I've never dated a dad before -- and now have a boyfriend with two children whose divorce isn't final. They are a very "low boundaries" family and I'm having a hard time dealing with what is said, discussed in front of his children... [more inside]
A long time has passed since I posted here, and a lot has happened in that long time. Quick update is that now I am legally divorced. I also got laid off last year and thankfully was able to find another great job quickly. Moved to NYC, which is a fantastic city and I went to school here so have a lot more friends here than when I was in Boston. Anyway, so I want to date. I don’t know if I want to get into a serious relationship just yet, but I just want to share my life with someone and do fun things on weekends. Where do I meet responsible, loving, educated men who would want to date me? I haven’t seen anyone in two years (since separation/divorce)… I think I should change that… [more inside]
A friend of mine refuses to address his anxiety issues. I don't want to lose him as a friend, but also don't know how much more I can take. Please help. [more inside]
My boyfriend has a kid from his previous marriage, who is now long distance. He'll be coming to stay for a month in a few months, and I'm not sure what to do! (so many snowflake details!) [more inside]
A man is in love with a woman but admits to disliking and resenting her children. Am I trying to rationalize a relationship that doesn't (and will never) work? [more inside]
How to approach dating someone who has primary custody of two almost-grown children? [more inside]
Dating filter: The women I tend to feel most connected to pretty much all want to have children. But I don't. Or at least, I mostly don't. How do I deal? [more inside]
Parents of 3+ year olds! How do you deal with being tired *all the time*? I've gone from being single and childless and in my early 30s to being the boyfriend of a mother of two boys (3 and 7). Things are astonishingly good between us, and the boys are great (albeit a lot of hard work, even according to their Mum), but I'm *so* tired after helping out with the boys - it's all the games of tag, the nerf gunfights, the question and answer sessions, etc. We're really enjoying ourselves, but ohmigod I'm exhausted. Help me not feel like I'm letting the side down at home with my housemates, at her place, out and about with my friends and at work. Other than 'coffee', 'more sleep' and 'less time with the girlfriend and the boys' (done, done, and ain't gonna happen), what are your protips for fighting off tiredness and irascibility?
How do you broach the subject of having kids in the future when first dating? [more inside]
For a month I've been dating someone I've met online. His online profile displays N/A on the topic of wanting children. While on another conversation topic he mentions that he "doesn't really want children". I do. Should I be discussing this topic conversation just one month into dating? I can't even begin to know how to talk about this so soon, but -- yeah -- it will eventually be an issue. What now?
Am I just being a patsy here? Follow-up to this question. Do I give this relationship more time, cut and run, or are there other options I'm not considering? [more inside]
Early stages of long-distance relationship filter: I've reconnected with an old potential dating interest from over 20 years ago in the past, and since August, there have been daily texts, emails, phone calls. We live about a 3 hour drive away from each other. [more inside]
I just met someone I am really interested in dating, but who has kids. In general, I am OK with the idea, but I want to know the sorts of issues and questions I should bring up with this person to talk about it and understand the situation. [more inside]
How do I best get acquainted, and develop a good relationship, with my boyfriends' kids? [more inside]
When do you know that it's time to move on to a new stage in life vis-a-vis settling down with one person and starting a family? [more inside]