebumps, Hank the Cowdog, Flat Stanley, Warriors, Star Wars, American Girl, Rainbow Fairies. Are there any other series you would suggest? Thanks a bunch hivemind!
We need new overnight bags, suitable for weekend car trips or a night at Grandma/Grandpa's. I don't think I've ever owned one of these that wasn't a hand-me-down from the back of someone's dad's closet. Can you help me find some good Christmas-able options for 1) my husband and 2) my currently-tiny daughter? [more inside]
I'm trying to locate a book I had as a child in the early 80s (U.S.). It was a white hardcover book with red lettering (I had lost the dust cover if it ever had one). It was a kids handbook that described tons of stuff (with illustrations). [more inside]
Looking for an easy introduction to coding for a 12 year old. It has to be something he can do on his own, without much adult input. He loves art, drawing, and creating his own cartoon characters, so visual references are a must.
I'm looking for resources, not just articles, about teaching "consent" and body awareness and boundaries for kids at all ages and stages. [more inside]
What books would you recommend for new parents who want to read parenting books and talk about them together? [more inside]
I'd like to find some games (or other techniques) to play with my 3 year old in order to learn alphabet and numbers. From experience, learning through fun is much better for everyone involved, but may not necessarily be the case here. Please point me in the right direction so I can try some things to see what actually works.
I seem to remember that it used to be a thing that your kid could send their letters to Santa to a particular address and they'd get a nice reply from "Santa." Now that I'm old enough to have a kid of my own who wants to send a letter to Santa, I'm not sure where to send the thing. [more inside]
A family wedding will take us to Tulsa this weekend. Flight schedules imposed a Friday arrival for a Saturday evening function, so we will have much of the day Saturday with two little kids in a town we've never visited before. Saturday morning we are on our own, we'll be meeting up with cousins in the afternoon. Zoo? Aquarium? Good parks/play grounds would be good too. Kid-friendly restaurants? Lay it on me.
For a coworker: I'm trying to track down a translated YA novel my co-worker remembered reading as a child in Russia. [more inside]
We're going to Disneyland tomorrow. We haven't done any advance planning. I don't have a lot of time today to devote to research, either, so I thought I'd ask if anyone can brain-dump a quick-and-dirty way to shave some time off the inevitable waiting. More detail and explicit instructions are better. [more inside]
Any recommendations for quick stops from Boston to DC area with a four year old? [more inside]
How do I become a great Primary School sub? I am looking for great lesson ideas that don't take a lot of prep and can be ready on short notice, lessons that work in various age groups, ideas for activities and games, and classroom management ideas... and any other great mefite advice! [more inside]
My 5 year old daughter has "screen time" when I come home from work while I'm making dinner. She used to watch sesame street or other recorded pbs shows, but isn't interested in that anymore. I provided her with some ask metafilter sourced web game options, but now she likes to play a ton of "girl games" on shady websites that involve things ranging from facepainting to baby care to dental work and plastic surgery, ick. Help me decide what to do about it. [more inside]
My comfort-loving preschooler (boy) only likes to wear sweatpants and leggings. I am of the opinion that sweatpants should never be worn in public, and most leggings are probably not warm enough for winter. Can you help me find comfy, warm pants that also look good? [more inside]
Metafilter has named cats and dogs, and roller derby babes. This should be easy. On the book of faces I talk a lot about my life with Agent K, my 11 yo with autism. I'd like to move it over to it's own blog and talk about our life, link to interesting articles and products, post pictures, etc. He's always been Agent K and he calls me Muh-ver, Mommy, or Heyshea. I keep a Pintrest board titled Agent K's Awesome board. Any thoughts?
My daughter is having a slumber party for her birthday. I'm used to (and comfortable with) normal birthday parties: planning lots of fun activities, yummy things to eat and keeping order with bouncing children for a few hours, but I'm worried about having a half dozen 7 & 8 year olds sleeping here. Those of you have done it -- what's your advice? Anything that would help this go well? [more inside]
I need to entertain two small children (under 5) for several hours this Saturday starting at 8 AM. Of course, it's been raining all week, and it's likely to be raining then, and even if it's not raining, all the playgrounds will be wet with dew. All our usual haunts don't open until 10 AM. What can I do that's indoors between 8 and 10? Seattle area - I am willing to drive a bit.
We are about to move to a new home where my kids (ages: 4 years and 19 months) will share a room for the first time. How can I finesse this so we all get some sleep? Difficulty level: the older one is a Wild Thing. [more inside]
What things can I cook with children in an after-school club setting? Difficulty: no actual cooking possible. [more inside]
So, my kid wants to be a zombie for Halloween. Fine. But stuff that is too scary gives him nightmares. I do not think he can deal with most of the zombie masks you can find in costume stores. And also I don't want to scare the little kids that will be at the places we are going. [more inside]
Most of our friends have kids under age five. We're considering whether and how to make our wedding a kid-friendly event. Have you seen this done? Have you tried it? As a parent, what would help? Or do you just want a night out? Would anything make you more likely to stay overnight for more fun the next day? [more inside]
Who is selling plain fleece clothing this year for children/teens? Mail order or big mall OK. [more inside]
Having not dealt with close family death often, i'm a little concerned about how to prepare my 12 yo daughter for the service etc. Thoughts? [more inside]
I would like to post photos for parents from our kindergarten class. I'm thinking of doing it on a password-protected Tumblr site. From what little I can find, it sounds do-able, but...? [more inside]
Where's the best place online to buy quality baby Halloween costumes? [more inside]
My kids have just started buying books from Google Play. All of our books are in one big library. How do I go about organising them so that we each only see our own books? [more inside]
Solutions to work problems that are not, strictly speaking, happening in a "workplace" framework? Weird details inside. [more inside]
Can you have a trial separation while still both living in the same house? [more inside]